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Yahoo
2 days ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Apparently Theo James Opened a Restaurant and It Sucks
James recently opened a restaurant in London featuring a "Rome-inspired menu"… whatever that means, and it's been getting some underwhelming reviews. What do you do when you're rejected as the next James Bond? Turn to food. Theo James, of White Lotus fame, recently opened a restaurant in London featuring a 'Rome-inspired menu'… whatever that means. Unfortunately, the actor's passion project, Lupa, has been earning some underwhelming reviews since opening in June. Most Popular George Clooney Sounds Like a Lovely House Husband Ohio Woman Faces 'Abuse of a Corpse' Charge for Miscarriage in Another Post-Roe Nightmare Abortion Access Will, Once Again, Be Decided by the Supreme Court For starters, some diners complained that the food lacked flavor. (Never something you want to hear as a White Man). Some reviewers also reported that they were rushed out the door to make room for more heads. Plus, there wasn't even one shirtless pic of Theo lining the walls. Devastating! Kidding aside, we're sad for Theo. Celebrity ventures into the restaurant world are always a gamble—it's a brutal industry that eats people alive (even the good-looking ones). But as a recovering server, I can't help but wonder what Theo is like as an owner. Is he a full-throttle Gordon Ramsay type? Or the soft-spoken kind who tosses around wine terms like 'unctuous,' 'crisp minimality,' and 'a hint of creosote'? Maybe he's just method acting for a guest role on The Bear Season 5, in which case he better call in backup from co-white-boy-of-the-month Jeremy Allen White. 'I've always wanted to get into the restaurant industry,' James recently told British GQ. 'I love food, and curating spaces, and wine.' Specifically of wine, James added, 'Italian wine is great, but you have to get it right.' So true. If he can't get the wine right, perhaps he should gather three to four dysfunctional wealthy families, let their simmering tensions boil over across six to eight episodes, throw in a mysterious death, and voilà, success. Oh yeah, and change the name from Lupa to The White Lotus. Just a thought! A Barbie animated movie is in the works. God, when will we ever be free? [Deadline] Stevie Nicks and Lindsey Buckingham tease reunion or 50-year-long situationship. You decide. [CNN] Meg Stalter wore a cardboard Diet Coke corset to the Las Culturistas Culture Awards. She IS my culture <3 [Bravo] Huge day for film bros everywhere. Christopher Nolan's upcoming film, The Odyssey, sells out its special 70mm screening a year before its release. [The Hollywood Reporter] Nothing to see here… Just Alison Brie and Dave Franco sharing a fry at Wendy's [Complex] Looks like the Biebers are in a financial pickle. What's that song about Karma? [TMZ] Adam Sandler said Taylor Swift is 'ridiculously nice.' What's that song about Karma? [Pop Crave] Like what you just read? You've got great taste. Subscribe to Jezebel, and for $5 a month or $50 a year, you'll get access to a bunch of subscriber benefits, including getting to read the next article (and all the ones after that) ad-free. Plus, you'll be supporting independent journalism—which, can you even imagine not supporting independent journalism in times like these? Yikes. Solve the daily Crossword

Elle
2 days ago
- Entertainment
- Elle
Javier Bardem and Penélope Cruz's Love Story Started 15 Years After They First Met
THE RUNDOWN Penélope Cruz and Javier Bardem have starred in multiple films together, before and after beginning their marriage of over a decade. They first met in the early '90s on the set of Jamón, Jamón, but their relationship didn't take a romantic turn until more than 15 years later when they starred in Vicky Cristina Barcelona. Though the pair has made many public appearances together, they have spoken about their relationship sparingly. In 2019, Cruz told Tatler that they made a decision, 'a really good decision for us, not to talk about our relationship. It would feel very strange to do it a different way. I just couldn't do it.' Here is what is known of Penélope Cruz and Javier Bardem's relationship timeline. Cruz and Bardem were cast in the film Jamón, Jamón in 1992, one of Cruz's first films. They did not connect romantically, but there was definitely an early awareness of each other. 'She was 17, and I was 22,' Bardem told Gentleman's Journal in 2024. 'It was her first movie; one of my first movies. A big movie. We met on the wardrobe test, where we looked at each other, and I guess something happened. Something that doesn't have any explanation and goes beyond logic and reasoning. But, back in the day, we had different lives, different objectives, aims and goals. Yet, something was there—an energy, a chemistry, a way to rely on each other as human beings. And that stayed for so long, even though we didn't see each other or speak to each other for many years.' In 2017, he told British GQ, 'There was obvious chemistry between us. I mean, it's all there on film; it's like a document of our passion. One day we're going to have to show the kids—imagine! 'Mommy, Daddy, what did you do in the movies together?' 'Well, my children, you should celebrate this movie as you're here because of it!' It was a very sexy film. It still is. Penélope's parents were brave to allow her to do that film. If my daughter at 16 came to me with a script like that I'd have said no fucking way!' Their different lives intersected again when they were both cast in Vicky Cristina Barcelona. Things seemed to heat up on set quickly. In fall 2007, Page Six reported, 'Penelope Cruz has a new man, but she's being very coy about the relationship. Cruz showed up at the New York Film Festival this weekend with Javier Bardem, and the two were 'very touchy-feely' our spy said. 'They held hands when they thought no one was watching, and she kissed his cheek, and he put his arm around her.'' In October 2007, Just Jared shared photos of them on a romantic getaway in the Maldives. In his GQ interview, Bardem explained how he and Cruz both felt sparks on set in their new movie. 'Neither of us would make the first move. I don't know if we were shy or trying to be too professional,' the actor shared. 'Anyway, it got to the very last day of filming, and nothing had happened. So I thought, 'Fuck! We better get drunk!' Luckily a friend of ours threw a wrap party and, well, the rest is history. Thank god!' He also praised Cruz, comparing her to her character in the film, Maria Elana. 'Oh, boy. She has that feistiness,' he said. 'There are those scenes where we are arguing, she's throwing plates and so on. I had to wonder, 'Do I really want this?' She has what I call the loving blood. Passion for everything. That's what I find attractive. There is beauty, and there is being sexy. Penélope has both.' Cruz won an Oscar for Best Supporting Actress for playing Maria Elana in Vicky Cristina Barcelona. She credited the cast in her acceptance speech, including Bardem, saying, 'I want to share this with my fellow nominees and with the amazing ensemble of actors that I had the privilege to work with in this movie.' In 2009, they reportedly got engaged, but they kept the moment private. They attended the 2010 Goya Awards Gala in Madrid, Spain. Cruz was nominated that night for a Best Actress award for her role in Broken Embraces. Bardem won Best Actor at the 63rd Annual Cannes Film Festival for his role in Biutiful, and said in his acceptance speech, 'I share this joy with my friend, my companion, my love: Penélope. I owe you a lot, and I love you so much.' The couple were married in the Bahamas in the home of a family friend, and Cruz wore a John Galliano dress. A rep for Cruz confirmed she was pregnant in fall 2010. Their son, Leo Encinas Cruz, was born on Jan. 25, 2011. The next month, they were at the Academy Awards. Cruz received a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame in April 2011. During her speech, Cruz said, 'Every time I look at that star, I will see the names of all the people that have helped me make many of my dreams a reality.' She then thanked her husband and son 'for making me happy every day.' They made an appearance at the Toronto International Film Festival in fall 2012, one of their few public events that year. In a cover story that month for GQ, Bardem made some rare comments about his marriage, saying, 'I'm happily married. I breathe and stay in peace. I truly thank whoever's up there for giving me the opportunity to be loved.' Of having a child, he said, 'You feel like you know shit, and you discover everything again, through his eyes.' That year, the couple reunited in Ridley Scott's The Counselor, though they were not cast as love interests. In February 2013, Cruz confirmed to Hola Magazine that she was expecting a second child, adding that she is 'tremendously happy and excited.' Their daughter, Luna Encinas Cruz, was born on July 22, 2013, in Madrid. In an interview with The Guardian, Cruz spoke about her children, saying, 'The biggest feelings I have ever experienced come from the way my children look at me. Being a mother is seeing life from a different point of view, as if you were a child again. Even your relationship with nature changes; it's like you can see a tree through new eyes.' The couple joined U2 onstage in Barcelona. People reported the pair got dressed up, with Cruz wearing a blonde wig and bunny ears, while Bardem wore a feather boa and cowboy hat. The actor began 'play-flirting with Bono,' and the 'antics caused Cruz to act jokingly jealous, pretending to be angry with her husband and miming to the U2 frontman that she had her eyes on him.' Once again, Cruz and Bardem played characters in the same film, starring in 2017's biopic Loving Pablo. They promoted the movie at the 65th San Sebastian Film Festival. In an interview with Entertainment Tonight, Bardem talked about creating separation between life on set and life at home when they work together. 'I think whatever you do in your daily life, whatever job you lucky to have a job, first of all,' he explained. 'You bring it home. You have a bad day in your profession, you will go back home, and you will be touched or moved by how the day went for better or worse. It is the same for any actor, but the important thing is to know that there's a division, clear division, between fiction and reality. In other words, we know that what is going on there is all fiction-related… There is nothing there that has anything to do with who we are as real people.' Of working with Cruz, he said, 'It was easy working with Penélope. She is a great actress, and we can always challenge one another to go farther, deeper, bigger, and smaller. She can immediately tell what I'm doing, where I'm going. We know how to play with each other and try different things. All it takes is a little look or a word here and there. So we pushed each other to be more daring... That confidence that we have in each other is a great thing.' They starred together again in 2018's Everybody Knows. Talking to Variety, Cruz said she and Bardem received equal pay for the movie. She also shared more about their process on set. 'We don't take the characters home at the end of the day,' she said. 'We have similar ways of work. The fact that we know each other and trust each other helps.' In an interview with Vanity Fair, Cruz talked about working with Bardem again. 'I really respect his opinion—obviously his is one of the most important opinions in my life,' she shared. 'You are doing your work in front of this other person who is [on-screen] not your husband. You feel a little more observed [than you would with different co-stars], but you know you are being observed by someone who you trust, who has your back.' Talking to Marie Claire, Cruz explained how they choose projects. It was unusual for them to work on two back-to-back films. 'Obviously we can't choose parts just for logistical reasons, like, 'Oh, let's work together more often because it's easier.' No. In fact, it's not something we want to do that often, partly out of a desire to protect what we have. On the one hand, it's easier because you know that person, he knows you, and the way you work is very similar,' Cruz said. She also said of their kids, 'The thing is, I never speak about the children in interviews. I don't care if people think I'm strange; that's sacred for me.' In September 2019, Cruz won the Donostia award at the 67th San Sebastian Film Festival, dedicating the win to her parents, children, and her husband. The couple shared a passionate kiss during the closing ceremony of the 78th Venice International Film Festival in September 2021. Talking to Rita Braver of CBS Sunday Morning, Cruz shared why she keeps her kids off ofsocial media. 'There is something that is not making sense, and it's especially affecting younger generations,' she said. 'I feel really bad for the ones that are teenagers now. It's almost [as] if the world was doing some kind of experiment on them. 'Oh, let's see what happens if you expose a 12-year-old to that much technology.'' In January 2022, Cruz talked to Harper's Bazaar about becoming a mom. 'Even for someone like me, who has been very clear about wanting children ever since I was a little girl, dreaming about that—still, those first few days and months are so shocking, no?' she said. 'But it's the best thing, because it means you'll never put yourself first again. To always think about somebody else first is so healthy, and it's where a lot of happiness can come from.' She said to Vogue in an interview that she and Bardem spent lockdown during COVID trying to offer their children a sense of security. 'When you have children, most of your attention goes to them, to make sure that it's not a traumatic experience and that they know enough about what's happening so that they are responsible in terms of protecting themselves and others,' she shared. 'I feel like all the kids in the world have given adults a lesson in responsibility, empathy, and compassion. They've understood everything so quickly.' She added, 'When I tell them that our generation never went through anything like this as kids or teenagers, they can't believe it. They're like, 'Really?' But, I have hope that we're now seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. We don't know, but I need to believe that.' That month, they attended the Goya Awards, and Bardem won for Best Actor. In his speech, he said, 'I want to dedicate this award to Penélope who is the woman I love, respect, admire, and celebrate every day.' Both Cruz and Bardem were nominated for an Oscar in 2022, for their roles in Parallel Mothers and Being the Ricardos, respectively. 'It makes it very special,' Bardem told People. 'I mean, the fact that we are both the same year, it's something that is really unique.' 'It was crazy; it was beautiful,' Cruz said. 'I still, today, don't believe that it has happened that way." She added, 'When they announced Javier's name for Best Actor, I started to scream, and he was not moving, not reacting! He was waiting because he thought maybe they were going to say my name too, and I said, 'One, almost impossible. Two at the same time? Totally impossible.' Then they said my name, and that is when he started screaming! I loved his reaction so much, all my attention went to his generosity…what a beautiful reaction and so honest; he really could not enjoy his news until he heard my name.' The pair went viral in a video of them dancing at a Bad Bunny concert for Cruz's 50th birthday. They attended the 72nd San Sebastian International Film Festival.


Metro
5 days ago
- Entertainment
- Metro
Henry Cavill confirms baby's gender months after birth in sweet update
Henry Cavill has revealed the gender of his baby with his partner Natalie Viscuso. The Justice League star, 41, and Viscuso, 35, first announced they were expecting in April of last year and in January, the couple was spotted with a pram with their newborn in Australia. The former Superman star has revealed that his first child is a daughter and mentioned her birth when asked about the most important time in his life. Speaking to British GQ, the actor said: 'My daughter being born, and the 5 of us [partner Natalie, daughter, Cavill and their two dogs] settling into our forever home.' The star has yet to reveal his daughter's name, and given his preference for privacy, it's unlikely that he will share this information for some time – or at all. In the same interview, he was also asked about where in the world he feels the most 'grounded', revealing it was at his home with his family. 'At home in the UK. I've found a very special place that speaks to my soul in so many ways,' he said. Henry and Natalie were first spotted with their baby in January on the Gold Coast of Australia, where Cavill was filming a live-action adaptation of Voltron. Eagle-eyed fans noticed that Natalie seemed to be wearing a diamond ring on her left hand, suggesting that the couple may be headed towards marriage. Cavill first confirmed that they were expecting a baby in the spring of last year, when he told reporters at the premiere of his new movie, The Ministry of Ungentlemanly Warfare, that he was thrilled at the prospect of becoming a father. 'I'm very excited about it. Natalie and I are both very excited about it. I'm sure you'll see much more of that,' Cavill told an Access Hollywood reporter when asked about the concept of fatherhood generally. When asked whether the depiction of fatherhood in his new film inspired him to become a parent, he responded: 'I mean, he didn't inspire me to do that. My parents did.' The couple has been together at least since 2021, when they made their relationship official with a post on Instagram of the pair playing chess. More Trending A month later in May 2021, the actor shared another post asking fans to allow him to keep his relationship with Natalie private. 'I know it can be fun to speculate, to gossip, and to dive into our own personal echo chambers on the internet, but your 'passion' is misplaced, and it causes harm to the people I care about most.' He then added: 'I am very happy in love, and in life. I'd be enormously grateful if you were happy with me.' The pair prefer to keep their relationship offline, with Natalie making infrequent appearances on Henry's social media, with the actor using his page primarily to promote his campaigns, TV shows, and films. Got a story? If you've got a celebrity story, video or pictures get in touch with the entertainment team by emailing us celebtips@ calling 020 3615 2145 or by visiting our Submit Stuff page – we'd love to hear from you. MORE: Star of 90s horror reboot wanted to go 'all gas' on gore in new film MORE: Snoop Dogg splashes his millions on becoming surprising co-owner of Swansea City AFC MORE: Michael Madsen's cause of death revealed weeks after actor died aged 67


Elle
01-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Elle
Lorde and Jim-E Stack Spark Dating Rumors at Glastonbury Music Festival
Lorde is stepping into a bold new chapter, both musically and personally. The Grammy-winning singer just released her album Virgin and gave a surprise Glastonbury performance. While at the British music festival, she also sparked rumors that she is dating producer and collaborator Jim-E Stack. The Sun ran photos of Stark and Lorde cuddling in the crowd. On June 30, Daily Mail added more fuel to the speculation by publishing photos of them arriving together at London Heliport. Stack had his arm around Lorde's shoulder. Neither Lorde nor Stack has confirmed the relationship, but fans are buzzing about the possibility. So, who exactly is Jim-E Stack? From his prolific music career to his yearslong creative partnership with Lorde, here's everything to know. Stack isn't just Lorde's rumored boyfriend; he's also her main creative partner on Virgin, the singer's fourth studio album that came out on June 27, 2025. He co-wrote and co-produced some of the project with Lorde (real name: Ella Yelich-O'Connor). In a June 27 Instagram post, Stack described their collaboration as something deeper than just studio work: 'Ella & I met and made some songs in 2022 before an album was on either of our minds,' he wrote. 'A year and a half later we had [an] album. There's no one I'd rather be in the trenches with. Eternally grateful for the journey together. Love you forever, Ella.' In a May 2025 British GQ interview, Stack elaborated on how the project came together: 'Finishing the album was amazing, but you get so close and familiar with it,' he said. 'It was basically just Ella and myself making and producing the whole [song, 'What Was That']; my close friend Dan [Nigro] helped me somewhat with the production. Sometimes you get in this zone where you're like, 'Okay, we love this; is anybody else gonna care?' Seeing people go nuts for it made us both feel we're not crazy.' While it isn't known exactly when they met or potentially began dating, Stack revealed their creative partnership began in early 2022. 'She hit me up in 2022 right before she was about to start rehearsing for the Solar Power Tour,' he told British GQ. 'I think she was eyeing what would be next for her creatively. We hung and got along super well, and then after a leg of the tour, she came to my studio, and we spent a week cranking out ideas.' 'Then in summer 2023, she had some festivals booked and asked for me to help put together some remix versions of Solar Power songs for her live show. There were also a couple songs we did, [like] 'Silver Moon,' that she wanted play live. And I think once she finished that festival run, she was feeling creatively energized, though also in a scary new phase of her life—she had just gone through a breakup of a very long-term, significant felt very true to where she was at personally—this new era, living alone in New York for the first time, and things just feeling fresh and new.' Born James Harmon Stack, the 33-year-old San Francisco native has spent over a decade quietly shaping some of the most experimental pop and indie records of the 2010s and 2020s. His collaborators include Bon Iver, Charli XCX, Caroline Polachek, HAIM, Empress Of, and Diplo, among others. In an April 2021 Interview conversation with Kacy Hill, Stack described the core of his production approach: 'When I'm working on someone else's stuff and there are decisions to be made in the production and writing of which I'm unsure, I can always defer to the person whose song it is to make that decision, and I don't have to make a big call.' Stack began playing drums at age 11 and started making beats as a teenager using a friend's old Mac. 'My beats were some collision of rap and grime,' he told Fader in 2014, describing them as 'really, really terrible' in the beginning. 'That's kind of the beauty of it: there was no vision whatsoever. It's just trying to make some shit.' He credits growing up in San Francisco with shaping his sound: 'Growing up in the city [when I did] meant exposure to different cultures,' he said. In Rolling Stone's May 2025 cover story, Lorde described how working with Stack helped her unlock a new phase in both her music and identity. She recalled a moment during the Virgin recording process when she texted him a photo of herself in men's jeans and asked for his opinion. Stack replied, 'I want to see the you that's in this picture represented in the music.' 'This was before I had any sense of my gender broadening at all,' she explained. Stack has shared several posts celebrating Virgin and his creative bond with Lorde. 'The kinda song I was put on earth to help make,' he wrote on X after 'What Was That' was released. In April, he shared a short video of him and Lorde working in the studio on 'What Was That,' captioning it, 'The night we finally got the drums right.'


The Guardian
18-06-2025
- Health
- The Guardian
Is it true that I ‘don't get angry'? Or am I actually dangerously suppressing it?
My friends and I sometimes rank the seven deadly sins in order of personal relevance. For me, 'wrath' always comes last. (I shan't say what's first – too revealing.) Anger doesn't feature in my day-to-day life. I even struggle to feel wrathful when it's appropriate. World events make me fatalistic and depressed; when my gym instructor says to 'let loose' on the ski machine, my effort remains constant. The time I visited a rage room, my main takeaway was that the Metallica song I selected as the soundtrack sounded fantastic on big speakers. This might seem like a good thing: anger is rarely thought of as positive or productive. But is it true that I don't feel anger – or am I just really good at repressing it? 'When people say: 'I never get angry,' what they really mean is they just contain it really well – and often at their own expense,' says Sam Parker, a senior editor at British GQ and author of Good Anger: How Rethinking Rage can Change our Lives. Parker wrote the book 'for people-pleasers, conflict-avoiders and self-improvers', drawing from scientific research, his own experience, and interviews with therapists and other experts. He used to believe that 'the only people with an anger issue were the people who kept getting into fights and arguments, and losing their temper,' Parker tells me. 'I had this idea that I was somehow beyond anger, or it was just of no use to me.' He did struggle with anxiety. And when he hit a rough patch in his 30s, Parker tried yoga, meditation, gratitude journaling and even cold showers. What worked? Boxing. A couple of months in, while letting loose on the bag, Parker was unexpectedly overcome by emotion, enough to wet his eyes. 'For the first time in months I wasn't sad or anxious,' he writes. 'I was furious.' Over time, it dawned on him: 'The more that I recognised anger in myself, talked about it, processed it and eventually acted on it, the more my anxiety went down.' After that epiphany, Parker learned there was a well-established scientific link between anger and anxiety – it just wasn't widely acknowledged. To him, it represented a critical oversight in the mental-health conversation. Anger is as natural as sadness, fear, happiness or disgust – but it's often left out of the picture. In part, it's a language problem, Parker explains. 'In English, we conflate 'anger' with 'aggression' or even 'violence', as though they are the same thing.' But it is an especially challenging emotion to experience and be around. Even psychotherapists may avoid taking on openly angry patients, Parker learned in researching his book. Whether in pop science or academic research, 'across the spectrum, anger is sort of neglected,' he says. Parker wrote Good Anger hoping to reframe the emotion, and help others understand, experience and express it differently. Anger is persistently seen as negative: 'We tend to avoid talking about it altogether until it has boiled over into aggression,' he says. This can compound the shame and stigma. 'A lot of the time, aggressive behaviour is a choice we make,' says Parker. But the emotion itself is legitimate, exists to protect us – and often has something insightful to say. 'We tend to think that anger's telling us something about other people: how unreasonable they are, how they're out to get us, why they're idiots … Far more often, it's pointing us towards an unmet need or event from the past,' he says. When proportionately experienced, anger is not only part of a balanced emotional mix – it can also be 'a real source of determination, vitality and clarity', Parker says, pointing us towards what we value and spurring us on. When he finally acknowledged and began attuning to his latent anger, 'that was when I started to see the real benefits.' Parker's right: it's not really accurate for me to say 'I never get angry.' I just avoid acknowledging it, or name it something more palatable, such as irritation or disappointment. I associate this aversion with my adolescence, when I frequently gave into anger, lashing out at my family and feeling unpleasantly out of control. But, I learn from Parker's book, having been an angry teenager doesn't necessarily make me an angry person. There are in fact two types of anger. Sign up to Well Actually Practical advice, expert insights and answers to your questions about how to live a good life after newsletter promotion 'Trait anger' is inherent and individual, influenced by genetics and environment. Having high trait anger means you're quicker than others to fly off the handle. 'State anger', on the other hand, is temporary, triggered by frustration or a perceived threat. 'No one gets away without having state anger,' says Parker. The question is, how do you typically express it? Anger researchers distinguish between 'anger-out' and 'anger-in': externalising the emotion through physical or verbal aggression, versus striving to contain it and, in doing so, turning it inwards. The former might be more familiar (and harder to ignore), but the 'anger-in' crowd are suffering in silence, Parker says. Such containment is unsustainable and can carry a high personal cost: 'Anger deferred is anger multiplied.' Refusing to acknowledge anger may even make people sick, Parker says, pointing to the deleterious effects of sustained elevated cortisol, the stress hormone. However, not everyone feels equally free to express it. Women and girls are widely socialised to swallow anger and keep the peace; many told Parker their instinctual response to rage was to cry. For those burdened by the 'angry Black woman' stereotype, navigating the emotion is even more fraught. And though boys generally feel more attuned and entitled to anger, 'they're not taught to be curious about what their anger is really about, and what they should do with it,' Parker says. A healthy relationship with anger entails active, open engagement – neither denying its existence nor letting it run the show. For instance, leftwing commentator and author Ash Sarkar told Parker about learning to understand and harness her anger as a self-protective response to racist and sexist attacks. But achieving such presence of mind takes time and practice. The accepted wisdom that anger needs to be released, such as by punching a pillow or primal screaming, has been proven to be of limited psychological benefit, says Parker. More from Why am I like this: I'm an adult. Why do I regress under my parents' roof? I like my own company. But do I spend too much time alone? People say you'll know – but will I regret not having children? A better goal is 'creating a positive, productive association in your body and mind'. That can be achieved through physical movement, as Parker discovered with boxing; other examples are jogging and dancing. Anger can also be channelled creatively through journaling, painting or drawing. Once past the heat of the moment, you can decide with clarity what, if any, action is necessary, Parker says. 'Sometimes you do have to go and have the scary conversation, and say the difficult thing.' Other times, merely acknowledging how you feel is enough to lessen the sting, and help you move on. 'Today, if I feel angry about something, I've trained myself as best I can to think: 'OK, this is information,'' says Parker. Knowing his tendency to bury anger, Parker tries now to stay connected with it. For example, he and his partner have discussed their respective triggers and approaches to arguing. 'What you're really doing is handing each other a map,' he explains, 'so that when conflict does arise, you can find your way out of it a bit quicker.' Curious to learn more about my own terrain, I started by asking myself: if I was angry, what would I be angry about? The question flushes out some long-buried hurts and perceived injustices that I'd pushed from consciousness. None feel like they need to be acted upon, but they feel better for being excavated. I realise that while I've avoided conflict, believing it to be ruinous, the friendships I value most are those where we've already demonstrated that we can disagree, express frustration or argue, and recover. It's a comforting takeaway: wrath might be uncomfortable, but it isn't necessarily a deadly sin. Good Anger: How rethinking rage can change our lives is out in the UK now and published in the US on 19 August Good Anger by Sam Parker (Bloomsbury Publishing PLC, £20). 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