How do we raise boys to become good men?
With gender-based violence an inherent problem within many families and communities across the Pacific, how do we teach men to respect girls and women?
How can boys learn to process their emotions and communicate effectively in order to have healthy relationships?
If boys learn how to have relationships by mirroring their parents, how can parents be mindful of the behaviours they are role modelling as parents?
With the strict, controlling and disciplinarian parenting styles of previous generations now recognised as being potentially harmful to boys, parents and elders need to be conscious of the dynamic in which they communicate with their children and each other.
Listening, respectful communication, acknowledging emotions and having conversations about self and shared responsibilities, are all essential components of modern parenting. Allowing boys to develop self-confidence, initiative and character without emasculating or infantilising their behaviour is also critical.
In this episode of Sista's, Let's Talk, Hilda Wayne discusses how parents need to first look deep within themselves and their own projections, in their journey of raising boys into well adjusted, responsible, resilient and caring 'good' men.
This week's episode of Sistas, Let's Talk is a repeat of the show broadcast on 12th April 2023
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