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Time of India
24-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Time of India
Husband admits he was clueless about gender roles and the internet cannot stop applauding
Josh Fisher, a middle-aged husband and dad, is having his viral moment on TikTok, not for a prank, dance, or life hack, but for something way more real: emotional accountability. In his now-trending series, "Chronicles of a Clueless Husband," he peels back the layers of his 20-year marriage to reveal the not-so-pretty truth about his past gender role assumptions. TikTok husband sparks debate on mental load Fisher, often seen filming from his car in deep thought, reflected on how early in their marriage, he would pack for holidays while his wife frantically vacuumed, did the laundry, and handled the chaos. Back then, he casually dismissed her labour as something she simply "wanted" to do. But reality hit him hard: "Looking back, how could I possibly think that was okay?" he admitted. The parenting shift that changed everything Things worsened when children entered the picture. Fisher acknowledged how he replicated his own father's behaviour by looking after his personal needs while his partner handled the rest. It was not just a family tradition, it was an emotional blind spot. He had to unlearn what he saw growing up and rewire his thinking from the ground up. Women on TikTok say, 'finally someone gets it' His confessions lit up the comment section. Women from all walks of life flooded in with virtual standing ovations and painfully relatable stories. Many said they had never cleaned or planned trips because they "wanted to," but because no one else stepped up. Fisher is now being hailed as a rare example of a man who "evolved and saw the light." Expert warnings on subtle toxicity in relationships Adding to the conversation, psychologist Dr. Mark Travers explained how even innocent-sounding compliments like, "You are always so calm," can fuel emotional suppression. Another red flag? "You're the only person I can talk to,' it may sound romantic but often signals unhealthy emotional dependency. Josh Fisher might not have had it figured out back then, but the internet agrees: at least now, he is doing the work.
New York Post
24-07-2025
- Entertainment
- New York Post
Husband praised for admitting he was ‘clueless' about gender roles in marriage: ‘Men can evolve and see the light'
Maybe it's not too little, too late. A husband took to social media to share his realization of things he did wrong in his marriage of 20 years, specifically regarding gender roles — and the internet is praising him for it. Josh Fisher has posted several videos to TikTok under the series name, 'Chronicles of a Clueless Husband,' where he self-reflects in his car on many of his wrongdoings and shortcomings as a husband. In the first video of the series, Fisher specifically spoke on how he would often channel 'main character energy' in his marriage. 'Early in our marriage, my partner and I say, we'd be going on a trip. My partner, at that point in time, would be doing the laundry, vacuuming the house, making sure the dishes were done,' the middle-aged man explained, which is a scenario so many couples can relate to. 'I would think, 'Well, you don't have to do that, that's you wanting to do that.'' He further explained how his wife would always have a long to-do list of things to get done before their trip — while Fisher nonchalantly packed his bag, grabbed the books he wanted to read while on vacation and would show up 'ready to go on the trip.' Talk about a division of labor. 'Looking back, how could I possibly think that was okay?' the now self-aware man in his 40s empathetically said in his video. Of course, once kids came into the picture for Fisher and his wife, this selfish routine didn't stop — it only got worse. 'I saw my own father do this quite a bit, where he would take care of his own needs, so I know I didn't learn it from nowhere. But I also had to unlearn it,' the husband and father continued. Unfortunately, this warped way of thinking regarding gender roles is common in many marriages — and the thousands of comments on this viral video proved that to be true. People on social media were pleasantly surprised at how self-aware this hubby now is. Damir Khabirov – 'I assure you I have NEVER done laundry, vacuumed, or washed dishes because I WANTED to.' 'And then he will get mad when you are stressed, overstimulated, short fused.' 'What's my insane takeaway here is that so many men say shit like women 'want' to do all that. Nobody 'wants' to do housework. It just needs to be done to live a healthy life.' Plenty of commenters also praised Fisher for finally taking accountability. 'You have opened your eyes, wonderful.' 'At least you're aware of it now. It's exhausting being the one carrying the mental load.' 'Wonderful to see that men can evolve and see the light. There's a glimmer of hope!' 'Thank you for your vulnerability. It takes a lot of guts to look at yourself and admit your wrongdoings. You are doing the work. Good on you.' Division of labor in marriages often causes intense conflict. simona – Another way to keep the peace in a marriage is by avoiding giving these two specific compliments to your loved one. 'How are you always so calm?' should never be said because it can alter a person's personality. 'When emotional suppression is praised in adult relationships, it reinforces the message that your worth lies in being agreeable and low-maintenance,' psychologist Dr. Mark Travers explained in Psychology Today. The second one is telling your partner: 'You're the only person I can talk to.' According to Travers, this sounds nice, but in reality, it can signal emotional dependency rather than intimacy. 'This diversity in emotional support leads to greater well-being, because no single relationship is overloaded with the task of holding it all,' Travers explained to the outlet.
Newsweek
21-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Newsweek
Millennial Man Has Eye-Opening Realization About How He Treated His Wife
Based on facts, either observed and verified firsthand by the reporter, or reported and verified from knowledgeable sources. Newsweek AI is in beta. Translations may contain inaccuracies—please refer to the original content. A man has gone viral for his candid reflections on his "cluelessness" as a husband in the early years of his marriage. Josh Fisher's TikTok video, part of a series titled "Chronicles of a Clueless Husband" has resonated deeply across social media for offering an honest reflection on his journey from complicity in unequal domestic labor to a conscious effort toward becoming an equal partner. Fisher, in his early 40s, told Newsweek about what inspired him to share the video, which has amassed over 1.2 million views. In the clip, Fisher provided a striking example from early in his marriage to his partner, Jaime. From left: Josh Fisher sits in his car and speaks to camera. From left: Josh Fisher sits in his car and speaks to camera. @jfisher62/TikTok Fisher recounted planning a trip, where his partner "would be doing the laundry, vacuuming the house, making sure the dishes were done." He described his minimal contribution to trip preparations: "She would get everything ready, and eventually I would say, 'Oh, now it's time to get ready.'" The problematic division of labor, Fisher said in the video, only continued after they had children. "My partner would do all the work to get all of them ready and make sure they were bathed, snacks packed, and I would get myself ready," he said. He recognized the source of this ingrained behavior, noting that he grew up watching his father do the same. Fisher and Jaime, who have been married for over 20 years and are raising four kids, have been sharing their relationship experiences on social media for several years; they are "attempting to dismantle patriarchy within long-term relationships and culture at large," he told Newsweek. Fisher's personal awakening as a "clueless husband" began during the COVID-19 pandemic when he was suddenly home, watching the labor his wife performed when he would have been out of the house. This realization, combined with "my partner firmly communicating her boundaries," he said, created crucial "lightbulb moments." Fisher created the "Chronicles of a Clueless Husband" series to share these lessons in hindsight, along with some of the "milestone moments" of pain and growth in their relationship. "The hope was twofold," Fisher said. "Validate that women are not crazy for struggling in patriarchal relationships—and hopefully reach men sooner in hope they can figure this stuff out sooner than I did and prevent unnecessary pain." While the viral content primarily resonates with women in the comments, Fisher said that many men also reach out to him asking questions and seeking advice. The process of healing and reevaluation has been constant, Fisher added, and not easy. "Much of this work has meant that I had to reevaluate my own socialization and beliefs as a man, which starts with truly listening to women's experiences from a position of curiosity and care," Fisher said. He added that learning "how to be in relationship non-transactionally has been a huge learning curve but contributed to so much more health and joy in our household." Fisher said he hopes that becoming a man attuned to imbalanced gender roles and women's experiences within patriarchy has ripple effects. "I hope it … provides a healthier model of masculinity than the ones I grew up with," he said. "And, together with Jaime, we hope our thought leadership can contribute to positively changing the relationship landscape in our culture." Fisher's honesty is a call to action for men to examine their contributions to the mental load and emotional labor within their homes, fostering healthier and more-balanced dynamics for all.
