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News.com.au
26-07-2025
- Entertainment
- News.com.au
Jodhi Meares opens up about new life in Byron Bay after leaving Sydney: ‘I don't get bored'
Jodhi Meares has opened up about the real reason she left Sydney for Byron Bay, and the private life she has created for herself in the hinterland. In a new interview with Stellar, the fashion mogul and ex-wife of James Packer admits she was never comfortable in the spotlight and is 'definitely a behind the scenes person'. 'I'm a true introvert. I like to be able to watch people. I find people really interesting. 'Being in the public eye wrecked that a little bit,' Meares told Stellar. Late last year, Meares purchased a four-bedroom, Modernist-inspired home – which features an avocado, citrus, banana and papaw orchard, at Brooklet. The property is located inland between Ballina and Byron Bay in the NSW Northern Rivers region – and was purchased for a reported $4.1 million. Listen to a new episode of the Stellar podcast Something To Talk About below: Speaking to Stellar, The Upside designer explains why she is at home among the papaya trees, a dog named Soda Pop, and her five cows. 'I don't get bored and I don't get lonely. I suffer from other things, but I don't suffer from those things,' Meares said. 'Sometimes I have to ask myself, 'How many days has it been? I need to just go somewhere and speak to another human …'' The former Australia's Next Top Model host and Tigerlily founder also made a surprising confession about her time as a model, saying she 'never really loved having my photos taken'. 'It's been a means to an end. But I felt very lucky to be able to do it because I wasn't sure what I was going to do when I was young. 'And school and I didn't get along that well.' In the Stellar cover story, Meares also reflected on interviewing Australian supermodel Elle Macpherson – who stars in a new campaign for Meares' activewear brand, The Upside – for Stellar earlier this year. 'She's such a phenomenal woman. Elle doesn't have to do these things. I thought it was just very special,' Meares said. 'It was very beautiful, really touching that she was able to do that.' Listen to a new episode of the Stellar podcast Something To Talk About below:
The Sun
23-07-2025
- Entertainment
- The Sun
Elle Brooke reveals she's ‘lonely' and ‘hates leaving the house' as OnlyFans star and boxer becomes an ‘introvert'
ELLE BROOKE has revealed she has become an "introvert" and "hates leaving the house". The OnlyFans star turned boxer made the revelation during a Q&A with her followers on social media. Elle, 27, has a massive fan base on Instagram with 1million people following her page. She has taken the boxing world by storm with her performances during Misfits fight nights. The model has claimed victories against the likes of Love Island 's AJ Bunker and brawler Jenny Savage. However, the limelight appears to have taken its toll as she admitted to "hate" going outside. During the Q&A, one fan asked her what the "hardest thing" is about being her. Many may have expected a light-hearted answer that could have involved boxing training or filming for OnlyFans. But instead, she gave a glimpse into a more vulnerable side of herself. She wrote: "Think over time I've just become an introvert, hate leaving the house for so many reasons. "Ngl [Not gonna lie] it's pretty lonely." Earlier this year, Elle showed off a stunning body transformation. Elle Brooke's 10 most liked Instagram posts She posted pictures on social media that displayed her 'before' and 'after' training for boxing. The blonde attributed her change to "Hard work and Ozempic". Weight-loss jabs have a controversial reputation, with some celebrities taking them but medical experts issuing warnings. But the influencer is proud of her transformation. Inside Elle's glamorous life as influencer, boxer and OnlyFans star... 12 12 12 12 12 12 12 12
Telegraph
04-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Telegraph
Scientists have designed the perfect day. So I tried it
According to the Lou Reed song, the ultimate perfect day involves sangria in the park, feeding animals at the zoo and a movie. And possibly heroin. But that was the Seventies and things have changed. Feeding zoo animals is generally frowned upon nowadays, as is smack. Instead, researchers at the University of British Columbia have created the formula for a perfect day using AI analysis (admittedly, not as exciting as Spanish booze or narcotics). The boffins used data from the American Time Use Survey, in which participants recorded how much time they spent on 100 different activities and rated each. According to the science, the 'perfect' day consists of six hours of quality time with family, two hours with friends, one-and-a-half hours of socialising, less than six hours spent working (with a brief 15-minute commute), two hours of exercise and no more than an hour's worth of screen time. Sounds lovely, doesn't it? That's if you enjoy interaction with other people, because it involves a lot of that. If, on the other hand, you're an introvert, it could well be hell. Personally, I have reservations. Six hours of family time sounds excessive. And surely it would depend on which members of your family that time is devoted to. Do pets count? And two hours of exercise? I'm an avid gym-goer but would struggle with that amount of exertion. Consider, then, the opposite. What constitutes the 'worst' day? While there's been no definitive studies into this, I decided to try and build a non-scientific template by flipping the formula for the perfect day and substituting the 'good' activities with their 'bad' opposites, adding a few of the unhealthiest habits for good measure, such as sleeping in, being sedentary, excessive screen time, drinking alcohol, stress and isolation. Helpfully, the study also lists some of the lowest scoring activities, which includes gardening, looking after other people's children and time spent with spouses, which confusingly, may sound like fun ways to spend time (I love spending time with my wife, obvs). So, is the perfect day really perfect, and could the imperfect day be just as fun? I tested which was better… Skip to: The perfect day Two hours spent exercising Normally I'll wake at 6am, get to the gym for around 7am and then spend an hour working out. I like to start work by 8.30am so the logistics of a two-hour session don't suit me. Instead, I set the alarm for 5am and get up straight away, which is a struggle, then head out for a light run, before heading to the gym for some weight training and a Blaze HIIT (high-intensity interval training) class. This is achievable in the summer when the weather is kind, but must be miserable in the cold and dark. By the end of this early morning marathon, I'm exhausted. It's much more than I'd normally do. One-and-a-half hours spent socialising The study distinguishes between socialising and time spent with friends and family, so I take socialising to mean social interactions. Luckily, I am friendly with many of the regulars in the gym and today I ramp up the chattiness. I stop to talk to the receptionist, then chat to the staff in the café while they try to set up for the day. On the gym floor I am that annoying person who wanders around and talks to everyone, and in the HIIT class I have plenty of banter with the instructor, monopolising the session. I then chat absently to people in the changing room in various stages of undress. As I don't work in an office, I've always valued these small interactions with different people during the day and I feel good about the connections I've made, but judging by some of the body language I fear I may have been a nuisance today. Nevertheless, I'm at my desk by 8am, happy in the knowledge that by 2pm I'll have finished. Six hours of work Normally I work 10 hours or more a day, often on weekends too. Being self-employed means if I don't work, I don't get paid. So a six-hour day should feel like a treat. Instead, I finish at 2pm weighed down by guilt and anxiety, knowing I'll have to start early and work late the next day just to catch up. Not exactly the perfect start to an afternoon off. Six hours of family time According to the study, spouses don't count, which is a shame, because I really enjoy my wife's company. Besides, she's busier than I am anyway. Luckily, my mother, who lives in Australia, is visiting. It's a great chance to spend time with her and also catch up with my son and daughter, now 18 and 23. I haven't seen my mother in several years, so it's wonderful to be together again. Even so, after a couple of hours, the conversation slows, thankfully, she's great at filling the gaps. After a long lunch, I then meet up with my children, whose company I always treasure. Two hours with friends In the evening I head off to the pub to meet a friend for an easy two hours decompressing after family time. To start with, the amount of social time looked daunting, but having spent it with a selection of my favourite people the time passes easily. The trick, I think, is to choose your company carefully. Some people are effortless company, others drain energy. One hour of screen time Another easy win. An hour of Clarkson's Farm to round off the day is time well spent and leaves me lifted before bed. I read for half an hour before drifting off. The imperfect day Late waking and zero hours exercising Forcing myself to stay in bed until 8am on a weekday felt vaguely criminal. I tried to do something positive with the time and scrolled through the newspapers online, but still felt guilty. And the no-exercise rule was hard to adhere to. I wanted to go for a walk at least but instead headed to my desk in the home office. Eight hours of work According to the study, when individuals worked for more than six hours, the positive effects rapidly turned negative, so I set myself an eight-hour working day. I have a love/hate relationship with my WFH set-up. I share the home office with my wife, who often presents seminars and workshops online, while I try to concentrate on writing. And when she is away, which she is a lot, I find the office isolating, so I work in a café or in the pub in the evening where the hum of life is comforting. Today my wife is away so, in keeping with the spirit of the experiment, I work in the home office with just the cat for company. And he whines all day. As expected, I find the solitude soul-crushing. The only bonus is that an eight-hour day, while detrimental in terms of the study data, is still shorter than my normal working day, which allows me to fit in the other unhealthy activities. Two hours of gardening, plus online shopping In the study, time related to consumer purchases indicated a 'zero effect' on whether participants would have a good day, as did gardening. I love my garden, but am no fan of gardening. I do as little as possible, and we have gardeners. I choose the unpleasant job of pruning away aphid-infected leaves from the apple tree. The bugs excrete a liquid called honeydew and, as I chop away haphazardly, aphid excrement drips down on me. Ninety minutes later I head for a shower, then spend 30 minutes online shopping for summer clothes and pesticides. One-and-a-half hours of drinking alone I'm lucky enough to have two pubs within yards of my front door. I head to the Brewery Inn for a couple of pints alone. I take my laptop too and cram in a bit more work. This is a regular early evening thing for me. My wife thinks it's sad; I think it's one of the best things you can do with your time. I'm comfortable with my own company, and the pub serves excellent beer and plays excellent music. Ninety minutes later, I emerge comfortably lubricated. Five hours spent watching television and eating junk food Another surprising finding of the study was that time spent relaxing was negatively associated with having a good day. The authors make the presumption that this is because most of this time was devoted to watching television, 'which would not necessarily make for a better day'. In this spirit I settle on the sofa with crisps, biscuits, beer and wine. I try to watch programmes with no intrinsic value, but, after a trio of Eastenders, Coronation Street and Love Island, I begin to lose the will to live so switch to Shōgun, which is very good – although by this point I'm feeling the effects of the alcohol and the subtitles are challenging. I opt for something educational and watch the first episode of Adam Curtis's new social history, Shifty, which is excellent, but my brain struggles to keep up with the high-brow concepts. For light relief I head to Noel Edmonds' Kiwi Adventure, which requires no energy, unlike the show's protagonist. Late night TikTok and doom-scrolling I finish the day in bed scrolling through TikTok, X and Truth Social, and drift off dreaming of cats and hatred. The verdict Perfect Day Not as perfect as it would appear, especially if you value 'me time', or time with your spouse. It depends on who you spend your time with and what you do. Meanwhile a six-hour workday seems impractical for anyone with a full-time job. Imperfect Day For me the most detrimental elements were the lack of interactions with people and the lack of exercise. This is not a prescription for good health, and it was easy to see how this sort of lifestyle could be damaging in the long term. As a one-off, however, parts of it were enjoyable, such as slobbing out on the sofa and sinking a few pints in the pub. The only ill-effect was a fuzzy head the following morning.
Washington Post
30-06-2025
- General
- Washington Post
Carolyn Hax: Angry spouse blames violent outbursts on wife's introversion
Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My wife and I have been married 20 years, the past five full of anger and hostility. She is highly introverted. Her happy place is deep in a book, on a solo hike, or with her sisters or her few friends. She is very content. I am not. I am lonely and feel overlooked. It has made me very angry and resentful, and I have exploded at her in anger in ways she apparently found terrifying and traumatic. I would never hurt her or our kids (older teens), but I have broken things, punched walls and screamed at her. At her urging, I sought therapy, but reflecting on our marriage made me realize I have been unhappy, and resentful, for most of it. I don't know if I want to be married to her. I try to do nice things for her, but I don't think she is capable of giving me the attention I need to feel loved. She cites her introversion, but also the angry behaviors I haven't been able to get under control. She isn't wrong — I do sometimes talk about harming myself or say she has ruined the marriage. But I no longer break or punch anything. I don't understand why my efforts don't count more. She notes she has remained present and engaged, encouraged therapy, and responded with patience and kindness, and I need to accept she cannot erase my loneliness or suddenly become an unreserved person. She spends time with me and has encouraged me to pursue friendships and hobbies. But it isn't helping. I am still so angry and isolated. I know I have messed up in some ways, but I don't understand why she can't just work harder to make me feel like a priority. — Lonely and Resentful Lonely and Resentful: Threatening self-harm means you need more help than you're getting. Full stop. Back to therapy; tell the truth. None of this 'she apparently found' crap, either. No. Your violence terrified and traumatized your family. That is abuse, not 'messed up in some ways.' Stop dodging responsibility for it. And stop seeing therapy as a way to change your wife. Last time, you emerged resentful of her for not 'mak[ing]' you happy. That's not how it works. Having needs is valid, but they're not invoices to others — not even to spouses. If people don't meet our needs, then we can ask, yes, for X. But if they say no, we don't get to take them to emotional collection and extract X by force. Your ability to change your marriage ends where your wife's autonomy begins. You can't make her be someone she isn't or do something she won't. You can't call it her fault and abuse her. Your wife is modeling autonomy within a marriage: giving what she is willing and able to give you, remaining true to herself within the context of your union. Whether it's what you want is up to you. If not, then you can try to thrive on what she offers, or do without, or divorce. You expect her to 'work harder,' yet how successfully have you changed your core self? Here's a metaphor: Therapy showed that you've craved steak your entire marriage. But your marriage is a tea shop. Is your wife asking, 'Why can't he work to love tea?!' Seems not. So. Find your own honest protein sources — as your wife now nourishes herself — or embrace scones, or admit you picked wrong and leave. Don't terrorize tea shops for being tea shops. For help mid-fury, step away and call 800-799-SAFE or 988. And more, more honest counseling. Immediately.
Fox News
24-06-2025
- General
- Fox News
Worker's unusual lunch spot backfires after uncomfortable confrontation: 'Was I being disrespectful?'
The internet erupted recently when a Reddit user revealed an unusual lunch location, sparking strong reactions. The user began by noting that he or she was an introvert working in a "highly social customer service job," the person said in a thread on the popular "Am I the A--hole" subreddit. "I often need to take my lunch hour alone to recharge," the commenter added. "Next door to my workplace is a big, well-kept cemetery." "On nice days, I take my lunch to one of those benches, eat my sandwich and read a book," the Redditor wrote. "Sometimes I walk along the paths and read the gravestones." But recently, the lunch spot led to an uncomfortable social situation that left the person shaken up, as relayed in the post. "Last week, I had just finished my lunch and was packing things away when another visitor approached me and we began chatting," the user said. "They said they were here to visit their parents and asked whom I had lost." The person went on, "I had to admit that none of my loved ones were buried here, but that I was coming here because it was peaceful and I needed a place to take a break from my work." The grieving person responded with disgust — and accused the lunch eater of "treating the cemetery like a personal park," which took the Reddit poster aback. "I apologized and left immediately and haven't been back since," the user admitted. "But I was surprised to hear this, as I had not thought I was being disrespectful." Addressing a query to the community's 24 million users, the person asked, "Was I being disrespectful?" In response, hundreds of Redditors overwhelmingly supported the person's decision. "Graveyards are places of peace and reflection not only for those who have lost someone, but for everyone," the top comment read. "Originally, cemeteries were used like this," another user claimed. "It's why when you go to older ones, [there are] lots of open spaces and benches." Another chimed in, "In the Victorian period, it was quite common to have picnics in cemeteries … It's only after regular parks became more common that the practice died down." A different user quipped, "Why do they think there are benches in these places? Certainly not for the 'residents.'" "Why do they think there are benches in these places? Certainly not for the 'residents.'" The thread also attracted an apparent admirer of the occult — who claimed it was "a very witchy thing to do." "I myself am drawn to witchy symbolism and I respect it a lot," this user wrote. "A certain type of witch finds peace with the ancestors and [is] drawn to cemeteries. They have a connection. This isn't my path, but it is very respected." A few users found the choice of lunch spot to be in poor taste and accused the original poster of being disrespectful. "I can't imagine going to visit my nine-year-old nephew's grave and [finding] someone popping open a f---ing soda," said one person bluntly. "Truly macabre. Have people lost all sense of propriety and respect?" another wrote. Another commenter said, "You're using people's loved ones' final resting place for lunch as a private park … Go out and find a park that's actually a park." Florida-based etiquette expert Jacqueline Whitmore weighed in on the drama, telling Fox News Digital there's "nothing wrong with taking a break and having lunch on a bench in a cemetery." "A lot of people find cemeteries quiet and peaceful and a wonderful place to decompress and reflect." "A lot of people find cemeteries quiet and peaceful and a wonderful place to decompress and reflect," she said. One commenter wrote that, while the person did not do anything wrong, it's important to value the feelings of the mourner also visiting the cemetery. "I don't think you're being disrespectful … I do think, though, that commenters here aren't thinking about the mindset of someone who is visiting [a] loved one's grave," the response read. "Grief is top of mind for them."
