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10-08-2025
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Woman Offers to Take Niece and Nephews on Vacation, but Refuses to Take Brother's ‘Spoiled' Youngest Child
What began as a way to support her brother's three older children has grown into a quiet dilemma: how does one stay fair in a family where not everyone has been treated the same?NEED TO KNOW An aunt, who is originally from the Midwest but currently lives overseas, has been helping out her brother with his three older children for years She and her wife are more than happy to help, given the kids' mother is out of the picture and their stepmom doesn't consider them her own children The aunt took to Reddit looking for advice after her brother scolded her for proposing they take only three of his children on vacation, leaving his youngest behindIn families where divorce, remarriage, and blended households intertwine, decisions that may seem simple – like planning a vacation – can become emotional minefields. That's what one woman is facing after deciding to exclude her brother Jason's youngest child from a planned family trip. The woman, who shared her story anonymously on Reddit, has supported her brother's three older children, ages 12 to 19, from a previous marriage for years. After Jason's divorce from his first wife, he eventually gained full custody of the kids. When she left town, the children moved in with him and his new partner, Jenny. Initially, Jenny seemed like a welcome change to the family. 'She was kind, had a good job, and was well-educated. I thought, much better match,' the aunt writes. But after having a child of her own with Jason, Jenny "completely changed." She quit her job and focused solely on raising the baby. 'She declared she was only a SAHM to HER kid,' the aunt reveals. That shift, she claims, created a clear divide. 'Jason, Jenny, and [the youngest] operate as a family unit, going to dinners, events, even vacations and leaving the older three kids at home," she explains. "I have always thought this was disgusting and voiced my opinion about it, but Jason just said his divorce broke him emotionally and he will do anything possible to keep Jenny happy so that their marriage works out," the Redditor writes. Jason, she adds, works over 70 hours a week to support them, while Jenny controls the finances and offers little involvement in parenting the older children. From overseas, the aunt and her wife have often stepped in to support Jason's children. They bought the kids a used car, helped cover driving costs, and listed them as the "sole beneficiaries" in their will after learning that Jason and Jenny were planning to leave nearly "everything" to their youngest, only giving the older three "the bare minimum amount." They also started taking the trio on annual trips within the United States, as Jenny and Jason only take their youngest on vacations, typically funded by Jenny's parents. 'They're very outdoorsy kids so they've had a blast every year,' she says of the older three kids, noting that the trips are "nothing fancy" but still fun. This year, one of the older teens secured a fall internship, so the usual summer trip was rescheduled. When Jason found out, he asked that his youngest child – the one he shares with Jenny – be included. But the aunt resisted. 'I feel so bad saying this about a child, but [she] is a HUGE brat, spoiled, mean, and constantly bragging about the things she gets that her siblings don't," the poster writes. She says the tween "throws toddler-level tantrums" if she doesn't get more than everyone else during holidays, once told the poster and her wife they were "going to hell," makes snide comments about her half-siblings' mom and is a "total slob" since "Jenny waits on her hand and foot." "I feel bad saying all this, I hope when she grows up she grows out of it. But there is no way I'd want to take her on a vacation," she explains. She acknowledges that some of this may stem from the child's environment, but said she's not comfortable adding that dynamic to the trip. Jason proposed that Jenny or their mother could come along to help manage the group, but the aunt declined both suggestions. 'Love [my mom] but she's getting a freaking HIP REPLACEMENT next month and does NOT want to go,' the Reddit user writes. After she told Jenny and Jason that she didn't want to bring their youngest on vacation, the parents "decided to go the route of shaming us online." While their loved ones are still on their side, the poster and her wife now question if they are in the wrong. "My wife came to me the other day and basically said, 'Are we even better than Jenny if we're favoring some kids over another just because we don't like their mom?'" she recalls. That gave her pause. 'Before we were evening things out, but now we're obviously favoring the oldest,' she admits. Now, the Reddit user faces some difficult questions with no clear answer: Is it right to prioritize certain children in a family over others? Or should all kids be treated the same, even if the relationship isn't equal? Read the original article on People Solve the daily Crossword
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09-08-2025
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A Dave Ramsey Caller Wants To Evict His Own Mother. She's Not Paying Rent And Has Already Filed Bankruptcy 3 Times
Benzinga and Yahoo Finance LLC may earn commission or revenue on some items through the links below. A man named Wesley from Los Angeles called into 'The Ramsey Show' recently with a dilemma most people hope to never face: should he evict his own mother? She Hasn't Paid Rent In Five Months Wesley explained to hosts George Kamel and Ken Coleman that his mother has been living in one of his rental properties, but hasn't paid rent in five months. 'I know the legal answer is going to be yes,' he said, referring to whether he can evict her. 'But I'm having trouble with the emotional part of it.' Don't Miss: The same firms that backed Uber, Venmo and eBay are investing in this pre-IPO company disrupting a $1.8T market — Accredited Investors: Grab Pre-IPO Shares of the AI Company Powering Hasbro, Sephora & MGM— Wesley said his father passed away nearly two years ago. His mom had lived with his dad for 12 years, though they were never married. After his dad died, Wesley and his brother relied on a handshake deal: if their mother passed first, the brother would take care of their dad; if their dad passed first, Wesley would take care of their mom. 'We're a family of dysfunction,' Wesley admitted. 'So, you lost a bet essentially and here we are,' Kamel quipped. The rental in question is fully paid off, but Wesley said he charges his mom $1,500 a month just to cover property taxes, homeowners association fees, insurance and utilities. Even then, he's personally covering about $1,000 a month out of pocket. Meanwhile, average rent in that neighborhood is around $3,300. 'So you're losing money on this deal,' Kamel told him. Trending: 'Scrolling To UBI' — Deloitte's #1 fastest-growing software company allows users to earn money on their phones. Wesley confirmed he has spoken to his mom several times about the rent. 'It's just always an excuse with her,' he said. 'I think I know I'm an enabler. I can't get myself to finally pull the trigger and kick her out.' When asked about her financial habits, Wesley said she brings in about $2,300 a month and isn't working full-time. He added, 'She's gone through Financial Peace [University] and failed miserably because she's filed bankruptcy three times.' Coleman didn't sugarcoat his response: 'The only way to deal with those emotions is to actually walk through them. You're afraid of them right now, and I understand that. But you're just going to have to deal with it.' He encouraged Wesley to imagine what the situation would feel like six months or a year from now if nothing changes. 'That's going to be toxic sewage, far worse than any emotion you're going to face right now.'He told Wesley it was time to 'step up and be an adult' because 'your mom's acting like a child.' The hosts also pointed out that Wesley and his brother need to stop relying on informal agreements and work together on a clear plan to support their mother in a more structured way. Kamel added that if his mom doesn't move out, she'll end up being evicted anyway. 'She needs to go find rent elsewhere where she's going to get evicted by someone much meaner than you.' Read Next: $100k+ in investable assets? – no cost, no obligation. This article A Dave Ramsey Caller Wants To Evict His Own Mother. She's Not Paying Rent And Has Already Filed Bankruptcy 3 Times originally appeared on Sign in to access your portfolio
