Bride branded 'selfish' over 'unhinged' warning she gave to her bridesmaid ahead of the wedding

Daily Mail​

12-05-2025

A woman has been described as 'odd and selfish' after telling one of her bridesmaids not to get pregnant before the wedding.
The bridesmaid, who is believed to be US-based, revealed her dilemma in a post on Reddit, claiming that she was told they 'don't want anyone to look huge' in the photos.
Commenters were largely supportive of the bridesmaid, agreeing that it was an unreasonable request.
In a post titled Not allowed to get pregnant, she wrote: 'I had a talk with my husband about having a baby... he brought it up because my clock is ticking.
'I mentioned about possibly being pregnant to the bride and she told me to wait until after the wedding which is towards the end of the year in true "you better not" fashion.
'I get she doesn't want me to look huge in photos but this trend of not allowing people to become pregnant is so self-centered and seems like a common desire for today's brides.
'I'm not friends with the other bridesmaids so I haven't spoken up to neither her nor them and feel I can't.
'I don't want you to tell me how to, I just want to know opinions on this and if anyone has had a similar experience?'
Taking to the comments section, many were baffled by the bride's demand.
One wrote: 'I'm am quite certain deciding to have a child and getting pregnant is WAY more important in your life than this bride's "special day." IMO, asking people to put their lives on hold like this is truly odd and selfish behavior.'
A second added: 'Time to deliver the polite no. No way in hell someone else tells me when to get pregnant. Brides are going way too far.'
In a similar vein, a third wrote: 'The bride doesn't dictate this. Go get pregnant if you wish and if the bride wants to blow up a friendship over it, then she wasn't your friend to begin with and good riddance.
'My MOH was eight months pregnant and enormous and I cherished every minute of it and her being there on swollen feet in a tight dress to support me. Because that's what friendship is.'
A further respondent agreed, adding: 'As a bride getting married next month, this type of behavior is so confusing to me.
'I'd be so excited if one of them was pregnant! And if they felt they couldn't do the role then I'd understand lol like wtf. They do not get to dictate when you have a baby, do what is best for you!'
Taking an assertive approach was the suggestion from a further Reddit user, who said: 'Tell her you'll get pregnant when it's best for you and if it's not for her, you'll be a guest, not a bridesmaid.'
'That's completely stupid, pregnant women are beautiful, why not have a few on your wedding pictures :) get pregnant when you want and can!,' another wrote.
And a further poster agreed, noting: 'Girlfriend, you get ONE life. The choice to have a child is between you and your partner. Don't let a selfish fool have any kind of power over you. And honestly? Rethink that whole friendship. Bride sounds unhinged.'
Referring to her own real life experience, one Reddit user said: 'I went to a wedding where the MOH was 7.5 months pregnant. She looked beautiful and no one batted an eye!'
'She doesn't get to dictate that,' another wrote. 'Honestly if it were me I would drop out right now just because she tried to. '
And another suggested that the poster save money by dropping out of the bridal party, saying: 'A friend who tells you not to get pregnant because she's worried about the aesthetics of her bridal photos is not a true friend. Plan your family on your own schedule.- maybe it'll save you the cost of a bridesmaids dress!'