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Yahoo
10 hours ago
- General
- Yahoo
Your Daily Couples Horoscope for June 01, 2025
Communication is key in any relationship, but sometimes things fall through the cracks. Our daily couple horoscope can help you find what's been lost and maintain that spark! Try not to worry about your partner's ever-changing moods. They aren't going to make any serious decisions without you, and most likely they'll snap right back to where they started soon. Your partner will be incredibly giving and helpful today, so much so that you might suspect something is up! Leave your worries behind, though, because it's all completely genuine. It's hard for you to be satisfied with the current situation, but fortunately you're going to hit on a hot new idea that should make life a lot more interesting for you and your partner. Even though you're feeling great (and maybe a little frisky), you might drift off into a daydream when your partner is talking. Be ready to snap back with a response when it's called for. See if you can find a way to double-check with your partner about your recent discussion. You might have very different impressions. It'll take a while, but you can hammer it out together. Feeling lost with your career? Guidance is one click away! Don't be surprised if your partner isn't ready to go when you both agreed to. It's one of those days when it seems like you're using different clocks. Your patience will be rewarded. Your partner might get a little frustrated with you today, but only if they're expecting you to make a decision. That will be hard for you thanks to your ability to see both sides of any issue. You can make little changes that will surprise and delight your partner even though nobody else will notice. That imagination of yours is incredibly powerful when it's on, like now. Make sure your partner is handling any important details that can't be avoided. You're not going to have much of a head for them, and you could even lose the most important ones! You'll probably have an easier time with things today than your partner will, so see if you can find a way to help them push through whatever they need to do before going to sleep. Money issues could cause stress today, but most likely a short-term spending limit will be all it takes to ease the pressure. Make sure your partner is okay with the solution you prefer. Lend a hand before your partner asks for it. You'll be able to see just what's needed before they even realize what's going on. You may want to sweep in like a romantic hero! Find your cosmic purpose. Receive personalized astrological guidance with Astrology+.
Yahoo
12 hours ago
- Health
- Yahoo
My mother says she'll disinherit me unless I split with my partner. What should I do?
I have been with my partner for 14 years and we have two small children together. I have always had a complicated relationship with my mother, who was a stern disciplinarian when I was growing up, and is deeply sensitive and lacks social confidence. I too am probably overly sensitive and get anxious. My partner believes that my mother doesn't think she is good enough for me. There have been numerous hints that this is the case, and she recently told me she was surprised when I started a relationship with someone whom she considers to be of 'a different class'. My partner wants nothing to do with my mother and has not spoken to her in a couple of years. I was estranged for around a year and a half after my mother offered to help us through a period of financial difficulty in the early years of having children, but only if I officially separated from my partner and her parents matched the contribution. We recently reconciled, at which point my mother told my father that she would commit suicide if she were held responsible for the estrangement. Most recently my mother has taken the position that she will cut me out of her will if my partner continues her estrangement. I feel my partner should be entitled to do what she wants, and that we should present a united front. I am really struggling with what I see as manipulation at a time when I am trying to do the best for my children, and am considering walking away again. Would that be doing the right thing? Walking away from family is never easy; it's rarely The End. If this relationship were between partners we would categorise it, quite correctly, as coercive and abusive. Yet we often fail to see the very same traits in familial relationships. That said, it's important we remember that your mum's money is hers to do what she wants with and none us are 'due' an inheritance. Unfortunately, as in so many letters I get, your mother is using her money as a way of – very effectively – controlling you. The thing is, this will never end if you give in to her now. It may be fine for a while, but then there will be another thing she wants you to do, and she'll use additional threats to try to get it. If you need money it may be easier, and cost you less in the long run, to borrow it from an institution. If you can detach and see this for what it is – not love, but manipulation – it may help free you I went to UKCP-registered psychotherapist Joanne Hipplewith to discuss your letter. 'There seems to be a lack of separation in your relationship with your mother, and during times of need this is enacted in unhelpful ways,' she says. 'At times, your mother is unable to take responsibility for her statements and their consequences.' Any threats of suicide should be taken seriously, but in the context you shared you can't be held responsible for her words or her actions. If you've been brought up with a controlling mother (I imagine she's always been like this?), then this probably feels familiar, par for the course. But if you can detach and see this for what it is – not love, but manipulation – it may help free you, because what tethers you is the pull of money and the hope of love (and don't confuse money for love). I'm not saying she doesn't love you, but this behaviour is not loving. Related: My mum won't let me have a smartphone. Is she being unfair? | Ask Annalisa Barbieri Hipplewith also said something very pertinent, which is worth remembering when we grapple for a definitively right path: 'Your decision will be difficult, but even so, it does not mean you have done the wrong thing. In family life, and living, there are no right or wrong decisions. We tend to operate in the grey, and do what is best for us right now and hope the future is better or different.' Easier said than done, but you should resign yourself to getting no money and then decide what you want to do. It would be a strong power move for you and your family to tell your mum she must, of course, do what she wishes with her money but that it won't dictate what you do. Remember, otherwise it won't stop here and there will be other demands. And anyway, there isn't any guarantee of love, or money, at the end of it. You don't need to walk away from your mother, but do walk away from her money. • In the UK and Ireland, Samaritans can be contacted on freephone 116 123, or email jo@ or jo@ In the US, you can call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline on 988, chat on or text HOME to 741741 to connect with a crisis counsellor. In Australia, the crisis support service Lifeline is 13 11 14. Other international helplines can be found at • Every week, Annalisa Barbieri addresses a personal problem sent in by a reader. If you would like advice from Annalisa, please send your problem to Annalisa regrets she cannot enter into personal correspondence. Submissions are subject to our terms and conditions. The latest series of Annalisa's podcast is available here. • Comments on this piece are pre-moderated to ensure the discussion remains on the topics raised by the article. Please be aware that there may be a short delay in comments appearing on the site.
The Guardian
12 hours ago
- Health
- The Guardian
My mother says she'll disinherit me unless I split with my partner. What should I do?
I have been with my partner for 14 years and we have two small children together. I have always had a complicated relationship with my mother, who was a stern disciplinarian when I was growing up, and is deeply sensitive and lacks social confidence. I too am probably overly sensitive and get anxious. My partner believes that my mother doesn't think she is good enough for me. There have been numerous hints that this is the case, and she recently told me she was surprised when I started a relationship with someone whom she considers to be of 'a different class'. My partner wants nothing to do with my mother and has not spoken to her in a couple of years. I was estranged for around a year and a half after my mother offered to help us through a period of financial difficulty in the early years of having children, but only if I officially separated from my partner and her parents matched the contribution. We recently reconciled, at which point my mother told my father that she would commit suicide if she were held responsible for the estrangement. Most recently my mother has taken the position that she will cut me out of her will if my partner continues her estrangement. I feel my partner should be entitled to do what she wants, and that we should present a united front. I am really struggling with what I see as manipulation at a time when I am trying to do the best for my children, and am considering walking away again. Would that be doing the right thing? Walking away from family is never easy; it's rarely The End. If this relationship were between partners we would categorise it, quite correctly, as coercive and abusive. Yet we often fail to see the very same traits in familial relationships. That said, it's important we remember that your mum's money is hers to do what she wants with and none us are 'due' an inheritance. Unfortunately, as in so many letters I get, your mother is using her money as a way of – very effectively – controlling you. The thing is, this will never end if you give in to her now. It may be fine for a while, but then there will be another thing she wants you to do, and she'll use additional threats to try to get it. If you need money it may be easier, and cost you less in the long run, to borrow it from an institution. I went to UKCP-registered psychotherapist Joanne Hipplewith to discuss your letter. 'There seems to be a lack of separation in your relationship with your mother, and during times of need this is enacted in unhelpful ways,' she says. 'At times, your mother is unable to take responsibility for her statements and their consequences.' Any threats of suicide should be taken seriously, but in the context you shared you can't be held responsible for her words or her actions. If you've been brought up with a controlling mother (I imagine she's always been like this?), then this probably feels familiar, par for the course. But if you can detach and see this for what it is – not love, but manipulation – it may help free you, because what tethers you is the pull of money and the hope of love (and don't confuse money for love). I'm not saying she doesn't love you, but this behaviour is not loving. Sign up to Inside Saturday The only way to get a look behind the scenes of the Saturday magazine. Sign up to get the inside story from our top writers as well as all the must-read articles and columns, delivered to your inbox every weekend. after newsletter promotion Hipplewith also said something very pertinent, which is worth remembering when we grapple for a definitively right path: 'Your decision will be difficult, but even so, it does not mean you have done the wrong thing. In family life, and living, there are no right or wrong decisions. We tend to operate in the grey, and do what is best for us right now and hope the future is better or different.' Easier said than done, but you should resign yourself to getting no money and then decide what you want to do. It would be a strong power move for you and your family to tell your mum she must, of course, do what she wishes with her money but that it won't dictate what you do. Remember, otherwise it won't stop here and there will be other demands. And anyway, there isn't any guarantee of love, or money, at the end of it. You don't need to walk away from your mother, but do walk away from her money. In the UK and Ireland, Samaritans can be contacted on freephone 116 123, or email jo@ or jo@ In the US, you can call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline on 988, chat on or text HOME to 741741 to connect with a crisis counsellor. In Australia, the crisis support service Lifeline is 13 11 14. Other international helplines can be found at Every week, Annalisa Barbieri addresses a personal problem sent in by a reader. If you would like advice from Annalisa, please send your problem to Annalisa regrets she cannot enter into personal correspondence. Submissions are subject to our terms and conditions. The latest series of Annalisa's podcast is available here. Comments on this piece are pre-moderated to ensure the discussion remains on the topics raised by the article. Please be aware that there may be a short delay in comments appearing on the site.
Yahoo
a day ago
- Lifestyle
- Yahoo
Woman Says She Is 'Disappointed' by Her Partner's Reaction After Their Friend Shoved Her at His Birthday Party: 'No Excuse'
A woman wrote in a post on Mumsnet that she felt let down by her partner's reaction after their friend got physical with her at a birthday party The woman said her partner defended the friend because "he's going through a divorce" and "his mom just died" "I told him his response showed how he's prioritizing his friendship over me," the woman wrote on the U.K.-based forumA woman is feeling let down by her partner for how he reacted when their friend got physical with her at a birthday party. In a post on the U.K.-based forum Mumsnet, the woman said she recently threw a celebration for her partner "with all his friends and family," and it "went off (largely) without a hitch." However, she explained that things took a turn for the worse when a couple they "are both very good friends with" showed up. Detailing that the pair "are currently going through a divorce," the woman continued, "It's largely amicable, however, the husband has started drinking quite a bit more and can get very aggressive." Adding that the man is "loud and quite broad," the woman also said he can be "quite traditional when it comes to gender roles, but this only ever seems to be picked up by women and not the men in his life.' Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. According to the woman, she and the man have "always had an odd relationship" and there have been tense moments, including times when she's criticized him "for how he's spoken to me or his wife." One such occurrence happened during the birthday party for her partner, the woman said, as the man "started drinking quite heavily and being quite loud and obnoxious to other guests" as soon as he and his soon-to-be ex-wife arrived. At one point during the event, the woman was checking in on all the guests to make sure they were doing okay. But, when she got to the man's table, the woman said, "He turned to me, told me to 'f--- off' and with both hands shoved me so hard I almost lost my footing." Detailing that "only a couple of people" saw the altercation, the woman pushed it aside until she and her partner returned to their home later that night. "I was a little disappointed at his reaction," she wrote, adding that her partner defended the man because 'he's going through a divorce" and "his mom just died." The PEOPLE Puzzler crossword is here! How quickly can you solve it? Play now! Still, the woman told her partner that "there was no excuse" and she "could have been seriously hurt." She also told him that she was going to address the incident with the friend and how she felt she "deserved an apology" if her partner didn't do it himself. But, "two weeks" went by, because the woman said her partner "struggles with confrontation" — despite being her "biggest champion" and "a wonderful person." "I told him his response showed how he's prioritizing his friendship over me, and that if he'd just dealt with it immediately, then we would have already moved on," the woman wrote. "But I'm still not convinced he even gets my perspective on this, and it's really making me rethink our relationship for the first time in a very long time." As the woman concluded her post by writing that "even having to ask him is giving me a case of the ick," she was met with mixed reactions from other Mumsnet users. 'I can see why you are disappointed — I would not be happy with this kind of aggressive behavior, being ignored and minimized,' one person wrote. Another agreed, stating, "It's absolutely the man's job to stand in for his partner and address it and say something. It's normal!' Others, meanwhile, felt that the woman should have said something at the party and resolved the issue in the moment, rather than wait for her significant other to do so later. 'You said you'd raise it if your partner didn't. He hasn't, so why haven't you? You avoided confrontation at the party, and he's avoiding it now,' said one commenter. Read the original article on People
The Sun
2 days ago
- Health
- The Sun
I think about my girlfriend's niece during sex – she turns me on so much more and my self-control won't last much longer
DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner's niece really turns me on. I'm trying to keep away from her, but I can't resist. She's been staying with us and we have kissed. I keep fantasising about sex with her, but fear my partner will find out. What can I do to stop the inevitable happening? My self-control won't last much longer. My partner and I are in our early forties and we have been together for five years. Her niece is 21. She's studying locally and, as rental prices are ridiculous, my partner invited her to live with us in term time. When she arrived, I noticed how attractive she is — slim, with long legs and long, dark hair. I assumed she wouldn't want much to do with me, as she'd be out partying with her student friends. But she seemed keen to be around me, often staying up late to talk when my partner went to bed. Sometimes, I even thought she was flirting, but I told myself it was wishful thinking. Then, one evening, we shared a bottle of wine. She got tipsy and told me she'd always wanted to be with an older man. She moved very close to me on the sofa, then leaned over to kiss me. I have never been so aroused in my life. But, knowing it was wrong, I made my excuses and went up to bed before things could go further. The next day, she kept brushing past me in the kitchen. I thought that I would explode with desire. Since then, I haven't been able to stop thinking about it. During sex with my partner, I imagine I'm with her niece instead. My partner is going away for work soon. I know what's going to happen while she's away. I feel guilty, but I also don't want to turn down what promises to be the best sex of my life. DEIDRE SAYS: It sounds like you want permission to have sex with your partner's niece. I'm afraid I can't give you that. Neither can I give you self-control, you need to find that within yourself. Find something to do that will keep you occupied while your partner is away. Better still, go and visit a friend. As the older, more mature party, you need to talk to your partner's niece and tell her that this can't go any further. Remind her that it's not just a bit of fun. You're risking her relationship with her aunt, and yours with your partner. It's hardly a kind way to pay back her aunt's generosity in allowing her to stay. Perhaps you should also ask her to find somewhere else to live as soon as possible. THANK YOU FOR HELPING ME WITH ALCOHOLIC HUBBY DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I reached the end of my tether with my husband's alcohol problem, I wrote to you for help. He was in denial and I couldn't get him to take responsibility. Although I still loved him, I didn't see how I could remain married to a man who no longer had any interest in me, sexually or emotionally. My husband and I are both in our mid-fifties and have been married for 25 years. Since being made redundant during Covid, his life had revolved around alcohol. He drank every day, had stopped seeing friends and even talking to me. You acknowledged how unhealthy our relationship had become and said my husband sounded depressed. You advised that he needed to go to his GP, and recommended that we both saw a counsellor. You suggested I read your support packs, Dealing With Depression, How Counselling Can Help and Dealing With A Problem Drinker. I had a big talk with him and told him I would leave if he didn't get help. He finally agreed to see his doctor and is now drinking far less and being more affectionate. Thank you. DEIDRE SAYS: I'm glad things have improved. Overcoming alcohol addiction isn't easy, but it sounds like he is on the right path. WE SPLIT UP MONTHS AGO BUT HE WON'T MOVE OUT DEAR DEIDRE: ALMOST a year after we broke up, my ex and I are still living together. He won't move out or get back together, or even discuss the future. It's left me in limbo. We're in our mid-thirties and have a young son together. I always thought we'd get married one day. However, things grew tough after our son was born. We drifted apart, no longer had sex and bickered a lot over money. I resented doing all the housework and most of the childcare. Ten months ago, even though I love him, I told him that I thought we should split up because neither of us was happy, and he agreed. However, since then nothing has changed. He's sleeping in the spare room, but he hasn't moved out, and I still do all the washing, cooking and cleaning. I worry it's confusing for our son. I've asked him if he wants to get back together and try again, but he says he's not sure yet. It feels like he's taking advantage of having a nice home without having to make any effort with me. Should I wait for him to make up his mind, or should I find a way to get him to leave and move on with my life? DEIDRE SAYS: Your ex seems to be using the fact that you still have feelings for him and would be happy to get back together. He believes he can bide his time until he decides what he wants. But by not making a decision, I think he's given you an answer: Nothing has changed. If he really wanted you back, he'd make a big effort. It's time for you to be decisive. Perhaps you need to give him an ultimatum, for your son's sake, and stick to it. Couples counselling could be helpful, either to resolve things or to split. See my support pack, How Counselling Can Help, for more information. TEENAGE TROUBLES DEAR DEIDRE: IT was annoying when my bisexual friend kept holding my hand and telling me we'd make a cute couple but I didn't say anything as I didn't want to hurt her feelings. However, now another friend has told me she's been going round telling people I'm in love with her. I don't know what to do. We're 17-year-old girls and at sixth form college. I was supportive of my friend when she came out as bi but I'm straight and not interested. And I don't like having lies spread about me. Tell her it's making you feel uncomfortable and ask her to stop. Make it clear that you value her friendship but aren't interested in anything more. My support pack, Standing Up For Yourself, should help you have this conversation without making her too defensive. Porn ruined partner's sexual appetite DEAR DEIDRE: PORN has ruined my sex life with my partner – but he denies he has a problem. When we get intimate, it's over in two minutes because I know he has been secretly pleasuring himself. I love him, but I can't go on like this. We've been together for ten years, and he's had an issue with porn for the last couple. Before that, we had a great sex life. Now, he's rarely interested. He used to get turned on just by kissing me. Now, it takes more and more to get him aroused – he wants to try things that I don't enjoy or to make me dress up. It makes me feel unattractive and rejected. Once, I caught him watching porn in the spare room and told him I was worried. He said it wasn't an issue and he'd stop. But I know he lied. He often disappears for half an hour at a time, saying he has something important to do. How can I get him to stop and get our sex life back to the way it was? DEIDRE SAYS: Watching a lot of porn is now known to have an impact on both sexual appetite and function. And when someone's porn habit starts to interfere with their sex life and relationship – and they lie about it – it's a sign of an addiction. Your partner can get help to overcome this, but first he needs to admit he has a problem. Talk to him again and make it clear you can't continue in the relationship unless something changes. My support packs, Upset By Pornography? and Is Porn Ruining Your Life?, both have more advice and sources of help.
