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Yahoo
3 hours ago
- Health
- Yahoo
How long should lesbian sex last? Sexologists weigh in and reveal the ideal duration
Sapphic sex is great, no doubt about it. It's sensual and passionate and hot, hot, hot. It can also, famously, be a marathon of epic proportions, requiring multiple hydration and snack breaks. But hearing legends told of these epic sapphic sex seshes may be a bit intimidating. Is that really how long lesbians are getting down? Are they apocryphal? Are you doing it wrong if you aren't spending half your day in bed getting busy? And if so, is that actually more satisfying? To answer these questions and more, PRIDE reached out to the experts: Dr. Carol Queen, PhD, Good Vibes staff sexologist, co-author of The Sex & Pleasure Book: Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone, and Sofie Roos, a bisexual licensed sexologist, relationship therapist, and author at relationship magazine Passionerad. If you've asked yourself these questions in the past, Roos says you're not alone. 'It's relatively common … mainly since it's more [undefined] compared to straight sex, where the man ejaculating often is a stop mark for the session,' she tells PRIDE. That being said, Queen emphasized that very little about sex and sexuality is cut and dried. 'There aren't rules for any type of sex, aside from basing it in a consensual atmosphere,' she tells PRIDE. So while these insights might be helpful, if they don't comport with your experiences or desires, that's OK too, they explain. So does sapphic sex actually take longer than other kinds of sex? When scrolling through the lesbian sections of Reddit, it's not uncommon to see posts asking about why sapphic sex seems to last forever, with some even unsure how to know a session has ended. While that may qualify as anecdotal evidence that sapphic sex tends to have a longer duration, it's also borne out by research as well. Studies have shown that lesbians and sapphics have less frequent, but longer sexual encounters — lesbians and sapphics also report greater sexual satisfaction when it comes to bedroom activities, so there's that. The question becomes: Why? 'Sapphic sex is slower and takes longer,' says Roos. 'This is because [AFAB sapphics commonly] take a longer time to get turned on, but also can go on for longer since their orgasm doesn't 'reset' the horniness the same way as it does in [AMAB folks].' 'The fact that there's no obvious ending also makes it more floating, which often leads to the sapphic sex feeling longer, even though that might not be the case,' she adds. What about for trans lesbians and sapphics? The lesbian and sapphic identity is beautiful and wonderfully diverse. It encompasses cisgender, nonbinary, and trans folks, and as such, Dr. Queen points out that those different lived experiences can also impact how, and for how long, we get busy. 'There is no bigger sex mistake aside from consent breach than 'I see this person's gender and therefore I know exactly what they like sexually,'" they say. So, while putting a time stamp on how long sex should last isn't really possible, you can ask yourself how long you want to be having sex—and if what you are currently experiencing in your sex life aligns with those needs. What if it feels like your sex seshes are too long? mangpor2004/Shutterstock While more in the bedroom definitely can be more, sometimes more can be a little too much. In which case, Dr. Queen says, 'Communicate!' adding that hopefully that is already happening. 'if [you[haven't established a safeword or signal up front, it's best to say something about needing to switch it up, position, or activity-wise, or say that [you're] are getting fatigued and having a hard time responding the way they want.' Roos agrees it's important to communicate in a way that feels respectful and affirming that you are satisfied. 'You can say something like, 'Honey, I'm starting to feel quite exhausted from all this amazing pleasure. Can we take a break and get back to it later?'' suggests Roos. 'Telling your partner that you've had enough for now isn't about rejecting them, but about showing that you feel perfectly satisfied and would like to get back to the pleasure later on!' What if they aren't long enough? Perhaps you wish that your sex sessions actually lasted longer, in which case, again, Dr. Queen says to be open about that desire. 'If there needs to be more stimulation to get you there, say so. If you would enjoy a more intimate connection, like making out or skin-to-skin time, say so. If the thing you are doing is not what makes you come, suggest you try the thing you do like!' they suggest. In other words, communicate this need. OK, so how long should lesbian sex last? Granted, all folks are different and have different desires, anatomy, and paces at which their needs are met. And it can all vary day to day, but is there, on average, a kind of Goldilocks amount of time that sapphic sex should take that maximizes pleasure and satisfaction? Both experts agree there isn't a magic number, but Roos offers a window of time. 'Sapphic sex lasting for between 25 to 60 minutes is a sweet spot for many,' she says. 'In this amount of time, most have a chance to get relaxed and turned on, to feel emotionally connected to their partner, and have a great chance to build up an orgasm. It also leaves room for some sexual aftercare!' 'However, with that said,' she continues, 'Don't stare blindly at the time you're having sex, but instead be in the moment and let the pleasure be what matters, and that the both of you become satisfied and happy - it doesn't matter if it took five or 50 minutes, because if everyone is happy, then what was the ideal time for the sex that time!' We love a story with a happy ending. Experts cited: Dr. Carol Queen, PhD, Good Vibes staff sexologist, curator of the Antique Vibrator Museum, and co-author of The Sex & Pleasure Book: Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone Sofie Roos, a bisexual licensed sexologist, relationship therapist and author at relationship magazine PassioneradThis article originally appeared on Pride: How long should lesbian sex last? Sexologists weigh in and reveal the ideal duration Solve the daily Crossword
Time of India
3 days ago
- Sport
- Time of India
Elijah Smith knocks out Toshiomi Kazama unconscious with brutal powerbomb at UFC Vegas 109
Elijah Smith knocks out Toshiomi Kazama unconscious with brutal powerbomb at UFC Vegas 109 (Image via Getty) Elijah Smith may have just delivered the Knockout of the Year . Twenty-two-year-old bantamweight hit Toshiomi Kazama cold with a wrestling-style powerbomb during prelims for UFC Vegas 109 on Saturday, August 9, 2025, at the UFC APEX in Las Vegas, Nevada. The brutal first-round conclusion at 4:10 amazed fans and experts. Already being replayed on social media, the move brought back images of Quinton "Rampage" Jackson's amazing slam in PRIDE. Elijah Smith's slam knockout over Toshiomi Kazama stuns UFC Vegas 109 crowd The fight started with both men trading strikes. Midway through the round, Toshiomi Kazama went for a triangle choke from his back. Instead of defending on the ground, Elijah Smith lifted Kazama high into the air and slammed him down hard. The impact knocked Kazama out instantly. — ufc (@ufc) While commentators yelled in amazement, fans within the UFC APEX gassed at the view. The referee broke up the fight, but not until Smith landed a few additional blows. The first round's official time was 4:10. Smith's powerful slam reminded fans of the classic slam knockout by Quinton 'Rampage' Jackson against Ricardo Arona in PRIDE, making it one of the most talked-about finishes of the year. by Taboola by Taboola Sponsored Links Sponsored Links Promoted Links Promoted Links You May Like Unsold 2021 Cars Now Almost Free - Prices May Surprise You Unsold Cars | Search Ads Learn More Undo Also Read: Connor Zilisch Rushed To Hospital After Shocking Victory Lane Fall At Watkins Glen Win Toshiomi Kazama taken to hospital after brutal slam by Elijah Smith at UFC Vegas 109 Right after the knockout, UFC medical staff entered the cage to check on Toshiomi Kazama. He was taken to a Las Vegas hospital, where CT scans of his head, face, and neck showed no serious injury. UFC commentator Karyn Bryant reported on the broadcast that Kazama would be released later that day. Son of former UFC fighter Gilbert Smith, Elijah Smith raised his UFC mark to 2–0 and professional record to 9–1. This win stretched his seven-fight winning streak. Speaking after the fight, Smith showed respect, saying, 'I just want to pray for my opponent. Hopefully, he makes it home safe.' But he also displayed confidence, adding, 'I knew I had to slam him correctly. Unfortunately, I had to slam him on his dome piece.' With such a highlight finish, many expect Dana White to give Smith a $50,000 performance bonus. At just 22 years old, Elijah Smith is now one of the most exciting names in the stacked bantamweight division. Catch Rani Rampal's inspiring story on Game On, Episode 4. Watch Here!
Yahoo
5 days ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
What is 'pebbling'? Dating experts explain and reveal why LGBTQ+ folks do it best
We often associate members of the animal kingdom with gay slang. Go to a gay bar and you're likely to spot bears, otters, cubs, and maybe even a silver fox or two. But now penguins have entered the dating vernacular. Well, not penguins themselves, but their very cute mating ritual. The new dating trend 'pebbling' is gaining traction online and is inspired by the Gentoo penguin's sweet love language, where male penguins gift female penguins with small pebbles to build their nests in a unique courting ritual. Humans looking for love aren't gifting each other rocks (unless maybe you're an LA lesbian giving a prospective partner some healing crystals), but they are sending small tokens of their affection throughout the day, like funny memes, a TikTok video that made you smile, or buying them their favorite snacks. This is 'pebbling.' But what exactly is this wholesome dating trend, why do people do it, and how does it show up in LGBTQ+ dating? To get to the bottom of it, PRIDE talked to Sofie Roos, a bisexual licensed sexologist and relationship therapist with over 18 years of experience. What is 'pebbling?' Danita Delimont/Shutterstock Penguins inspired the term 'pebbling' Named after the sweet penguin mating ritual, pebbling describes gifting someone you're dating with small presents, yummy treats, or even funny videos that made you think of them. While it's mostly used to refer to dating, people also do these small acts of kindness for friends and family. 'It can be to make your partner breakfast in the morning, doing the groceries, sending them a song you like and think they would enjoy as well, to buy your partner their favorite snack when they have a bad day, or to tag their name on a cute Instagram post that made you think of them,' Roos tells PRIDE. You can also pebble people you're crushing on as a way to leave a lasting impression. 'It can also be done to someone you're interested in to make them feel your love and interest for them,' which is a great way to 'make them fall for you.' What is the purpose of pebbling? Whether you're sending your long-distance partner a good morning text, or bringing home your lover's favorite treat after a hard day, or peppering them with your favorite memes to make the work day less grueling, people are pebbling as a way to make their loved one happy, and out of a desire to share things you think they would enjoy. According to Roos, these gifts and everyday moments of connection help build 'a stronger relationship and better intimacy.' 'By doing this, you show your partner that they truly matter, and make them feel it,' she explains. 'Because most people don't feel loved by the big actions such as a fancy date or an expensive vacation, but by often getting small gestures of love from their partner, and that's why pebbling is so great to implement in your relationship, or when dating!' How can it help communicate interest? Lightfield Studios/Shutterstock A man giving a gift Pebbling can be a charming way to flirt with someone in a way that feels more gentle and natural than telling someone you're interested or trying to flirt in a more overt way. 'If done right, then pebbling is a discreet and elegant way of making someone understand your interest for them, a way that doesn't feel too much or pushy,' Roos says. But you have to make sure the recipient of your small gifts understands why you're doing it and doesn't ignore these signs of interest because it isn't a grand gesture. 'For it to work, you must make the person you 'pebble really feel it, because otherwise it's easy that they don't notice, or that they reject you for just being kind,' she admits. When is it overkill? 'While pebbling can be very cute, it can also be a bit overkill, especially if doing it aggressively or too much early on when trying to get someone to like you,' Roos warns. Pebbling can quickly turn into toxic love bombing if you go too far. She says it should just be one 'tool' in a 'big tool box' full of other ways you shower your partner or crush with affection. 'Use pebbling with some delicacy, ideally in combination with other ways of showing interest, such as physically, by having great conversation and by asking them out,' Roos says. Are LGBTQ+ more likely to pebble? Vergani Fotografia/Shutterstock A lesbian who is pebbling by showing her girlfriend something on her phone. Pebbling may only be entering the zeitgeist now, but queer people have been using this technique for years, since it was a safe and more covert way of showing romantic interest or affection even when it wasn't safe to live out loud and proud. 'Generally, people within the LGBTQ+ community are better at showing love in creative ways that are a bit outside the box, especially people who've grown up in a context where they haven't been able to openly show their love and interest, making many better at pebbling since that's a 'sneaky' way to try to show your interest for someone,' she explains. What does it mean when someone seems to be pebbling you? It really depends. 'Most of the time, it means that someone notices you and is thinking about you,' Roos says, but cautions that while pebbling can be a way of showing love, it can also be more casual than that. It may just mean someone is attracted to you or are using pebbling to flirt with you. Or they're doing it because they love your friendship. 'It can also have nothing to do with love, but that someone just wants to show you some love at a friendly level,' Roos explains. Source cited: Sofie Roos, a bisexual licensed sexologist and relationship therapist with over 18 years of experience, and author at relationship magazine Passionerad. This article originally appeared on Pride: What is 'pebbling'? Dating experts explain and reveal why LGBTQ+ folks do it best RELATED If your girlfriend wants an open relationship but you don't here's what to do, say experts What is 'pocketing' & are LGBTQ+ daters more likely to be victims? Relationship experts weigh in What are LAT relationships, and why are some LGBTQ+ couples choosing them? Solve the daily Crossword
Yahoo
05-08-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Meet Cain Culto — the sexy Colombian singer showing plenty of skin online
There's a new hottie taking over the music scene! Cain Culto is the latest viral sensation as his catchy tunes and sexy clips are fully embracing queer culture. Quite literally, the handsome singer is rocking a jockstrap, sniffing poppers, and freely dancing in his vibrant music videos while also tapping into his Colombian roots. The star grew up in both Kentucky and Florida in a very religious household, so music has proven to be the escapism he's needed to love the skin he's in. "For so much of my life, I was ashamed of my femininity, sexuality, and even just my anger. With my music, I'm just not editing myself. We all have our journey of overcoming our show. My healing journey has been wherever things were suppressed, it's about expression. If it makes me feel confident, I'm going to dress that way," Culto tells PRIDE. Culto has recently taken off on TikTok with his raunchy new single "KFC Santería," which serves as an ode to his upbringing while also celebrating everything that makes him unapologetically queer. "We are creating culture! As artists, we get to paint that narrative for ourselves. That's what queerness is about. We create our own language and visuals. That's what motivates me to create." The sky is certainly the limit and Culto is ready to push the gay agenda even further with his debut EP expected to drop later this year. Fans can follow Cain Culto on Instagram here. To see the full interview, check out the video at the top of the page. This article originally appeared on Pride: Meet Cain Culto — the sexy Colombian singer showing plenty of skin online RELATED 24 Celebrity Moms Who Love Their Queer Kids Omar Apollo Calls Growing Up Gay With Catholic Rules 'Heartbreaking'
Time of India
04-08-2025
- Politics
- Time of India
Donald Trump supporter thrown out of St Louis soccer stadium mid-game after refusing to remove MAGA hat
Image via X/ The Drew Lane Show In a moment that felt more political protest than sporting event, Michael Weitzel—an ardent season-ticket holder at St. Louis City SC—found himself escorted out of Energizer Park during a July 26 match for the seemingly simple act of wearing a 'Make America Great Again' hat. What began as a routine night cheering for Major League Soccer turned contentious as Weitzel captured the final 25 minutes on video, one that would soon go viral. The stadium security informed him that political symbols weren't allowed under the venue's Fan Code of Conduct, which led to a choice: remove the hat, store it in his car, or leave. Weitzel chose the last option, recording the entire interaction to social media. His calm demeanor contrasted sharply with heated reactions online, raising questions about consistency in policy enforcement, selective censorship, and whether support for different forms of political expression is treated unequally. What unfolded was not just a sports story—it became a symbolic dispute over politics, policy, and personal belief. The MAGA hat clash: Everything we know about the St Louis stadium incident Fan KICKED OUT of MLS game for wearing MAGA HAT! Calls out HYPOCRISY as PRIDE FLAGS fly in stadium! According to video footage and first-hand accounts, Weitzel was wearing his signature red MAGA hat when, with approximately 25 minutes left in the game, he was approached by four security guards. by Taboola by Taboola Sponsored Links Sponsored Links Promoted Links Promoted Links You May Like It's so easy and quick Cars24 - Sell Your Car Sell Now Undo They informed him of a complaint lodged mid-game and reiterated that the stadium disallowed political paraphernalia unless pre-approved. Pressed to remove his hat or leave, he refused and was escorted out without physical conflict. Energizer Park's published fan code specifically prohibits political banners, flags, and signage unless prior approval is granted. While hats aren't explicitly mentioned, stadium officials upheld their authority by treating any political symbol—including apparel—as subject to regulation. Weitzel questioned why other politically associated items like Pride flags or trans banners were permitted inside, claiming inconsistency in enforcement. Stadium reps say those were pre-approved under policy, highlighting a distinction between different expressions. On KFTK's Marc Cox Morning Show, Weitzel described himself as a peaceful fan who was 'minding my own business' before being confronted. He emphasized that he felt singled out for wearing a political symbol tied to Trump, asserting: 'I didn't think there'd be any issue with wearing that to the game, but with about 25 minutes left in the game, I was basically told they'd received a complaint about my hat,' Despite calm compliance, he expressed frustration with what he viewed as politically motivated enforcement. He said one officer even revealed himself as a Trump supporter but claimed he was 'just following the rules.' 'They told me I could either hide the hat or take it out to my car or leave. I'm not gonna take my hat off for anybody. I live in America, which is the land of the free and the home of the brave, I thought. So you do what you have to do.' Weitzel further added while being escorted out, 'I'm being asked to leave by police. I am being threatened with arrest. They are asking me to leave.' Weitzel's video gained millions of views across platforms, prompting intense debate around selective censorship and public expression. Critics argued the stadium's actions amounted to political discrimination disguised as rule enforcement, while defenders emphasized the club's right to set venue policies. The incident sparked comparisons with past cases—such as a NFL fan in Arizona forced to remove a MAGA hat at kickoff—underscoring an ongoing national conversation about how sports venues navigate political imagery. Michael Weitzel's experience has resonated beyond the stands at Energizer Park, sparking broader questions on political expression in public entertainment spaces. While St. Louis City SC insists it simply enforced its fan code, critics highlight perceived bias in permitting certain symbols while rejecting others—including the MAGA hat. Weitzel, a committed supporter of the team, now wonders whether his experience will deter him from future games. This incident underscores the tension between venue policy and personal expression: a debate that will shape not just Olympic-level security protocols, but the everyday conversations fans have while cheering on their teams. For real-time updates, scores, and highlights, follow our live coverage of the India vs England Test match here. Catch Rani Rampal's inspiring story on Game On, Episode 4. Watch Here!
