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The Guardian
23-07-2025
- Health
- The Guardian
After 15 years of premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction, will I ever satisfy my wife?
I am a 48-year-old man. Both my wife and I come from a conservative background; we believe that sex before marriage is a sin and saved ourselves until we got married in our early 30s. Before getting married, I masturbated but never had any real sex. Our first night turned out to be a disaster. I couldn't get an erection. However, as the days passed, we managed to have sex but not to my wife's satisfaction, because I finished within 30 seconds of penetration. I think I suffer from both erectile dysfunction (ED) and premature ejaculation (PE). My ED is not consistent – I have been prescribed Viagra and use it sometimes – but my PE continues, and is taking a toll on us. My wife is uninterested in sex because she doesn't get anything out of it. It has been about 15 years now and we have two kids but our sex life has not improved. I tried couples counselling but that was more about building a bond between us (which I believe is not an issue as we love each other and can't think about being with someone else). The only missing piece in our life is satisfying sex. I would do anything to satisfy my wife but I am feeling helpless. This may seem radical to you, but a woman does not need a penis in order to be satisfied. I recommend that you learn how to give her an orgasm before you penetrate her. There are many places to find instruction about doing this, but basically you need to learn where her clitoris is and how you can touch her in an arousing and ultimately satisfying manner. Embarking on this type of exploration may seem daunting but if you can approach it as a loving couple you may be successful. Of course, your wife will have to be willing to work on this, so you will have to talk to her first and be sure she consents. The best way forward would really be to work as a couple with a good sex therapist, who could also treat your early ejaculation. Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a US-based psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders. If you would like advice from Pamela on sexual matters, send us a brief description of your concerns to (please don't send attachments). Each week, Pamela chooses one problem to answer, which will be published online. She regrets that she cannot enter into personal correspondence. Submissions are subject to our terms and conditions.
The Guardian
22-07-2025
- Health
- The Guardian
After 15 years of premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction, will I ever satisfy my wife?
I am a 48-year-old man. Both my wife and I come from a conservative background; we believe that sex before marriage is a sin and saved ourselves until we got married in our early 30s. Before getting married, I masturbated but never had any real sex. Our first night turned out to be a disaster. I couldn't get an erection. However, as the days passed, we managed to have sex but not to my wife's satisfaction, because I finished within 30 seconds of penetration. I think I suffer from both erectile dysfunction (ED) and premature ejaculation (PE). My ED is not consistent – I have been prescribed Viagra and use it sometimes – but my PE continues, and is taking a toll on us. My wife is uninterested in sex because she doesn't get anything out of it. It has been about 15 years now and we have two kids but our sex life has not improved. I tried couples counselling but that was more about building a bond between us (which I believe is not an issue as we love each other and can't think about being with someone else). The only missing piece in our life is satisfying sex. I would do anything to satisfy my wife but I am feeling helpless. This may seem radical to you, but a woman does not need a penis in order to be satisfied. I recommend that you learn how to give her an orgasm before you penetrate her. There are many places to find instruction about doing this, but basically you need to learn where her clitoris is and how you can touch her in an arousing and ultimately satisfying manner. Embarking on this type of exploration may seem daunting but if you can approach it as a loving couple you may be successful. Of course, your wife will have to be willing to work on this, so you will have to talk to her first and be sure she consents. The best way forward would really be to work as a couple with a good sex therapist, who could also treat your early ejaculation. Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a US-based psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders. If you would like advice from Pamela on sexual matters, send us a brief description of your concerns to (please don't send attachments). Each week, Pamela chooses one problem to answer, which will be published online. She regrets that she cannot enter into personal correspondence. Submissions are subject to our terms and conditions.
Health Line
23-06-2025
- Health
- Health Line
Here's Why Rubbing Toothpaste on Your Penis Won't Make You Last Longer
Some people claim that putting toothpaste on your penis could help reduce premature ejaculation. But no research supports this, and it may even cause severe complications. Premature ejaculation (PE) refers to the release of ejaculatory fluid sooner than you or your partner would like. It affects around 3 in 10 people with a penis. Sometimes, PE is defined as ejaculating sooner than 2 minutes after beginning penetrative sex, but there's no consensus on the definition of PE, meaning there's no set amount of time. Some people on YouTube and internet blogs suggest that rubbing toothpaste on your penis can help eliminate PE, maintain erections for 30 minutes, and cure erectile dysfunction (ED). However, no research supports these purported benefits, and rubbing toothpaste may lead to severe complications. Keep reading to learn more about this myth, why rubbing toothpaste on your penis may be dangerous, and some safe alternatives to consider instead. Toothpaste may damage your penis According to urologist Paul C. Thur, MD, putting toothpaste on genitalia may be dangerous. 'If it did nothing, fine, there'd be no risk in trying it,' he said. 'But toothpaste has chemicals, bleach, and oils, such as peppermint oil, that are caustic and can burn sensitive skin.' In some cases, applying toothpaste to your skin may lead to severe complications that could require emergency medical attention. 'If you have a break in your skin, you may even get cellulitis, a potentially serious bacterial infection,' Thur added. 'In some instances, this can cause disfigurement, such as penile scarring. All of this can lead to loss of sensation.' Putting toothpaste on your penis before sexual activity can also adversely affect your partner. The chemicals and bleaching agents in toothpaste can irritate or cause an infection to occur within the vagina, penile area, or anus. When to connect with a doctor As common as it is, PE is not completely understood. It has many potential causes, which may be biological, psychological, or both. PE may be classified as lifelong (primary) or acquired (secondary): Lifelong PE: PE occurs all or most of the time, and that started with your earliest sexual encounters. Acquired PE: Ejaculatory issues start later on in life, after months or years of sexual activity. PE is not life threatening. If this condition only affects you occasionally and doesn't cause undue stress to you or your partner, seeking treatment may not be necessary. However, you may want to consider contacting a doctor or therapist if PE is affecting your: quality of life self-esteem relationship A healthcare professional could help develop an appropriate treatment plan for you, which may include a combination of natural remedies, psychological therapies, and medications. When to get immediate medical attention If you have already applied toothpaste onto your penis and experience any of the following symptoms, consider getting immediate medical attention: pain burning blistering rash difficulty passing urine
Daily Mail
12-05-2025
- Health
- Daily Mail
Scientists pinpoint the personality traits that stop men being bad at sex and helps them last longer
It's been discovered that less impulsive men are more likely to last longer in bed. According to a study in Turkey, qualities such as being a good planner, practice patience, and approaching situations without urgency make males less likely to suffer extreme premature ejaculation. Meanwhile, guys act on their impulses lack stamina during intimate situations. Researchers divided 80 men, aged 18 to 45, into four subgroups: those who suffered with no sexual or psychological problems who ejaculated before sex, within 15 seconds of penetration, within 15 to 30 seconds, and within 30 to 60 seconds. Those with the shortest times, tended to score highest on impulsivity measures, particularly in the areas of urgency and impulsiveness. They also showed more sensation-seeking behavior and lower dedication to tasks. Researchers suggested there could be a relationship between low self-control and extremely rapid ejaculation, as men who struggle to tame their urges tend to act without thinking and are less likely to be able to delay sexual gratification. Anxiety and depression were also more prevalent among men with the condition. On average, those with the sexual problem scored around six times higher on measures of depression and nearly five times more on anxiety compared to healthier men. Erectile problems coupled with mood disorders are typically treated with antidepressants, however, the researchers suggest approaches that improve self-regulation, such as cognitive behavioral therapy, could help men last longer in bed. Premature ejaculation's when a man climaxes earlier than normal. Studies suggest it normally takes men about five-and-a-half minutes to orgasm during sex. However, for about one in three, it occurs within three minutes. Scientists say that both psychological and physical factors can lead to the problem, including stress, depression, and anxiety. To overcome premature ejaculation, a regimen of tensing and relaxing the pelvic floor muscles, known as Kegel exercises, has been shown to help extend intimacy timings by two minutes. A 2014 study asked male participants to perform the repetitive contractions for an hour, three times a week for 12 weeks. Published in the journal Therapeutic Advances in Urology, a study by Italian doctors from the Sapienza University included 40 men who had dealt with premature ejaculation for much of their lives. By the end of the research, 83 per cent of the patients had gained control of their ejaculatory reflex and were able to 'last' about two minutes and 40 seconds longer than the average duration at the start of the study.
Daily Mail
09-05-2025
- Health
- Daily Mail
Scientists pinpoint the personality traits that may help men last longer in bed
Less impulsive men are more likely to last longer in bed, a study has found. Being a good planner, practicing patience and approaching situations without urgency are all qualities that make men less likely to suffer extreme premature ejaculation, according to Turkish researchers. Meanwhile those who often act on their impulses lack stamina during intimate situations. The scientists divided 80 men aged 18 to 45 into four subgroups: those who suffered no sexual or psychological problems, those who ejaculated before sex, within 15 seconds after penetration, within 15 to 30 seconds, and within 30 to 60 seconds. Those with the shortest times tended to score highest on impulsivity measures, particularly in the areas of urgency and impulsiveness. They also showed more sensation-seeking behavior and lower dedication to tasks. Researchers suggested there could be a relationship between low self-control and extremely rapid ejaculation, as men who struggle to tame their urges tend to act without thinking and are less likely to be able to delay sexual gratification. Anxiety and depression were also more prevalent among men with the condition. On average, those with the sexual problem scored roughly six times higher on measures of depression and nearly five times more on anxiety compared to healthy men. Erectile problems that are coupled with mood disorders are typically treated with antidepressants. However, the researchers suggested approaches that improve self-regulation—such as cognitive behavioural therapy—could help men last longer in bed. Premature ejaculation is when a man climaxes earlier than normal. Up to 30 per cent of men in the UK are said to be affected by the condition. Studies suggest it normally takes men about five-and-a-half minutes to orgasm during sex. But for about one in three, this occurs within three minutes. Scientists say that both psychological and physical factors can lead to the problem, including stress, depression and anxiety. However it is said that a regimen of tensing and relaxing the pelvic floor muscles, known as kegel exercises, has been shown to help extend the length of intimacy by two minutes. One 2014 study asked male participants to perform kegel exercises for an hour three times a week for 12 weeks. In the study, published in the journal Therapeutic Advances in Urology, Italian doctors from the Sapienza Univeristy of Rome included 40 men who had dealt with premature ejaculation for much of their lives. By the end of the study, 83 per cent of the patients had gained control of their ejaculatory reflex and were able to 'last' about two minutes and forty seconds longer than the average duration at the start of the study—about 39 seconds.
