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Yahoo
31-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Lesbians explain why butches are so hot & their answers will make you sweat
If there's just something about a butch lesbian that makes you weak in the knees, you're not alone. From diesel dykes to baby dykes to studs, there are so many butches out there to choose from, but what is it about masc-presenting sapphics that drives you wild? Queer women on the subreddit r/ActualLesbians attempted to answer this question on a recent Reddit post where one user asked, 'What are things that drive u feral about a masc or a butch?' The answers from the community were eye-opening and will have you considering going on a hunt for a butch of your very own. So, whether you're on the prowl for a bossy lesbian top or a butch bottom, what are the things that would make you swipe right on a hot masc? These real-life lesbians have the answers! Clothes can be a real turn on 'Them in a tank top with big biceps.' — pwpwpwpwpwpw1 'When you catch a glimpse of them in trunks. Something about a woman wearing male underwear makes me weak. I also love the idea of making someone so outwardly confident chuckle from embarrassment.' — Moist-Bee2764 But so can seeing what she's hiding underneath 'I am a fool for a girl with a happy trail…' — Cyber561 'Seeing their stomach from underneath that loose clothing. It's hot as shit.' — IniMiney Just being you Tinxi/Shutterstock 'Them simply existing.' — Overall_Mastodon_179 'Zero swag; dorky and clumsy.' — tvtropes_chivalrous Show off that strength Getty Images 'When my girlfriend picks me up and carries me around the apartment, or when they open up something for me because I'm afraid of breaking a nail lol.' — Losonti 'When she shows me her biceps or arm wrestles me or lets me massage her muscular back or picks me up or exists.' — NundineBajiles 'Tank top w/ silver chain and a bandana oh my goddess. Also them working out, even seeing my masc flirtationship's workout area nearly sent me into a tizz.' — RCheque How the present healthy masculinity 'Positive masculinity that's complemented by their soft, feminine side.' — NebulaDapper124 'I wouldn't say I go feral for anyone, I like to think I have more self control, but I've always loved a little more androgynous/strong features and short hair, which can be more common among butch women. And not that they all are, but they seem more take charge, of me.' — Vardet10 This article originally appeared on Pride: Lesbians explain why butches are so hot & their answers will make you sweat RELATED Do lesbians scissor? Comedians aim to end the debate once and for all and we're HOWLING 13 lesbians and sapphics in glasses that make us tingle 10 reasons the phrase 'gold star lesbian' needs to die Solve the daily Crossword
The Guardian
16-06-2025
- Entertainment
- The Guardian
I'm just a bride-to-be. Looking for a suit. That doesn't make me look like a politician
It's a month until my wedding, and my suit has arrived in the post, unceremoniously crammed into a plastic postage bag. I wasn't expecting it to come from China, but China is of course where things come from. Unbagging the crinkled jacket and trousers for my supposed Big Day felt a little deflating. Although I'm not sure what I did have in mind. I've never fantasised about getting married. As a gay woman, this wasn't even an option for me until 2013. In fact, the closest I ever came to daydreaming about this occasion was when I was around four and I'd inferred from Disney movies that 'getting married' was the act of a prince ballroom dancing with a princess. The dancing was neither here nor there, but I knew I wanted to be the prince. There wasn't a single a-ha moment when I twigged that feminine clothes made me feel like the world's most reluctant drag queen (a drag peasant?), but gradually I embraced being butch. And casual butch I can do – wearing Carhartt, Finisterre, even M&S menswear for that middle-aged dad look. Then it comes to formalwear. Not that 'formal' was what I had in mind aesthetically for the wedding (so far it's looking more like a very slightly upmarket children's birthday party). But turning up on the day dressed like a contractor feels like a tantrum, and there's no small part of me that wants to look nice, whatever that means. I settled on the idea of a suit: something classic and well tailored. In women's sections of high-street shops, lurid blazers with flouncy embellishments seem to whisper to each other about me, like a pack of vicious teen girls who only found out what a lesbian is by watching a controversial episode of their favourite soap. After several trips like this, I hadn't tried anything on, and bespoke women's suits from some of the beautiful female tailors of Savile Row are financially out of the question. It's surprising to me how stressed I've become about looking good on my wedding day. But weddings get to you. No matter how much of a non-wedding wedding you think you're having, it's still … a wedding. While doing my utmost to queer the term 'bridezilla', I'm just a woman looking for a suit that doesn't make me look like a member of the shadow cabinet. When the desperation hit after another three hours' Googling variations on 'women's suit wedding androgynous', I finally submitted to the eerie siren song of a site claiming to make affordable bespoke suits. With its slick UX and promise to solve an issue that had now been consuming me for months, I was sold. I designed my perfect suit – dark navy, streamlined and flattering without any frills – added it to my cart and entered my card details in a trance. A month later my AI-generated, SEO-advertised, Shein-era bag of 'what did you think you were getting?' flew in from Shanghai. I'd thought I was ordering it from a Europe-based company, but the item had been 'dropshipped', sent directly from the manufacturer rather than the e-commerce retailer I bought it from. The jacket was at least five inches longer than what I thought I'd ordered, and putting it on felt a little bit like trying on one of my dad's blazers as a kid. The suit looked better after having been left to hang for 24 hours, but marriage material it is not. After a brief identity crisis in which I wondered whether my gender expression might be 'scam victim', I managed to override a lifetime's worth of social conditioning and enter a full-on menswear store. I'd been drawn to the brand, Percival, since it released a Seinfeld-inspired collection. Even if I'm way more of a George than a Kramer. The moment I walked through the door, I also managed to find a near-perfect outfit. Which turned out to be a green linen suit – exactly the same one that was worn by Sadiq Khan last year. My partner tried to console me on this matter by reminding me that 'we did vote for him'. Yes, I'll be taking my Sadiq suit to a tailor to shorten the arms and bring in the shoulders. No drastic alterations, though. Even if you have boobs, I've learned, the term 'menswear' should be consigned to the past, along with bathroom carpeting and lobotomies. While we're at it, bring on the grooms in white dresses. Eleanor Margolis is a columnist for the i newspaper and Diva Do you have an opinion on the issues raised in this article? If you would like to submit a response of up to 300 words by email to be considered for publication in our letters section, please click here.
