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Forbes
11 hours ago
- Health
- Forbes
Emotionally Intelligent Men Are Choosing Better Partners; Here's Why
Two young people are sitting on the riverbank in New York City. (Photo by) In a dating landscape shaped by apps, emotional fatigue and shifting gender norms, emotionally intelligent men are standing out, and standing up, as the new architects of healthy love. From the first date to long-term commitment, the way men attune to emotional nuance is fast becoming one of the most potent predictors of relational success. Emotional intelligence (EI) refers to the ability to recognize, understand, manage and use emotions effectively. Its core components, self-awareness, self-regulation, empathy and social skills, are increasingly understood as foundational to intimacy, trust and secure attachment. A 2024 meta-analysis in Personality and Individual Differences suggested that EI significantly correlated with well-being, relationship quality and interpersonal satisfaction. Among men, EI was primarily associated with adaptive masculinity, lower levels of emotional suppression and greater relational clarity. The dating world is marked by emotional complexity. Singles are navigating burnout, digital fatigue and rising expectations around communication and emotional availability. Men who lead with emotional intelligence (think those who ask thoughtful questions, regulate their nervous systems, and value relational safety) are no longer rare but subversive, to say the least. A 2025 study in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that couples in which male partners exhibit high emotional intelligence experience greater satisfaction, deeper trust and more resilient conflict resolution; pivotal traits for emotional compatibility. For single men, emotional intelligence is both a personal compass and a relational screen. It enhances discernment, deepens connection and filters out dynamics rooted in chaos or codependence. A man with high EI doesn't just respond well. He chooses well. Rather than seeking validation or performance-based love, emotionally intelligent men are cultivating relational self-awareness; they value emotional reciprocity, nervous system regulation and shared communication capacity. In doing so, they are raising the standard not only for the partners they attract but for the relationships they create. Contrary to outdated stereotypes, emotional intelligence does not equal overexposure but regulation. Research from the American Journal of Men's Health shows that emotional fluency in men is linked to better mental health, lower rates of conflict and more secure attachment behaviors, leading to emotional clarity and mental health outcomes at large. The emotionally intelligent man knows when to speak and when to pause, when to open and when to self-soothe. This depth is not a departure from masculinity but a reintegration. In the context of relational self-awareness, emotionally intelligent men are no longer choosing partners based on aesthetics, status or performative chemistry. They're seeking emotional reciprocity: a partner who can meet them in-depth, regulate through conflict and communicate with curiosity rather than defense. The key relational questions have also changed: Can we co-regulate under stress? Can we stay grounded in discomfort without rupture? Do we repair with respect, not reactivity? This evolution is both personal and cultural. It reframes compatibility as a nervous system alliance, one rooted in mutual attunement, emotional maturity and psychological safety. In this new paradigm, emotional intelligence becomes the architecture of sustainable love, not just an accessory. As more single men lead with emotional maturity, the dating landscape is being recalibrated. The emotionally intelligent man is available, grounded and intentional. He chooses a connection that honors nervous system regulation, shared emotional labor and relational growth as a co-created practice. In 2025, strength looks like presence and attunement, an epitome of men embodying wholeness, depth and vulnerability, raising the emotional standard for what love, commitment and connection truly require.
ABC News
14-05-2025
- General
- ABC News
How do we raise boys to become good men?
With gender-based violence an inherent problem within many families and communities across the Pacific, how do we teach men to respect girls and women? How can boys learn to process their emotions and communicate effectively in order to have healthy relationships? If boys learn how to have relationships by mirroring their parents, how can parents be mindful of the behaviours they are role modelling as parents? With the strict, controlling and disciplinarian parenting styles of previous generations now recognised as being potentially harmful to boys, parents and elders need to be conscious of the dynamic in which they communicate with their children and each other. Listening, respectful communication, acknowledging emotions and having conversations about self and shared responsibilities, are all essential components of modern parenting. Allowing boys to develop self-confidence, initiative and character without emasculating or infantilising their behaviour is also critical. In this episode of Sista's, Let's Talk, Hilda Wayne discusses how parents need to first look deep within themselves and their own projections, in their journey of raising boys into well adjusted, responsible, resilient and caring 'good' men. This week's episode of Sistas, Let's Talk is a repeat of the show broadcast on 12th April 2023
