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Parents have been left divided over a popular saying that some argue promotes the idea that boys are incapable of controlling their actions. Parental Guidance, on Channel Nine, is a confronting piece of television that looks at different parenting styles of Australians and how they may impact children when it comes to issues such as mental health, body image and peer pressure. However, it was a recent episode on mental health that prompted raised eyebrows from participants and viewers alike. In the episode, the children of four sets of parents were given a baby simulator to see how they took care of it. Then, another set of four parents expressed their opinions on how the kids handled the situation they were thrown into. Josh and Cassie, both 42, have five boys between the ages of six and 13 and consider themselves the 'life school parents'. They have lived full time in a caravan for the last three years. 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It could be partially environmental but I feel like it has come so naturally to them,' one person said. Another said: 'A man that does his share of household duties and parenting isn't a feminine man. That is a healthy masculine. A man that comes home from a day of work and sits on the couch and doesn't lift a finger at home or parent the children they brought into the world, expects their partner to clean up after them, and watches their phone or plays computer games is just another child looking for a mummy.' One said the comment 'boys aren't naturally nurturing' was social conditioning and not science, adding empathy and care are skills and not instincts. 'Boys can be deeply caring and gentle … if we would just stop punishing them for it,' the social media user added. Another said: ''Boys will be boys' is when they make poop, fart and bum jokes. NOT when they're threatening to hit, when they punch walls or make lewd comments about others.' 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