I had a threesome with my girlfriend and her best friend – but she is now pregnant with my baby
I was nervous but they were both very keen. It felt as if they were old hands
DEAR DEIDRE I had a threesome with my girlfriend and her best friend – but she is now pregnant with my baby
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DEAR DEIDRE: MY life is spinning horribly out of control ever since I agreed to have a threesome with my girlfriend and her best friend.
While the sex was fun, her mate now says she's pregnant with my child and my girlfriend thinks it would be a good idea if we all lived together. It's a nightmare.
I am 27 and my girlfriend is 24. We have been together for almost a year.
I thought our sex life was great — she's the most gorgeous girl and I know she is in love with me.
But she told me one night that her best friend liked me and kept hinting that it would be fun if we all went to bed together.
Although I was reluctant, it's never been one of my fantasies to have a threesome. I thought, however, that if I agreed we could move on.
So we arranged a date and the friend came over.
We had a few drinks to get us in the mood.
I was nervous but they were both very keen. It felt as if they were old hands. There was no awkwardness between them.
I must admit the sex was amazing and, to my relief, everything went back to normal afterwards.
Then to my horror, the friend announced she was pregnant. My girlfriend now wants her mate to move in with us — she thinks it would be the perfect solution.
On top of everything she's started talking about having a baby as well.
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It's all too much and too fast. Our relationship still feels so new and I'm not ready to take such a big step.
I don't want to be a dad to one baby, let alone two.
DEIDRE SAYS: If ever there was a time to use protection, this was it.
The decision over whether to have this baby belongs to your girlfriend's friend. My support pack Unplanned Pregnancy will help the friend look realistically at her options.
Tell her you are not ready to be a dad and you will need a DNA test to prove paternity if she goes ahead with this pregnancy.
If it turns out it is your child, you will have a legal obligation to help support your child.
In an ideal world, a child will have two loving parents.
Even if you aren't together, you can still be a positive force in a child's life.
Having unprotected sex also risks jeopardising your sexual health, so please make sure everyone visits the local sexual health clinic to be tested.
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Send an email to deardeidre@the-sun.co.uk
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SHE HAS DAYS OUT WITH EX
DEAR DEIDRE: MY girlfriend plays happy families with her ex and their young son.
They go on day trips to the seaside, and theme parks, and I am supposed to just accept it.
I know a few people who have kids but have split up, but they don't behave like this. Is it normal for an ex-partner to be so involved?
I'm 27 and my girlfriend's 25. We've been together for eight months. I love her and accept that she has a child but I am uncomfortable about her being around her ex.
I see him whenever he comes to collect his son. We get on OK. But my girlfriend has let slip that her ex is still very fond of her.
One thing that concerns me is, when she goes out with him, she always switches her phone off so her ex doesn't get upset by me contacting her. I am trying to understand, but I have feelings too.
DEIDRE SAYS: Her relationship with her ex is over but it's better for your girlfriend and ex to put aside their feelings for the sake of their child.
Rather than her turn her phone off, can you agree that you will only contact her in an emergency?
At some point you need to take a leap of faith and trust her. Would she be happy to keep her phone on if you can resist keeping tabs on her?
Arrange to do something special yourself, with your own friends, to avoid wallowing in a negative imagination.
Organise special times of your own with your girlfriend and her son.
BOYFRIEND'S SO AFRAID OF BEING NAKED
DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend says the reason we haven't had sex for a while is because he doesn't like being naked.
And when we do have sex, he puts his pants on immediately after.
I am 23 and he is 25. We have been together for six months.
He is always telling me how much he loves me, but he never shows me that he does.
I want to have sex with him, but it's not happening.
I'm not the slimmest and have my own body image issues, but they don't stop me wanting sex. I love him. He's fit and very attractive.
I have told him he's drop-dead gorgeous, but I can't help but think he may be going off me.
How do I tell him that this situation is weird, without it causing an argument. What kind of man is afraid of being naked in private?
DEIDRE SAYS: How sad. It may be that he's suffering from shyness.
Tell him you love his body, and let him know there's no reason for him to feel embarrassed or awkward.
It's positive that he tells you how much he loves you. Keep telling him how gorgeous he is – and not just when you want sex.
Suggest sharing all-over body massages, which will get you physically close and boost both your libidos.
My support pack on Reviving A Man's Sex Drive will help too.
HE KICKED OFF WHEN I BROUGHT MY FELLA HOME
DEAR DEIDRE: I FELT like a naughty child when my brother told me off for letting my boyfriend stay the night in my room, even though I am 32.
My boyfriend is 34 and we have been dating for seven months after meeting online.
It's not like my brother doesn't know him.
This particular night we'd been out at the pub for a meal and a drink, had a great time and my boyfriend walked me home.
It was late and it made perfect sense for him to stay the night.
Me and my brother share the house which was left to us when our dad died almost a year ago.
My brother is 37. He accused us of keeping him awake all night, which simply wasn't true – we hadn't been 'up to anything' and we fell asleep as soon as we got into bed.
I am disappointed in my brother because he then let other members of the family know.
I accused him of being petty and that he had no right to tell anyone, but he just said they would have found out anyway.
After thinking about it, I realise I perhaps should have asked my brother if it was OK for my boyfriend to stay over, but it was a spur-of-the-moment decision. I didn't mean to upset him.
He thinks that because no man ever came to the house when our dad was alive, it should continue.
DEIDRE SAYS: Your brother may feel he is the man of the house, now your dad is no longer around, but you are an adult and your private life is your own business.
He is not your parent.
Can you rearrange the shared living spaces so you both can have more privacy while living under one roof?
It would also be a good idea to discuss boundaries around overnight visitors so that you both are on the same page.
My support pack Standing Up For Yourself could also help.
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