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Newsweek
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Passenger Takes 'Gross' Photo of What They See on Bus, It Horrifies Viewers
Nick Leighton, etiquette expert and co-host of the podcast Were You Raised By Wolves?, told Newsweek: "It goes without saying that putting your bare feet on someone else's armrest is not polite." Liza Mirza Grotts, an etiquette expert and author of A Traveler's Passport to Etiquette, said that bare feet have no place in shared-transit seating areas. "Feet belong on the floor, not where people sit. If you wouldn't put them on your own dining table, don't put them on public transit," Grotts told Newsweek. "Public transportation is a shared space; bare feet have no place on bus seats, armrests, or anywhere others will sit." Jules Hirst, co-author of Power of Civility, told Newsweek the passenger's conduct in the Reddit post was an example of forgetting the shared nature of public transport. "How you conduct yourself in the privacy of your own home is your business. When you go out into public, you enter into a shared space," Hirst said. "While riding barefoot and talking on your speakerphone may be comfortable for you … you are in a shared space and you need to be cognizant of and respectful of your fellow passengers … treat public transportation like a shared living room—comfortable, but always courteous." Grotts also offered advice on handling such incidents. She said: "If you encounter this kind of behavior, address it with tact. Make direct eye contact, smile politely and say something like, 'Would you mind putting your feet down? People will be sitting there.' If confrontation feels unsafe, speak with the driver or a transit official." Leighton advised against escalating such situations. "When confronted with such rudeness, it can be tempting to return in kind. But that just adds more rudeness to the world, so best to take the high road and keep things polite. The goal is to restore harmony in this shared space, not try to score points to see who can be the rudest—because then everybody loses." Reddit users responding to the post expressed their disapproval, with u/N9s8mping asking: "Do people not have basic etiquette anymore?" Another commenter, u/pmpork, wrote: "I've seen people walk barefoot into an airplane bathroom. This is sanitary by comparison." Some replies were tongue-in-cheek suggestions for dealing with the situation. U/5axiscncfishguitar posted, "Sneeze on her foot," while u/crispychicken65 added: "get some water and pretend to choke over her foot." Others imagined a more-direct confrontation. U/BugWitty2044 wrote: "Get into the conversation and keep doing that and there will be a point this being will tell you 'Excuse me what are you doing? I'm on my phone.' Now you have her attention take a deep breath and tell her to. TURN OFF THE GOD DAMN SPEAKER!!" Newsweek has contacted the original poster for comment via the Reddit messaging system. Stock image: A man looks down at his phone on a bus. Stock image: A man looks down at his phone on a bus. Getty Do you have a travel-related video or story to share? Let us know via life@ and your story could be featured on Newsweek.
Yahoo
25-06-2025
- Yahoo
What to Say When Someone's Being Rude on an Airplane
Credit - Photo-Illustration by Chloe Dowling for TIME (Source Image: Trifonenko/Getty Images) Tempers often soar sky-high on airplanes—and that's not just because of the cramped quarters, lack of an escape route, and frequent delays. In the same way that travelers are geographically and culturally diverse, they come from a hodgepodge of etiquette backgrounds, too. 'The rules in Manhattan, Kansas, are different than in Manhattan, New York,' says Nick Leighton, who co-hosts the etiquette podcast Were You Raised By Wolves? 'We're all operating from slightly different etiquette playbooks, and we all have slightly different ideas about personal space, volume, and what's acceptable and not acceptable. Combine that with people being sleep-deprived, hungry, cranky, and stressed out, and it's a recipe for disaster.' How should you handle an inconsiderate or even unruly fellow passenger? We asked experts to share the best words to use. No matter what your fellow traveler is doing to annoy you—maybe reclining their seat back so far, you can't feel your legs—you can use a variety of diplomatic opening lines. One of Leighton's favorites is apologizing for bothering them, and then segueing into your issue. 'With a lot of these things that are happening on an airplane, people are not being malicious,' he says. 'They're not intending to make things unpleasant for you. It helps to come at it with that understanding.' This is another polite way to call out someone's inappropriate behavior. It's not an attack and shouldn't make them feel defensive. You could also word it like this, Leighton suggests: 'I hope you don't mind me mentioning this, but I can see an inappropriate video on your phone, and I'm with my child. Would it be possible to watch something else?' It's hard to ask a perfect stranger to do something that will benefit you while potentially disrupting them. That's why Leighton likes this phrasing or a similar approach: 'I understand this is inconvenient, but would it be possible for you to close the window shade?' Read More: 8 Ways to Respond to an Apology Besides 'It's OK' When you make a request in such a friendly way, it's more likely 'to be received in the spirit in which it's intended,' Leighton says. He advises using a non-judgmental, neutral tone, and not pushing the issue. 'That's the best way to prevent things from escalating,' he says. 'Because in an airplane, we just don't want things to escalate.' If your neighbor's tuna sandwich is really bothering you—are those extra onions?—open your air vent and then try handling the situation with humor. 'Maybe the person will get the hint, though that doesn't mean they're going to stop eating,' says Jacqueline Whitmore, a former flight attendant who's now an etiquette expert and founder of the Protocol School of Palm Beach, a coaching and training company. If you're seriously struggling with the noxious odor, it might be best to enlist a crew member's help, she adds, especially if you'll be in the air for a while. 'I'd get up and discreetly speak to a flight attendant and say, 'Do you have another seat available?'' she suggests. ''I'm really having a hard time with the smelly sandwich.'' Maybe you're fortunate enough to be sitting next to a friendly passenger. (It could always be much, much worse.) That doesn't mean you want to spend the duration of the flight making small talk. After some brief banter, tell them it was nice chatting with them, and that you're going to shift your attention elsewhere—which could mean opening your laptop, taking a nap, or simply zoning out. Ending the conversation is preferable to simply ignoring the other person, Whitmore says. To help ensure she has an easy time pivoting from unwanted conversations, 'I always travel with earbuds,' she adds. One of the most common complaints on flights is that another traveler's legs or bags are spilling into their neighbor's personal space. 'It happens all the time,' Whitmore says. If someone has stuffed their duffel bag in front of them—rather than in the overhead bin, where it should be stowed—she reaches down and says, 'Sorry, I'm just going to push your bag over a bit so I have more leg room.' Most people are understanding, she's found. When you request something from a stranger on a plane, it's best to offer a reason, says Rich Henderson, a flight attendant who hosts the podcast Two Guys on a Plane with his husband. That includes not being able to hear the sound of your own podcast or movie over the volume of theirs. 'I always feel like giving a reason just really helps people process, like, I'm not just doing this to just shut you down,' he says. 'I'm doing this because I'm legitimately having an issue here.' Most people are receptive to that, he adds. Airplane disputes often occur when one traveler asks another to switch seats in order to be closer to a friend or family member. Often, one of them splurged for an assigned seat, while the other didn't, and these requests usually don't land well. 'I don't have a lot of empathy for that, because these people paid for their seats,' Henderson says. 'We can ask, but there's no forcing anybody here.' Read More: 8 Things to Say During a Fight With Your Partner If you're on the receiving end of such a request, and you don't want to move, he suggests handling the situation in a succinct, straightforward way: by telling them you're not able to help. No further explanation is necessary. Sure, there are perks to a window seat. But if you're in the aisle? No one cares how many times you pop up to head to the restroom. Otherwise, you run the risk of having to wake up the stranger(s) next to you when nature calls. In those situations, Henderson suggests starting verbally: In a louder-than-usual voice, let your seatmate know you need to get up. 'Nobody likes to be touched in a surprising way,' he says. If that doesn't work, however, it's OK to say 'excuse me' loudly and lightly tap the other person's shoulder. 'That usually does the trick,' he says. When a passenger is clearly starting to get agitated, Henderson likes to ask them to repeat what they just said. People often speak without thinking, he's found, and when pressed to say their rude remark again while looking someone in the eyes, they usually won't repeat it. 'They'll either rephrase it or they'll be like, 'You know what, it's not that big of a deal,' because they realize maybe they went too far,' he says. Read More: How to Respond to an Insult, According to Therapists One of the best things about this line is its versatility: It will work in many situations involving ill-mannered airplane passengers. 'If you're in one of those situations, whether it's over a seat recliner or an armrest or whatever the case may be, just be like, 'Hey, say that again—I didn't hear you,'" he advises. 'It works really well to get people to not flip out.' Wondering what to say in a tricky social situation? Email timetotalk@ Contact us at letters@
Time Magazine
25-06-2025
- Time Magazine
What to Say When Someone's Being Rude on an Airplane
Tempers often soar sky-high on airplanes—and that's not just because of the cramped quarters, lack of an escape route, and frequent delays. In the same way that travelers are geographically and culturally diverse, they come from a hodgepodge of etiquette backgrounds, too. 'The rules in Manhattan, Kansas, are different than in Manhattan, New York,' says Nick Leighton, who co-hosts the etiquette podcast Were You Raised By Wolves? 'We're all operating from slightly different etiquette playbooks, and we all have slightly different ideas about personal space, volume, and what's acceptable and not acceptable. Combine that with people being sleep-deprived, hungry, cranky, and stressed out, and it's a recipe for disaster.' How should you handle an inconsiderate or even unruly fellow passenger? We asked experts to share the best words to use. 'Excuse me, I'm sorry to bother you....' No matter what your fellow traveler is doing to annoy you—maybe reclining their seat back so far, you can't feel your legs—you can use a variety of diplomatic opening lines. One of Leighton's favorites is apologizing for bothering them, and then segueing into your issue. 'With a lot of these things that are happening on an airplane, people are not being malicious,' he says. 'They're not intending to make things unpleasant for you. It helps to come at it with that understanding.' 'I hope you don't mind me asking, but could you put your shoes back on?' This is another polite way to call out someone's inappropriate behavior. It's not an attack and shouldn't make them feel defensive. You could also word it like this, Leighton suggests: 'I hope you don't mind me mentioning this, but I can see an inappropriate video on your phone, and I'm with my child. Would it be possible to watch something else?' 'Could I ask a small favor?' It's hard to ask a perfect stranger to do something that will benefit you while potentially disrupting them. That's why Leighton likes this phrasing or a similar approach: 'I understand this is inconvenient, but would it be possible for you to close the window shade?' Read More: 8 Ways to Respond to an Apology Besides 'It's OK' When you make a request in such a friendly way, it's more likely 'to be received in the spirit in which it's intended,' Leighton says. He advises using a non-judgmental, neutral tone, and not pushing the issue. 'That's the best way to prevent things from escalating,' he says. 'Because in an airplane, we just don't want things to escalate.' 'Hoo boy! That sandwich really smells pungent.' If your neighbor's tuna sandwich is really bothering you—are those extra onions?—open your air vent and then try handling the situation with humor. 'Maybe the person will get the hint, though that doesn't mean they're going to stop eating,' says Jacqueline Whitmore, a former flight attendant who's now an etiquette expert and founder of the Protocol School of Palm Beach, a coaching and training company. If you're seriously struggling with the noxious odor, it might be best to enlist a crew member's help, she adds, especially if you'll be in the air for a while. 'I'd get up and discreetly speak to a flight attendant and say, 'Do you have another seat available?'' she suggests. ''I'm really having a hard time with the smelly sandwich.'' 'Thanks for the conversation. I'm going to get some work done now.' Maybe you're fortunate enough to be sitting next to a friendly passenger. (It could always be much, much worse.) That doesn't mean you want to spend the duration of the flight making small talk. After some brief banter, tell them it was nice chatting with them, and that you're going to shift your attention elsewhere—which could mean opening your laptop, taking a nap, or simply zoning out. Ending the conversation is preferable to simply ignoring the other person, Whitmore says. To help ensure she has an easy time pivoting from unwanted conversations, 'I always travel with earbuds,' she adds. 'I'm going to push your bag over just a bit to give myself some more leg room.' One of the most common complaints on flights is that another traveler's legs or bags are spilling into their neighbor's personal space. 'It happens all the time,' Whitmore says. If someone has stuffed their duffel bag in front of them—rather than in the overhead bin, where it should be stowed—she reaches down and says, 'Sorry, I'm just going to push your bag over a bit so I have more leg room.' Most people are understanding, she's found. 'Do you mind turning the volume down? I can't hear my movie.' When you request something from a stranger on a plane, it's best to offer a reason, says Rich Henderson, a flight attendant who hosts the podcast Two Guys on a Plane with his husband. That includes not being able to hear the sound of your own podcast or movie over the volume of theirs. 'I always feel like giving a reason just really helps people process, like, I'm not just doing this to just shut you down,' he says. 'I'm doing this because I'm legitimately having an issue here.' Most people are receptive to that, he adds. 'Sorry—I'm not able to help.' Airplane disputes often occur when one traveler asks another to switch seats in order to be closer to a friend or family member. Often, one of them splurged for an assigned seat, while the other didn't, and these requests usually don't land well. 'I don't have a lot of empathy for that, because these people paid for their seats,' Henderson says. 'We can ask, but there's no forcing anybody here.' Read More: 8 Things to Say During a Fight With Your Partner If you're on the receiving end of such a request, and you don't want to move, he suggests handling the situation in a succinct, straightforward way: by telling them you're not able to help. No further explanation is necessary. 'Hey, sorry to wake you up.' Sure, there are perks to a window seat. But if you're in the aisle? No one cares how many times you pop up to head to the restroom. Otherwise, you run the risk of having to wake up the stranger(s) next to you when nature calls. In those situations, Henderson suggests starting verbally: In a louder-than-usual voice, let your seatmate know you need to get up. 'Nobody likes to be touched in a surprising way,' he says. If that doesn't work, however, it's OK to say 'excuse me' loudly and lightly tap the other person's shoulder. 'That usually does the trick,' he says. 'Could you repeat that?' When a passenger is clearly starting to get agitated, Henderson likes to ask them to repeat what they just said. People often speak without thinking, he's found, and when pressed to say their rude remark again while looking someone in the eyes, they usually won't repeat it. 'They'll either rephrase it or they'll be like, 'You know what, it's not that big of a deal,' because they realize maybe they went too far,' he says. Read More: How to Respond to an Insult, According to Therapists One of the best things about this line is its versatility: It will work in many situations involving ill-mannered airplane passengers. 'If you're in one of those situations, whether it's over a seat recliner or an armrest or whatever the case may be, just be like, 'Hey, say that again—I didn't hear you,'" he advises. 'It works really well to get people to not flip out.' Wondering what to say in a tricky social situation? Email timetotalk@
Newsweek
16-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Newsweek
Man Orders Pizza, Throws Away Leftovers—Horror at What Roommate Does Next
Based on facts, either observed and verified firsthand by the reporter, or reported and verified from knowledgeable sources. Newsweek AI is in beta. Translations may contain inaccuracies—please refer to the original content. The internet is captivated after a Reddit user shared a hilariously awkward moment involving leftover pizza, a trash can, and a new roommate. Redditor u/FlounderIll1896 posted their mortifying tale on the platform, and it quickly gained traction in the subreddit "confession" with 35,000 upvotes. The post has since been deleted. "My roommate caught me doing something weird and it got even weirder and now I probably have to move away, change my identity and start a new life," they wrote. According to the original poster (OP), a few days ago their new roommate ordered pizza, ate most of it, and then casually tossed the remaining slices in the trash before heading to his room. A stock image of leftover pizza in the trash. A stock image of leftover pizza in the trash. AndreyPopov/iStock / Getty Images Plus The poster, who was struggling financially after a recent move, admitted they couldn't understand why someone would discard perfectly good pizza. Without overthinking it, they retrieved the box from the bin, checked the two remaining slices, and ate them quickly. What they didn't realize was that their roommate had quietly returned. The poster was mid-bite when they noticed him standing there, watching in stunned silence. In a panic, they swallowed and blurted out, "are you okay?"—a moment they now deeply regret. They said the roommate looked confused, nodded, and immediately retreated back to his room. Feeling the moment was already beyond salvageable, they finished the second slice. Since then, the roommate has been avoiding them. Expert Insight Nick Leighton, etiquette expert and co-host of Were You Raised By Wolves?, weighed in on the situation. "If you're going to eat trash pizza, at least put it on a plate! Linen napkin optional. (I say that as a joke!)" he told Newsweek. But on a more serious note, Leighton explained that in etiquette, it's often not the act itself but how it's handled afterward that matters most. He suggested the best way forward is through open communication: a direct but polite conversation to address what happened and create mutual boundaries moving forward. "Perhaps one roommate can agree to offer unwanted pizza to the other before tossing it. And perhaps the other roommate can agree that once something goes in the trash, it's now off-limits for retrieval," he said. Pretending nothing happened, he added, is unlikely to warm things up again. Reddit Reacts The Reddit community had a field day with the story, particularly OP's choice of words in the moment. "'Are you okay' through a mouthful of trash pizza is so f**** funny,"** said one user. "It is right up there with 'May I help you'?" added another. "It does set up a 'I hate food wastage' conversation. Would look better than immediate trash diver (don't get me wrong, hunger is hunger)," observed a third. "I was literally thinking the same thing. This post makes me crack up every time I even think about it. I've tried telling it to other people before and I can hardly even get through it," wrote another user. Newsweek reached out to u/FlounderIll1896 for comment via Reddit. We could not verify the details of the case. Newsweek's "What Should I Do?" offers expert advice to readers. If you have a personal dilemma, let us know via life@ We can ask experts for advice on relationships, family, friends, money and work and your story could be featured on WSID at Newsweek.
New York Post
29-04-2025
- Entertainment
- New York Post
Woman slammed for sneaking this bizarre item into Broadway show: ‘That's insane'
Most of the time, when audience members enter a theatre to see a Broadway show, security checks their bags and they are required to walk through metal detectors, as a safety precaution. Despite those typical protocols, one woman allegedly snuck a can of tuna into the theatre — and then had the audacity to open it in the middle of a show to eat it. Alyssa Naka Silver, briefly shared her experience with the tuna eater on TikTok. In the video, the content creator is mugging at the camera with overlay text reading, 'Me turning to the woman who opened a can of tuna and ate it during the second act of Cabaret last night.' That scenario is a head-scratcher, for sure. People in the video's comment section were just as appalled as Silver. 'A can of tuna is allowed in a theater but God forbid I bring in an electrolyte drink for my medical condition,' one person asked. People in the video's comment section were just as appalled as Silver. Towfiqu Barbhuiya – 'Like WHY do you need your can of tuna in the middle of a cabaret? That is an at-home activity,' another commenter asked. 'But also, forgetting etiquette for a second. The second act of Cabaret runs for about 45 minutes. Could you not wait until you at least leave the theatre?' a great point, one commenter wrote. Speaking of how to behave appropriately in a theatre, etiquette expert Lisa Mirza Grotts told the Daily Mail, 'Your seat is not your living room. Show respect for those in the spotlight: actors, musicians, dancers, and fellow patrons.' That means not eating random foods or scrolling on your phone in the middle of a performance. All theatre-goers should follow proper etiquette. Di Studio – 'The only spotlight should be on the stage, not your phone. A glowing screen is disruptive to everyone. Power down and tune in,' Grotts told the outlet. Although it may be tempting to rip open that bag of chips halfway through the show, Grotts said to save it for afterward. 'If it makes noise, it doesn't belong until intermission,' the expert said. 'The general idea is that you are not at home. You're in public and other people are around, so not bothering them is key,' said host of the etiquette podcast 'Were You Raised By Wolves?' Nick Leighton, according to the Daily Mail. 'This includes bothering them with your noise and with your smells.' And everyone knows a can of tuna is definitely smelly.
