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Wall Street Journal
01-08-2025
- Entertainment
- Wall Street Journal
‘Please Yell at My Kids' Review: A World of Parenting Tips
Marina Lopes suspects that many Americans would be horrified by the 'birth parties' popular in Brazil, at which expectant mothers host guests—sometimes dozens of them—in their hospital delivery rooms. In some cases, friends and relatives observe scheduled caesarean sections from viewing galleries. In 'Please Yell at My Kids: What Cultures Around the World Can Teach You About Parenting in Community, Raising Independent Kids, and Not Losing Your Mind,' Ms. Lopes contrasts such gatherings with the seclusion typical of childbirth in the United States. Attending a festive birth event in São Paulo, she hears the newborn's grandmother, holding both the infant and a glass of wine, tell her grandson, 'you see, darling. Life's a party.' Ms. Lopes, a journalist who was born in Brazil and raised in Miami, samples a range of parenting approaches from around the world. Her own is included: During the Covid-19 pandemic, Ms. Lopes moved with her husband and children from Florida to Singapore, where they joined their closest friends for an arrangement in which the families would share 'childcare, playdates, and parenting each other's kids.' In the episode that gives the book its title, Ms. Lopes watched as her child was admonished by one of the other parents for his misbehavior. Such an outsourcing of family discipline would make her American acquaintances 'uneasy,' she writes, but she values it as part of belonging to a 'proverbial village.'
Yahoo
10-07-2025
- General
- Yahoo
You've become the parent you always needed. Why that's so bittersweet — and how to work through it.
In between the chaos and the joy of parenting is something that doesn't typically come up in everyday conversation: The ability to break cycles and rewrite the script by becoming the parent you needed as a child. There's healing in that, but also a surprising amount of grief when it hits you that no one did this for you growing up. So many parents, whether they realize it or not, are reparenting themselves while raising their own kids. In the seventh episode of their podcast, After Bedtime With Big Little Feelings, Big Little Feelings founders Deena Margolin, a child therapist specializing in interpersonal neurobiology, and Kristin Gallant, a parenting coach with a background in maternal and child education, wade into some emotionally deep waters: How do you handle the complex emotions that come up when you realize you're giving your child something you wish your own parents had been able to give you? Margolin shares her advice for navigating these hard moments for Yahoo's "" column. There's a part of parenting we don't talk about enough: the part where you finally become the parent you always needed — and it feels both healing and heartbreaking at the same time. When you sit on the floor during your child's meltdown, stay calm and choose connection over control, it's beautiful. But sometimes, in that quiet moment, a whisper sneaks in: Damn. No one ever did this for me. That ache? That's grief. And it can catch you off guard because parenting isn't just about raising your child. It's also about meeting the parts of you that were never held, never heard, never safe. It's realizing you are actively giving your child something you didn't get — and that's complicated. There's healing in it. There's power in it. But there's also a sadness — a soft, quiet grief for your own younger self. And here's the thing most people miss: Both can be true and exist at once. You can grieve and still keep going. You can feel sad and still show up. You can hurt and still heal. This is what cycle breaking actually looks like. It's not picture-perfect parenting. It's not always feeling good. It's staying in the game even when your heart aches. Because every time you pause, take a breath and choose connection? You're not just parenting your child. You're reparenting yourself. You're sending a message back through time: 'You deserved this kind of love too.' 'Of course this is hard. I'm giving what I never got.' (Naming why it's hard softens the shame.) 'It's OK to grieve the love I needed and still give the love they need.' (Holding grief and giving at the same time.) 'I am building something no one built for me.' (Validates the bravery and the weight of cycle breaking.) 'I am loving them the way I always deserved to be loved.' (Connects the action to your inner child directly.) 'I'm not just raising them. I'm raising me, too.' (Powerful reframe that honors reparenting as an active process.) 'This is the part where I get to become who I needed.' (Invites empowerment and possibility in the grief moment.) It's made me a softer, more compassionate and more self-aware version of myself. I am allowed to feel sad, mad, frustrated and scared. It doesn't make me weak, it makes me human. And the more I've embraced my own emotions, needs and imperfections, the happier, more loving and more patient I've become as a parent. Learning how to show up for little me has helped me show up for them. If I could whisper one thing to my younger self, it would be this: You were never too much. You were just waiting for someone who could handle your big feelings with love, understanding and safety. And now? That someone is me. And maybe that's the most powerful part: Becoming the parent you always needed doesn't erase what you went through, but it does create something your child — and your inner child — can stand on. Something solid. Something safe. Something better. Not perfect. Just brave. One moment at a time.
Yahoo
09-07-2025
- General
- Yahoo
You've become the parent you always needed. Why that's so bittersweet — and how to work through it.
In between the chaos and the joy of parenting is something that doesn't typically come up in everyday conversation: The ability to break cycles and rewrite the script by becoming the parent you needed as a child. There's healing in that, but also a surprising amount of grief when it hits you that no one did this for you growing up. So many parents, whether they realize it or not, are reparenting themselves while raising their own kids. In the seventh episode of their podcast, After Bedtime With Big Little Feelings, Big Little Feelings founders Deena Margolin, a child therapist specializing in interpersonal neurobiology, and Kristin Gallant, a parenting coach with a background in maternal and child education, wade into some emotionally deep waters: How do you handle the complex emotions that come up when you realize you're giving your child something you wish your own parents had been able to give you? Margolin shares her advice for navigating these hard moments for Yahoo's "" column. There's a part of parenting we don't talk about enough: the part where you finally become the parent you always needed — and it feels both healing and heartbreaking at the same time. When you sit on the floor during your child's meltdown, stay calm and choose connection over control, it's beautiful. But sometimes, in that quiet moment, a whisper sneaks in: Damn. No one ever did this for me. That ache? That's grief. And it can catch you off guard because parenting isn't just about raising your child. It's also about meeting the parts of you that were never held, never heard, never safe. It's realizing you are actively giving your child something you didn't get — and that's complicated. There's healing in it. There's power in it. But there's also a sadness — a soft, quiet grief for your own younger self. And here's the thing most people miss: Both can be true and exist at once. You can grieve and still keep going. You can feel sad and still show up. You can hurt and still heal. This is what cycle breaking actually looks like. It's not picture-perfect parenting. It's not always feeling good. It's staying in the game even when your heart aches. Because every time you pause, take a breath and choose connection? You're not just parenting your child. You're reparenting yourself. You're sending a message back through time: 'You deserved this kind of love too.' 'Of course this is hard. I'm giving what I never got.' (Naming why it's hard softens the shame.) 'It's OK to grieve the love I needed and still give the love they need.' (Holding grief and giving at the same time.) 'I am building something no one built for me.' (Validates the bravery and the weight of cycle breaking.) 'I am loving them the way I always deserved to be loved.' (Connects the action to your inner child directly.) 'I'm not just raising them. I'm raising me, too.' (Powerful reframe that honors reparenting as an active process.) 'This is the part where I get to become who I needed.' (Invites empowerment and possibility in the grief moment.) It's made me a softer, more compassionate and more self-aware version of myself. I am allowed to feel sad, mad, frustrated and scared. It doesn't make me weak, it makes me human. And the more I've embraced my own emotions, needs and imperfections, the happier, more loving and more patient I've become as a parent. Learning how to show up for little me has helped me show up for them. If I could whisper one thing to my younger self, it would be this: You were never too much. You were just waiting for someone who could handle your big feelings with love, understanding and safety. And now? That someone is me. And maybe that's the most powerful part: Becoming the parent you always needed doesn't erase what you went through, but it does create something your child — and your inner child — can stand on. Something solid. Something safe. Something better. Not perfect. Just brave. One moment at a time.
The Sun
25-06-2025
- Health
- The Sun
Mum issues urgent warning about popular silicone bowls as she admits 18-month-old daughter was ‘suffocated' by hers
A MUM has issued an urgent warning to other parents following a terrifying incident that gave her the "fright of my life". The woman explained that her 18-month-old daughter was sitting next to her on the sofa as she tucked into a bowl of porridge - which had been served up in a silicone bowl. 2 2 The bowls are popular among parents thanks to how easy they are to wash up, and the fact they can suction to plastic surfaces such as highchair trays. But as the mum was eating her breakfast, she heard a "weird noise", like a "muffled scream", coming from her daughter. She immediately turned to see what was wrong, and found that the "silicone bowl she was eating out of had suctioned to her face and she couldn't get it off". "She was trying to pull it off and was panicking because it would budge," she continued. "It was stuck hard! "I grabbed it as soon as I saw and pulled it off her face and she instantly burst into tears." She added that she never leaves her children when they're eating because of "choking reasons", but admitted "what I didn't expect was she could get suffocated by her bowl!". "I've never moved so fast in my life and been so scared!" she said. "It would have only been on her face for about 5 seconds, but the thought of what would have happened if I wasn't in the room and she had of had it stuck for a lot longer is terrifying!" In her post in The Mum's Lounge Facebook group, she urged other mums and dads to "be so careful" with the bowls, or "better yet, don't use them!". "This is the only silicone dish I have and I'll be chucking it out after this," she concluded. "I saw this happen to some other mum maybe last year," one person commented on the post. "After I read that, I threw all of my silicone bowls in the bin. "It's so scary. It can only take a split second!" "I have this bowl and my son slurps his cereal out of it," another admitted. "It's going in the bin now!" "They shouldn't be sold at all," a third insisted. "Your bub isn't the first & won't be the last to be suctioned to a silicone bowl face first." "Yea I only used those during the 'throwing things stage' and only in the high chair stuck to the tray," someone else commented. "I've seen posts like this and they have warnings as well not to use them unless get are stuck down.
Yahoo
18-05-2025
- Health
- Yahoo
Young Mom of Baby Is Annoyed with Doctor's Parenting Tip: ‘It Was Out of Order and an Arrogant Thing to Say'
A Mumsnet user is wondering if she should confront her baby's doctor about a piece of unsolicited parenting advice he offered The young mom recalled that the doctor said, 'Parenting tip here for you: Do not let them look at your phone' 'I'd find it patronizing,' another Mumsnet user repliedJust what the doctor ordered isn't making one young mom feel better. The mom detailed a recent doctor's visit on the U.K.-based community forum Mumsnet, where she shared a general practitioner's unsolicited parenting tip. 'I took my baby to a doctor's appointment regarding a rash under their chin after beginning weaning. My baby was lying on the bed and we needed them to look up so the doctor could see,' she wrote, before adding that she dangled her keys and phone's screensaver in the air. 'My baby smiled and looked up, so this worked,' she continued. 'The doctor glanced for half a second under her chin and said straight-faced, 'Parenting tip here for you: Do not let them look at your phone.' I laughed thinking it was a joke, but it was obvious from his expression that it wasn't.' The doctor's comment took the mother by surprise. 'I feel a bit annoyed to be honest. Even if I were playing cartoons, he is there to look at a medical concern and not comment on anything else,' she said, noting that she left her husband in the car and now wonders if the male doctor would have made the same statement if he were in the room. 'I do think it was out of order and an arrogant thing to say,' the mom confessed, before asking if it would be unreasonable to confront the doctor. is now available in the Apple App Store! Download it now for the most binge-worthy celeb content, exclusive video clips, astrology updates and more! In a Mumsnet poll under her post, 87 percent of the nearly 200 voters selected 'You are being unreasonable' as their voting option. 'Let it go — it's just advice you don't agree with,' one reader replied. However, another person disagreed, commenting, 'I'd find it patronizing, but I don't know if I'd be pissed off enough to make a complaint.' Read the original article on People
