'I fell in love with baby name but my husband says it's reserved for strippers'
A woman has shared her heartache after her husband 'shot down' her favourite baby name while claiming it's better suited to a stripper. She explained how she is pregnant with her second child and has been longing to give her daughter a specific name since coming across it.
She said on Reddit: "I am 12 weeks and five days with baby number two, yet to find out the sex. I have fallen head over heels in love with a girl's name that I have no doubt if I am pregnant with a girl that I will choose it. The problem is my husband hates it and also says there are bad connotations to the name."
She goes on to explain how the name Balerina, spelt with one L, is all she has been able to think about after learning she was pregnant.
She added: "He said the name is associated with strippers and prostitutes (night ballerina). I have never heard that before. But after checking TikTok, it looks to be an actual thing.
"He picked out son's name the day I found out the gender and I agreed with it no matter what I thought about it.
"Luckily, I was OK with the name and had no problems, but I never ever considered saying no to a name that he liked for our son because it would've been something special for him, especially to pick his name."
However, her husband isn't allowing her the same grace when it comes to naming their second born, with her added: "He said he would accept Blerina as a first name or Balerina as a middle name but he said his daughter will never have that name because people will tease her and make bad connotations."
In an attempt to settle her mind, she has taken to social media to ask users for their thoughts on the moniker - and whether it's a good or bad idea.
In response, one user said: "I have a unique name. It's been trouble my entire life. Ballet is a type of dance and the dancers are called ballerinas.
"Why would you name a child after an occupation or profession? One or 2 Ls is not the issue.
"Write Peynter or Payntir, but aloud it's still the occupation Painter, one who paints. Balerina will be asked her entire life if she's also a ballerina. Get a cat, dog, bird or hamster and call it Blerina."
Another user added: "This whole dad naming the boy and mum naming the girl concept is foreign to me and plain stupid.
"The name for either sex should be mutually agreed upon by both parents (not the in-laws or anybody else).
"Granted, yes, you'll likely have to make some compromises, like incorporating a family name as a middle name or whatnot.
"But at the end of the day Balerina/Blerina is a dumb name and not a hill any expectant parent should die on."
A third user said: "You're both off base. His take on that name is odd, and your desire to deliberately misspell a noun is going to be hard on your child.
"You can name your child whatever you want but if you deliberately misspell something, your child will be unique for all the wrong reasons and they'll resent you for it."
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