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UAE Moments
3 days ago
- Business
- UAE Moments
Your Daily Career Tarot Card Reading for July 28th, 2025
28.7.25 The Judgement: A change of heart could encourage a dramatic turnaround in a situation that seemed to be going nowhere. Drawing this card suggests that insight into the character of a boss, client, or co-worker might elicit sympathy rather than anger or resentment. As a result you may decide it's worth giving them the benefit of the doubt. It's precisely because of this that a quantum leap is possible.
Yahoo
5 days ago
- Business
- Yahoo
A 59-Year-Old Career Nurse Feels 'Defeated And Cooked' After Learning Her Coworker Has Saved Nearly $500,000 More For Retirement
A longtime nurse approaching retirement recently posted on Reddit that he felt 'defeated and cooked' after discovering a coworker had $460,000 more saved in their 401(k). He shared his financial situation on the r/retirement subreddit, noting that he and his wife have about $240,000 saved for retirement, plus an anticipated $1,100 monthly pension, Social Security benefits between $1,800 and $2,300, and roughly $200,000 to $300,000 in other savings. 'I absolutely can't grind out eight more years working full-time,' he said. Dissapointment 'I was feeling OK about my plan,' he wrote, 'until talking with a coworker in the same salary range who has managed to save about $700,000 in his 401(k).' Don't Miss: Be part of the breakthrough that could replace plastic as we know it— $100k+ in investable assets? – no cost, no obligation. Many redditors urged the nurse to stop comparing himself to others. 'Comparison is the thief of joy,' one commenter said. Another added, 'You were fine until you found out someone else has more? You're 59, not 9. Way past time to stop playing that childish game.' Several pointed out that his pension is a valuable asset often overlooked. 'That pension is huge,' one person said. 'It may not sound like a lot, but you would need about $400,000 in savings to be able to withdraw $1,100 per month.' Others focused on his emotional exhaustion. The nurse explained he could not imagine working full-time for another eight years, prompting many to suggest transitioning into a less physically demanding role like remote case management or a teaching role. Trending: This AI-Powered Trading Platform Has 5,000+ Users, 27 Pending Patents, and a $43.97M Valuation — Most Americans Fall Short Of Retirement Goals While Fidelity recommends that Americans have eight times their salary saved by age 60, the reality for most people falls short. So while the nurse may not be hitting expert targets, he's still ahead of the typical American. Many commenters emphasized that retirement readiness comes down to spending, not just savings. 'Your expenses drive how long you have to work,' one said. 'What are your expected retirement expenses per month including health insurance? Know that and you can figure out how long you need to work.' Some shared their own modest setups. One retired couple said they live well off a $2,900 pension, $1,100 Social Security check, and $200,000 in cash. Their monthly expenses total just $2,200, largely due to living in a low-cost area and owning a small recurring tip: test-drive their retirement budget now. That means they should try living on what they'd expect to bring in each month during retirement. If they can live on it now, they can probably live on it then. The nurse eventually responded to the outpouring of support and practical advice. 'Thank you everyone for the advice and recommendations,' he wrote. Fellow Redditors encouraged him to speak to a fee-only financial advisor and to start tracking his monthly expenses to create a concrete plan. 'It's useless [to] feel bad about what you were not able to accomplish in the past,' one nurse wrote. 'Start learning today and figure out how you can make your dreams happen.' Read Next: Can you guess how many retire with a $5,000,000 nest egg? .Up Next: Transform your trading with Benzinga Edge's one-of-a-kind market trade ideas and tools. Click now to access unique insights that can set you ahead in today's competitive market. Get the latest stock analysis from Benzinga? APPLE (AAPL): Free Stock Analysis Report TESLA (TSLA): Free Stock Analysis Report This article A 59-Year-Old Career Nurse Feels 'Defeated And Cooked' After Learning Her Coworker Has Saved Nearly $500,000 More For Retirement originally appeared on © 2025 Benzinga does not provide investment advice. All rights reserved. Error in retrieving data Sign in to access your portfolio Error in retrieving data Error in retrieving data Error in retrieving data Error in retrieving data
Yahoo
5 days ago
- Business
- Yahoo
A 59-Year-Old Career Nurse Feels 'Defeated And Cooked' After Learning Her Coworker Has Saved Nearly $500,000 More For Retirement
A longtime nurse approaching retirement recently posted on Reddit that he felt 'defeated and cooked' after discovering a coworker had $460,000 more saved in their 401(k). He shared his financial situation on the r/retirement subreddit, noting that he and his wife have about $240,000 saved for retirement, plus an anticipated $1,100 monthly pension, Social Security benefits between $1,800 and $2,300, and roughly $200,000 to $300,000 in other savings. 'I absolutely can't grind out eight more years working full-time,' he said. Dissapointment 'I was feeling OK about my plan,' he wrote, 'until talking with a coworker in the same salary range who has managed to save about $700,000 in his 401(k).' Don't Miss: Be part of the breakthrough that could replace plastic as we know it— $100k+ in investable assets? – no cost, no obligation. Many redditors urged the nurse to stop comparing himself to others. 'Comparison is the thief of joy,' one commenter said. Another added, 'You were fine until you found out someone else has more? You're 59, not 9. Way past time to stop playing that childish game.' Several pointed out that his pension is a valuable asset often overlooked. 'That pension is huge,' one person said. 'It may not sound like a lot, but you would need about $400,000 in savings to be able to withdraw $1,100 per month.' Others focused on his emotional exhaustion. The nurse explained he could not imagine working full-time for another eight years, prompting many to suggest transitioning into a less physically demanding role like remote case management or a teaching role. Trending: This AI-Powered Trading Platform Has 5,000+ Users, 27 Pending Patents, and a $43.97M Valuation — Most Americans Fall Short Of Retirement Goals While Fidelity recommends that Americans have eight times their salary saved by age 60, the reality for most people falls short. So while the nurse may not be hitting expert targets, he's still ahead of the typical American. Many commenters emphasized that retirement readiness comes down to spending, not just savings. 'Your expenses drive how long you have to work,' one said. 'What are your expected retirement expenses per month including health insurance? Know that and you can figure out how long you need to work.' Some shared their own modest setups. One retired couple said they live well off a $2,900 pension, $1,100 Social Security check, and $200,000 in cash. Their monthly expenses total just $2,200, largely due to living in a low-cost area and owning a small recurring tip: test-drive their retirement budget now. That means they should try living on what they'd expect to bring in each month during retirement. If they can live on it now, they can probably live on it then. The nurse eventually responded to the outpouring of support and practical advice. 'Thank you everyone for the advice and recommendations,' he wrote. Fellow Redditors encouraged him to speak to a fee-only financial advisor and to start tracking his monthly expenses to create a concrete plan. 'It's useless [to] feel bad about what you were not able to accomplish in the past,' one nurse wrote. 'Start learning today and figure out how you can make your dreams happen.' Read Next: Can you guess how many retire with a $5,000,000 nest egg? .Up Next: Transform your trading with Benzinga Edge's one-of-a-kind market trade ideas and tools. Click now to access unique insights that can set you ahead in today's competitive market. Get the latest stock analysis from Benzinga? APPLE (AAPL): Free Stock Analysis Report TESLA (TSLA): Free Stock Analysis Report This article A 59-Year-Old Career Nurse Feels 'Defeated And Cooked' After Learning Her Coworker Has Saved Nearly $500,000 More For Retirement originally appeared on © 2025 Benzinga does not provide investment advice. All rights reserved.
Yahoo
20-07-2025
- General
- Yahoo
Your Significant Other May Be 'Cushioning' And You Wouldn't Even Know It
Years ago, writer Sara C. felt palpable chemistry with a coworker. She had been married for 14 years at the time, but her friendship with the man was flirtatious and she started to fixate on it. They communicated regularly and had coffee dates. Then they slept together. But a line was crossed even before the physical relationship began: Sara had invested in a figment of a relationship until it became a real one, to the detriment of her marriage. 'My affair definitely started out as an emotional affair,' said Sara, whose last name has been withheld to protect her privacy. 'I think many people in steady relationships sometimes stagnate or get into tiffs that remain unresolved.' 'Whether it's boredom or complacency or unresolved frustration, I'm not sure,' she added. 'But it makes them see other people in a different light and can elevate the human connection.' Those lingering connections are sometimes called backburner relationships. A 'backburner' is 'a person to whom one is not presently committed, and with whom one maintains some degree of communication, in order to keep or establish the possibility of future romantic and/or sexual involvement,' according to a 2014 study in Computers in Human Behavior. The concept has also been called 'cushioning' ― as in, 'I have a Plan B ready to cushion the blow if Meg and I don't work out.' It's more than just a 'what-if' situation, though. Backburner relationships require relatively frequent communication, Jayson Dibble, the 2014 study's lead author and an assistant professor of communication at Hope College, told The Atlantic at the time. These affairs of the heart ― and of the imagination ― make sense from an evolutionary standpoint: If the goal is to have as many options as possible for reproduction, the occasional Instagram 'like' and 'wanna get coffee?' text is easy enough to maintain. At the same time, you ensure your future offspring will have someone to care for them by staying with your partner. Marriage and family therapist Elisabeth LaMotte likens cushioning to a 'pre-meditated version of rebounding.' Cushioning typically indicates an inability to exist without a relationship, she said. And more often than not, our backburner fulfills (or seems to fulfill) something that's missing in our primary relationship. 'With cushioning, you're usually cultivating a secret flirtation with someone who represents an exaggerated rebellion against challenges in one's current relationship. For example, someone who is dating a successful but anxious partner might cushion with a relaxed partner who is unable to keep a job,' she said. 'But cushioning denies both parties a chance to see if the anxiousness (or any other challenges) might be lessened through communication and effort with our primary partners.' We imagine the grass is greener on the other side ― and in the process, we short-shrift what very well may be a solid relationship. Once pursued, backburner relationships are subject to the same frustrating, everyday complications any other couple experiences. Sometimes, the relationship peters out quickly or forces you to grapple with your own unresolved issues. This was the case for comedian and writer Xaxier Toby. Six years ago, Toby pursued a relationship with a friend of a friend he'd always had 'If only I were single...' thoughts about. 'I'd just been dumped and instead of dealing with that, I leaped straight to the backburner,' said Toby, who has written a number of comedy books including Mining My Own Business. 'It didn't go anywhere, of course, and just delayed me dealing with the pain of a breakup, with the bonus of unfairly messing with someone and involving them in the emotional mess that was me at that time,' he added. Toby said he now understands why backburner relationships are so common. 'They provide a little jolt of validation that you might be missing in your relationship due to turmoil, but that's all they'll ever be,' he said. 'They're like sugar. Instantly gratifying, addictive, but without any nutritional value.' Cushioning is unfair to both your current partner and the person acting as your cushion, said Samantha Burns, a dating coach and the author of Breaking Up & Bouncing Back. They're also unhealthy for you. 'Cushioning stems from a place of insecurity, or underlying feelings of dissatisfaction in your current relationship,' she said. 'If you're cushioning, ask yourself why you need the outside attention and validation. Is it making up for some needs that are not being met in your relationship? Is it distracting you from acknowledging that you're unhappy or disconnected from your partner?' Take your time if you need it. But if you realize you want to refocus on your primary relationship, do so with intentionality. 'When you're more insightful and mindful about your thoughts and feelings, you can figure out if you want to remain in your relationship and communicate with your partner instead of going outside the boundaries of your relationship,' Burns said. 'Successful couples turn inwards, not outwards.' Related Coverage This Is What An Emotional Affair Is -- And What It Isn't If You've Just Been Cheated On, Here's What To Do Next You'll Never Guess Who Is Having The Most Extramarital Affairs
Independent Singapore
18-07-2025
- General
- Independent Singapore
‘He told me his wife is a relative': Woman says her 60 y/o coworker overshares and makes work awkward
SINGAPORE: One woman says her 60-year-old coworker has been turning the office into a very uncomfortable place, thanks to his complete lack of boundaries and oversharing habits. Sharing her experience on Reddit's 'AskSingapore' forum on Thursday (July 17), she said the man is far too enthusiastic for her liking and seems oblivious to what's appropriate in a professional setting. He has repeatedly asked her out for coffee during office hours, even though she has turned him down every single time. He also won't stop rambling about his personal life, including the rather unsettling detail that 'his wife is actually a relative.' 'Like why would I need to know that??' she said. To make things worse, he once asked her to drive him to Johor Bahru (JB) and regularly sends her meme stickers that have nothing to do with work. He has also asked personal questions like 'whether she has a boyfriend or how much she weighs.' At one point, he even mocked her for 'supposedly never having been kissed or hugged.' See also Ivy League dreams: A path to prestige and prosperity 'I never actually answered his invasive questions, and he just jumped to his own conclusions. All this happens when it's just the two of us in the office,' she wrote. 'Most of the time, I just listen and react politely, and now I'm questioning if my reactions gave him the impression that I enjoy these conversations. This does not feel normal or appropriate to me. I don't think our relationship needs to go beyond professional boundaries,' she added. To distance herself, she said she started acting colder toward him in hopes that he would get the hint. However, her coworker ended up confronting her and claimed that 'she was angry at him for no reason.' 'This is awkward and exhausting because the office is usually just the two of us while the others are out,' she said. She added that she has always tried to carry herself with decency. Even though she is still relatively new to the workforce, she believed that staying kind and keeping clear boundaries would be enough to stay out of trouble, but she did not expect that some people could be so 'shameless in ways that aren't always obvious.' 'I've been trying to find excuses to leave the office whenever I can. Luckily, I'll only be here for less than a month more,' she wrote. 'What he's doing is already considered inappropriate.' Under her post, one commenter said, 'Actually, I think this constitutes as harassment already…' Another commented, 'Why he wants you to bring him to JB??? Something is sus about this already… I think just say you have a bf even if you don't.. If he still doesn't stop talking like that, collect evidence and report to HR.' A third suggested, 'If he asks too personal questions, you can just say 'sorry I'm not comfortable answering that' and say you need to finish up some work or something. What he's doing is already considered inappropriate, but I guess it's a small company and there isn't any HR.' Dealing with workplace harassment According to the Ministry of Manpower, victims of workplace harassment are advised to maintain a safe distance from individuals exhibiting inappropriate behaviour and, where possible, adopt a buddy system for safety. If the victim is often alone with the harasser, they should report the matter to a supervisor, manager, human resources, or a designated neutral party within the organisation so that appropriate action can be taken. Victims may also contact the Tripartite Alliance for Fair and Progressive Employment Practices (TAFEP) for guidance or lodge a police report if necessary. Read also: Tourist says foreigners often get 'pushed around' in Singapore, asks locals, 'Is this common?' Featured image by freepik (for illustration purposes only)
