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Yahoo
5 days ago
- General
- Yahoo
Woman Planned a Family Vacation, but Is Having Second Thoughts After Her 23-Year-Old Son Invited His ‘Older' Partner
A woman is no longer excited for a family vacation after finding out her son wants to bring his "older" partner and the partner's nine-year-old child The woman says her son, 23, has been dating his girlfriend for about a year and claims she is 'very controlling' The mom shared her story on a popular community forum to get advice about how she should handle the awkward situationA mom says she is no longer excited for a family vacation after finding out that her son wants to bring his "older" partner and the partner's child. The woman detailed her experience on the 'Am I Being Unreasonable?' forum on the U.K.-based community site a place where women can go to seek input and advice from other women. In her post, the woman shares that she and her husband have three children — two teens and a 23-year-old son — and that they are currently planning a vacation for next Easter in a cosmopolitan city. She says that she was 'really looking forward to' the trip — until she found out that her 23-year-old son wants to bring his partner of about a year along with her nine-year-old child. The original poster (OP) goes on to explain that her son's partner is 'very controlling.' She also says that while the partner's child is a 'sweet kid,' they are also non-verbal and have a number of behavioral issues that are 'generally very tiring.' 'We've only spent a day with [the child] before, and we were all shattered afterwards,' she says. The OP says that while her son doesn't seem to think that bringing his partner and the child on their family vacation is a 'big ask,' the rest of the family is not especially thrilled with the prospect, noting that it will 'change the whole holiday.' 'AIBU [am I being unreasonable]?' the OP asks at the end of her post. Opinions were mixed over whether or not the OP's feelings are valid. One person said they thought excluding a grown child's significant other — especially when the couple will have been dating for nearly two years — is the wrong move. The PEOPLE Puzzler crossword is here! How quickly can you solve it? Play now! "It'd be pretty s----- to exclude a partner of nearly two years,' they said, adding, '[And] with a child with [special needs], babysitting options are very limited, so by excluding her child you would be excluding her.' 'I would tend to agree that if someone's been with your [son] for two years (by that point) that a 'family' holiday includes them,' said someone else. 'You're talking almost a year from now. If you'd include a nine-year-old without additional needs after two years in your family then not including them [instead of] adapting to fit around them, is a bit of a d--- move tbh [to be honest].' Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. Other people, however, said they thought the OP's feelings were completely valid, and noted that bringing a child on a vacation that is otherwise geared for teens and adults, is not ideal, whether the child has special needs or not. 'I think it's reasonable to say that everyone's expectations of this particular holiday are grown-up things, but you can look at going away all together in the future,' one person suggested, adding, 'And then evaluate if you want to at that point if they are still together.' Another person said, 'You could be completely honest with your [son] and tell him that you think it will change the whole nature of the holiday, that the nine-year-old is going to be bored doing the things that everyone else wants to do and that you don't really want to do anything that would appeal to a nine-year-old.' They added, 'Depending on his response, it might be a perfect opportunity to ask him whether he's worried about how [his partner is] going to react to being told 'no' and if he wants to talk to you about it.' Read the original article on People
Telegraph
23-05-2025
- Telegraph
‘My husband spent £60k on his secret fiancé – then was sectioned'
Has a company treated you unfairly? Our Consumer Champion is available to help. For how to contact her click here. Dear Katie, Just before Christmas last year, I suspected that something untoward was going on with my husband. He kept going out for drives in his car at strange times, and I found one or two Apple gift cards in his pocket, which I initially thought nothing of. But then, one day, I decided to open his glove compartment. To my horror, about 60 Apple gift cards fell out. I said nothing, but did a bit more snooping and discovered a series of strange cash withdrawals totalling around £30,000 from his Nationwide current account. I didn't confront him about it, as I was scared about his reaction, but I confided in my adult children. Having discovered the level of withdrawals from his account, I went down to his local branch of Nationwide to report this. I explained to them that there was unusual activity on his account in the form of daily ATM withdrawals of £500 cash, and asked them to look into the Apple gift cards. However, I was told that as he was making the withdrawals from ATMs, it was none of their concern. I was told that since it was his account, he would need to come in himself. A few days, later my children confronted him about it all. He told them that he had been having an affair with a woman he met online. I already knew he liked to go on Facebook and had been commenting underneath various celebrities' posts – including Agnetha from Abba, Susannah Reid and Sandra Bullock. He seemed to believe that they were personally responding to him, which spurred him on to leave more comments. But in January 2024, he received a response to one of his comments from a woman called Natasha, who then began messaging him on a one to one basis. They were chatting on WhatsApp and developed some sort of relationship. He began buying Amazon gift cards and giving them to her – spending £30,000 on these in addition to the Apple gift cards. She said she was going to leave him her entire inheritance and, upsettingly, in the messages she referred to him as her fiance. My husband was in such a state after this conversation that my children took him to hospital and he was sectioned under the Mental Health Act. There he was diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia, which is a rare form of the disease impacting personality, behaviour, language and speech. Unlike other types of dementia, memory loss and concentration problems are less prominent in its early stages, hence why we had not realised there was anything seriously wrong. Once my husband was on the hospital ward, the doctor wrote to Nationwide advising them of the scam and that he was sectioned. Since then, Nationwide seems to have taken the situation seriously and has opened a case with its Financial Crime Department. Bizarrely, they wrote directly to my husband at his home address, even though he is not there. Despite attempts by myself and his children with numerous phone calls and visits to the branch, we have been unable to get Nationwide to understand the extent of the situation. My husband is still sectioned, and due to his rapidly advancing illness, is now unable to communicate verbally. Nationwide has now written to my husband telling him that as he has not responded, they will be closing his account on May 13. Unbelievably, it asked him to visit his local branch with a valid ID, which obviously he cannot do. To date, they have frozen his account but direct debits are still being paid, namely money to run his house and car insurance. If Nationwide closes the account, all these important payments will not be made and with no power of attorney in place, we have no means of accessing money to ensure these payments are met. This has been and continues to be an extremely upsetting situation for our family to find my husband incapacitated so quickly. This upset has been exacerbated by the attitude of Nationwide in offering no assistance at all. – Anon Dear reader, After living what you would have described as a normal married life for so many years, the rug was suddenly pulled out from under your feet just before Christmas last year when you discovered your husband's 'affair'. In an almost unbelievable turn of events, he was then sectioned and diagnosed with a rare form of dementia, which has caused his mental state to rapidly deteriorate to the point where he can no longer speak. He is now receiving one to one care in a home and you say he will never be able to leave due to the degenerative nature of his condition. After uncovering his horrible secret, I imagine you have been left questioning the integrity of the man you thought you knew, with no hope of an explanation. But you have also had to come to terms with the fact that you have lost him forever because he is never coming back from this seemingly sudden illness. I'm so very sorry for your loss and all that you have endured over the past few months. This has felt like a dreadfully sad end to what was otherwise a long and happy life together. I think what's highly likely in retrospect is that your husband's frontotemporal dementia had already kicked in back when he started talking to 'Natasha' on Facebook in January last year. You say he has always been loyal in the past, and all this was extremely out of character, which I totally believe. It is the case that sufferers of frontotemporal dementia can be more vulnerable to scams due to changes in their judgement and decision-making abilities. The disease can also affect a person's ability to manage money and assess risk, perhaps explaining why he was suddenly willing to spend £60,000 on a woman he had never met in person, despite previously having a track record of being faithful and financially prudent. I want to be clear that as an outsider looking in I don't see this episode as an affair at all. It was a cold hard romance scam in which this woman, who was likely part of a criminal enterprise, preyed on your husband at the very moment when he happened to be losing capacity. People like her are highly trained in manipulation, and can often succeed in casting a spell over people with no known mental issues. So I'm afraid that once in her clutches, with his state of mind, he stood little chance of escaping. Since you and your husband have always had separate bank accounts, and you did not set up a lasting power of attorney for each other in case one of you lost capacity, dealing with the aftermath of the scam has been horrendously difficult. You say Nationwide has been extremely unhelpful, which I was sorry to hear, but I'm afraid that it is bound by regulations which state that since you are not named on the account it cannot deal with you. I note that you said your husband did receive a visit from social services last year in relation to a financial matter, however, you were under the impression they were simply warning him about the messages he believed he was sending to the real Sandra Bullock. In fact, I believe this may have actually been triggered by Nationwide following all the unusual activity on his account, as under banking protocols, if it suspects someone is being preyed on and may be losing capacity, then it is able to involve the police/social services. However, social services cleared him as being okay, as did his GP two months before he was sectioned, you say. Since your husband has lost capacity, he cannot consent for me to discuss his account with Nationwide, which has made investigating his case somewhat tricky. Yet although it has been unable to discuss his account in any detail, I was pleased when Nationwide did confirm that his accounts will be safeguarded and will remain open to allow you to make the appropriate Court of Protection application. This is now underway, and I have also received confirmation that once it is in place, or in the event of his death (which you have been warned by doctors may not be too far off), we can retrospectively make a claim for a refund under the Contingent Reimbursement Model, which delivers refunds for scams. Given the situation, I think your husband stands a good chance of getting his money back. Although it won't undo the terrible trauma you've endured in recent months, I know the return of his £60,000 would help, so I'd like to assist you through the process when we're able to proceed. I truly wish you all the best. A Nationwide spokesman said: 'We can't provide customer information on this case (without authority to do so). However, our staff are trained to spot vulnerability indicators and refer customers to our specialist support team, who will review complex cases like this with the utmost care. 'We work closely with local police and refer to social services as appropriate based on the facts of the case. We review all cases on an individual basis to help support victims through really difficult periods.'
Times
18-05-2025
- General
- Times
My partner mocks me, controls me, withholds sex — is she abusing me?
Q. This feels embarrassing to even write. I'm a man in my mid-thirties. I've been with my partner for six years. From the outside everything looks fine, but in private she calls me names, mocks me in front of others, twists things I say and then tells me I'm too sensitive. She won't have sex with me if I've done anything to upset her (which is basically all the time). She monitors who I talk to, accuses me of cheating if I don't reply fast enough, and brings up my past mistakes in every argument. If I push back she becomes even more nasty, so I've stopped challenging her. But here's the thing: she's never hit me. She's just emotional and she's had a hard
The Sun
17-05-2025
- Health
- The Sun
I ‘cured' my partner's ‘miserable husband syndrome' – the 4 warning signs, and how to stop it wrecking your marriage
IRRITABLE, moody, low energy, emotionally withdrawn, snappy, quiet, stressed, angry… If any of these labels apply to the man in your life, they could be suffering from 'miserable husband syndrome'. 4 Bertie Stringer says her husband Sheldon, 47, started suffering from it in 2018 shortly after turning 40. "He went from being the Duracell bunny in terms of energy to being grumpy, demotivated, and just not himself," she tells Sun Health. "It mirrored my perimenopause symptoms but without a label." Thankfully some diet and lifestyle tweaks saved the pair from calling it quits, and they're now happier than ever. But not everyone is so lucky. Bertie and Sheldon, from Hertfordshire, want other couples to be aware of the signs - and potential fixes - before it's too late. While it might not be officially recognised by the medical or psychological community, miserable husband syndrome is something women across the country are familiar with. And couples and relationship therapist Georgina Sturmer says it's a very real phenomenon. She tells Sun Health: 'The concept of 'miserable husband syndrome' is an idea or label that we might attribute to a man, typically in mid or later life, who is experiencing a deterioration in their mood. 'They might be showing increasing signs of stress, anger or anxiety, and their change in mood is interrelated with their relationship, hence the use of the word 'husband'.' While it's not a new phenomenon, research suggests falling testosterone levels in mid and later life could account for some of the symptoms. Sometimes dubbed the ' male menopause ' or the ' manopause ' when testosterone levels decline – medically known as andropause – symptoms can be far reaching. It can cause changes in fat distribution leading to ' moobs ', insomnia, loss of muscle mass and short term memory loss, to name but a few. GP Dr Helen Wall, from The Oaks Family Practice in Bolton, says 'male menopause' can be a really unhelpful term though. 'The advice from the NHS is that while we appreciate that some men do become low in mood, lose their sex drive, get erectile dysfunction, have more emotional physical symptoms in their late 40s to early 50s, we don't generally recognise it as male menopause,' she says. 'In fact, we deem this an unhelpful term, because men lose testosterone at about one per cent a year around the age of 30 to 40 and it doesn't generally cause any problems in itself. 'There are physical and emotional stressors that come with age though. 'As we age, we all increase our risk factors for cardiovascular disease, we all get more overweight, and we have more stress because life's challenging. 'Men need to be aware of that and probably talk more about it.' While the NHS doesn't recognise it, there's no doubt the fallout from this time in men's lives can be seismic. BERTIE Stringer says her husband Sheldon, 47, suffered with miserable husband syndrome in 2018 before starting supplements which changed everything. 'Sheldon had just turned 40,' says Bertie, 50, CEO of DNA Hormonal Health, from Hertfordshire. 'He went from being the Duracell bunny in terms of energy as he was a fitness trainer in a gym to being grumpy, demotivated, and just not himself. 'It mirrored my perimenopause symptoms but without a label. 'We both knew he wasn't depressed but his doctor misunderstood his symptoms and packed him off with the antidepressant fluoxetine, sold under the brand name Prozac. 'As a nutritionist with a clinic full of similar aged men going through the same thing, I knew it was hormone related and when tested, like one in four men over 40, he had low testosterone. 'Once we knew what was going on, he started supplements which made a huge difference.' He was taking Silverback, which contains vitamins B, C, D, as well as zinc, magnesium, creatine, d'aspartic acid, nettle root extract, ashwagandha, tribulus terrestris, saffron flower extract, boron and piperine. There is some evidence to suggest substances like d'aspartic acid can increase testosterone in men. The product also claims to boost energy, improve sleep, provide libido support and assist the immune system, which Sheldon experienced. But it wasn't all down to Silverback, which is taken as a powder mixed with water. 'We also talked a lot which helped,' Bertie adds. 'More divorces happen in the mid 40s than at any other time so sweeping it under the carpet is the worst thing you can do.' Sheldon, who also prioritised sleep and weight training, says having an understanding wife in Bertie made all the difference. 'Feeling so different so suddenly felt really isolating,' he says. 'I felt like talking about it might come across as weakness, or worse - that Bertie would think I was just being moody or difficult. 'That sense of isolation definitely made things harder too. 'When I had my testosterone levels checked and they were in decline, it gave me a sense of reason for why things were like they were. 'It wasn't easy but Bertie and I worked at things. 'It started with small conversations and we made time for things we used to enjoy together, like walks, talking without phones, laughing about nonsense. 'I also started prioritising my own mental and physical wellbeing more. 'If anyone else is feeling like I did or has a husband or partner who's exhibiting the symptoms I did, I'd say don't jump to judgement. 'If your partner seems grumpy or withdrawn, there's probably something deeper going on. 'Create a safe space for honest talk; even if it starts out awkward or uncomfortable. And if you're the one feeling that way, don't stay silent. 'The best relationships grow when both people are willing to listen and show up for each other.' Clinical sexologist Marie Morice sees lots of similar cases. 'I'm incredibly familiar with it, especially among women in midlife who come to me saying things like, 'My husband's so negative lately - it feels like he resents everything, including me',' she says. 'Miserable husband syndrome isn't a clinical diagnosis, but it is a culturally resonant term that captures something very real: when men in long-term relationships, often in their 40s to 60s, seem chronically irritable, disengaged, and emotionally flat. 'It's not necessarily about hating their partner or marriage - it's about feeling stuck, disillusioned, and disconnected from their own sense of purpose or identity. 'One of my clients told me her husband had started sleeping in a separate room, barely spoke to her, and only seemed animated when watching football or was scrolling through his phone. 'It's like he checked out of our life.' The syndrome often surfaces in men between 45 and 60, especially after major life milestones - which Marie says exhibits as a loss of spark. 'I had one client who said her husband became a completely different person after turning 50,' she says. 'He didn't want to travel, stopped initiating sex, and barely engaged with his adult children. 'When she tried to talk to him about it, he either shut down or lashed out. ''It's like he's angry at me for still having a spark,' she said. And that spark is very real - because for many women, this phase of life can feel like a second spring. 'That contrast can feel threatening to a partner who is grappling with decline, disconnection, or internalised shame about ageing.' So how can you identify it in your own relationship before it's too late? Marie says there are several key signs... 1. BEHAVIOURAL CHANGES MARIE says: 'It overlaps with several known phenomena: midlife crisis, chronic stress, burnout, and even andropause – the so-called 'male menopause'. 'Unlike the female menopausal transition, which tends to be more hormonally dramatic, men's hormonal decline is slower but it still impacts mood, libido, and vitality. 'Many men in this phase are also grappling with unspoken fears about ageing, relevance, and mortality, as well as hair loss, which is one of the top sources of stress for middle aged men. 'They often haven't been given the tools to name or express those feelings. 'So it comes out sideways: through irritability, withdrawal, or sudden, confusing shifts in behaviour.' 2. REDUCED LIBIDO AND STAGNATION MARIE says: 'This involves a gradual decline in testosterone levels that can begin in a man's 40s. 'This hormonal shift can lead to lower energy, mood swings, irritability, a lower than normal sex drive and even mild depression. 'However, while biology plays a role, what I see more often is a kind of existential slump brought on by the pressures of midlife: career stagnation, financial stress, children leaving home, or caring for ageing parents. Is your partner suddenly working long hours, disappearing into hobbies, or becoming oddly obsessed with fitness or social media? There might be something bubbling under the surface Marie MoriceClinical sexologist 'The husband of a client I was working with broke down after his father died, but instead of expressing grief, he became increasingly detached. 'He said he 'felt like a ghost in his own life'. That line stayed with me; it's such a common theme. 'These men don't necessarily need a new partner or a new car; they need to reconnect with who they are now, in this new chapter.' 4 3. SLOW SHIFTS MARIE says: 'A lot of the women I speak to say the changes in their husbands and partners are incremental. 'They become more negative, less affectionate, and more easily irritated. 'There's often a drop in intimacy, replaced by passive-aggressive comments, emotional distance, or avoidance. 'He may complain of feeling unappreciated or 'trapped', but when asked what's wrong, he'll often say, 'I don't know' or 'Nothing'.' 4. ESCAPISM MARIE says: 'Is your partner suddenly working long hours, disappearing into hobbies, or becoming oddly obsessed with fitness or social media? 'It's not always sinister, but it can indicate a deeper dissatisfaction bubbling under the surface. 'Escapism gives men an opportunity to 'press pause' in a lot of ways. 'They don't have to deal with what's going on in front of them because they're hiding in hobbies or other things that mean they don't have to face up to the reality of not being where they want to be and addressing it.' 4 Thankfully, there are ways to address the situation - for both parties. But it's important to handle it in the right way. From shifting blame to empathy to where to seek professional help, this is where Marie would start... 1. DON'T ASSIGN BLAME MARIE says: 'Miserable husband syndrome isn't about you doing something wrong; it's about your partner being emotionally stuck and not knowing how to ask for help. 'That said, it does affect the relationship, and you're well within your rights to want to address it. 'Start by naming what you've observed. Instead of attacking or diagnosing, open a conversation with curiosity: 'I've noticed you've seemed unhappy lately. Do you want to talk about it?' 'This small shift, from blame to empathy, can be the key that opens a shut door.' 2. SUGGEST HELP MARIE says: 'Encourage him to seek support, but don't force it. 'Therapy, coaching, or even just honest conversations with close friends can be transformational. 'One woman I worked with told me that after months of distance, her husband finally agreed to couples coaching and admitted he'd felt invisible and unfulfilled for years but was ashamed to say so.' 3. DON'T COMPROMISE YOURSELF MARIE says: 'It might feel like you should put yourself on the back burner and think about your partner's needs, but don't. 'You need to focus on your own needs too. Set boundaries, reconnect with what brings you joy, and give yourself permission to flourish whether or not your partner decides to do the same. 'Sometimes, these conversations lead to healing and reconnection. Other times, they reveal that the relationship has run its course. 'Either way, you're not crazy and you're not alone.' How to combat 'manopause' Dr Nathan Spence, senior NHS doctor and lecturer at Oxford University, offers the following advice: Recognise that what you're experiencing is valid and common. Open up to someone you trust – e.g. a partner, friend, or healthcare provider. Your GP can help to identify whether lifestyle changes, mental health support, or other treatments are needed. Simple steps like prioritising exercise, particularly strength training, improving sleep habits, and eating a balanced diet can significantly help. 'While eating a healthy, varied diet is important, it can be tricky to get all the nutrients you need to support your mid-life health,' says nutritionist James Davis . 'This is where taking supplements can help.' Nutrients that can help to reduce the severity of symptoms include: Testosterone. Zinc helps to support normal testosterone levels in the blood. Combined with B6, it also helps to contribute to protein and glycogen metabolism. Energy. Vitamins B6, B12, C, riboflavin and pantothenic acid support energy production and reduce tiredness. Strong muscles. Vitamin D helps maintain muscle function. Mental wellbeing. Vitamins B6, B12, C, folate, and biotin help maintain psychological balance. Hair and skin health. Biotin and zinc support healthy hair, while copper contributes to normal hair pigmentation and vitamin C aids collagen formation for skin health. Vision maintenance. Vitamin A, riboflavin, and zinc promote healthy vision.
The Sun
14-05-2025
- Entertainment
- The Sun
Deleted post that sparked furious row between James Argent & lover revealed before TOWIE star's ‘inexcusable' attack
FROM the outside they appeared to be a picture perfect couple, with James Argent telling friends he thought he'd found 'the one' in Swedish model Nicoline Artursson. But today The Sun can reveal the former Towie star turned violent and attacked the Swedish model just hours after she put a cryptic Instagram post online which alluded to his close friendship with his ex-partner Lydia Bright. 6 6 The hideous incident saw James arrested by Spanish police and thrown in the cells, before he pleaded guilty to 'mistreating' Nicoline, who was taken to hospital. The post, which was deleted not long after Nicoline posted it to her 32,000 followers around 10:44pm on May 4, read: 'Had an interesting conversation with a friend. 'Is it OK if your boyfriend or girlfriend is talking and hanging out with their ex and the exes family daily and liking their Instagram posts etc? 'No kids involved with the ex. 'And then it shows up on your explore page that your partner showed that interest with them but they blame you for seeing it and now the ex is supposedly their 'best friend' 'I know what my family and friends think and certainly what I think. 'If you're in a serious relationship with your partner you've got to respect your partner and leave the past in the past.' The innocent post led to a deeply disturbing turn of events inside Nicoline's home in Spain. Just hours after Nicoline put her thoughts online, James turned violent at her home in La Cala de Mijas on the Costa del Sol. He threw Nicoline's clothes from the balcony, before grabbing her and pulling her towards the front door where he pushed her and she fell down some steps. EXCL James Argent arrested for attacking beauty queen who then fell down stairs in Spain & given 6 month suspended sentence It was her screams which alerted neighbours to her plight, with the police called by those concerned by the shocking incident which was unfolding in their sleepy neighbourhood. Those close to James said he believed Nicoline was alluding to Lydia, who he dated for five years until 2012, in the post. And shockingly he appeared so furious with her comments he turned on her. 'Arg is so close with Lydia and her family, they are like his family,' a friend explains. 'They speak all the time and even though they've not been together for years they have a bit of an unbreakable bond. 6 'He treats her and her family like his own and he is very protective of them. 'Nicoline's post, in Arg's eyes, was clearly about Lydia and he turned violent. 'He knows his behaviour was inexcusable. That's why he told the police exactly what happened.' 'Shocking and awful' Following the incident, on May 5, James was arrested and taken to a police cell. The same day he admitted a charge of domestic violence in a Spanish court. He was given a six-month suspended sentence and a two-year restraining order to stop him seeing or even contacting Nicoline. Those close to James say Lydia has rallied to him following the incident but admit that his wider friendship circle was shocked to see The Sun's front page today. 'It's not the James people know,' the friend explains. 'But seeing him admitting to a violence against Nicoline is shocking and awful. 'James has been speaking about his version of events to those closest to him. But the people who know him but are a bit more detached were so shocked by it. 'The story has been sent around by people who know him and they are talking about how shocked and upset they were by it. 'Friends like Lydia have rallied to him. She will be there for him through thick and thin.' Friends like Lydia have rallied to him. She will be there for him through thick and thin The violent incident which played out on Bank Holiday Monday ended James and Nicoline's 11-month relationship for good. He is now barred from contacting her or approaching her for two years. And while James is holed up at home in Essex, and has yet to speak, Nicoline has remained in Spain. When approached for comment she declined to speak. Friends of James say they are still reeling from the horror of what unfolded that night. Looking back over the past few months, none of them would have foreseen this coming. The pair appeared happier than ever on holiday back in February, where they were seen kissing and holding hands on a beach in Barbados. He last shared a photograph of her on February 14 and told his followers on Instagram he was looking forward to their future. James said: 'My Swedish valentine. 'Our next chapter has begun and I'm so excited for what's to come this year. I love you.' 6 6 Domestic abuse - how to get help DOMESTIC abuse can affect anyone - including men - and does not always involve physical violence. Here are some signs that you could be in an abusive relationship: Emotional abuse - Including being belittled, blamed for the abuse - gaslighting - being isolated from family and friends, having no control over your finances, what you where and who you speak to Threats and intimidation - Some partners might threaten to kill or hurt you, destroy your belongings, stalk or harass you Physical abuse - This can range from slapping or hitting to being shoved over, choked or bitten. Sexual abuse - Being touched in a way you do not want to be touched, hurt during sex, pressured into sex or forced to have sex when you do not consent. If any of the above apply to you or a friend, you can call these numbers: Remember, you are not alone. 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men will experience domestic abuse over the course of their lifetime. Every 30 seconds the police receive a call for help relating to domestic abuse.
