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Yahoo
2 days ago
- Health
- Yahoo
How long should lesbian sex last? Sexologists weigh in and reveal the ideal duration
Sapphic sex is great, no doubt about it. It's sensual and passionate and hot, hot, hot. It can also, famously, be a marathon of epic proportions, requiring multiple hydration and snack breaks. But hearing legends told of these epic sapphic sex seshes may be a bit intimidating. Is that really how long lesbians are getting down? Are they apocryphal? Are you doing it wrong if you aren't spending half your day in bed getting busy? And if so, is that actually more satisfying? To answer these questions and more, PRIDE reached out to the experts: Dr. Carol Queen, PhD, Good Vibes staff sexologist, co-author of The Sex & Pleasure Book: Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone, and Sofie Roos, a bisexual licensed sexologist, relationship therapist, and author at relationship magazine Passionerad. If you've asked yourself these questions in the past, Roos says you're not alone. 'It's relatively common … mainly since it's more [undefined] compared to straight sex, where the man ejaculating often is a stop mark for the session,' she tells PRIDE. That being said, Queen emphasized that very little about sex and sexuality is cut and dried. 'There aren't rules for any type of sex, aside from basing it in a consensual atmosphere,' she tells PRIDE. So while these insights might be helpful, if they don't comport with your experiences or desires, that's OK too, they explain. So does sapphic sex actually take longer than other kinds of sex? When scrolling through the lesbian sections of Reddit, it's not uncommon to see posts asking about why sapphic sex seems to last forever, with some even unsure how to know a session has ended. While that may qualify as anecdotal evidence that sapphic sex tends to have a longer duration, it's also borne out by research as well. Studies have shown that lesbians and sapphics have less frequent, but longer sexual encounters — lesbians and sapphics also report greater sexual satisfaction when it comes to bedroom activities, so there's that. The question becomes: Why? 'Sapphic sex is slower and takes longer,' says Roos. 'This is because [AFAB sapphics commonly] take a longer time to get turned on, but also can go on for longer since their orgasm doesn't 'reset' the horniness the same way as it does in [AMAB folks].' 'The fact that there's no obvious ending also makes it more floating, which often leads to the sapphic sex feeling longer, even though that might not be the case,' she adds. What about for trans lesbians and sapphics? The lesbian and sapphic identity is beautiful and wonderfully diverse. It encompasses cisgender, nonbinary, and trans folks, and as such, Dr. Queen points out that those different lived experiences can also impact how, and for how long, we get busy. 'There is no bigger sex mistake aside from consent breach than 'I see this person's gender and therefore I know exactly what they like sexually,'" they say. So, while putting a time stamp on how long sex should last isn't really possible, you can ask yourself how long you want to be having sex—and if what you are currently experiencing in your sex life aligns with those needs. What if it feels like your sex seshes are too long? mangpor2004/Shutterstock While more in the bedroom definitely can be more, sometimes more can be a little too much. In which case, Dr. Queen says, 'Communicate!' adding that hopefully that is already happening. 'if [you[haven't established a safeword or signal up front, it's best to say something about needing to switch it up, position, or activity-wise, or say that [you're] are getting fatigued and having a hard time responding the way they want.' Roos agrees it's important to communicate in a way that feels respectful and affirming that you are satisfied. 'You can say something like, 'Honey, I'm starting to feel quite exhausted from all this amazing pleasure. Can we take a break and get back to it later?'' suggests Roos. 'Telling your partner that you've had enough for now isn't about rejecting them, but about showing that you feel perfectly satisfied and would like to get back to the pleasure later on!' What if they aren't long enough? Perhaps you wish that your sex sessions actually lasted longer, in which case, again, Dr. Queen says to be open about that desire. 'If there needs to be more stimulation to get you there, say so. If you would enjoy a more intimate connection, like making out or skin-to-skin time, say so. If the thing you are doing is not what makes you come, suggest you try the thing you do like!' they suggest. In other words, communicate this need. OK, so how long should lesbian sex last? Granted, all folks are different and have different desires, anatomy, and paces at which their needs are met. And it can all vary day to day, but is there, on average, a kind of Goldilocks amount of time that sapphic sex should take that maximizes pleasure and satisfaction? Both experts agree there isn't a magic number, but Roos offers a window of time. 'Sapphic sex lasting for between 25 to 60 minutes is a sweet spot for many,' she says. 'In this amount of time, most have a chance to get relaxed and turned on, to feel emotionally connected to their partner, and have a great chance to build up an orgasm. It also leaves room for some sexual aftercare!' 'However, with that said,' she continues, 'Don't stare blindly at the time you're having sex, but instead be in the moment and let the pleasure be what matters, and that the both of you become satisfied and happy - it doesn't matter if it took five or 50 minutes, because if everyone is happy, then what was the ideal time for the sex that time!' We love a story with a happy ending. Experts cited: Dr. Carol Queen, PhD, Good Vibes staff sexologist, curator of the Antique Vibrator Museum, and co-author of The Sex & Pleasure Book: Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone Sofie Roos, a bisexual licensed sexologist, relationship therapist and author at relationship magazine PassioneradThis article originally appeared on Pride: How long should lesbian sex last? Sexologists weigh in and reveal the ideal duration Solve the daily Crossword
Time of India
12-07-2025
- Health
- Time of India
These 10 books will remind you to be kind to yourself
We often talk about self-care like it's a face mask or a weekend getaway, but at its core, self-care is something quieter, deeper. It's how you speak to yourself when you're feeling tired or defeated. It's how you remind yourself you're enough, even on the days that feel like too much. And while no book can solve everything, some of them feel like a friend gently taking your hand and saying, 'Let's slow down.' Here are ten such books, honest, comforting, and gently transformative, that remind you how to be kind to yourself and the world around you. The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down by Haemin Sunim Written by a Korean Buddhist monk, this book is like a warm cup of tea on a rainy day. It teaches that sometimes doing nothing is also a form of care. The short reflections paired with soft illustrations invite you to pause and look inward without judgment. Untamed by Glennon Doyle This is not just a memoir; it's a roar of honesty. Glennon writes about breaking free from expectations and loving yourself as you are. You don't need to fix yourself maybe you were never broken in the first place. Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff Dr. Kristin Neff explains self-care not as indulgence but as survival. by Taboola by Taboola Sponsored Links Sponsored Links Promoted Links Promoted Links You May Like Vet Warns Cincinnati: "If Your Dog Licks Its Paws, Watch This Immediately" Ultimate Pet Nutrition Undo She shows how self-compassion is more powerful than self-esteem, especially during failure or heartbreak. Think of it as therapy in book form. Good Vibes, Good Life by Vex King This book isn't preachy, it's practical. Vex King, once homeless, now a wellness guide to many, writes about gratitude, mindset, boundaries, and how to raise your emotional vibration without burning yourself out. The Comfort Book by Matt Haig These pages don't try to fix you. They just sit with you, reminding you that you're not alone. Written in small, digestible pieces, it's perfect for moments when you're overwhelmed but still want something gentle to hold on to. Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl Strayed Pulled from her advice column 'Dear Sugar,' these letters are raw, real, and fiercely loving. Cheryl's voice is unfiltered yet kind, like a wise friend who gives you a hug and also the truth. Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach Tara Brach blends psychology with mindfulness and Buddhist wisdom, gently reminding us that accepting ourselves exactly as we are is the starting point to any healing. A slower read, but deeply powerful. You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay An old-school classic in the self-care realm. Louise Hay speaks about how our thoughts affect our health and energy. Whether or not you believe in affirmations, her writing is rooted in hope and gentle reminders to love yourself fiercely. Wintering: The Power of Rest and Retreat in Difficult Times by Katherine May This one is a quiet gem. It talks about how sometimes we need to hibernate emotionally, to rest, to step back, and let life move at its own pace. Especially comforting during hard seasons of life. Braving the Wilderness by Brené Brown Brené is beloved for a reason. In this book, she talks about belonging, not to a group or community, but belonging to yourself. When the world feels noisy and you feel lost, her words help you find your way back to your own voice. Reading these books won't magically fix life's messiness. But they will offer kindness where the world forgets to. They'll remind you that self-care is not selfish and that gentleness toward yourself and others is a quiet kind of strength. Maybe, just maybe, one of them is the small turning point you didn't know you needed.
Yahoo
21-05-2025
- Science
- Yahoo
Plants can hear tiny wing flaps of pollinators
Our planet runs on pollinators. Without bees, moths, weevils, and more zooming around and spreading plants' reproductive cells, plants and important crops would not grow. Without plants we would not breathe or eat. When these crucial pollinating species visit flowers and other plants, they produce a number of characteristic sounds, such as wing flapping when hovering, landing, and taking off. Depending on the size of the pollinator, these sounds are extremely small, especially compared to the other vibrations and acoustics of insect life. In new research presented today at the 188th Meeting of the Acoustical Society of America and 25th International Congress on Acoustics, it appears that plants can respond to the tiny wingbeats of insects. 'Plant-pollinator coevolution has been studied primarily by assessing the production and perception of visual and olfactory cues, even though there is growing evidence that both insects and plants can sense and produce, or transmit, vibroacoustic signals,' said Francesca Barbero, a professor of zoology at the University of Turin in Italy. A team of entomologists, sound engineers, and plant physiologists played recordings of the buzzing sounds made by the tiny Rhodanthidium sticticum bee near some growing flowers called snapdragons (from the genus Antirrhinum). The bees in this genus are known to be efficient snapdragon pollinators. The team then monitored the flowers' reactions. The sound of the bees appears to trigger the snapdragons to increase their sugar and nectar volume. The noise can even change how the genes that control both sugar transport and nectar production behave. According to the team, this response could be a survival and co-evolution strategy, especially if the snapdragons can influence the time that pollinators spend on their flowers. 'The ability to discriminate approaching pollinators based on their distinctive vibroacoustic signals could be an adaptive strategy for plants,' said Barbero. What is less clear is whether the plant acoustics can influence the insect's behavior. For example, can sounds made by plants draw in a suitable pollinator. [ Related: ] 'If this response from insects is confirmed, sounds could be used to treat economically relevant plants and crops, and increase their pollinators' attraction,' said Barbero. The team is currently analyzing snapdragon response to other pollinators to try and learn more. 'The multitude of ways plants can perceive both biotic factors — such as beneficial and harmful insects, other neighboring plants — and abiotic cues, like temperature, drought, and wind in their surroundings, is truly astonishing,' Barbero said. The data in this research has not been peer reviewed yet or published in any scientific journal. The project, 'Good Vibes: How do plants recognise and respond to pollinator vibroacoustic signals?' is funded by the Human Frontier Science Program and is a collaborative effort between the University of Turin, I²SysBio in Valencia, and the Centre for Audio, Acoustics and Vibration at the University of Technology Sydney.
Fox News
17-03-2025
- Entertainment
- Fox News
Country star Chris Janson sees ‘eye to eye' with Trump supporter Kid Rock
Chris Janson is standing by his fellow country star Kid Rock and his support for President Donald Trump. The "Stay Rowdy" singer told Fox News Digital that Kid Rock is one of his "oldest buddies," as they both saw "eye to eye" on politics and music from the "get go." "I just love Kid Rock, personally. He's just an old friend of mine," Janson said. "Yes, he is a very vocal Trump supporter and I'm a conservative. I love this country. I love our flag. I love our troops, I love patriotism, I love everything that America is and stands for." He added that it's a viewpoint that initially aligned him with Kid Rock. "That was some of the basis of us being friends… when you see eye to eye with somebody right from the get-go on… majority of things, especially politically speaking or musically speaking… it just works. It's a good relationship." Janson is currently on tour and has scheduled performances until August in major U.S. cities, including Minneapolis, Las Vegas and Arcadia, with plans to announce additional tour dates soon. The country star is also gearing up to join Kid Rock on his tour in March and April. The "Good Vibes" crooner called their upcoming performance "a big party for America." WATCH: COUNTRY STAR CHRIS JANSON ON SEEING 'EYE TO EYE' WITH TRUMP SUPPORTER KID ROCK His comments come after Kid Rock appeared on Fox's "Jesse Waters Primetime" and told Democrats to "shut up, sit there and learn something" ahead of Trump's address on March 4. Kid Rock has previously spoken out about the shift in energy he's felt in the nation's capital and Hollywood since Trump secured the Oval Office in November. "It feels like the rebirth of our nation," the musician, whose real name is Robert James Ritchie, told "Fox & Friends" in January. "There's just this overwhelming sense… you've heard it a million times, that America's back," the "Born Free" singer explained. Janson may not always be in the political spotlight like his longtime friend Kid Rock, but when it comes to his love for America, he's clear about where he stands. The country star believes that patriotism should be a unifying force, not a point of division. When Fox News Digital asked if Janson, as a conservative, had received any blowback for being vocal about his political beliefs, he laughed and replied, "No, because I'm not really political." "I don't like politics. As a matter of fact, I don't. I never have been a political person whatsoever." Janson noted if he does receive backlash for his political views, he doesn't "really pay attention to it." "You're always going to have haters, but I tend to find that I have more people that love me, and I love them just the same. And I choose to go where I'm celebrated." Janson, who performed at the Republican National Convention, said it's not about choosing sides – it's about standing firm in his personal values. "I just stand for the things that I stand for. I just love my country. I don't think there's anything political about that," Janson said. "I don't think there should be any kind of argument for anybody who loves their country, whether they're Republican, Democrat, moderate, in the middle. It doesn't really matter to me," he stated firmly. "I'm the most conservative guy you've ever met… I like the normal moralistic values of America, God, family, country. That's who I am. I have a lot of friends who live that way and then live a little bit on the other side of the aisle, too, and I'm totally cool with it. That's why this country is great, because we were all put here to be equal and try to be as best of friends we can." Janson, a proud member of the Grand Ole Opry, has become good friends with other Hollywood celebrities, including Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson. WATCH: CHRIS JANSON ON HOW HE AND DWAYNE 'THE ROCK' JOHNSON BECAME 'FAST FRIENDS' The country star shared that the two became friends when he ran into the "Black Adam" actor after lunch in Los Angeles, and they started to talk. "We found a mutual love and admiration for old songs… traditional country… we became fast friends," Janson told Fox News Digital. "Fast forward, he was in a music video with me this past year, and… we've just become buddies. It's the weirdest and wildest, coolest friendship relationship I've ever probably had… Great guy." Janson added there could be a potential music duo between the country star and "Moana" actor in the near future. The "Buy Me a Boat" singer has four kids. Janson and his wife Kelly Lynn, who is also his manager, welcomed two children together – daughter Georgia and son Jesse. Lynn also has two adult children from her previous marriage, and Janson considers them his own children. WATCH: COUNTRY STAR CHRIS JANSON 'FINDS GOD' THROUGH THE GREAT OUTDOORS When Janson's not performing on stage, he enjoys the great outdoors, especially hunting and fishing. He is also involved in conservation in Florida. "I find a lot of happiness and peace in it," Janson told Fox News Digital. "A lot of people find God in certain places. I happened to find Him in those moments… if it was not in my life, I don't know that I would be the kind of man that I am today." "I'm just a straightforward, straight-shootin' country guy who wears his heart on his sleeve. I say exactly what I think and mean what I say. I love my wife, I love my kids… I love hunting and fishing… I love everything that goes along with it."
