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Washington Post
4 days ago
- General
- Washington Post
Miss Manners: A few bridal shower invitees didn't get a wedding invite
Dear Miss Manners: A very dear friend is getting married in eight weeks. She and her betrothed compromised and negotiated a great deal to finalize the guest list, and 10 people didn't make the cut. Unfortunately, she mistakenly invited those persons to her bridal shower. I explained that they may feel slighted at being invited to the shower but not the wedding. She now wants to contact these 10 people to explain the couple's financial constraints and state that while the wedding guest list was final, these folks can forgo a shower gift because they are still participating in one small way.
Yahoo
14-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Bride's Mom Shocks Bridesmaids by Sending Them a 'Substantial' Bill for Wedding Shower: 'No Idea How to Respond'
A bridesmaid was shocked when the bride's mom sent her and the other bridesmaids a "substantial" bill for the upcoming wedding shower She wrote to the "Miss Manners" column, seeking advice on how to handle the unexpected situation She said being asked to pay for the shower "strikes me as inappropriate"A bridesmaid was taken aback when she received something unexpected from the bride's mother: a bill for the upcoming wedding shower. She detailed the situation in a letter to the "Miss Manners" advice column, published by The Mercury News on Monday, July 14, explaining that she and all the other bridesmaids received a note from the mother of the bride "stating that we owe a substantial sum of money to help pay for the bridal shower." The advice seeker went on to note that she's hardly surprised that the shower is "proving to be expensive," as the pre-wedding event has "ballooned in size and scope to rival some weddings I've attended in the past." "But I had no input as to how big this shower has become, and being asked — no, told — to pay for it strikes me as inappropriate," she insisted, asking, "Am I wrong?" The bridesmaid concluded her letter by acknowledging that she has "no idea how to respond" to the bride's mother's request for payment. "How should I reply?" she asked Miss Manners. In response, the columnist advised the bridesmaid — and the other women in the bridal party — to bow out of their roles in the wedding. "All of you should respond by asking the bride's mother to give her daughter your love, along with your profound regrets that you are unable to serve as bridesmaids after all, having been unaware of the cost," she wrote. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. "Bridesmaids are supposedly chosen because they are the dearest people to the bride," Miss Manners then noted. "Why, then, are they considered exploitable for both labor and money?" she asked, sharing her opinion that this particular situation "calls for a strike." Read the original article on People
Yahoo
07-06-2025
- Business
- Yahoo
'My Friend's Wedding Is Costing Me Thousands. How Do I Tell Her I Can't Afford It?'
Grim news from Experian: in 2024, the company found that attending a wedding cost guests about £450 each, or an average of almost a fifth of their monthly income. And given that Monzo says one-tenth of us went to eight weddings or more in 2023, it's easy to see how the costs stack up. That's just a standard guest fee too: bridesmaids and groomsmen might have to fork out for pricey hen and stag 'dos, while destination weddings involve multiple-night hotel stays and sometimes even flights. That was certainly the case for a Redditor posting to r/TwoHotTakes, who shared that she's considering cancelling on her friend's wedding given how expensive it's becoming. So, we spoke to Jo Hayes, founder of Etiquette Expert, about how much is too much to ask of your guests financially. At first, the original poster (OP) wrote, she was excited for her friend's engagement. But then the costs crept up to the thousands. The bride-to-be is planning a week-long luxury destination hen do and, OP says, expects the guests of the bridal shower she organised to wear a particular dress that they have to pay for. The fiancée also specified the gifts she'd like to receive at her bridal shower, which are all expensive. The poster, meanwhile, has a wedding of her own coming up and is in the process of buying a home with her partner. In short, she says, the event is simply outside of her means – and while some commentators said her hopes that her friend will simply 'shut up' about her wedding were unfair, most agree she needs to opt out of at least some of the events. Hayes told us that what's enraging at one wedding might be reasonable at another. 'Every wedding is different, with different socio-economic demographics at play,' she said. 'My advice to couples is to simply be 'self-aware' and surround yourself with a small number of wise, balanced, 'common sense' mentors,' she continued. The etiquette expert also recommended sticking to the 'golden rule': do unto others as you'd have them do to you. 'Even if you're on £300K a year, consider the financial pressures facing your younger cousin, who's one of your bridesmaids... a newlywed with a husband still in college, with a joint income of £50K,' she advised. 'Asking her to fork out thousands on a fancy hen weekend, designer bridesmaid gown, and accessories is a bit much, and most reasonable people would say, 'not fair.'' Additionally, she said, 'kind, clear communication' about what you expect from your guests and bridal party upfront can help them to plan for costs and allows them to share if any part of your plans are financially unviable. For truly close loved ones, she said, compromises ought to be reached. Guests Who Witnessed Wedding-Day Walkouts Are Sharing Their Stories, And Wow 'I'm Cancelling My Wedding Over A Comment From My Mother. Am I Wrong?' 'I Called Off My Wedding After 1 Comment From My Fiancé's Mother. Was I Unfair?'
