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Indian Express
19-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Indian Express
Naseeruddin Shah says he did three shifts a day for money: ‘No worse torture in the world, no amount worth this agony'
Naseeruddin Shah has never shied away from admitting he did several movies in the 1980s and '90s only for the sake of money. However, he came to realise that it was a futile exercise. Meanwhile, his wife Ratna Pathak Shah is glad she didn't have to go through that, which allowed her to preserve the quality of her craft. 'I've done three shifts a day, and there's no worse torture in the world. There was a time when I was acting in several lovely movies for money. And I realized no amount of money is worth this agony, of jumping from one set to another. Half of the time, you're bloody socializing on set. You get there for the 9 am shift, then you spend another hour or so having breakfast, enjoying the scenery, and gossiping,' said Naseeruddin. In a podcast on the YouTube channel of Aadyam Theatre, Ratna Pathak Shah said, 'I've done very little work that is of a high quality. I've done most of my work on television, so that's not the kind of quality we're talking about when we talk about great art. But I have realized if I don't give it my all and I don't use the skills I'm using while I'm doing theatre, then this doesn't sound or look right.' She added there's no point of doing subpar work if you're doing such little work. 'I do so little work that I can't get myself to cheat even in that. I understand if I'm doing four shifts a day, then I'd just spit in one and move ahead. But if a play or a role comes to me after two years, then at least I should work hard in that,' added Ratna. Also Read — 'Maa and Naseer had a more rocky relationship': When Ratna Pathak Shah recalled her family's disapproval of her marriage to Naseeruddin Shah and the key to their lasting relationship In the recent FICCI Flo Hyderabad summit, Ratna Pathak Shah admitted she was resentful of her husband's position, but has come to terms with it now. 'I love the fact that he is totally focused on his work, and he is the most generous person to work with as an actor, as a director, in every way. As a director, he helps every single person arrive at the best of what they are capable of,' she said. 'I love that about him, but I also hate that about him. I love acting, but I am not committed to it the way he is. I do sometimes feel resentful in taking second place to work, but finally I have made my peace with that,' Ratna added. Ratna Pathak Shah and Naseeruddin Shah tied the knot in 1982 after dating for several years. They continue to work together on the stage.
Indian Express
23-04-2025
- Entertainment
- Indian Express
‘Maa and Naseer had a more rocky relationship': When Ratna Pathak Shah recalled her family's disapproval of her marriage to Naseeruddin Shah and the key to their lasting relationship
Marriage often brings together not just two individuals but also their families, cultures, and beliefs. Actor Ratna Pathak Shah shared how her family initially disapproved of her marriage to Naseeruddin Shah, while his family was more accepting. In an interview with Hauterrfly, she recalled, 'My dad was not entirely happy, but unfortunately, he passed away before we got married. Maa and Naseer had a more rocky relationship, but they settled also and eventually became friends.' She continued, 'Naseer's family surprisingly didn't make a fuss at all. Not once did anybody ever even mention the 'C' word, convert. Nobody said anything about me. They just accepted me for what I am. I'm very, very lucky because I've heard of people who have trouble settling down.' Ratna also reflected on the dynamics of their marriage. She said, 'Just listen to each other, man. Actually talk to each other. I respect him and his struggles very much more than my own because I got it easy. Naseer comes from a very traditional, particular kind of background.' Reflecting on the secrets of a successful marriage, she said, 'Naseer said to me very early on in our relationship that it's a good idea never to label a relationship, husband, wife, lover, girlfriend, boyfriend. Why label if you can just keep yourself more at the level of human beings, interact.' Her insights shed light on how relationships evolve over time and the key factors that contribute to a strong partnership. How to navigate family disapproval without deepening divisions Family disapproval can create emotional stress, not just within the family but also between partners. Jai Arora, counselling psychologist and co-founder at Kirana Counselling, tells ' Family disapproval can trigger deep emotional and attachment wounds. This can create stress not just within the family, but in the couple subsystem as well, as partners may polarise — one defending the family while the other defends the relationship.' View this post on Instagram A post shared by HAUTERRFLY | A Fork Media Group Co. (@hauterrfly) Healthy communication is key. 'The core idea while navigating such stuck points is to turn the conversation away from jibes, criticism, assumptions, and expectations towards a conversation about values, vulnerability, and individual as well as family needs,' he explains. Strong couples co-regulate, validate each other's emotions, and create unity despite external pressures. Can rejecting traditional gender roles improve marital satisfaction? Breaking away from traditional gender roles in marriage can be liberating, but if not managed well, it may lead to challenges. 'Rejecting traditional gender roles can lead to more marital chaos if it were to exist in isolation without strong communication about one's needs, wants, boundaries, and expectations,' says Arora. While roles exist for equitable distribution of tasks, sudden rejection of predefined roles without discussion can disrupt the household dynamic. The solution? 'Clear communication, first within the couple and then with the family,' he advises. When done well, this strengthens emotional bonds and builds trust, ultimately enhancing marital satisfaction. Does avoiding labels in a relationship help or hurt? Arora explains, 'According to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, secure bonds thrive on clear emotional engagement and mutual responsiveness. If the lack of labels becomes a way to avoid emotional vulnerability or commitment, it can erode trust.' However, for some, avoiding labels can be freeing. 'Labels can be liberating and can aid the person to explore and experience their sense of individuality and the process of being with someone,' he says. Ultimately, it comes down to intent. 'It boils down to the intention of the individual and what they hope to gain from the dynamic,' Arora notes.
