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a day ago
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Maid of Honor Demands Bridesmaids Who Didn't Attend Bachelorette Trip Cover Bride's Costs: 'Completely Blindsided'
One of the bridesmaids asked Reddit users if she is wrong 'for thinking it's unfair to ask me to pay $300 for a trip I didn't go on' A bridesmaid has been 'blindsided' by a maid of honor asking her to cough up some money for a trip she had to skip out on — due to financial reasons. The concerned member of the bridal party, a 25-year-old woman, shared her story while seeking advice from Reddit users on a forum dedicated to wedding-related drama. She is a bridesmaid in her close friend's wedding, which is 'coming up soon," she explained. 'A few months ago, the maid of honor planned a bachelorette party in another country. From the very beginning, I let them know I wouldn't be able to attend due to financial reasons — international travel and the associated costs just aren't in my budget right now,' the bridesmaid wrote in the July 17 post. 'Everyone was understanding,' she said of her opting out on account of her financial situation. At least, that's what she thought at the time. The bachelorette trip happened without her, as planned, but when those who did attend got home, the maid of honor still asked her to chip in. She requested money, per the bridesmaid, to cover the cost of the bride's portion of the vacation. The maid of honor sent a 'message in the group chat — specifically one that included only the bridal party members who did not attend the trip — asking each of us to send $300 so the bride wouldn't have to pay her share of the trip,' the bridesmaid said. 'This completely blindsided me,' she said of the maid of honor's request. Not only had the bridesmaid 'never agreed to contribute financially to something I wasn't attending,' but the maid of honor never said anything about covering for the bride. At 'no point before or during the planning,' she wrote, 'did anyone say anything about splitting the bride's costs among people who weren't going. If they had, I would've made it clear that I couldn't afford that either.' 'Now I'm feeling really weird about the whole thing,' she said. 'On one hand, I get that people want to treat the bride, and if I'd been part of the trip I might have chipped in with the others to cover some of her expenses. But to ask for that money after the fact, from people who didn't even go, feels unfair and borderline manipulative.' is now available in the Apple App Store! Download it now for the most binge-worthy celeb content, exclusive video clips, astrology updates and more! As of posting, the bridesmaid had not responded to the maid of honor's request, she said, and does not 'want to cause drama — but I also feel like I shouldn't have to pay for something I didn't attend, especially when I was upfront from the beginning.' She concluded the Reddit post by asking users if she is in the wrong for being upset, and specifically 'for thinking it's unfair to ask me to pay $300 for a trip I didn't go on.' In response, most users agreed that the frustrated bridesmaid was in the right, both because she opted out of the trip for financial reasons in the first place and because the maid of honor never communicated her intent to have her help cover the bride's costs. 'If this were an expectation, this all should have been clearly communicated to all bridesmaids BEFORE the trip so people could adjust their budget or opt out in time,' said the top-voted response. 'For those who didn't attend, you all shouldn't be expected to foot any part of the bill and anything you decide to gift (if at all) should be considered a kindness.' Meanwhile, other users drafted potential replies to the maid of honor's surprise request. 'I'm sorry but I made it clear from the beginning that I was unable to participate in the bachelorette party for financial reasons,' one wrote, while another suggested sending: 'Hello, MOH. I was not able to attend this festivity due to my budget and salary. It is for the same reason that I will not be able to contribute to the trip for BRIDE. Cheers." Read the original article on People Solve the daily Crossword
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a day ago
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Bride Demands Best Friend Pay for Bachelorette Party or Lose Bridesmaid Role
"It does hurt feeling like I can only prove my worth if it's financial," the bridesmaid mourned A bride has threatened to demote her bridesmaid if she doesn't attend her expensive bachelorette party. In a recent post on Reddit's "Bridezillas" forum, the bridesmaid asked users on the platform for advice after the bride "flipped out" on her for the first time in their six-year-long friendship when she told her she couldn't afford her bachelorette weekend. "She told me I am either all in and can remain a bridesmaid or if I don't pay up I can attend as a guest," the bridesmaid wrote. The bridesmaid was shocked by the bride's drastic reaction because they've been best friends for so long, and the bride knows what her current financial situation is. "We have been there for each other financially, physically and emotionally and have raised our children together," the bridesmaid shared. "I am a divorced single mom and she knows I am struggling to make ends meet right now." When the woman agreed to be a bridesmaid, she didn't anticipate not being able to afford the pre-wedding festivities because everything was planned to take place locally. She never expected the local bachelorette party expenses to be comparable to those of a lavish destination trip. "When the MOH (maid of honor) started discussing plans for a LOCAL bachelorette weekend (think, sleepover at the MOH house, brunch and some activities) I wasn't expecting to pay an outrageous amount of money," she explained. "However, with the itinerary she suggested the cost is looking at $500+ — and we aren't even going on a trip!" The Redditor is unsure whether or not spending hundreds of dollars on a bachelorette party is "normal." However, the remaining four bridal party members — the bride's sister, groom's sister, and two of the bride's friends — appear to take no issue with the high cost because they're all planning on shelling out the cash. "I told them I could not afford that and instead could compromise and let them know which events I can participate in," the bridesmaid said. "This did not go over well and it got back to the bride (my best friend) who flipped out on me for the first time in our friendship!" This is the first time the bridesmaid and bride have ever fought over money. "This really hurt me because I've never seen that side of her and I don't want to lose our friendship," the bridesmaid wrote. "I want to stand by her on one of the most important days of our lives but I'm not going to lie it does hurt feeling like I can only prove my worth if it's financial." Unsure what to do next, the bridesmaid has taken "some space" from the bride and "a step back" from their friendship. "I don't even know about how to have this conversation with her given that it ended up in a fight the last time," she admitted. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. The majority of Reddit users commented that reevaluating the friendship was the right move, and that the bridesmaid "deserves better friends." "If you're being judged on the value of your friendship by a monetary amount, she is not a true friend," the top comment reads. "Drop out of wedding — do not attend, drop out of her life. If she was really your best friend this wouldn't matter. You do realize she told you straight out her friendship comes at a monetary cost right?" one Redditor wrote, with another agreeing, "She just told you what you are worth to her $500.00, not a penny more. [With] friends like that, who needs enemies?" In a comment, the bridesmaid wrote: "I know that I deserve to be treated better I'm just conflicted because she's never acted like this before and has always been supportive and understanding. Part of me wants to give her grace but this is so out of character and I'm having a hard time deciding to step out of the wedding party and distance myself or ending the friendship entirely over this." She added that she might write her friend a letter to express how she's feeling. Read the original article on People Solve the daily Crossword
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2 days ago
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Bride-to-Be Demands Bridesmaid Dye Her Hair for Upcoming Wedding Because She Didn't Want Her 'Punk Rock Look'
A bridesmaid is turning to the internet for some advice after her longtime best friend who is getting married suggested she dye her hair for her upcoming wedding. The woman shared in a post on Reddit's popular 'Bridezillas' subreddit that she recently had an exchange with the bride, which 'rubbed' her 'the wrong way' and wanted to know how to handle the situation. She shared a screenshot of the text the bride supposedly sent her, which read: 'I meant to mention this and forgot… Bridesmaid dresses are going to be a bright, deep red so you may want to go back to black for a short amount of time. Sorry to f--- up your punk rock look.' The bridesmaid said her friend made a comment joking about her bright red hair — which she said she could 'handle' — but then told her sister that she was 'going to dye it back to black.' The bridesmaid noted that this was something she 'never said' she 'would do.' 'It just felt like she was making decisions about me without asking, and that rubbed me the wrong way,' she wrote on Reddit. 'I don't want to be dramatic, but I'm starting to feel like maybe I should still attend her wedding but not be a bridesmaid.' 'I would never ask my friends to change how they look for my big day, especially something as personal as their hair. Am I overthinking this?' she added. She also noted that she felt that the way her friend has spoken to her has 'changed' over 'the past few years' and she can come off 'really harsh or dismissive.' She said it has gotten to the point where she sometimes feels like she's 'walking on eggshells around her.' In response, several people on Reddit suggested that she send a message to her friend asking if she meant what she said about her bridesmaid having to dye her hair. One person said that if the bride said she 'meant it' then the bridesmaid should decline. One person commented: '[It's absurd of people to try to change you for 'their' big day. a) it is not yours, b) it is only one day but you are supposed to bend to their will and do something costly and time consuming and potentially damaging…' Another person suggested that the woman 'stay blunt' to her friend as 'people pleasing gets you nothing but walked on.' Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. They continued, 'if I were you, I would tell her I was stepping down as a bridesmaid. This is nothing short of a personal attack. If it were me, I couldn't enjoy the wedding if I thought the bride was obsessed with my hair.' Another added, 'if someone is asking this of you, they are not a friend who accepts you completely as you are, and that should be your most important consideration.' Read the original article on People
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2 days ago
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Bride-to-Be Demands Bridesmaid Dye Her Hair for Upcoming Wedding Because She Didn't Want Her 'Punk Rock Look'
'It just felt like she was making decisions about me without asking, and that rubbed me the wrong way,' the bridesmaid wrote on Reddit A bridesmaid is turning to the internet for some advice after her longtime best friend who is getting married suggested she dye her hair for her upcoming wedding. The woman shared in a post on Reddit's popular 'Bridezillas' subreddit that she recently had an exchange with the bride, which 'rubbed' her 'the wrong way' and wanted to know how to handle the situation. She shared a screenshot of the text the bride supposedly sent her, which read: 'I meant to mention this and forgot… Bridesmaid dresses are going to be a bright, deep red so you may want to go back to black for a short amount of time. Sorry to f--- up your punk rock look.' The bridesmaid said her friend made a comment joking about her bright red hair — which she said she could 'handle' — but then told her sister that she was 'going to dye it back to black.' The bridesmaid noted that this was something she 'never said' she 'would do.' 'It just felt like she was making decisions about me without asking, and that rubbed me the wrong way,' she wrote on Reddit. 'I don't want to be dramatic, but I'm starting to feel like maybe I should still attend her wedding but not be a bridesmaid.' 'I would never ask my friends to change how they look for my big day, especially something as personal as their hair. Am I overthinking this?' she added. She also noted that she felt that the way her friend has spoken to her has 'changed' over 'the past few years' and she can come off 'really harsh or dismissive.' She said it has gotten to the point where she sometimes feels like she's 'walking on eggshells around her.' In response, several people on Reddit suggested that she send a message to her friend asking if she meant what she said about her bridesmaid having to dye her hair. One person said that if the bride said she 'meant it' then the bridesmaid should decline. One person commented: '[It's absurd of people to try to change you for 'their' big day. a) it is not yours, b) it is only one day but you are supposed to bend to their will and do something costly and time consuming and potentially damaging…' Another person suggested that the woman 'stay blunt' to her friend as 'people pleasing gets you nothing but walked on.' Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. They continued, 'if I were you, I would tell her I was stepping down as a bridesmaid. This is nothing short of a personal attack. If it were me, I couldn't enjoy the wedding if I thought the bride was obsessed with my hair.' Another added, 'if someone is asking this of you, they are not a friend who accepts you completely as you are, and that should be your most important consideration.' Read the original article on People Solve the daily Crossword
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5 days ago
- Health
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Bride-to-Be Wants Bridesmaid to Wear Body Makeup to Hide Her Psoriasis. The Reason Was Worse Than She Thought
The bridesmaid thought that her friend was worried about photos, but the actual reason for the request was worseNEED TO KNOW A woman was hurt when her friend asked if she'd wear body paint to cover up her psoriasis while acting as the maid of honor at her wedding While the bride initially told her it was so that she'd have "beautiful photographs that make everyone feel beautiful and confident," the real reason eventually came out and shocked the potential bridesmaid The revelation left her confused, concerned about her friendship and with a bad case of "emotional whiplash"A bridesmaid was upset and hurt when her friend asked if she'd wear body makeup to hide her psoriasis on her big day. She was then shocked to learn the reason for the request. Taking to Reddit's popular "Am I the A------" subreddit, the woman explained that she was "beyond thrilled" when her longtime friend asked if she would be the maid of honor at her wedding. However, an "impractical" condition accompanied the request: She'd have to cover her skin in body makeup. The woman said that her psoriasis was "well controlled," and that her "skin is simply very red." She wrote that she has a routine that she follows to keep it that way, which includes exfoliation and a moisturizer that she applies "a couple times a day." Not only would the makeup make it impossible for her to moisturize, she wrote that "any make up that will actually cover it will exacerbate the condition and make life miserable for me." When she pushed back, the bride-to-be said that she wanted to have "beautiful photographs that make everyone feel beautiful and confident." Her "heated" friend laid down an ultimatum: Wear the makeup or don't come to the wedding at all."I ended up telling her either she has me as is or not at all and left. She is now not speaking to me, but has told her fiancé that I accepted the role," the woman wrote, asking if she was in the wrong for taking a stance. After being assured that she was right to stand up for herself, the woman provided an update revealing the real reason that her friend had made the request. She wrote that her friend's fiancé called to talk about role as maid of honor. During the conversation, he offered to "reimburse [her] any costs for body makeup." Explaining why she had not accepted the offer, she told him "that even mild inflammation would cause days and weeks of irritation at best, or months of pain/cracked skin and possible infections at worst." The groom was "completely oblivious and very confused" by the revelation. After their conversation, the bride called back and "apologized profusely." "It turns out that her future Mother and Sister in law had been picking away at her, making her feel awful about herself and how she needs to be 'perfect, presentable and beautiful' on the day, that nothing can distract from her," the woman wrote. She continued, adding, "They both had convince[d] her that she is especially kind in not worrying or caring about how I looked, but that everyone else is just lying to me/her about not caring. [It's] been going on for months, even before they knew of the engagement, little digs about me trying to turn my friend against me." Saying that the women "are apparently disgusted by my psoriasis," they apparently warned the bride-to-be that it would steal all the focus on the day and "will make everyone miserable." "They didnt want me there at all, and were threatening my friend with not allowing the wedding at all," she wrote. "It was never about the photographs, it was about my condition being visible in general." The revelation left the potential maid of honor with "emotional whiplash." "[I'm] hurt and confused my friend let them convince her to go through with this, but I do think and hope we can get through this," she ultimately wrote. In her update, she also noted that she was grateful to get support from people, saying that she expected many to tell her to "suck it up."Many fellow Redditors did offer support. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. "What is this fascination with wanting people to not look like themselves at weddings?! You may love your friend. But she doesn't love you for exactly who you are. Do not put yourself in pain for her," one wrote, with another calling the bride "shallow." "I, too, have psoriasis and it's pretty noticeable (it's on both feet and legs). My friends are supportive, but if I wear clothing and/or footwear that doesn't cover my skin (like shorts and sandals), I do notice strangers staring," one user replied. They continued, adding, "I also know how painful my skin becomes if I apply anything topically that is not prescribed or recommended for me specifically. It's quite literally excruciating. I would hate for you to put yourself through that by applying body makeup, which is almost guaranteed to exacerbate your psoriasis." "Your friend sounds shallow and selfish. She obviously has made the decision that unless you can meet her exacting beauty standards, then you can't be in her bridal party," the poster concluded. Read the original article on People Solve the daily Crossword
