01-05-2025
Why Bride Refuses To Invite Sister-in-Law to Wedding Cheered: 'Out of Line'
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The internet has backed a bride who made the controversial decision to exclude her sister-in-law from her wedding guest list—sparking a family rift.
The situation was shared by the bride's brother, posting under the username u/CoralCryptic, who explained that his wife, 32, and his older sister, 37, have long had a strained relationship. The sister is a divorcee with one child, and the entire family—including the poster's wife—gathers bi-monthly at their father's home.
"Now the issue is between my sister and my wife. Whenever they have even a small disagreement, my wife resorts to saying really hurtful things to my sister. The one she always uses is something like, 'You're not ashamed of yourself? At your age, no husband, single mother...'" he wrote. "I've told my wife multiple times that this is completely out of line and unnecessary, and there are better ways to express herself if there's a problem. But she keeps doing it."
The post, which gained 9,900 upvotes in the subreddit AITA [Am I The A*****], revealed that the sister has now drawn a firm boundary.
According to the original poster, his sister is preparing to remarry—to who he described as a "genuinely great guy" who is also financially well-off. She invited all family members to the celebration except for his wife. "She was very clear about it too," he wrote. "She said my wife has consistently made her feel like less than because of her past, and she doesn't want her at her wedding."
Upon returning home, his wife was furious. She told him it was improper for his sister to invite him and not her, and that he should decline to attend. "I told her flat-out that she brought this on herself and that I am going to my sister's wedding. It's her big day and she deserves happiness without drama," he said.
Since then, his wife has become "cold and distant," accusing him of choosing his family over her.
He ended the post by asking the community: "AITA for still planning to attend my sister's wedding even though my wife wasn't invited?"
Expert Insight
Therapist Frank Thewes, owner of Path Forward Therapy LLC, weighed in on the situation with Newsweek, supporting the original poster's decision to attend the wedding.
"OP's wife has set her own table here," Thewes told Newsweek. "Based on what's provided, she seems to have boundary issues and can't seem to hold back the impulse to say hurtful things to her sister-in-law."
While acknowledging the situation may damage the marriage, Thewes added: "This post gives the sense that there are already major issues in the relationship waiting to emerge between OP and his wife. OP should have eyes on that fact when he goes to the wedding."
However, he also offered hope that the fallout might lead to a reckoning and a healthier future for the couple.
A stock image showing a man looking apprehensive whilst at a wedding.
A stock image showing a man looking apprehensive whilst at a wedding.
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Reddit Reacts
Many Reddit users were quick to take the husband's side.
"NTA but why do you want to be married to someone like this? I'd have my sister serve her divorce papers," wrote one commenter.
"I'd go to the wedding and celebrate your sister," another user chimed in.
"Your sister deserves support on her big day. Ignoring her feelings impacts your marriage, but your wife's behavior is also unacceptable. Tough situation all around," echoed another.
Newsweek reached out to u/CoralCryptic for comment via Reddit. We could not verify the details of the case.
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