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The Sun
03-08-2025
- Entertainment
- The Sun
I married an older man for his money, I planned to milk him dry but now we're in love – trolls still don't believe me
AFTER matching with a sugar daddy online, one woman was shocked when their relationship turned from financial support into true love. Carrie, 31, matched with her soon-to-be husband on Tinder, planning to "milk him dry". 2 And while 64-year-old Randy admits he knew her intentions were financially motivated, he set out to change her priorities. With Randy hoping for love and Carrie simply seeking a sugar daddy, he joked that they would "see who comes out on top". And as it turns out, Carrie was able to "get the bag" while also falling in love. "Randy started off as my sugar daddy and now we're in love so I'm finally marrying my sugar daddy," she explained on the Truly Show. The couple first met on Tinder five years ago, with Carrie openly seeking financial help and Randy, fresh from a 25 year marriage adament to never marry again. Thinking they were both in the relationship for a fun time, not a long time, Carrie admits: "My first intention was to milk him dry." But when Randy told her to give him a month to change her life, she decided to take a chance. Randy claims he fell in love with his fiance within six months, and soon changed his mind on marriage. And despite people calling Carrie a gold digger, Randy said her honesty about her financial situation only attracted him more. Now, she calls him her "first and last sugar daddy", joking that she gets him a pack of gum for special occasions while he lavishes her with whatever she wants. I'm 32 years younger than my man - his son's only 2 years older than me & trolls call me a gold digger but we're in love Randy revealed that the most expensive thing he has ever purchased for Carrie was her engagement ring, popping the question in Vegas. And while he originally intended to elope on that same trip, the couple are now planning a big wedding with no budget. With no wedding date in place as of yet, the couple are enjoying the engagement phase, with Carrie already having signed a prenup. Randy shared that his bride is already in his will anyway. And when it comes to haters, the couple said they don't care as they are "having a blast". A-list age gap relationships that have stood the test of time Kris Jenner & Corey Gamble - 25 years The Kardashian matriarch, 69, met her younger man, 44, at a mutual friend's 40th birthday party in Ibiza. They've been together since August 2014. Sam & Aaron Taylor-Johnson - 23 years The director, 57, and actor, 34, reportedly met at a film audition in 2009, and were married by 2012. The pair share two daughters and Sam has two children from a previous marriage. Rosie-Huntington-Whiteley & Jason Statham - 20 years The model, 37, started dating actor Jason, 57, in 2010. They were wed in 2016 and have since welcomed a son and a daughter together. Catherine Zeta-Jones & Michael Douglas - 25 years Catherine, 55, was introduced to Michael, 80, a film festival in 1996 and engaged three years later. Shortly after their engagement, the couple welcomed a son and married in 2000. The judgement is mostly from online trolls, with most people in real life simply mistaking them for father and daughter. Randy joked that he often gets a thumbs up from other men when they realise the nature of their relationship. He added that he loves the attention they receive when they walk into a room. More on age gap relationships Another woman met her husband when she was 19 and he was 41, and now they have a family together. And a 25-year-old woman shared the backlash she receives for dating a 76-year-old man. A woman who is dating a man 32 years older than her revealed that she is often called a gold digger. Plus, a couple with a 21-year age gap shared an insight into their relationship. People say how another age gap couple met is a red flag but they disagree. 2
The Sun
02-08-2025
- Entertainment
- The Sun
The rise of ‘SugarTok' where women ‘date' wealthy, older men and make up to £40k a year in a bid to pay off debts
SCROLL through TikTok and you can't miss the increasing number of young women flaunting luxury 'sugar baby' lifestyles funded by wealthy, older men. But is it a bit of fun, or something darker – and at what cost? Fabulous investigates… 5 5 Looking at the mounting pile of bills on the hall table of her student flat, Roxy* felt a rising sense of anxiety. Studying geography at university by day, her four-night-a-week bar job simply wasn't enough to keep up with the rising cost of living. It was a TikTok video that would open Roxy's eyes to the possibility of a controversial way out of her financial struggles. As she scrolled through the app one evening three years ago, the algorithm shared a video made by a 'sugar baby' – a young woman involved in a relationship with an older, wealthy partner. Showing off a £5,000 Chanel handbag, the petite blonde explained her flash lifestyle was all down to her 'sugar daddy', who paid for her company and lavished her with gifts. Searching #sugarbaby, Roxy was stunned and intrigued to see thousands of similar videos, with young women on luxury holidays, showing off designer clothes and revealing their bank statements – all paid for by their sugar daddies. 'I'd heard of sugar daddies, but had no idea this lifestyle had become so prolific among girls my age,' she says. 'There was this whole world out there of women leading amazing lifestyles, and although some did mention they were having sex, many seemed like they were just being paid and rewarded for their company.' With 314k videos on TikTok using the hashtag #sugarbaby and thousands more using #sugarbabyproblems, it's now a thriving social media trend. 'I saw these girls my age living lives of luxury, and I wondered where I'd gone wrong' Roxy was 21 when she first spotted the posts. 'Life was so hard at that time,' she recalls. 'I was living off pasta and beans, struggling to pay bills and working until 3am, then getting up to go to lectures. My mum helped when she could, but money was already tight for her. I wasn't able to buy new clothes or go on nights out. I was feeling increasingly isolated. 'I saw these girls the same age as me living a life of luxury, and wondered where I'd gone wrong,' she says. In 2022, at the start of her second year of university, Roxy signed up to a site where men are invited to bid for dates, after finding herself unable to afford the deposit for a new flat. 'That was the tipping point when I thought: 'Enough is enough.' I wanted more than life was giving me. 'The site popped up when I googled 'sugar daddies'. If a man makes an offer, you can accept, decline or counter. The money is exchanged on the date itself. There was no mention of sex and it seemed legitimate. It was just going on dates. 'I went on a few dates and, initially, men were buying me dinner and paying me around £200,' Roxy says. 'Most of them were in their 50s or 60s, but they weren't terrible company. We'd talk about their jobs and their hobbies and sometimes they'd kiss me on the cheek at the end of the night. It seemed like an easy way to make money.' One or two were 'creepy', she admits. 'I had one guy who kept saying: 'I'm going to stroke you now', and he would touch my back and arms. He hadn't even given me the money at that stage. I always met the men somewhere public, where I felt safe.' In three months, Roxy went on eight dates and made around £2,000. Then, in December 2022, she met Mike, a 58-year-old investment banker who said he'd struggled to hold down a 'proper' relationship as he travelled so much for work. After paying for four dates, he asked to make their relationship more permanent. 'I was worried,' Roxy admits. 5 'Did he want me to sleep with him? I wasn't sure how much 'sugar' I wanted to give. He'd already paid me over £1,000 in a month in cash. 'But I liked spending time with him, and he was clear that he only wanted one 'baby'. I didn't want to lose him. I agreed to go to Dubai with him and spent five days shopping and lazing by the pool. It was amazing and I couldn't believe I was being paid £2,000 to go on holiday. We didn't have sex. He was gentlemanly and considerate, and I had my own room.' Roxy isn't unique in having experienced the financial challenges of being a student nowadays. A recent survey by UCL revealed 68% of students can't afford course material. A separate poll found 67% sometimes skip meals to save cash.* Added to that, a recent study by and the Campaign Against Living Miserably found that half of young people feel pressure from social media to buy things or to look a certain way, and 43% spend more than they can afford to keep up with what they see on their feeds. Against this backdrop, it's perhaps little wonder that women like Roxy are being tempted into finding a 'sugar relationship'. Chartered psychologist Dr Louise Goddard-Crawley says: 'Social media doesn't just reflect culture, it creates it. When you're constantly exposed to images of designer clothes, luxury holidays and filtered lifestyles, it's easy to feel like you're falling behind.' She adds: 'If you're financially stretched and still working out who you are, the idea of being wanted and looked after can feel incredibly appealing. But what is never shown is the emotional cost, the power dynamics, the pressure to perform and the impact on your self-worth. 'Even if sex is technically consensual, if it's tied to financial support or a sense of obligation, it can leave people feeling out of step with their own desires. I've heard people say: 'I didn't really want to, but I felt I should.'' 'He said he'd up my allowance to £4,000 a month if I slept with him' It was following their Dubai trip that Mike first asked Roxy for sex, after giving her a £10,000 Chanel handbag. By this stage, they'd been 'dating' for three months. He was paying her £3,000 cash every month, as well as buying her fancy gifts, but said he'd up his allowance to £4,000 if she slept with him. 'He was much older than me and I hadn't slept with many men in the past, so I was nervous. But in many ways, I was happier than I'd been in years. I was doing well at uni without money worries on my mind, I got to go out and spend time with my friends, and he wasn't jealous or possessive, so I said yes.' Roxy describes the first time as nerve-wracking and says she just wanted to get it over with. 'Afterwards, I asked myself: 'Am I now the same as a prostitute?' But I decided this was different. We were in a relationship of sorts, and there are plenty of marriages where the men support the wives who stay home. I didn't enjoy the sex – I liked Mike but I wasn't attracted to him in that way, but I pretended to be having fun for his sake.' Roxy and Mike were in a sugar relationship for two years, sleeping with one another several times a month. 'I didn't tell my family, as I knew mum would be ashamed. I told her I had a boyfriend who came from a wealthy family. Even then she warned me to be careful. I confided in some close friends, who thought it was great – they didn't judge me at all.' Their relationship ended in 2023 when Mike moved overseas, but since then she's had two more regular sugar daddies. She is currently in a relationship with Paul*, 55, who she's been seeing for six months. 'Paul likes me to attend events with him and go for dinner after work. I haven't slept with him,' Roxy says. 'He buys me gifts, takes me away for weekends, and he pays my rent.' But dating coach Eimear Draper warns such relationships are fundamentally unhealthy. 'In a healthy relationship, there should be equality. That doesn't mean you have to earn the same, but there should be respect for what you contribute to a life you are building together. In a sugar-baby relationship, there is no equality. It's transactional.' 'One girl's sugar daddy paid for her New York apartment, but he wanted sex every night' 5 Former sugar baby Nova Jewels dated four sugar daddies in five years, earning herself around £40,000 a year. Despite making so much money, she hates seeing this kind of lifestyle promoted on social media. 'People don't realise how dangerous it can be,' says Nova, 29, from Dundee. 'Each time you get a new daddy, you have to do security checks, find out if they are legitimate and if the name they give is their real name. I have my wits about me. If I got the slightest inclination that something was off, I'd cut them off.' Nova understands why sugar babies would brag online. 'They can earn a mad amount of money, and I don't think people believe it's real until they experience it themselves,' she says. 'But it's not always as luxurious or straightforward as some influencers would have you believe. 'I often see naive women commenting on posts and saying they are going to do it to pay off debt or feed their children. But this is an adult industry. I knew one girl whose daddy paid for her to live in a multimillion-dollar apartment in New York, but he wanted sex every night. I don't think many people understand where the line is now.' Nova quit working as a sugar baby in April and now has a regular nine-to-five job in events. 'I've had a total turnaround,' she says. 'The money was amazing, though I never slept with my sugar daddies. It provided me with a life and money that a nine-to-five job would never have done, but it needed to stop. 'I definitely don't earn the same now, but I love the independence of having my own job and earning my own money. It's time to stand on my own two feet,' she says. Sugar relationships are not just attracting young women like Roxy and Nova. Sarah* is 50 and has earned over £4,000 since signing up to be a sugar baby in December last year. She was newly divorced and struggling to pay off £10,000 of debt she'd been saddled with in the wake of her marriage breakdown. 'I was sinking under the weight of the debt, which we'd had as a couple. We had to split it when we broke up, and we had two children to look after,' she says. 'My children are teenagers, so I am able to work nights in a supermarket, but it isn't enough. 'I signed up to a site and, within days, I had men offering me money to go on dates with them. I did worry I was too old and no one would be interested, but I had a lot of interest despite my age.' Sarah's first sugar daddy was married and, after several dates, she had sex with him, earning around £1,500. But he constantly pestered her, and said he wanted her to fall in love with him. 'In the end, I had to cut him off,' Sarah says. 'I kept on dating, but after that I did make my boundaries clear. I won't have sex with a sugar daddy again. 'Now, I mainly just have lunch dates and coffee with lonely older men. They just want some company and a woman on their arm. It's harmless,' she says. 'For me, it's just a way of paying off my debt. When it's done, I'll stop. There is no emotional connection. It's a way of getting my life back. 'No one knows that I've been dating sugar daddies. I'd be devastated if my children found out. It's not an example I want to set for them.' 'I have to look good for my daddies – I'm in the gym every day and I have my hair and nails done' 5 Now on her third sugar daddy, Roxy says although she felt financially pressured into the lifestyle initially, now she wouldn't change it for the world. She has come out of university debt-free and hasn't found the need to find a proper job, thanks to her 'income' of £3,000 a month from her relationships. 'My family think I do a bit of fashion work to earn money. I'm not flashy with it. Most of my stuff is understated and I never brag on socials.' 'I don't need to work,' she says. 'I do have to spend time taking care of myself, as I want to look good for my daddies, so I'm in the gym every day and I get my hair and nails done regularly. 'Of course, not everyone will approve of this lifestyle, but it's my life – you only get one, and I'll live it how I choose. 'I'd love to meet someone for a 'real' relationship one day, but right now that's not a priority and I'm certainly not looking. If it happens, maybe I'd have to give this up, but they'd have to be really special – or rich.'
Independent Singapore
31-07-2025
- Business
- Independent Singapore
Man admits he got ‘icked out' when his date told him she wanted someone who had a ‘provider mindset'
SINGAPORE: A man was baffled when, out of nowhere, his date told him that she wanted someone who had a 'provider mindset.' And although men have always been the main providers, and there's nothing inherently wrong with expressing one's expectations during the early stages of dating, he confessed on social media that 'it honestly icked him out quite a bit.' Detailing the experience on Reddit's sgdatingscene forum, he shared that this woman elaborated that she wanted someone who could pay her bills. The man then explained that the reason he was turned off by the remark wasn't because 'it's impossible to pay her bills,' but because, to him, it felt like the woman was saying that 'a man doesn't have any worth if he can't do so.' 'It feels so transactional,' he said. 'As someone with a provider mindset, I don't want to be obligated or forced to do things. Let me do it out of love, for Christ's sake. When we go out on dates and go for dessert, sure, I will pay; maybe you pay for drinks or something. Then gifts like flowers, chocolate, maybe clothes, and branded items. Let me do it at my own pace and provide it without feeling stressed to do so.' Understandably, the man had another reason for feeling this way. He revealed that he had already dated someone who had the same expectations. At the time, the man said that his ex made him pay for 'all her Shopee haul,' which, in turn, only made him feel like he was a 'sugar daddy.' 'Everything was so transactional,' he recalled. 'It was so disgusting, and I never want to relive that.' He went on to share that because of this experience, his biggest fear is now 'being taken advantage of' and having his affections 'turn into something so useless and vain.' 'You're not dating me to have me provide for you. You're dating the man who can provide love, a home, emotional stability and yes, gifts and more,' he continued. 'It should be about dating the guy for who he is. Not for what he can be and what he can provide. I would hide my money and pretend to be poor. I'm so turned off by this.' 'Not all women are like that.' Several users in the discussion echoed the man's views, pointing out that while many men are happy to provide for their partners, it becomes off-putting when it's treated as an expectation. One user said, 'As a guy, I believe that we men would definitely love to spoil and provide for our partner. Just that there's a difference between 'wanting to be provided for' and 'expecting to be provided for.' I guess the intention or mindset from the female party is your concern here, despite you having a provider mindset.' Another commented, 'You're right, it's the ugly truth. Nowadays, dating feels transactional for guys. Because society has shaped and brainwashed us into thinking that we have to provide and we're less than a man if we can't.' Others, however, argued that not all women think this way. One wrote, 'Hang in there, there's still many out there who don't feel the same way (surely)! You'll find someone that's better aligned with your values and what you'd like.' See also 26yo man asks "if getting married is worth it nowadays" Another added, 'I'm a female, I also like to provide, and it kinda boosts my female ego too hahahah sometimes. So not all women are like that, hor.' A few others also told the man that if he truly couldn't stand a woman with such expectations, he should look for someone who is 'independent and [has] values equality.' In other news, a part-time worker has publicly criticised a 'drink stall chain' in Singapore for making her and other employees pay for any incorrectly made beverages. In a post on the r/SGexams subreddit, the worker wrote that she found the policy both 'unnecessary' and 'unreasonable,' especially since they are only paid S$9 per hour. Read more: Drink stall chain allegedly makes staff pay for incorrect orders, says part-time worker
Daily Mail
04-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
An older man offered to pay my student debt. I thought it would be just sex... After he died in my 40s, I learned the truth about our 'harmless' arrangement
I didn't go out looking for a sugar daddy. I wasn't scrolling sites or sliding into DMs. Honestly, I didn't even think people like me did things like that.
Malay Mail
02-06-2025
- General
- Malay Mail
Jail, caning for Singapore man who extorted girl, 16, after she withdrew from ‘sugar daddy' deal
SINGAPORE, June 2 — A man who extorted a 16-year-old girl by falsely claiming he was taking legal action against her after she backed out of a 'sugar daddy' arrangement was sentenced to jail and caning on Monday. Marc Justine Landrio Chandramohan, 27, was handed a jail term of two years, 11 months and 10 weeks, and three strokes of the cane, according to a report published in Channel News Asia today. He will begin serving his sentence on Friday after being granted a few days to settle his debts. The Singaporean had earlier pleaded guilty to seven charges, including communicating with a minor to obtain commercial sex, abetting the distribution of obscene images and videos, extortion, cheating, making obscene films, and abetting unauthorised access to a computer function. Another nine charges — mostly linked to making obscene films — were taken into consideration for sentencing by Principal District Judge Victor Yeo Khee Eng. Three victims were involved in the case, including the girl who was extorted. Two others were filmed by Chandramohan during sex acts. Their identities are protected by a gag order. Judge Yeo noted Chandramohan's 'premeditated and predatory behaviour', saying he preyed on a young and naive victim and continued to pressure her for sex and money even though she owed him 'absolutely nothing'. The victim's relationship with her family was affected, and she reported feeling that her body was 'dirty', becoming sensitive to physical touch and panicking when she saw someone who resembled Chandramohan. Yeo said deterrence was the predominant sentencing consideration, both for the accused and for would-be offenders. He acknowledged Chandramohan's remorse and readiness to face punishment. The court previously heard that Chandramohan began chatting with the victim on Instagram in July 2021, proposing to pay her S$900 (RM2,980) for sexual favours. She initially agreed and sent him four nude or semi-nude photos and a video of herself removing her school uniform at his instruction. Chandramohan transferred S$100 to her on July 24, 2021. The victim later regretted the arrangement, told him she wanted to back out, and blocked him on social media. He then began harassing her over the money, using new Instagram accounts to contact her and threatening legal action. Despite a friend repaying the S$100 on her behalf, Chandramohan continued demanding sexual favours. In early 2022, the girl gave in and performed a sex act. Chandramohan then pretended legal proceedings were still ongoing and demanded S$1,350 — allegedly half of his lawyer's fee. He also suggested resuming the original sexual arrangement. The victim later confided in friends, who warned her he was likely lying. She lodged a police report. In a separate offence in 2023, Chandramohan opened a Standard Chartered bank account and handed control of it to a friend in exchange for S$330. Over S$304,000 flowed through the account. He was fined S$330 over this offence. Extortion carries a sentence of two to seven years in jail and caning. Communicating with a minor to obtain sexual services carries a maximum jail term of two years, a fine, or both.
