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Yahoo
25-07-2025
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NY Times' ridiculous ‘heterofatalism' embrace is further evidence of sad, sickly post-Millennial outlook
Dating is hard, but blaming all men for your horrible choices is easy. A new New York Times piece, 'The Trouble With Wanting Men,' by Jean Garnett, posits that the trouble with wanting men, is … men. Like, all of them. It's part of a genre of man-hating thought pieces that turn hetero love and dating into an all-out gender war — and totally absolve women of any agency or responsibility in their relationships. There's no accountability or introspection, just the big diagnosis that men are the problem, from a woman who has decided to pursue open relationships, casual sex and situationships into middle age. It's a sad, sickly post-millennial take on 'Sex and the City' that's further evidence of just how bleak the modern romantic outlook really is. The piece, which is mostly autobiographical sexual navel-gazing, argues that many women are experiencing 'heterofatalism,' a term Garnett borrowed from UPenn academic Asa Seresin, which describes the way straight women are 'fed up with the mating behavior of men.' It's a word that reeks of misandry. Garnett's own heterofatalism manifests in lamenting with a female friend that they can't just be gay with one another and declaring that 'men are what is rotten in the state of straightness.' It also rears its ugly head when she walks past a couple holding each other close outside a subway and audibly gags. What has left this woman so hurt, so bitter, so … heterofatalistic? Well, her dating past is colorful, to put it kindly. Garnett reveals that her open marriage fell apart because she 'fell in love with another man' — in fact, 'toppled the whole structure of [her] life for a man' — who told her from the outset 'that he did not know how to 'do' relationships.' Ah, yes, the classic. Later, she reveals she sometimes brings her daughter along on dates with this man, who won't commit to anything more than a sexual relationship. She also recounts getting a text from an actual adult male who she went on a date with, reading, 'I was really looking forward to seeing you again but I'm going through some intense anxiety today and need to lay low :(.' Apparently, among her friend group, this is a common experience, and they laugh over brunch about 'men's inability to 'man up and [expletive] us.'' Garnett asks, 'Where were the men who could handle hard stuff? Like leaving the house for sex?' She alludes to being a character in 'Sex and the City' — but what about 'He's Just Not That Into You'? Who are these men she speaks of? For all the complaints I've fielded from friends about their dating lives, men failing to show up for sex is not one. Heterofatalism is just one of many academic terms Garnett cites. We also learn about complementary twoness, normative male alexithymia and emotional labor, among others. The fancy words and citations allow her to hide behind an academic facade — and avoid analyzing whether her own choices are actually what's making her so miserable. In a rare glimpse of self-awareness, she writes: 'I experience desire in terms of a struggle that someone must lose.' But this is the problem. We're not living out a gender war through our love lives. What Garnett has figured out, consciously or not, is that framing the problem as an us-versus-them situation allows her to remove the 'I' from the equation. But, guess what, lady: A lot of your problems would probably subside if you stopped — by your own admission — throwing yourself at men in the first 30 minutes of knowing them. And pursuing ones who give you yellow lights. And indulging in the romantic deathtrap that is non-monogamy. Stop blaming everyone else, straighten out your own life, and get a little agency. There are a lot of troubles with modern dating — from hookup culture to situationships, dating apps to ghosting. Women's struggles should be given a platform. But outlets like the Times seem hellbent on amplifying the voices of the most bitter and dysfunctional individuals who bring their misery upon themselves and distract from the actual issues at hand. Pieces like these bring us no closer to solving the issues that plague modern love. And they make readers want to shake the writer and say, 'Get a grip.' Is the problem all men? Or is the problem the way thatsome women choose to navigate relationships with men? Solve the daily Crossword
New York Post
24-07-2025
- Entertainment
- New York Post
NY Times' ridiculous ‘heterofatalism' embrace is further evidence of sad, sickly post-Millennial outlook
Dating is hard, but blaming all men for your horrible choices is easy A new New York Times piece, 'The Trouble With Wanting Men,' by Jean Garnett, posits that the trouble with wanting men, is … men. Like, all of them. Advertisement It's part of a genre of man-hating thought pieces that turn hetero love and dating into an all-out gender war — and totally absolve women of any agency or responsibility in their relationships. 6 An article in the New York Times, titled 'The Trouble With Wanting Men,' has gone viral. There's no accountability or introspection, just the big diagnosis that men are the problem, from a woman who has decided to pursue open relationships, casual sex and situationships into middle age. It's a sad, sickly post-millennial take on 'Sex and the City' that's further evidence of just how bleak the modern romantic outlook really is. Advertisement The piece, which is mostly autobiographical sexual navel-gazing, argues that many women are experiencing 'heterofatalism,' a term Garnett borrowed from UPenn academic Asa Seresin, which describes the way straight women are 'fed up with the mating behavior of men.' It's a word that reeks of misandry. Garnett's own heterofatalism manifests in lamenting with a female friend that they can't just be gay with one another and declaring that 'men are what is rotten in the state of straightness.' 6 Jean Garnett is the author of the controversial autobiographical piece about modern dating. It also rears its ugly head when she walks past a couple holding each other close outside a subway and audibly gags. Advertisement What has left this woman so hurt, so bitter, so … heterofatalistic? Well, her dating past is colorful, to put it kindly. Garnett reveals that her open marriage fell apart because she 'fell in love with another man' — in fact, 'toppled the whole structure of [her] life for a man' — who told her from the outset 'that he did not know how to 'do' relationships.' Ah, yes, the classic. 6 Garnett argues that 'heteropessimism' is a common experience among straight women today. vgstudio – Advertisement Later, she reveals she sometimes brings her daughter along on dates with this man, who won't commit to anything more than a sexual relationship. She also recounts getting a text from an actual adult male who she went on a date with, reading, 'I was really looking forward to seeing you again but I'm going through some intense anxiety today and need to lay low :(.' Apparently, among her friend group, this is a common experience, and they laugh over brunch about 'men's inability to 'man up and [expletive] us.'' Garnett asks, 'Where were the men who could handle hard stuff? Like leaving the house for sex?' 6 Garnett compares her friends to the characters of 'Sex and the City,' chatting about sex over a meal. She alludes to being a character in 'Sex and the City' — but what about 'He's Just Not That Into You'? Who are these men she speaks of? For all the complaints I've fielded from friends about their dating lives, men failing to show up for sex is not one. Heterofatalism is just one of many academic terms Garnett cites. We also learn about complementary twoness, normative male alexithymia and emotional labor, among others. The fancy words and citations allow her to hide behind an academic facade — and avoid analyzing whether her own choices are actually what's making her so miserable. Advertisement 6 UPenn academic Asa Seresin first coined the term 'heteropessimism.' In a rare glimpse of self-awareness, she writes: 'I experience desire in terms of a struggle that someone must lose.' But this is the problem. We're not living out a gender war through our love lives. What Garnett has figured out, consciously or not, is that framing the problem as an us-versus-them situation allows her to remove the 'I' from the equation. Advertisement But, guess what, lady: A lot of your problems would probably subside if you stopped — by your own admission — throwing yourself at men in the first 30 minutes of knowing them. And pursuing ones who give you yellow lights. And indulging in the romantic deathtrap that is non-monogamy. 6 Many real troubles with modern dating go largely unaddressed in the piece. Shutterstock Stop blaming everyone else, straighten out your own life, and get a little agency. There are a lot of troubles with modern dating — from hookup culture to situationships, dating apps to ghosting. Women's struggles should be given a platform. Advertisement But outlets like the Times seem hellbent on amplifying the voices of the most bitter and dysfunctional individuals who bring their misery upon themselves and distract from the actual issues at hand. Pieces like these bring us no closer to solving the issues that plague modern love. And they make readers want to shake the writer and say, 'Get a grip.' Is the problem all men? Or is the problem the way that some women choose to navigate relationships with men?
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19-07-2025
- Entertainment
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Kate Bosworth and Justin Long Welcome First Child
Yara Sameh Kate Bosworth and Justin Long have welcomed a baby girl. The couple had their daughter via a surrogate, according to a source. This is Bosworth and Long's first child. The 'Blue Crush' actress and Long met on the set of 'House of Darkness' in Arkansas in 2021. The couple began dating publicly in 2022 and got married at the Rockaway Hotel in Queens in 2023. The 'He's Just Not That Into You' star hinted about wanting to become parents in an Instagram post for Bosworth's 41st birthday in January 2024. 'One day our kids might ask me, 'Dad, why did you write sappy things about Mom on that old Instagram app? The one you won't let us use?',' he wrote after listing compliments about Bosworth. 'And I'll say, 'Well… because there are a lot of poisonous things on the Internet but your mom always inspires me to put good things into the world'.' He continued, 'Besides, I know reading those old posts touched her and made her smile. And I've been so blessed to have experienced so many fun, wondrous things in this life — things for which I'll never be able to properly express my gratitude — but of all those joys, touching your Mom and making her smile are my favorites.' 'They might say, 'Ew!' Or, 'Why?',' Long added, 'And I'd say, 'Because she completed all of your Dad's favorite love songs. Even ones he hadn't thought about since he was a kid. She's simply the best.' Bosworth responded to Long's Instagram post about their future children, which came with a video of their moments together over the year, saying it 'overwhelmed my cellular makeup.' 'Thank you for loving me with such goodness & generosity. What a life, what a big beautiful adventure. Wherever we are, with you, I am home,' she said. read more New Tourism Route To Launch in Old Cairo Ahmed El Sakka-Led Play 'Sayidati Al Jamila' to Be Staged in KSA on Dec. 6 Mandy Moore Joins Season 2 of "Dr. Death" Anthology Series Don't Miss These Movies at 44th Cairo Int'l Film Festival Today Amr Diab to Headline KSA's MDLBEAST Soundstorm 2022 Festival Arts & Culture Mai Omar Stuns in Latest Instagram Photos Arts & Culture "The Flash" to End with Season 9 Arts & Culture Ministry of Culture Organizes four day Children's Film Festival Arts & Culture Canadian PM wishes Muslims Eid-al-Adha News Israeli-Linked Hadassah Clinic in Moscow Treats Wounded Iranian IRGC Fighters News China Launches Largest Ever Aircraft Carrier Sports Former Al Zamalek Player Ibrahim Shika Passes away after Long Battle with Cancer Videos & Features Tragedy Overshadows MC Alger Championship Celebration: One Fan Dead, 11 Injured After Stadium Fall Lifestyle Get to Know 2025 Eid Al Adha Prayer Times in Egypt Arts & Culture South Korean Actress Kang Seo-ha Dies at 31 after Cancer Battle News "Tensions Escalate: Iran Probes Allegations of Indian Tech Collaboration with Israeli Intelligence" Sports Get to Know 2025 WWE Evolution Results News Flights suspended at Port Sudan Airport after Drone Attacks Arts & Culture Hawass Foundation Launches 1st Course to Teach Ancient Egyptian Language
Yahoo
18-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Justin Long and Kate Bosworth Kept Baby News a ‘Secret' Because It Was a ‘Delicate Process': Source (Exclusive)
Kate Bosworth and Justin Long 'are over the moon with joy' after welcoming their first child, a source tells Star. 'These first days with their new baby have been pure bliss. Yes, there have been sleepless nights, but they're tired and excited,' the insider shared of the couple, who are spending their first days as a family 'bonding' with their child. 'They are a team. Justin's doing a lot of the diaper changing.' 'Kate and Justin were already one of the happiest couples, but now they feel their love just got bigger,' the insider continued. 'They were so ready to be parents.' On Thursday, July 17, Page Six reported the Blue Crush actress, 42, and the He's Just Not That Into You actor, 47, welcomed their child via surrogate. 'They are both very private about their personal lives. They've learned to be that way from experience,' the source explained of the pair opting to keep their baby plans a 'secret' from the public. 'They didn't want to invite unwanted attention on this delicate process.' As for the future, the insider said the pair plans to grow their family, noting 'they want at least two kids,' and 'this is the beginning of making that dream come true.' The public first learned about Bosworth and Long's relationship in 2022. The pair then got engaged in 2023 and tied the knot that same year. 'From the moment they met, they were so in sync with what they wanted in life and what their priorities were,' the insider added. 'That's why they're a perfect match.' In January 2024, Long posted a sweet birthday tribute for Bosworth on Instagram and discussed their future children. 'One day our kids might ask me 'Dad, why did you write sappy things about Mom on that old Instagram app? The one you won't let us use?'' he wrote in his caption. 'And I'll say 'Well, _____, because there are a lot of poisonous things on the Internet but your mom always inspires me to put good things into the world.' 'Besides, i know reading those old posts touched her and made her smile,' Long penned. 'And I've been so blessed to have experienced so many fun, wondrous things in this life – things for which I'll never be able to properly express my gratitude – but of all those joys, touching your Mom and making her smile are my favorites.' Solve the daily Crossword
Yahoo
10-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Amazon MGM Studios Rom-Com ‘You Deserve Each Other' Adds Natalie Morales, Justin Long, Kyle MacLachlan, Ana Gasteyer & More
EXCLUSIVE: Big casting myriad sources are telling us tonight for the Amazon MGM Studios feature take of Sarah Hogle's bestselling novel You Deserve Each Other with Natalie Morales, Justin Long, Kyle MacLachlan, Ana Gasteyer, Timothy Busfield, Hope Davis, Delaney Rowe, Lisa Gilroy and Alyssa Limperis joining already cast Penn Badgley and Meghann Fahy. Billed as a lovers-to-enemies-to-lovers romantic comedy, You Deserve Each Other, follows Naomi Westfield who has the perfect fiancé: Nicholas Rose who holds doors open for her, remembers her restaurant orders, and comes from the kind of upstanding society family any bride would love to be a part of. They never fight. They're preparing for their lavish wedding that's three months away. And she is miserably and utterly sick of him. More from Deadline United Artists Lands Feature Comedy Pitch 'Fantasy Camp' From Nicholas Thomas; Nate Bargatze Eyeing To Star & Produce Amazon MGM Studios Names Charlie Coleman As Head Of International Theatrical Marketing Viola Davis' 'G20' Racks Up 50M+ Prime Video Viewers; One Of Amazon MGM Studios' Top 10 Most Watched Action Pics Naomi wants out, but there's a catch: whoever ends the engagement will have to foot the nonrefundable wedding bill. When Naomi discovers that Nicholas, too, has been feigning contentment, the two of them go head-to-head in a battle of pranks, sabotage, and all-out emotional warfare. But with the countdown looming to the wedding that may or may not come to pass, Naomi finds her resolve slipping. Because now that they have nothing to lose, they're finally being themselves – and having fun with the last person they expect: each other. Marc Silverstein and Abby Kohn are directing. They were scribes on romcoms Never Been Kissed and He's Just Not That Into You. The two also revised the screenplay which had a first draft by Brett Haley and Marc Basch. Fifth Season is producing the movie alongside Anthony Bregman and Peter Cron of Likely Story. EP is Caroline Jaczko. Morales will play the role of Cassie. The Grey's Anatomy and No Hard Feelings actress is repped by CAA, Bleecker Street Entertainment and Goodman, Genow, Schenkman, Smelkinson & Christopher. Long plays Austin Frazier and he's repped by IAG. His long line of credits include Barbarian, Live Free or Die Hard, and the Alvin and the Chipmunk franchise. MacLachlan stars on Prime Video's series Fallout and starred on the hit ABC series Desperate Housewives, and the David Lynch canon of Blue Velvet and the Twin Peaks franchise. He's repped by UTA and Entertainment 360. He'll play the role of Eugene Rose. Gasteyer is portraying Deborah Rose. The SNL alum has starred in Mean Girls and AppleTV+ series Loot, and American Auto. She is repped by Gersh and Circle Management. Busfield is Bernie Duncan. The West Wing and Thirtysomething actor is repped by Innovative Artists. Davis is Kathy Duncan. The UTA and Kipperman Managment repped actress' recent credits include The Phoenician Scheme, Asteroid City, Greenland and the series Your Honor as well as HBO's Succession. Rowe plays Wren. The actress repped by UTA and Range Media Partners starred in The Everything Pot and The Drone. Gilroy is Wendy Duncan in the movie. Gilroy was recently seen in AppleTV+'s The Studio, Netflix's Black Mirror, and Hulu's Interior Chinatown. She is repped by OPE and WME. Limperis will portray Sofia Frazier. The Gersh and Levity Talent repped actress and comedian has a Peacock special No Bad Days and starred in Dexter: Original Sin and What We Do in Shadows. First published in 2020 by Penguin imprint G.P. Putnam's Sons, Hogle's novel was a 2x Goodreads Choice Awards nominee, for best romance and best debut, in addition to being an Amazon Editors' Pick for best romance. Best of Deadline 'Stick' Release Guide: When Do New Episodes Come Out? 'Stick' Soundtrack: All The Songs You'll Hear In The Apple TV+ Golf Series 'Wednesday' Season 2: Everything We Know About The Cast, Premiere Date & More
