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17 hours ago
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Bride-to-Be Demands Bridesmaid Dye Her Hair for Upcoming Wedding Because She Didn't Want Her 'Punk Rock Look'
A bridesmaid is turning to the internet for some advice after her longtime best friend who is getting married suggested she dye her hair for her upcoming wedding. The woman shared in a post on Reddit's popular 'Bridezillas' subreddit that she recently had an exchange with the bride, which 'rubbed' her 'the wrong way' and wanted to know how to handle the situation. She shared a screenshot of the text the bride supposedly sent her, which read: 'I meant to mention this and forgot… Bridesmaid dresses are going to be a bright, deep red so you may want to go back to black for a short amount of time. Sorry to f--- up your punk rock look.' The bridesmaid said her friend made a comment joking about her bright red hair — which she said she could 'handle' — but then told her sister that she was 'going to dye it back to black.' The bridesmaid noted that this was something she 'never said' she 'would do.' 'It just felt like she was making decisions about me without asking, and that rubbed me the wrong way,' she wrote on Reddit. 'I don't want to be dramatic, but I'm starting to feel like maybe I should still attend her wedding but not be a bridesmaid.' 'I would never ask my friends to change how they look for my big day, especially something as personal as their hair. Am I overthinking this?' she added. She also noted that she felt that the way her friend has spoken to her has 'changed' over 'the past few years' and she can come off 'really harsh or dismissive.' She said it has gotten to the point where she sometimes feels like she's 'walking on eggshells around her.' In response, several people on Reddit suggested that she send a message to her friend asking if she meant what she said about her bridesmaid having to dye her hair. One person said that if the bride said she 'meant it' then the bridesmaid should decline. One person commented: '[It's absurd of people to try to change you for 'their' big day. a) it is not yours, b) it is only one day but you are supposed to bend to their will and do something costly and time consuming and potentially damaging…' Another person suggested that the woman 'stay blunt' to her friend as 'people pleasing gets you nothing but walked on.' Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. They continued, 'if I were you, I would tell her I was stepping down as a bridesmaid. This is nothing short of a personal attack. If it were me, I couldn't enjoy the wedding if I thought the bride was obsessed with my hair.' Another added, 'if someone is asking this of you, they are not a friend who accepts you completely as you are, and that should be your most important consideration.' Read the original article on People
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a day ago
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Bride-to-Be Demands Bridesmaid Dye Her Hair for Upcoming Wedding Because She Didn't Want Her 'Punk Rock Look'
'It just felt like she was making decisions about me without asking, and that rubbed me the wrong way,' the bridesmaid wrote on Reddit A bridesmaid is turning to the internet for some advice after her longtime best friend who is getting married suggested she dye her hair for her upcoming wedding. The woman shared in a post on Reddit's popular 'Bridezillas' subreddit that she recently had an exchange with the bride, which 'rubbed' her 'the wrong way' and wanted to know how to handle the situation. She shared a screenshot of the text the bride supposedly sent her, which read: 'I meant to mention this and forgot… Bridesmaid dresses are going to be a bright, deep red so you may want to go back to black for a short amount of time. Sorry to f--- up your punk rock look.' The bridesmaid said her friend made a comment joking about her bright red hair — which she said she could 'handle' — but then told her sister that she was 'going to dye it back to black.' The bridesmaid noted that this was something she 'never said' she 'would do.' 'It just felt like she was making decisions about me without asking, and that rubbed me the wrong way,' she wrote on Reddit. 'I don't want to be dramatic, but I'm starting to feel like maybe I should still attend her wedding but not be a bridesmaid.' 'I would never ask my friends to change how they look for my big day, especially something as personal as their hair. Am I overthinking this?' she added. She also noted that she felt that the way her friend has spoken to her has 'changed' over 'the past few years' and she can come off 'really harsh or dismissive.' She said it has gotten to the point where she sometimes feels like she's 'walking on eggshells around her.' In response, several people on Reddit suggested that she send a message to her friend asking if she meant what she said about her bridesmaid having to dye her hair. One person said that if the bride said she 'meant it' then the bridesmaid should decline. One person commented: '[It's absurd of people to try to change you for 'their' big day. a) it is not yours, b) it is only one day but you are supposed to bend to their will and do something costly and time consuming and potentially damaging…' Another person suggested that the woman 'stay blunt' to her friend as 'people pleasing gets you nothing but walked on.' Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. They continued, 'if I were you, I would tell her I was stepping down as a bridesmaid. This is nothing short of a personal attack. If it were me, I couldn't enjoy the wedding if I thought the bride was obsessed with my hair.' Another added, 'if someone is asking this of you, they are not a friend who accepts you completely as you are, and that should be your most important consideration.' Read the original article on People Solve the daily Crossword
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4 days ago
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Bride-to-Be Wants Bridesmaid to Wear Body Makeup to Hide Her Psoriasis. The Reason Was Worse Than She Thought
The bridesmaid thought that her friend was worried about photos, but the actual reason for the request was worseNEED TO KNOW A woman was hurt when her friend asked if she'd wear body paint to cover up her psoriasis while acting as the maid of honor at her wedding While the bride initially told her it was so that she'd have "beautiful photographs that make everyone feel beautiful and confident," the real reason eventually came out and shocked the potential bridesmaid The revelation left her confused, concerned about her friendship and with a bad case of "emotional whiplash"A bridesmaid was upset and hurt when her friend asked if she'd wear body makeup to hide her psoriasis on her big day. She was then shocked to learn the reason for the request. Taking to Reddit's popular "Am I the A------" subreddit, the woman explained that she was "beyond thrilled" when her longtime friend asked if she would be the maid of honor at her wedding. However, an "impractical" condition accompanied the request: She'd have to cover her skin in body makeup. The woman said that her psoriasis was "well controlled," and that her "skin is simply very red." She wrote that she has a routine that she follows to keep it that way, which includes exfoliation and a moisturizer that she applies "a couple times a day." Not only would the makeup make it impossible for her to moisturize, she wrote that "any make up that will actually cover it will exacerbate the condition and make life miserable for me." When she pushed back, the bride-to-be said that she wanted to have "beautiful photographs that make everyone feel beautiful and confident." Her "heated" friend laid down an ultimatum: Wear the makeup or don't come to the wedding at all."I ended up telling her either she has me as is or not at all and left. She is now not speaking to me, but has told her fiancé that I accepted the role," the woman wrote, asking if she was in the wrong for taking a stance. After being assured that she was right to stand up for herself, the woman provided an update revealing the real reason that her friend had made the request. She wrote that her friend's fiancé called to talk about role as maid of honor. During the conversation, he offered to "reimburse [her] any costs for body makeup." Explaining why she had not accepted the offer, she told him "that even mild inflammation would cause days and weeks of irritation at best, or months of pain/cracked skin and possible infections at worst." The groom was "completely oblivious and very confused" by the revelation. After their conversation, the bride called back and "apologized profusely." "It turns out that her future Mother and Sister in law had been picking away at her, making her feel awful about herself and how she needs to be 'perfect, presentable and beautiful' on the day, that nothing can distract from her," the woman wrote. She continued, adding, "They both had convince[d] her that she is especially kind in not worrying or caring about how I looked, but that everyone else is just lying to me/her about not caring. [It's] been going on for months, even before they knew of the engagement, little digs about me trying to turn my friend against me." Saying that the women "are apparently disgusted by my psoriasis," they apparently warned the bride-to-be that it would steal all the focus on the day and "will make everyone miserable." "They didnt want me there at all, and were threatening my friend with not allowing the wedding at all," she wrote. "It was never about the photographs, it was about my condition being visible in general." The revelation left the potential maid of honor with "emotional whiplash." "[I'm] hurt and confused my friend let them convince her to go through with this, but I do think and hope we can get through this," she ultimately wrote. In her update, she also noted that she was grateful to get support from people, saying that she expected many to tell her to "suck it up."Many fellow Redditors did offer support. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. "What is this fascination with wanting people to not look like themselves at weddings?! You may love your friend. But she doesn't love you for exactly who you are. Do not put yourself in pain for her," one wrote, with another calling the bride "shallow." "I, too, have psoriasis and it's pretty noticeable (it's on both feet and legs). My friends are supportive, but if I wear clothing and/or footwear that doesn't cover my skin (like shorts and sandals), I do notice strangers staring," one user replied. They continued, adding, "I also know how painful my skin becomes if I apply anything topically that is not prescribed or recommended for me specifically. It's quite literally excruciating. I would hate for you to put yourself through that by applying body makeup, which is almost guaranteed to exacerbate your psoriasis." "Your friend sounds shallow and selfish. She obviously has made the decision that unless you can meet her exacting beauty standards, then you can't be in her bridal party," the poster concluded. Read the original article on People Solve the daily Crossword
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14-07-2025
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Bride's Mom Shocks Bridesmaids by Sending Them a 'Substantial' Bill for Wedding Shower: 'No Idea How to Respond'
A bridesmaid was shocked when the bride's mom sent her and the other bridesmaids a "substantial" bill for the upcoming wedding shower She wrote to the "Miss Manners" column, seeking advice on how to handle the unexpected situation She said being asked to pay for the shower "strikes me as inappropriate"A bridesmaid was taken aback when she received something unexpected from the bride's mother: a bill for the upcoming wedding shower. She detailed the situation in a letter to the "Miss Manners" advice column, published by The Mercury News on Monday, July 14, explaining that she and all the other bridesmaids received a note from the mother of the bride "stating that we owe a substantial sum of money to help pay for the bridal shower." The advice seeker went on to note that she's hardly surprised that the shower is "proving to be expensive," as the pre-wedding event has "ballooned in size and scope to rival some weddings I've attended in the past." "But I had no input as to how big this shower has become, and being asked — no, told — to pay for it strikes me as inappropriate," she insisted, asking, "Am I wrong?" The bridesmaid concluded her letter by acknowledging that she has "no idea how to respond" to the bride's mother's request for payment. "How should I reply?" she asked Miss Manners. In response, the columnist advised the bridesmaid — and the other women in the bridal party — to bow out of their roles in the wedding. "All of you should respond by asking the bride's mother to give her daughter your love, along with your profound regrets that you are unable to serve as bridesmaids after all, having been unaware of the cost," she wrote. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. "Bridesmaids are supposedly chosen because they are the dearest people to the bride," Miss Manners then noted. "Why, then, are they considered exploitable for both labor and money?" she asked, sharing her opinion that this particular situation "calls for a strike." Read the original article on People
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11-07-2025
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Bridesmaid bails on destination wedding — but still wants to go on trip paid for by bride and groom: ‘You sound like a lousy friend'
She ditched the wedding — but still wants the vacation. A disgruntled bridesmaid is getting roasted online after revealing how she plans to skip her bestie's destination nuptials — but keep the comped flights and hotel to turn the trip into a romantic getaway with her boyfriend. The 27-year-old woman aired her drama in Reddit's fiery 'Am I The A–h—e' forum, admitting in her July 9 post that she backed out of the bridal party over a dustup with the groom's sister during a girls' getaway gone wrong. According to the would-be bridesmaid, the chaos kicked off during a bachelorette trip with five other ladies, including the groom's sister Mia — who was added to the bridal party at his request. The Redditor claimed Mia 'accused' her of 'taking her earrings' after she was the last one to leave the Airbnb bathroom. Despite finding the earrings later, Mia allegedly kept making 'digs' — and never apologized. What really steamed the bridesmaid? The bride, Ava's silence. 'I was super upset that Ava didn't say anything to Mia, but told me that she believed me, and Ava's other friends were on my side,' the woman fumed. 'After the trip, I sent Ava a message saying I was super upset she didn't stand up for me or say anything after Mia had found her earrings.' But instead of an apology, she got radio silence from her friend. So the original poster dropped a bombshell of her own: 'I was going to drop out of the bridal party.' The bride wasn't thrilled, pointing out her decision would leave the groomsmen uneven and that it was 'too close to the wedding to make a drastic change.' Still, the bridesmaid bowed out — but didn't want to bow out of the trip. She noted the bride and groom had already 'covered flights and a hotel' — and her boyfriend 'bought his ticket,' too. So, she reasoned, why waste a good vacation? Her boyfriend suggested they 'make it a holiday,' especially since they'd 'already taken the time off work and can't change it.' Cue the internet backlash. Commenters slammed her for turning a wedding into a selfish staycation. 'You're literally planning on stealing from your 'friend.' She bought your flights and hotel so you could attend her wedding, not f–k around with your boyfriend,' one seethed. Another said, 'You want to punish your friend over a misunderstanding with the groom's sister, and she's paying for you to be there? You sound like a lousy friend.' An additional user didn't mince words: 'Put yourself in her shoes. You are threatening to throw a wrench into her entire wedding plan because she didn't derail her own bachelorette party to defend your honor from someone she has already told you she wasn't a fan of and was difficult. It's just self-centered tbh.' Someone else chimed in, 'If I was the bride, I would cancel the hotel room.' And she's not the only one turning a wedding into a personal getaway — another pair packed their bags and crossed continents for 'I do's' they weren't even invited to. As The Post previously reported, one stunned couple flew 14 hours and forked over thousands — only to find out they weren't even invited to the destination 'I do's.' 'We flew across the world for a wedding we technically weren't even part of,' Yasemin Sarli explained to People in a recent interview. Despite getting an early save-the-date text, the couple never got a formal invite — but that didn't stop her ex from going full steam ahead. Convinced they made the guest list, he 'booked everything,' shelling out $1,500 on flights and $3,000 for a swanky five-night stay where other guests were reportedly bunking, per the magazine. Whether it's skipping the vows or crashing them entirely, these travelers prove one thing: wedding season may be for love — but some folks are just in it for the perks.
