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IOL News
12-05-2025
- General
- IOL News
Unlocking the power of conversations: A Review of Jefferson Fisher's 'The Next Conversation'
I went into The Next Conversation by Jefferson Fisher expecting just another self-help book about communication, but what I got was so much more. This book didn't just teach me how to speak better—it taught me how to show up in conversations with purpose, confidence, and clarity. Fisher, a skilled trial lawyer, knows the stakes of every word, and he brings that high-pressure wisdom into everyday life with practical, actionable advice that anyone can use. As I read, I couldn't help but draw parallels to ideas from Mel Gibbons' The Let Them Theory and Sahil Bloom's The 5 Types of Wealth. Those books were about relationships, self-control, and balance, and Fisher's book tied it all together for me in a way that felt deeply personal. Fisher's insights reminded me that conversations aren't just exchanges of words—they're opportunities to grow, connect, and even redirect your energy toward the things that matter. Key Tips from the Book Fisher organises his book into three main pillars: "Say it with control, say it with confidence, and say it to connect." Here are ten tips from the book that absolutely changed how I think about conversations:
Daily Mail
10-05-2025
- Daily Mail
Trial lawyer reveals the word that usually exposes when someone is lying
A trial lawyer has revealed the one word that is typically used by liars. Lawyer Jefferson Fisher, from Texas, boasts six million followers on Instagram and often posts about why the language you choose to use can have a big impact on how you present yourself. And recently, he went on the Diary of a CEO podcast with Steven Bartlett to share the one 'dead giveaway' that someone is being deceitful. Jefferson revealed that when a person is being deceitful, they will often use absolutes and extreme wording in an attempt to deflect you from sniffing out their lies. But the one red flag you should watch out for is the word 'never', as it is often a favourite among fibbers. Jefferson told host Steven: 'Never is an extreme. Extremes are a dead giveaway that they're usually not telling the truth.' The attorney gave an example, telling Steven to ask him: 'Were you texting while you were driving that day?' Jefferson then responded: 'No, I never text. Never text when I drive.' He added: 'Everybody texts when they drive at some point. That's why the word stands out.' The TikTok famous lawyer said that liars will often reply quickly to your questions without thinking about what has been asked of them. This is because they are not thinking back to a memory or trying to recall anything - instead they are just rehearsing what they have already planned in their head. Jefferson says that this tactic can be reversed and used to catch them out, simply by slowly repeating the question. He used the example: 'You never text while driving?' This can cause the deceiver to crumble and go back on their original answer. He added: 'What they'll do most often is say, "Well, I mean, sometimes I do." Now they know "never" is a risk word.' However, Jefferson says the key thing is not to pounce on them once they start back peddling as this can be counterproductive. Instead, the legal practitioner says that it is important to 'give them an out'. For example, saying: 'If you were texting, it's okay'. Jefferson says that this strategy can depressurise the situation and instead allow them to be honest with you. However, there is a third way you can crack a fabricator - staying completely silent. 'Silence is the ultimate nemesis of liars,' he expressed. They create dialogues in their minds for you.' The painful quietness can often make them feel uncomfortable and leave them itching to fill in the gaps by explaining themselves without even being asked.
Time of India
01-05-2025
- Time of India
This one word can help you figure out if a person is lying, claims viral lawyer
Image credits: Getty Images In the current era where people are tackling multiple relationships, work and self-care at the same time, it is difficult to be on good terms with everyone. Either yours or their schedule will make it difficult for you to align with each other and embark on a vicious cycle of lying when things don't seem to be possible. While you may be very trusting and honest to those you hold close in life, the same may not be the case with others. Now, a trial lawyer has revealed one word that can help you figure out if you are being lied to. Jefferson Fisher appeared on a recent episode of Diary of a CEO and shared that liars usually use that one word which is a 'dead giveaway' to their deceit. He also shared an intriguing tactic to get them to confess. Absolute words Fisher shared that when people are trying to hide the truth, they often rely on absolute words such as 'never' or 'always.' He invited the host Steven to pose a question for example: 'Were you texting while you were driving that day?' by Taboola by Taboola Sponsored Links Sponsored Links Promoted Links Promoted Links You May Like Woman Discovers Buried Bunker in Her Garden, Then Sees the Reason Learn It Wise Undo To this Fisher responded, "No, I never text. Never text when I drive." He explained the lie in this sentence, "Notice I said a big word. I said 'never'. Never is an extreme. Extremes are a dead giveaway that they're usually not telling the truth. Everybody texts when they drive at some point in time, even in your car. Never and always. It's always or never true. So that's a big one." Repeat the question Image credits: Getty Images He shared another communication and speech pattern that liars tend to exhibit. "Second of all, I answered really quickly. I didn't breathe, think about it or try to actually show you that I was trying to remember in time. I gave you a really immediate response." He also emphasised the effectiveness of slowly repeating the question again, like, "You never text while driving?" Now, the confidence of the lie will decline, leading the person to either become nervous or admit the truth. "So what they'll do most often is they'll say, 'well, I mean sometimes I do', because now they hinge on that word 'never'. " He suggested that now one should give the person an out. "When that happens, what you typically want to do is give them an out. Now they've put themselves into a corner and they're looking for an out. And a way to do that is to say, 'If you were texting, it's OK'." Silence is a powerful tool Most are aware that silence can be a powerful tool, but did you know that it can help you figure out if a person is lying to you? A moment of silence after they have spoken can make them reconsider their statements, often leading to them committing the truth, before you question them on it. "Silence is the ultimate nemesis of liars because they create dialogues in their minds for you," said Fisher. Winning arguments Image credits: Getty Images Lastly, Fisher gave some tips on ideal behaviour during arguments. He shared that when someone is belittling you, instead of replying to them with another insult, wait for "five to seven seconds of silence" and then ask them to say it again "because a lot of time in arguments people take it back." The next time you feel you are being lied to, use these effective tips by Fisher and see if they work in helping you figure out the truth. Masterclass for Students. Upskill Young Ones Today!– Join Now
New York Post
29-04-2025
- New York Post
Is someone a liar? This one word will tell you for sure, according to a trial lawyer
Liar, liar. On a recent episode of the podcast Diary of a CEO, trial lawyer Jefferson Fisher revealed the one word liars often use that's a 'dead giveaway' to their deceit — and the tactic to get them to confess. The top debater shared that when people are trying to hide the truth, they often rely on absolutes, like 'never' or 'always,' as originally reported by the Mirror. Liars are sneaky, but knowing to listen for this one word will help you determine if someone is being truthful or not. Bits and Splits – To demonstrate his point, Jefferson walked listeners through a scenario. When he asked Steven to pose the question: 'Were you texting while you were driving that day?' Jefferson responded: 'No, I never text. Never text when I drive.' 'Notice I said a big word. I said 'never'. Never is an extreme. Extremes are a dead giveaway that they're usually not telling the truth,' Jefferson said. 'Everybody texts when they drive at some point in time, even in your car. Never and always. It's always or never true. So that's a big one.' He also said that liars often respond to questions 'really quickly,' which shows that they didn't actually contemplate the question they were asked or try to remember something. The top debater shared that when people are trying to hide the truth, they often rely on absolutes. YouTube / The Diary Of A CEO To catch a liar, Jefferson advises people to slowly repeat the questions they're asking because most likely the person will retract their original statement. 'They'll say, 'well, I mean sometimes I do', because now they hinge on that word 'never',' Jefferson said. And it turns out that lying could affect your mental health. A study on lying was conducted by researchers at the University of Twente in the Netherlands. The team asked participants to keep track of their lying for a day. The findings revealed that 22% of people told a self-centered lie, 8% told a lie to protect another person, and 69% reported not lying that day. The researchers discovered that the lying participants had lower self-esteem compared to those who told the truth. 'Participants who were asked to recall a situation in which they lied … reported to have experienced lower self-esteem after the situation compared with participants who were asked to recall a situation in which they did not lie,' the team wrote.
Daily Mirror
29-04-2025
- Daily Mirror
Lawyer says there's one word liars always use and it's a 'huge giveaway'
Communication expert Jefferson Fisher shared his top tips for spotting when someone is not telling the truth A legal expert and communication specialist has disclosed a keyword that he says liars tend to use, which can assist you in detecting dishonesty in mere seconds. In a recent episode of the podcast Diary of a CEO, Jefferson Fisher shared insights on the type of language to be cautious of, which can serve as a clear indicator of untruthfulness. Jefferson, a trial lawyer and communication authority, also hosts The Jefferson Fisher Podcast, where he imparts strategies for confident communication. He is the acclaimed author of the forthcoming book The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk More. During the discussion, he unveiled various speaking strategies that command authority and several courtroom-proven techniques that can sway legal cases and everyday conversations. He pointed out that liars often resort to a specific word when it comes to dishonesty. He explained that the use of 'extremes' serves as a 'dead giveaway' that someone is probably lying. Words like 'never' and 'always' are prime examples. To illustrate, he invited Steven to pose the question: "Were you texting while you were driving that day?" Jefferson responded: "No, I never text. Never text when I drive." He elaborated on this by saying: "Notice I said a big word. I said 'never'. Never is an extreme. Extremes are a dead giveaway that they're usually not telling the truth. Everybody texts when they drive at some point in time, even in your car. Never and always. It's always or never true. So that's a big one." Exploring the communication patterns that liars tend to exhibit, Jefferson remarked: "Second of all, I answered really quickly. I didn't breathe, think about it or try to actually show you that I was trying to remember in time. I gave you a really immediate response." He then explained to Steven the effectiveness of slowly repeating the questions liars are asked, prompting him to inquire: "You never text while driving?" Jefferson elaborated on why liars might dislike this question, stating: "So what they'll do most often is they'll say, 'well, I mean sometimes I do', because now they hinge on that word 'never'. "So now they know, 'oh, that's a risk word'. And they'll kind of come out of it and go, 'I mean, sometimes I do, I mean, maybe, but hardly ever'." Jefferson continued: "When that happens, what you typically want to do is give them an out. Now they've put themselves into a corner and they're looking for an out. And a way to do that is to say, 'if you were texting, it's OK'." In addition to questioning the use of words like 'never' and 'always', Jefferson emphasises that silence can be a powerful conversational tool, particularly when engaging with dishonest or manipulative people. A moment of silence can compel the other person to reconsider their statements, often leading to the unearthing of contradictions. He said: "Silence is the ultimate nemesis of liars because they create dialogues in their minds for you." He elaborated that silence can induce discomfort, prompting individuals to fill the gap, frequently revealing their dishonesty or doubt. He added: "When somebody is belittling you or being rude or being disrespectful, what we typically want to do is throw it right back because now we got to win. Instead of that, here's what I would want you to do: one, you're going to have five to seven seconds of silence; two, you're going to ask them to say it again because a lot of time in arguments people take it back." Beyond identifying the signs of a potential liar, Jefferson also provided valuable tips for effective communication during conflicts. He noted that chosen words can significantly impact our interactions, shaping relationships and personal experiences. He warns against focusing solely on winning an argument, which often damages relationships. Instead, he advocates for viewing disagreements as opportunities to gain understanding and resolve issues. He highlights the necessity of controlling your breathing and maintaining composure during confrontations to prevent triggering the fight-or-flight response. "I teach that you never want to win an argument. When you look to win an argument, you will often lose the relationship," he said.
