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2 days ago
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"He Needs To Have The Emotional Support Needs Of A Cactus': Women Over 40 Are Sharing The Unconventional Things They Look For In A Partner
After dealing with relationships for so long, I'm sure there comes a point in life when you know exactly what you're looking for in a partner — no matter how unconventional those things may be. So when Reddit user u/JacqueGonzales asked the question, "What's a really weird, UNCONVENTIONAL thing that you absolutely NEED in a partner?" in r/AskWomenOver40, I excitedly knew the women would NOT hold back. Here's what they had to say: 1."Cannot be a spitter. If you spit, I'm out" —u/Mamba6266 2."Angry eyebrows. Like, you need to look like you would throw me around. Respectfully." —u/nubianxess 3."No beards. In my opinion only, not trying to convince anyone else! Men with beards enjoy things I don't." —u/Mysterious-Soft8798 4."I wanted someone that wasn't picky about food." —u/NeedleworkerBroad751 5."Has the skills necessary to do well in a zombie apocalypse." —u/emphaticduck 6."Must be willing to purchase feminine hygiene products without complaint." —u/StartingOverAfter41 7."If they don't learn my coffee order within a few dates, they don't care about learning about me." —u/TweedleDumDumDahDum 8."I must have my own room/rooms. My husband and I each have our own bedroom/bathroom/office. If he dies, I am absolutely not changing my ways. I need my space." —u/Substitute_Chieftain 9."Must sneeze discreetly. Not keeping the sneeze in, make a scene every time. Also, they have to cover their mouth and nose properly. Always." —u/emotional-ohio 10."Sending memes back and forth is my love language. A guy who doesn't reciprocate or, worse, sends memes that aren't funny would be a deal-breaker." —u/Accomplished_Bed7120 11."Must be handy. I know my way around a toolbox and he should too." —u/Pursed_Lips 12."Must love all things Halloween as much as I do, which is a LOT." —u/Full_FrontaI_Nerdity 13."To be allowed to have space to be my feral and unhinged pathetic self at times. I need to unmask and just allow my feels and my bleh moments to just have no reasons other than simply to just be. To be able to express unhinged and sometimes really dumb thoughts and ideas, and not have these parts of myself held against me." —u/glitcherious 14."Can't be a person who gets that thick buildup of saliva in the corners of their mouth. Makes me instantly gag on sight." —u/Subaudiblehum 15."Open to kinky, fulfilling sex. Life is too short for bad sex." —u/Intelligent_Pass2540 16."He needs to have the emotional support needs of a cactus because I am not nurturing." —u/CasualCrisis83 And finally, here's one that's straight to the point: 17."I can't do 'half-assed' anything. He has to be capable of following through and doing a good job. I am talking about everything — job, chores, sex, conversations — whatever it is, for F's sake, participate fully and put in the full effort." —u/New_Needleworker_473 Are you a woman over 40 (or any age) who wants to share the unconventional things you look for in a partner? Let me know in the comments! Note: Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity. Solve the daily Crossword
Buzz Feed
2 days ago
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- Buzz Feed
Women Over 40 Reveal Their Unique Dating Standards
After dealing with relationships for so long, I'm sure there comes a point in life when you know exactly what you're looking for in a partner — no matter how unconventional those things may be. So when Reddit user u/JacqueGonzales asked the question, "What's a really weird, UNCONVENTIONAL thing that you absolutely NEED in a partner?" in r/AskWomenOver40, I excitedly knew the women would NOT hold back. Here's what they had to say: "Cannot be a spitter. If you spit, I'm out" "Angry eyebrows. Like, you need to look like you would throw me around. Respectfully." "No beards. In my opinion only, not trying to convince anyone else! Men with beards enjoy things I don't." "I wanted someone that wasn't picky about food." "Has the skills necessary to do well in a zombie apocalypse." "Must be willing to purchase feminine hygiene products without complaint." "If they don't learn my coffee order within a few dates, they don't care about learning about me." "I must have my own room/rooms. My husband and I each have our own bedroom/bathroom/office. If he dies, I am absolutely not changing my ways. I need my space." "Must sneeze discreetly. Not keeping the sneeze in, make a scene every time. Also, they have to cover their mouth and nose properly. Always." "Sending memes back and forth is my love language. A guy who doesn't reciprocate or, worse, sends memes that aren't funny would be a deal-breaker." "Must be handy. I know my way around a toolbox and he should too." "Must love all things Halloween as much as I do, which is a LOT." "To be allowed to have space to be my feral and unhinged pathetic self at times. I need to unmask and just allow my feels and my bleh moments to just have no reasons other than simply to just be. To be able to express unhinged and sometimes really dumb thoughts and ideas, and not have these parts of myself held against me." "Can't be a person who gets that thick buildup of saliva in the corners of their mouth. Makes me instantly gag on sight." "Open to kinky, fulfilling sex. Life is too short for bad sex." "He needs to have the emotional support needs of a cactus because I am not nurturing." And finally, here's one that's straight to the point: "I can't do 'half-assed' anything. He has to be capable of following through and doing a good job. I am talking about everything — job, chores, sex, conversations — whatever it is, for F's sake, participate fully and put in the full effort." Are you a woman over 40 (or any age) who wants to share the unconventional things you look for in a partner? Let me know in the comments!
Buzz Feed
30-03-2025
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- Buzz Feed
Women Over 40 Are Sharing Red Flags To Watch For In A Friendship's Early Stages, And Knowing These Would Have Saved Me So Much Heartbreak
Friendship breakups, like romantic breakups, can be so destabilizing. They often leave one or both parties wondering if there were any early signs that might have foreshadowed the challenges that would later arise. Which is why when Reddit user u/hoperaines posted, "What Are Some Friendship Red Flags?" on the r/AskWomenOver40 subreddit, there were some GREAT answers. So, here are 17 red flags women over 40 recommend looking out for in the early stages of a new friendship, let's see if any of these resonate with you: 1. "Love bombing. When someone declares you're their best friend, wants to spend a ton of time together, gifts and pays for things, and/or talks about how deep the relationship is after very little time." — u/Special_Trick5248 3. "One major red flag that I've sadly discovered is people who emotionally dump on you. And when it comes to you needing some support, those same people are usually nowhere to be seen. I've attracted so many people like this, and now I find it hard to bond with people." — u/Loose_Divide2642 4. "I never give second chances to ghosters and no-shows. Respect is hard-earned and requires you to maintain strong boundaries. What you tolerate is how you train people to treat you." "Take good care of your energy, and be patient." — u/savagefleurdelis23 "It would be a deal breaker for me if someone didn't have a REAL good reason for not showing up after confirming twice." — u/Showmeyourhotspring 5. "Be wary of people with main character syndrome. I enjoy listening to wild rants, so they seek me out and mistake my entertainment at the moment for a desire to be available for their rants at their leisure. I have too many responsibilities for that." — u/NoMeet491 6. "Codependency. Attachment styles have become a mainstream topic for romantic relationships but they play out in our friendships just the same." — u/TextMaven 7. "The people who lowkey compete and downplay your successes to feel better about themselves." — u/Boobear0810 8. "I use the same standards for friendship as I do dating, so white lies, too much social media presence, and a history of cheating are all deal breakers." "I've personally had the most success meeting friends through groups where you have a chance to observe their behavior for a while." — u/Special_Trick5248 9. "It's a red flag when someone seems upset that you have other friends." — u/Gravitational_Swoop 10. "Having a lot of drama around managing everyday tasks is a red flag for me. I had a friend for a while who just didn't seem to manage the basics of life a lot of the time. Everything was a disaster. I have a lot of time for people who struggle with their energy levels and organization and need help, but I eventually found myself getting burned out with that specific friend. She seemed to actively avoid applying common sense to situations; every day was chaos, and an emergency was always around the corner. I spent a lot of that friendship problem-solving for her until I just couldn't anymore." "I ended up feeling like I was being used, and the more I became aware, the more she seemed to shift targets for help. She eventually became part of a local church that always had people jumping in to help her, and that included big things like giving her a car." — u/Vegetable-Tough-8773 11. "Gossiping. You'll walk away feeling anxious about anything you said getting repeated." — u/FarSalt7893 13. "People who say extreme things out of nowhere. Like if they say, 'Don't ever talk to me again!' in response to a simple text where you said (for the first time) that you were disappointed they didn't give you the opportunity to help them." — u/rabbitales27 Photograph by Glen Wilson/HBO 14. "People who push push push push push you towards something you said you don't want to do." — u/Traditional_Betty 16. "Jealousy, they aren't happy for you when you are successful." — u/Britpop_Shoegazer ©Warner Bros/Courtesy Everett Collection There you have it: 17 red flags to look out for during the early stages of a new friendship. Did any of these ring true to you? Have you had experiences where these early signs turned out to be red flags? Or are there any other warning signals that we missed? Let us know in the comments or by filling out this anonymous Google form! Your responses could be featured in a BuzzFeed Community post.
