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Indian Express
11-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Indian Express
‘I remember my paternal grandmother crying loudly': Ratna Pathak Shah on how sister Supriya's birth exposed deep-rooted bias within her family; how it shapes a child
Ratna Pathak Shah recently opened up about her early experiences with gender bias within her own family — offering a powerful reminder that patriarchy often takes root not in policy or public life first, but within the walls of our own homes. Speaking at a FICCI Flo event in Hyderabad, the actor reflected on how these biases shaped her childhood and parenting, despite being raised in an otherwise progressive environment. 'Having two sons of my own was a very entertaining and unusual experience, one that I wasn't quite prepared for,' she said. 'I remember feeling very resentful about the special privileges that boys were supposed to get. I remember my paternal grandmother crying loudly when my sister (Supriya) was born. 'Haye haye doosri beti aagayi (Oh no, another girl).' And I remember feeling terrible about that.' She recalled how her father responded with defiance, distributing sweets traditionally meant for the birth of a boy, even though a girl had been born. 'It was like an affirmation of acceptance,' she said, adding, 'Why should a girl's existence be so unwelcome? I realised that it starts in the families.' Neha Cadabam, Senior Psychologist and Executive Director at Cadabams Hospitals, tells 'Early childhood is a formative stage when children absorb emotional cues from the environment, especially trusted adults. When a child witnesses or hears expressions of disappointment tied to gender, it can leave a lasting imprint on their sense of self-worth and identity. Even if those messages aren't directed at them personally, they shape how the child understands their value in the world.' A post shared by Ratna Pathak Shah (@ratnapathakshah) Such moments can also influence how children perceive gender roles and expectations, she adds. Girls may internalise a sense of lesser value, while boys may unconsciously absorb a sense of privilege. These early messages don't always come through in words — they are often felt in tone, behaviour, or reactions, and they become part of the emotional language the child grows up with. Symbolic gestures, especially when challenging prevailing norms, can be incredibly powerful within family systems. In many families, these moments stand out because they contrast with what is expected, and over time, they begin to reshape the narrative. 'Such gestures may seem small on the surface, but they spark conversations, shift perspectives, and encourage others in the family to reflect. They also show children that there are choices available—traditions can be questioned, and values can evolve. When done consistently, these acts create a more inclusive and respectful emotional environment,' notes Cadabam. Cadabam informs that patriarchy is 'deeply embedded in cultural memory,' often passed down quietly through generational practices rather than active intent. 'Even in educated households, certain gendered expectations — like who carries forward the family name or who deserves more freedom — can continue under the surface of modernity.' Unlearning this conditioning requires more than awareness — it needs conscious, ongoing reflection. Introducing equitable practices, encouraging boys and girls to express a full range of emotions, and revisiting traditional roles together can slowly begin to shift old conditioning, the expert stresses.
Time of India
19-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Time of India
Banita Sandhu shares how Ratna Pathak Shah inspired her on the sets of 'Detective Sherdil': 'She brings a theatre-like concentration to film acting...'
Banita Sandhu and Ratna Pathak Banita Sandhu is ready to take the waves in 'Detective Sherdil,' a bizarro comedy thriller that's chock-a-block with a power packed cast. As the film prepares for its digital release on on June 20, 2025, Banita talked about her favorite moments from the shoot in an interview with Bollywood Bubble. Recalling her experience on set, she talked about how working alongside legends like Ratna Pathak Shah and Boman Irani was an experience that made her learn and perform better. Thankful for the cast Banita recalled experiencing the richness of working with such an accomplished cast that included both veteran actors and newcomers as one of the best aspects of the project. She noted how debutant Arjun Tanwar was ultra committed and prepared and that his method for tackling scenes left an enduring impression on her. "He was so ready that it was inspiring to observe and learn from him," she said. Ratna Pathak Shah's dramatic richness left her speechless When questioned about whom she liked the most, Banita didn't think twice before mentioning Ratna Pathak Shah. Most impressive was the fact that Ratna was able to remain in her character's world without the use of playback monitors. "She brings a theatre-like concentration to film acting, she doesn't watch playback and remains completely in the moment," Banita divulged, going on to say that Ratna's balance of emotional intensity and strength really touched her. by Taboola by Taboola Sponsored Links Sponsored Links Promoted Links Promoted Links You May Like One of the Most Successful Investors of All Time, Warren Buffett, Recommends: 5 Books for Turning... Blinkist: Warren Buffett's Reading List Click Here Undo Boman Irani's style of improvisation taught her to be spontaneous Banita also reminisced about Boman Irani's unorthodox approach. "Boman used to start improvising before they even started the camera," she said. "It placed us in a rhythm where everyone felt comfortable. I began doing that too, and it allowed me to get into moments that I might not have found otherwise." A powerhouse team, a promising release Directed by first-timer Ravi Chhabria and supported by producers Ali Abbas Zafar, 'Detective Sherdil' is going to be a rollercoaster of mystery, mayhem and humor. The film also features Diana Penty, Chunky Panday, Ratna Pathak Shah, Sumeet Vyas and Diljit Dosanjh who is once again joining hands with Zafar after their critically praised film Jogi. As Banita Sandhu ventures into various roles, 'Detective Sherdil' appears to be a project where she was assisted both as a person and as a professional, learning from some of the best in the business.
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First Post
10-06-2025
- Entertainment
- First Post
'Detective Sherdil' Trailer Review: An entertaining Diljit Dosanjh teams up with a no-nonsense Diana Penty to solve a murder mystery
The film also stars Boman Irani, Ratna Pathak Shah in crucial roles. Irani plays a business tycoon who has been murdered in broad daylight. read more Diana Penty stuns in a new avatar — a no-nonsense, razor-sharp detective in Detective Sherdil, opposite the ever-entertaining Diljit Dosanjh. The trailer has just hit the internet and it's everything we didn't know we needed - mystery, comedy, and a whole lot of cat-and-mouse chaos! And the two are out to solve a murder mystery. The film also stars Boman Irani, Ratna Pathak Shah in crucial roles. Irani plays a business tycoon who has been murdered in broad daylight. This is yet another whodunit after Chhal Kapat, Housefull 5, Criminal Justice 4, and many more titles. STORY CONTINUES BELOW THIS AD From punchy one-liners to thrilling twists, Diana and Diljit's Tom-and-Jerry-style chemistry is already a highlight. Both actors take on the roles of detectives, and they look every bit the part. We can't wait to see this dynamic duo solve crimes (and probably create a little mayhem along the way). Directed by debutant Ravi Chhabria and produced by Ali Abbas Zafar under AAZ Films, Offside Entertainment, and Maurya Entertainment, the film also features an ensemble cast including Boman Irani, Chunky Pandey, Ratna Pathak Shah, Banita Sandhu, and Sumeet Vyas. Shot in Budapest and streaming on OTT from June 20, 2025, Detective Sherdil is all set to be a rollercoaster of laughs, clues, and complete chaos.
Indian Express
19-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Indian Express
Naseeruddin Shah says he did three shifts a day for money: ‘No worse torture in the world, no amount worth this agony'
Naseeruddin Shah has never shied away from admitting he did several movies in the 1980s and '90s only for the sake of money. However, he came to realise that it was a futile exercise. Meanwhile, his wife Ratna Pathak Shah is glad she didn't have to go through that, which allowed her to preserve the quality of her craft. 'I've done three shifts a day, and there's no worse torture in the world. There was a time when I was acting in several lovely movies for money. And I realized no amount of money is worth this agony, of jumping from one set to another. Half of the time, you're bloody socializing on set. You get there for the 9 am shift, then you spend another hour or so having breakfast, enjoying the scenery, and gossiping,' said Naseeruddin. In a podcast on the YouTube channel of Aadyam Theatre, Ratna Pathak Shah said, 'I've done very little work that is of a high quality. I've done most of my work on television, so that's not the kind of quality we're talking about when we talk about great art. But I have realized if I don't give it my all and I don't use the skills I'm using while I'm doing theatre, then this doesn't sound or look right.' She added there's no point of doing subpar work if you're doing such little work. 'I do so little work that I can't get myself to cheat even in that. I understand if I'm doing four shifts a day, then I'd just spit in one and move ahead. But if a play or a role comes to me after two years, then at least I should work hard in that,' added Ratna. Also Read — 'Maa and Naseer had a more rocky relationship': When Ratna Pathak Shah recalled her family's disapproval of her marriage to Naseeruddin Shah and the key to their lasting relationship In the recent FICCI Flo Hyderabad summit, Ratna Pathak Shah admitted she was resentful of her husband's position, but has come to terms with it now. 'I love the fact that he is totally focused on his work, and he is the most generous person to work with as an actor, as a director, in every way. As a director, he helps every single person arrive at the best of what they are capable of,' she said. 'I love that about him, but I also hate that about him. I love acting, but I am not committed to it the way he is. I do sometimes feel resentful in taking second place to work, but finally I have made my peace with that,' Ratna added. Ratna Pathak Shah and Naseeruddin Shah tied the knot in 1982 after dating for several years. They continue to work together on the stage.
Indian Express
23-04-2025
- Entertainment
- Indian Express
‘Maa and Naseer had a more rocky relationship': When Ratna Pathak Shah recalled her family's disapproval of her marriage to Naseeruddin Shah and the key to their lasting relationship
Marriage often brings together not just two individuals but also their families, cultures, and beliefs. Actor Ratna Pathak Shah shared how her family initially disapproved of her marriage to Naseeruddin Shah, while his family was more accepting. In an interview with Hauterrfly, she recalled, 'My dad was not entirely happy, but unfortunately, he passed away before we got married. Maa and Naseer had a more rocky relationship, but they settled also and eventually became friends.' She continued, 'Naseer's family surprisingly didn't make a fuss at all. Not once did anybody ever even mention the 'C' word, convert. Nobody said anything about me. They just accepted me for what I am. I'm very, very lucky because I've heard of people who have trouble settling down.' Ratna also reflected on the dynamics of their marriage. She said, 'Just listen to each other, man. Actually talk to each other. I respect him and his struggles very much more than my own because I got it easy. Naseer comes from a very traditional, particular kind of background.' Reflecting on the secrets of a successful marriage, she said, 'Naseer said to me very early on in our relationship that it's a good idea never to label a relationship, husband, wife, lover, girlfriend, boyfriend. Why label if you can just keep yourself more at the level of human beings, interact.' Her insights shed light on how relationships evolve over time and the key factors that contribute to a strong partnership. How to navigate family disapproval without deepening divisions Family disapproval can create emotional stress, not just within the family but also between partners. Jai Arora, counselling psychologist and co-founder at Kirana Counselling, tells ' Family disapproval can trigger deep emotional and attachment wounds. This can create stress not just within the family, but in the couple subsystem as well, as partners may polarise — one defending the family while the other defends the relationship.' View this post on Instagram A post shared by HAUTERRFLY | A Fork Media Group Co. (@hauterrfly) Healthy communication is key. 'The core idea while navigating such stuck points is to turn the conversation away from jibes, criticism, assumptions, and expectations towards a conversation about values, vulnerability, and individual as well as family needs,' he explains. Strong couples co-regulate, validate each other's emotions, and create unity despite external pressures. Can rejecting traditional gender roles improve marital satisfaction? Breaking away from traditional gender roles in marriage can be liberating, but if not managed well, it may lead to challenges. 'Rejecting traditional gender roles can lead to more marital chaos if it were to exist in isolation without strong communication about one's needs, wants, boundaries, and expectations,' says Arora. While roles exist for equitable distribution of tasks, sudden rejection of predefined roles without discussion can disrupt the household dynamic. The solution? 'Clear communication, first within the couple and then with the family,' he advises. When done well, this strengthens emotional bonds and builds trust, ultimately enhancing marital satisfaction. Does avoiding labels in a relationship help or hurt? Arora explains, 'According to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, secure bonds thrive on clear emotional engagement and mutual responsiveness. If the lack of labels becomes a way to avoid emotional vulnerability or commitment, it can erode trust.' However, for some, avoiding labels can be freeing. 'Labels can be liberating and can aid the person to explore and experience their sense of individuality and the process of being with someone,' he says. Ultimately, it comes down to intent. 'It boils down to the intention of the individual and what they hope to gain from the dynamic,' Arora notes.
