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Daily Mail
10-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
I asked for an open relationship... but I never expected to find my boyfriend on TV having an orgy with six women. It left me feeling humiliated
A woman has been left feeling 'humiliated' after finding out that her boyfriend had an orgy with six women on a television show. Tanith, 30, and Mark, 40, from west Yorkshire, have been dating for two and a half years, but while she was thinking about kids and a ring, he admitted to having a 'wandering eye'. This came to a head when she caught Mark cheating on her red-handed a year into their relationship and her world came crashing down. She said: 'We had been together a year, it tore my world apart. It was really hard and I felt like we were in a good place and it was all shattered. We took time to ourselves and I realised that he was worth it.' When recalling the experience, Tanith burst out crying and said: 'It's just a lot of emotion isn't it?' Mark said: 'I've always had a tendency to be unfaithful in the past. I guess it's the feeling of being wanted or that someone is attracted to you. It's probably not feeling good within yourself, so you're looking at getting that through other people.' Tanith - who lives with Mark and shares a dog with him - then suggested they open up their relationship and try non-monogamy, as she loved Mark and thought it would be the right path to explore. They decided to go on Channel 4's show Open House, which sees couples join a luxury retreat full of non-monogamous people who are eager to help them fulfil their fantasies. However, Tanith was left feeling mortified after finding out Mark had slept with six women on his first night in the Open House - while she went back to their room alone. The pair went on the show with the idea that they were going to open up their relationship separately, meaning that they would date and start sexual relationships with other people as individuals, not as a pair. Effy Blue, a non-monogamy coach on the show, decided it would be best if they both attended separate parties in the evening to give Tanith a chance to meet the men in the house and allow Mark to mingle with the women. Before they split off, Tanith said she was nervous and felt as though they had been 'thrown in at the deep end'. The dog walker added: 'Something that would be difficult for me in this if one of us did something and the other one didn't, that would be the hardest thing.' Mark's evening started off as a roaring success as one woman gave him a lap dance, another gave him a French kiss while a third passed him a marshmallow... with her mouth. However, Tanith admitted that she didn't feel any chemistry with anyone at her party and left the party without a man on her arm. She admitted that she had trying not to think about her boyfriend, telling the camera crew: 'I don't know what Mark has been up to. I think if I thought about that it would no.' But when Mark was asked about whether Tanith had crossed his mind, he said: 'I'm not really thinking too much about Tanith, otherwise that would distract me from what I'm doing here. 'I'm eager to get out there and have a good night, I'm just looking forward to having fun and seeing what happens. 'I didn't expect it to be going like this but I'm kind of going with the flow and if everyone's comfortable and happy, then what will be, will be.' The landscape company owner then took all six women back to a hut in the garden of the house and one thing led to another, leading them all to have sex with each other. Anxiously awaiting her boyfriend, Tanith opened the window and stared at the hut, seemingly wondering what Mark was up to. In a preview for the second episode, Mark is filmed returning to Tanith, who then turns to him and says: 'I'm so humiliated.' Effy then asks the couple whether they thought any boundaries had been crossed and Tanith bursts into tears. Coming on to the show, Mark described feeling 'trapped' when trying to commit to one person at a time. 'I've always wanted to do what I want to do when I want to do it,' he said. 'Sometimes when you find yourself in relationships, you feel trapped. I've always felt very much trapped.'
The Sun
06-05-2025
- Entertainment
- The Sun
I was too nervous to perform in bed & thought my 8-yr relationship was over… an orgy with FIVE strangers relit the spark
FEELING the spark draining from their romance, Tom and Lauren decided opening up their relationship and trying sex with other couples would rekindle the flame. But their first attempts at swinging proved a flop after Tom's erectile dysfunction prevented things from going to plan. 12 12 12 It left the couple, both 32, feeling desperate - especially as Lauren was keen to live a non-monogamous lifestyle. Tom and Lauren, who have been together eight years and are engaged, decided heading on National TV for specialist help was the only way forward and signed up to Channel 4's Open House: The Great Sex Experiment. 'We'd tried a couple of times and unfortunately had some bad experiences,' Lauren said. 'Tom just didn't feel comfortable naked. While the couples were amazing and I was a lot more open, Tom just wasn't. 'So we thought with the show having experienced non-monogamous people and a therapist, it would be a good way to try again.' Lauren had brought up the idea of swinging because she is bisexual and felt 'something was missing' in a monogamous relationship. Their plans were put on hold when Tom was diagnosed with the heart condition Bicuspid aortic valve, where the main valve in his heart doesn't function properly. It's the same condition that Arnold Schwarzenegger has. The couple were advised by doctors to avoid anything that could cause a high heart-rate - meaning no swinging - and that Tom had to stop going to the gym, leading him to put on weight and his confidence plummeted. Once things were back on a stable footing, the couple decided to sign up for Open House: The Great Sex Experiment for a fresh start when it comes to swinging. The 48-hour luxury retreat mixes therapy with opportunities for couples to try out a non-monogamous lifestyle and meet like-minded people. Inside world's 'swinging capital' where 40-women orgies take over X-rated nightclubs & daring couples enjoy secret sand dune romps on nude beach Tom credits being able to speak with non-monogamy therapist Effy with helping him to understand that erectile dysfunction isn't uncommon and to realise that he did want to explore swinging with Lauren. 'It was really throwing me off the deep end going on the show but that was what I needed,' he said. 'The therapy forced me to confront things, like looking after myself, and Effy hit nerves which is why I break down on the show. 'But she also helped me to get back into the swing of everything. I know that the swinging is helping our relationship and it's given me confidence that I don't need Lauren right next to me to be confident. "Our communication has improved so much and we're so much stronger.' On the first night, Lauren and Tom took FIVE singles back to their room in a bid to have group sex. The group sex was initiated by Tom, who had been set a challenge by the therapist to invite some residents back in a bid to improve his confidence. Despite being incredibly nervous, Tom was able to perform thanks to lots of attention focused on his erogenous zones. Therapy boost 12 12 At the time, Tom was 19st 6lbs, which had left him feeling incredibly body conscious. Tom said: 'The therapist got me to feel quite strong and be in a place to engage in group sex where I hadn't been before. 'Meeting the residents has really opened up my eyes to what our life could be like. They made me feel so welcome and comfortable. 'Having a chance to open up about my issues has shown me that I'm not the only one at all. 'It reminded me that a lot of people struggle with it at different times. I don't need to see a naked person and think that I don't know what I'm doing. 'Once I was in my head about not being able to perform, that's where it would all go wrong, and then it would become difficult to do what I wanted to do.' As a former gym addict, Tom admits that he used to have his top off all the time to show off his ripped physique, but now worries people will stare at him for the wrong reasons. Since filming the series, he has dropped to 16 and a half stone, which has helped him feel more comfortable exploring swinging. 'The show has opened my eyes and it's helped me massively to have the motivation to make changes,' Tom explained. Bonus bonk 12 12 The couple have continued to explore the world of swinging and attended several parties. Lauren said: 'It was absolutely a bonus to end up having sex. I think it all came down to the help the therapist gave us when it came to our communication. 'The residents were so supportive of us. Even at a normal swinging event, having sex with other people is a bonus rather than a given. 'Our biggest worry was that we'd go on the show and none of the residents were going to be interested in us.' Finally, having successful group sex has strengthened the couple's relationship, even though they thought the show might have the opposite effect. 'Lauren told me afterwards that she thought that the show was going to break our relationship,' Tom said. 'Instead, it's made me realise that I do really want this type of lifestyle. I like the after effects like cuddle and the stories. Plus, it's a way for me to learn new things to bring back to our bed. 'Our sex life now is so good. I didn't imagine this would happen. 'It's brought us closer together. It's really given us our spark back.' Parental woes 12 12 One downside about going on Open House, for a lot of people, is that it shows explicit sex scenes - and there's the possibility of parents watching. But for Lauren and Tom, they were shocked to discover their parents were very supportive and were even considering watching their episodes. She said: 'I was actually pleasantly surprised by the reaction of both our mums. They were so supportive. 'It's not a show they would normally watch and we've explained to them how explicit it is. We suggested they watch the previous serious to make a decision on if they'd actually want to watch us on the show. 'Obviously we can't stop them from watching if they want to. 'Our dads weren't really bothered, but have said 'good for you'.' The couple hope that the show will help people understand that being in an open relationship doesn't mean you'll have sex with everyone. 'People seem to think that we're at orgies with thousands of people every weekend and that's just not the case,' Lauren said. 'We like to get to know someone before we jump into bed with them. It's no different from being single and having a one-night stand. 12
