I lost custody of my kids & I'm thrilled – people say I should be ashamed but I now get to pursue my career
Clerichena, from the US, took to socia media to explain that her ex had won custody of their children and she was happy about it.
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In the clip, the mum said: "This is going to sound crazy but I don't want my children back. It's not because I don't love them.
"I love them so much. I love them wholeheartedly."
"I don't want those children back. And it's not because I don't want to take care of them or anything like that," she continued.
The mum who has two sons and a daughter said the reason she was happy she would not have custody full-time was because she had no support system to help raise them.
"When I take them to the doctor, I don't have an emergency contact. I don't have friends. I don't have family," she explained.
She also says she wants to focus on going back to school to get a law degree, something she wasn't able to do while raising her children alone.
In another clip, Clerichena said she refused to see herself as a victim in this situation and was making the most of it.
She added: "God is fair. That is what I remind myself of when I start to feel like a victim of life's circumstances.
"My situation may not be ideal, but it is not special. I am not the only person that has ever gone through this, and I won't be the only person who has ever gone through this.
" I know this is all working out so that I can be the best version of myself possible.
I lost 'everything' when UC stopped my £4.3k-month payment... now I've been sacked from my new job
"I gave up so much to have my children. I put all of my goals and aspirations on hold in order to be the mom that I wanted to be, in order to devote myself to my children.
"And now I'm taking this as a sign from the universe, a sign from God, in support for me to continue to follow my dreams."
The mum's video quickly went viral on her TikTok account @ clerichena with over 2.4 million views.
Many mums were quick to judge her for not fighting for custody.
One person wrote: "This is insane to me! You are a mom!!!! Shame on you!"
Another commented: "Imagine seeing your mum post about not wanting you to the whole internet."
Single Parent Facts and Figures
Single parent charity Gingerbread is fighting to create a society where all single parents and their children thrive. These are the organisation's latest figures on single parenthood...
There are two million single parents with dependent children in the UK, 89% of which are headed up by single mums
A depressing 44% of children in single parent families are in poverty compared to 26% in couple families
Around 13% of single parent households with dependent children used a food bank in the last 12 months compared to 3% of couple households with dependent children
Less than 1% of single parents are teenagers, and this continues to decline - with the average age of a single parent in the UK being 39-years-old
Research found that 36% of single parent families with dependent children have no savings, compared to 17% of couple families with dependent children
"I raised three with no support system …. Not a good excuse love," penned a third.
Meanwhile a fourth said: "I get that you're tired, rightfully so, but they are your children. It's not their fault that they are in this world."
"A mother's instinct is natural- this scares me,' claimed a fifth
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Still, even among the elite, moving entails a steep learning curve. The new house DeGeneres and her wife have moved into isn't far from the old one but is a much newer building, enabling the Mail to prod one local into calling it a 'monstrosity', and a possibly different local into saying 'it looks like a prison'. DeGeneres, meanwhile, is still in the honeymoon period, and finding it all very beautiful. As she told the crowd at Cheltenham this week, she considers her new compatriots 'polite,' the life here 'simpler', and has reached the conclusion that, 'everything here is better'. Whether that's the charms of the English countryside or the insulating effect of super-wealth we can't know for sure. Either way, we look forward to watching the progress of the entertainer's application to put up a large stable in an area of outstanding natural beauty make its way through the famously helpful and accommodating English planning authorities. Ellen, welcome to Britain! Emma Brockes is a Guardian columnist
