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Yahoo
a day ago
- Health
- Yahoo
A popular hair loss drug destroyed my ex-husband's sex drive — and ended our marriage
A bestselling author has shared a heartbreaking story about how a popular hair loss drug led to the demise of her ex-husband's sexual function — and their marriage. Speaking recently on the podcast 'Moral Medicine,' Thammika Songkaeo said she noticed they had no love life to speak of while they were still dating. Her then-boyfriend told her that it was because he had taken Propecia — the brand name of finasteride, which is commonly used to treat hair loss in men. One of the potential side effects is sexual dysfunction. At the time, she thought it was just a temporary issue — or that it would only be a problem intermittently. 'I did not at all realize that it was permanent, serious [and] devastating,' she said. They got married and stayed together for seven years, with Songkaeo convincing her ex to take an erectile dysfunction drug to improve intimacy. The couple welcomed a daughter, but Songkaeo's loneliness worsened. Ultimately, she decided to walk away from the sex-starved marriage. Noting that her ex was a wonderful partner outside of the bedroom, they remained great friends — and Songkaeo went on to write a novel about her experience, 'Stamford Hospital,' which became a No. 1 bestseller on Amazon Singapore. Now, she's trying to spread the word not only about how post-finasteride syndrome (PFS) — a condition in which someone experiences severe side effects after they stop using finasteride — affects its victims, but also the ones they love. 'The depth of the loneliness I felt was to the point where I, myself, was becoming suicidal or having suicidal thoughts,' Songkaeo said. 'I had to call the suicide hotline because it became that bad for me — and, usually, I'm a pretty happy person.' She questions the ethics of distributing a drug that can have such potentially devastating consequences. 'Finasteride has the capacity to dissolve one person so much that it becomes this domino effect…there's just so much destruction around it — and it feels like unnecessary destruction,' she said. Songkaeo was interviewed by podcast host Mark Millich, who made headlines earlier this year by telling the Wall Street Journal that he experienced debilitating side effects after buying finasteride. Some of his side effects included anxiety, dizziness and slurred speech. His sex drive also plummeted, and his genitals shrank and changed shape. Millich previously interviewed a 28-year-old man who reported a roller coaster of side effects due to PFS, including sexual dysfunction, insomnia, severe weight and muscle loss, skin rashes and pelvic pain. 'Every month, I feel like there's a new side effect,' the man said. 'It's really changed my life completely.' In April, the US Food and Drug Administration issued a warning about topical finasteride products distributed by telehealth companies, citing several reports of adverse events such as erectile dysfunction, anxiety, suicidal ideation, brain fog, depression, fatigue, insomnia, decreased libido and testicular pain. If you are struggling with suicidal thoughts or are experiencing a mental health crisis and live in New York City, you can call 1-888-NYC-WELL for free and confidential crisis counseling. If you live outside the five boroughs, you can dial the 24/7 National Suicide Prevention hotline at 988 or go to
News.com.au
4 days ago
- Health
- News.com.au
Sydney mum speaking out after horrific domestic violence assaults
WARNING: Disturbing images and descriptions of violence Rhiannon Purcell had an impossible choice to make. She had been arguing over the phone with her estranged ex-husband as she was driving to collect her twin daughters, aged 3, from his home in southwest Sydney. She pulled over, fearing that when she arrived he would take his anger out on her physically. But she could not leave her kids with him, either. In an act of selflessness and bravery on that night in March, 2023, Ms Purcell drove on. Her ex-husband made his intentions clear in the driveway of the home when he turned off the outside lights and walked to her car. 'I was assuming he did that so no-one could see anything. I was terrified,' Ms Purcell told He put the girls in the back and sat beside Ms Purcell in the front passenger seat. 'He just started saying, 'Who are you to talk to me like that?' It was really aggressive. I knew straight away that I was going to be attacked so I went for the door to run. He snatched her phone off her before attacking her, according to court documents seen by ABC News, which first reported Ms Purcell's harrowing story. 'As I went to get out, I felt a blow to the side of my head,' Ms Purcell told 'My girls had got out and were standing there screaming.' A passing car might have saved her life. She flagged it down only to realise it was a member of her ex-husband's family. Her attacker fled, leaving a window of opportunity for her to collect the children and drive to safety. 'As I was driving home, I didn't actually realise the extent of my injuries but I could feel something warm and wet dripping down my body. When I got home, I looked down and was literally covered in blood. Her ex-husband was convicted over the assault and jailed for nine months with a non-parole period of just four. According to court documents seen by the ABC, the man has 'an extensive history of violent offending including domestic violence offences and personal violence offences.' An apprehended domestic violence order (ADVO) was taken out in July of 2023. In 50 days, it expires. Ms Purcell says that with the help of police she hopes to get the extension granted. She says it should be for an indefinite period to adequately protect her. has approached NSW Police for comment. 'The ongoing fear I live in' On social media, Ms Purcell is speaking up. She is sharing the graphic images of her injuries from the night in March, 2023, as well as pictures of the aftermath of other acts of violence inside her home. On one image showing a freezer door ripped off its hinges and a hole in a timber door, she writes: 'After his measly 5 month sentence and he was released from jail, I was offered the decision of (him) having an ankle monitor. It was only active for the remaining 4 months of his sentence. The day that ended, my anxiety was through the roof.' Speaking to Ms Purcell said the decision to speak up and show the reality of domestic violence was not an easy one. But it was important. 'I did that for my family and my kids but also for all women of Australia and all women that have died since last year,' she said. 'I'm speaking out for my daughters and their daughters and all future women of Australia. Not many women speak out or show their face. I was also discouraged from doing that. 'But I just thought, you know what, I need to speak up. I just wanted to highlight the flaws in the system and show people why women are dying. It is not going to stop until there is real change.' Part of that change is explored in a petition Ms Purcell titled: Protect Women and Children: Demand for Stronger Domestic Violence Laws & Penalties. 'Too many women and children are being failed by a broken system,' she writes in the petition. 'So far this year 28 women have been killed in Australia, 131 women have been killed since the 1st of January 2024. These aren't just numbers, they are people. They are mothers, daughters and sisters.'
News24
23-05-2025
- Entertainment
- News24
‘As'phekeleni umyeni wami' sensational cook, Mbali Skosana shares details of abusive marriage
We watched her cook and love her husband loudly and proudly but the reality behind closed doors was far from ideal. The saying 'not all that glitters is gold,' couldn't be truer, mostly when it comes to online relationships. Read more | 'It became unbearable' - Mbali Nkosi on leaving acting, venturing into DJing and soaring spiritually Mbali Skosana, a well-loved personality and content creator, first gained widespread recognition through her cooking videos that captivated viewers with her warm, inviting content and delicious recipes. Her iconic intro, 'As'phekeleni umyeni wami,' quickly became a catchphrase among her fans, and over time, she developed a devoted following who admired her authenticity and the love she so openly shared with her ex-husband. Read more | 'I set very strong boundaries for myself' - Lady Zamar channels life lessons into powerful music However, behind the scenes of this seemingly perfect life, cracks began to form. Reports emerged online of her husband's alleged infidelity and desire to practice polygamy, known as 'isithembu' in some cultures. Things took a dramatic turn when Mbali made a statement confirming that they had separated, signalling the end of their marriage, only to later retract the statement in a live TikTok video, leaving many to believe that they had reconciled and mended their relationship and would continue forward together. Read more | Bullied teen tells mom if perpetrators are not arrested she'll kill herself Unfortunately, the storm was far from over. Recently, an even darker chapter in her journey has unfolded as a disturbing video surfaced showing Mbali being assaulted by her ex-husband's girlfriend, sparking widespread outrage and concern. In the circulating video, Mbali can be seen lying on the floor asking for forgiveness, claiming that the perpetrator is hurting her while she was pressing what can be identified as her thigh on-top of Mbali in an effort to detain her from running away, all this whilst interrogating her with questions. In the aftermath of this incident, Mbali took to her YouTube channel to address the issue and share a harrowing revelation; she alleged that she had been a victim of abuse in the later stages of her marriage. In the deeply emotional 24 minutes and 26 seconds duration YouTube video, Mbali addresses how what began as a relationship built on love and shared dreams came down to navigating a tumultuous marriage which ended in tears and heartache, leaving behind painful echoes of betrayal as her ex-husband turned to being physical with her in an effort to forcefully make her accept his decision for a polygamous marriage. Read more | Soshanguve learners open case against community members after beatings for lateness In the YouTube video Mbali attached the trending assault video and explained reasons for doing so are not to taint the woman in question's image but rather to plead with the public, especially women, as she's seen many of them since the circulation of the video bashing her for enduring that situation. She further states that she has attached the video to break her silence as she's been too quiet about this issue and believes the internet will eventually find out in bits and pieces when she had long moved on from the saga, therefore it's best to talk about it now. 'I got threatened by that video to the point that we went to court, because I was trying to protect my image as I knew if you guys would see it people would judge me. I tried not to expose the girl's name, and if I was someone else, I'd name and shame but because I understand she's a woman and a mother with kids, I don't want her kids to see her differently than who they know now all because of a man,' Mbali cried. Mbali further says what breaks her heart mostly about the video is that her ex-husband stood and did nothing as his girlfriend demeaned her in the most distasteful way and instead, he took her side. 'I didn't have that video, as it was them shooting it. But what hurts mostly with it is the fact that, the man who paid lobola for me was literally standing there and I said sorry, but his response was 'sorry for what?' Mbali breaks down. Mbali concluded the video stating that she's been to counselling sessions and will still attend until she doesn't get triggered by the issue anymore, Moreover, she also pleaded that people refrain commenting about her past on her work videos on Instagram as they are ruining her brand.
Irish Times
14-05-2025
- General
- Irish Times
‘I've met someone and would like to explore a relationship with them, but I'm worried about my children'
Question I have three small children and have been separated for two years. My ex-husband is not involved in the children's lives, so childcare is left to me. I have recently met someone who I am interested in exploring a relationship with. Up to now, we have only met for a coffee or cinema trip. I have left the children in the care of close friends on these occasions. This person and I have spoken about moving things to the next stage, but I am concerned about how to approach it in a way that is healthy for my children. Realistically, if things continue to develop, this person will eventually stay in my house and meet my children. I don't have a support system that would allow them to stay with grandparents overnight. I also don't want my children to get hurt if things don't work out as they have already been through a difficult separation. I would be grateful for any advice. READ MORE Answer Firstly, it is wonderful that you are open to loving again after what sounds like a negative experience. It is also tough that you are on your own with all the childcare responsibilities, but this may be reassuring for the children if the breakup has been traumatic – they can now have predictability in their lives. It may be very natural for your children (even when quite small) to want to protect you from further pain or upset. With that in mind, they may be very cautious about you starting a new relationship and could react to your new partner with some degree of trepidation. You can prepare the way for them by being open about the fact that you have met someone you like. Let them know that you would like them to meet the person. You will need to pay close attention to your children's reactions as each of them may need different things at different times. They have lost one parent and for them, the possibility of losing another is a real concern. [ 'I was overheard saying my date wasn't very good-looking. Now he's blocking me' Opens in new window ] [ 'I'm a woman in my early 30s, and I'm exhausted by dating' Opens in new window ] Take this slowly and let the children know that you will involve them in every step. It might be a good idea to spend time with each child separately. This will allow them to bring up their questions or objections in their own way. It may also reassure them to know that you are making time for each of them as well as for your potential partner. It would be good to organise fun things to do initially, outside the home and in a place where there is plenty of distraction. You should not set about trying to fix everyone's worries, Instead, allow these concerns to be expressed and be patient with this process as there are a number of people's needs to be taken into account. Organising meals where your potential partner is invited over can be fun for the children, especially if you involve them in the cooking, choosing of music and other related areas. Ultimately, you are probably hoping that the person you are seeing develops their own individual relationship with each child. This does not have to be in the role of caretaker or parent, but rather as a friend and caring adult. Don't be afraid to avail of this service if you find that your situation is proving too difficult When you are broaching the idea of that person spending the night, you could introduce it as a sleepover similar to what children do on a play date. It would be nice to have some joint play, such as popcorn and a movie, but be clear that you will need time alone. Having a lock on the door and some music playing in your bedroom will help with your fear of the children walking in. All this should be done slowly, with frequent reflections, plan-making and plan-adjusting discussions. Everyone involved will have different expectations around what should be happening and you will be the focus of almost everyone's hopes and desires. It is important that you have time for yourself so that you are not always on alert. Having friends you can debrief with (who won't judge you) can be very helpful. If you are feeling particularly overwhelmed, make sure that your go-to action is to take a break for yourself before making any decisions. There are some wonderful family therapists who can assist with the complexities of this situation. Don't be afraid to avail of this service if you find that your situation is proving too difficult. Sometimes, it is very helpful to hear a professional call things out or to make suggestions. This is also good because it allows you to be a follower rather than someone who is always in charge of everyone and everything. It will also serve your family well to see that you are brave enough, and have moved on significantly, to embrace love again. To send your question to Trish Murphy, fill in the form below, click here or email tellmeaboutit@ .form-group {width:100% !important;}
Daily Mail
10-05-2025
- Daily Mail
I tried the risky sex fantasy all the middle-class mothers talk about. Now I'm the harlot of the school gate and I'll never live it down: SAUCY SECRETS
Dear Jana, I'll get straight to the point: I slept with my ex-husband at his father's funeral.
