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The Sun
3 days ago
- General
- The Sun
We're swingers, people think it's all fun and games, but it's so expensive and there are loads of rules to follow
MANY people see swinging as a free-for-all where you can do whatever you want between the sheets with whoever you want. But Belle and Jase, who have been swinging for years, reveal swinging isn't all fun and games. 2 Taking to social media, the US couple gave a glimpse as to what full-time swinging is really like. The couple say they have dabbled in swinging house parties, cruises and even hotel takeovers. And while on these sex excursions, the couple have found it has some downsides. Taking to their podcast 4ourplay, Jase asked Belle: "What is one downside to swinging?" And Belle didn't hold back as she revealed the lifestyle was very pricey. She said: "I think a lot of people don't know that it's super expensive to be in this type of lifestyle. "So not only going to the clubs, having to pay membership to be a part of it and paying door fees to get in, that's just to a club. Hotel takeovers are really expensive." Jase added: "If you're going to try a vacation, it's like way more expensive than a normal vacation because of the type of activities that they allow there and how they have to charter the whole thing out." They also said dressing up for the events can quickly add up as well as keeping groomed. The couple also revealed that there were lots of boundaries and rules put in place for swinging. I'm a Mormon wife and 'soft swinger' but I fear being thrown out of the church The two have their own set of rules and Belle revealed a few they keep to when sleeping with other people. She said protection was an absolute must, and that the pair never go off on their own, preferring to stay together while they 'play'. And when they are playing with others, the two have vowed not to get too 'intimate' and refuse to cuddle with the people they have intercourse with. Jase added: "We don't do any intimate cuddling like that. That personally feels too intimate for us and we don't do any pictures, videos during the play sessions." What is Swinging? SWINGING, also known as partner swapping, is a sexual activity where partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with other people. All parties involved must give explicit and enthusiastic consent. Open and honest communication between partners is crucial. Many swingers engage with a community or attend events specifically for swinging. Such activity can enhance intimacy and trust within the primary relationship. It provides an opportunity to explore sexual fantasies and desires. But it is not suitable for every relationship and requires a strong foundation of trust. Jealousy and emotional challenges may arise and need to be managed. Clips of the podcast have gone viral on its TikTok account @ 4ourplaypodcast with over 579k views. People were quick to share their thoughts on swinging. One person wrote: "Omg I thought I was the only one who thought this. I'm a unicorn and WHEWWWW swinging alone is expensive as hell." Another commented: 'It CAN be expensive, but you don't have to be rich." "Yes, it is but it's totally worth it," penned a third. Meanwhile a fourth said: "Sooooo expensive."
Daily Mail
21-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
EXCLUSIVE Secret Lives of Mormon Wives star Miranda McWhorter breaks silence on HER side of the swinging scandal
Secret Lives of Mormon Wives star Miranda McWhorter is clearing the air about her 2022 swinging scandal with costar Taylor Frankie Paul - and explaining what she really wants the public to know about the incident that rocked TikTok at the time. McWhorter, 27, was caught at the center of the drama nearly three years ago, as her longtime best friend Paul outed the clique for 'soft swinging' with each other and their husbands.
The Sun
12-05-2025
- Entertainment
- The Sun
Seeing my husband have sex with other women turns me on – friends have disowned me, but I don't care
SITTING at the kitchen table, Amie Southwell happily supervises her three young children as they eat their lunch. Later, after taking their two dogs for a walk near her home outside Bath, Wiltshire, she settles in front of the TV to watch a film. 7 7 On the surface, she looks like any other suburban housewife – except that Amie's husband of eleven years, Lee, is nowhere to be seen. While Amie cares for their children, Lee is getting his kicks half an hour's drive away from their three-bedroomed semi, having steamy sex with a 34-year-old mum. While most women would feel sickened at the thought of their husbands straying, Lee's extramarital romp has Amie's full blessing. The couple had in fact met the woman through a swinger's website three months earlier. You'd be forgiven for thinking we'd travelled back in time to the 1970s, when 'swinging' was as in vogue as flares and disco. But having sex with multiple partners is suddenly on the rise again, and Amie and Lee are one of a growing number of couples turning their backs on traditional, monogamous relationships. After discovering a website dedicated to swapping partners in 2021, they are now part of a group of around ten couples that meet regularly – either at each other's houses, or during adult-only weekends at holiday parks. Lee has slept with around 20 other women since their marriage became open, while Amie, who is bisexual, has had sex with 20 men and ten women. And they are not alone, as according to research by dating app Hinge, one in five users 'would consider' trying out an open relationship, while one in ten have already been involved in one. Although you'd expect Amie to live in fear of friends or family finding out, she and Lee are surprisingly open about their swinging sessions. Inside world's 'swinging capital' where 40-women orgies take over X-rated nightclubs & daring couples enjoy secret sand dune romps on nude beach Even their mums know about their unconventional lifestyle and, incredibly, agree to babysit the kids while they play out their fantasies. Amie says: 'The woman Lee has sex with was someone we'd previously played with as a couple, alongside her husband. 'I suggested it, as a few weeks earlier I'd experimented with having sex on my own with a single man we met on the website. 'Lee found it a turn on, and it seemed only fair that he should try playing on his own too.' We were a straight-laced, pretty ordinary couple who liked routine and only managed to get out once a month for dinner Amie Amie seems as shocked as anyone by the surprising changes in her marriage dynamic. 'If someone had told me on my wedding day that I'd willingly share my husband with other women, I'd have thought they were mad,' she admits. 'I thought Lee was the only man I'd ever want to sleep with and I couldn't have imagined him with anyone else. 'We were a straight-laced, pretty ordinary couple who liked routine and only managed to get out once a month for dinner.' Amie says letting Lee have sex with other women is the best thing she ever did, not least because it's allowed her to explore, too. 'I went to a female-only sex party at an Airbnb in Shoreditch, London, a few weeks ago, while Lee stayed at home with the children,' she says. 'We played a few games before people went off and did their thing. I ended up in a group with five other women.' 'Felt paranoid' According to the latest figures, 33 per cent of men and 11 per cent of women are now open to introducing a third person into their relationship and over a million Brits admit to regularly enjoying group sex. It was Amie, who works part-time in customer services, who first broached the idea of swinging with construction worker Lee. 'I confided that I would like to have sex with another woman,' she says. 7 'I'd been curious for a while, but squashed it as I thought that it might open a can of worms. 'But Lee liked the idea.' Two months later, they heard about a sex party event through a website they'd stumbled across. Despite their initial nerves, the reality exceeded their desires. There was another unexpected benefit, too. 'I used to be paranoid that Lee would cheat, or leave me,' says Amie, who got together with Lee when he was just 17 and she was 18. 'But seeing him with other women and the pleasure we both now have has completely removed that fear.' Amie first became anxious that Lee might stray a few months after they got together in 2009. One day, after he had gone to bed, Lee's phone lit up with a message from another woman. 'He swore it was nothing and that he loved me, so I forgave him,' says Amie. 'But if he went out, I'd text him constantly – sometimes up to 30 times a night – asking what he was doing. And I'd check his phone daily. 'I felt paranoid and my mind would race. There were times when, if I hadn't got young children, I'd have jumped in the car to find him if he hadn't replied to my messages. 'I felt out of control, but couldn't stop. It was exhausting. 'I hated it if he spoke to other women, even if I was there, and would join them so they knew he was taken.' However, Amie has now been happily sharing her husband with other women since their first sex party nearly four years ago. 'There were about 12 other people there that night and I slept with four men, including Lee,' she says. 'He had sex with one woman and enjoyed foreplay with a few others. 'I couldn't believe how sexy I found it watching Lee pleasure them. I felt proud of him.' While many women would recoil at the thought of being intimate with a man who had just had sex with someone else, Amie says Lee being with another woman only increases the lust between them. 'Huge turn on' 'I actively enjoy watching him give a woman pleasure,' she says. 'It's a huge turn on and the sex we have immediately after is incredible – the best ever.' Amie admits their parental responsibilities mean they can't fulfil their desires as often as they'd like. 'The kids all go to clubs, so it's hard logistically to do as much as we'd like, so we ask our mums to babysit around once a month,' she says. 'They both know what we do – we feel no need to hide it. I've told friends, too. 'Some disapprove and don't talk to me anymore, but I don't feel the loss. Others are curious.' Amie says that as the children are still young, she doesn't worry about them hearing negative gossip. When they're older, she wants them to have open minds about the sort of lives they choose to lead. 'In the same way as we'd talk about being bisexual, we'd mention non-monogamy – after all, it's made us so happy,' she says. The couple now spend a weekend away each month, which Amie says is ' full of pleasure and adult time '. She adds: 'The other day we were with another couple and Lee played with the woman while I was with the man in a separate room – we could all hear each other's pleasure and that was another huge turn on. 'But we both agree that being with another couple together is what we enjoy the most.' She even believes that other couples might benefit if they gave extramarital sex sessions a go. 'I want people to open their eyes to another sort of relationship – one like ours,' she says. 'Now, I can't imagine our lives any other way.' Lee says: 'Seeing Amie with another man is hot and we both enjoy our new lifestyle. 'It's not only the sex with other people, but the fact we now communicate more. It's made us more honest with each other about everything. 'Amie really struggled with jealousy and it was exhausting. It tainted nights out as I'd be worrying about being questioned afterwards. 'The turnaround in her has been incredible and improved our relationship.' 7 What is an open relationship? An open relationship means having more than one sexual partner at the same time. Both parties in the relationship agree to be non-exclusive and one or both parties engages in sexual activities outside the relationship. If one or both parties engage in sexual relationships without an agreement, this would be classed as cheating. Other names for an open relationship are polyamory and consensual non-monogamy.
The Sun
06-05-2025
- Entertainment
- The Sun
I was too nervous to perform in bed & thought my 8-yr relationship was over… an orgy with FIVE strangers relit the spark
FEELING the spark draining from their romance, Tom and Lauren decided opening up their relationship and trying sex with other couples would rekindle the flame. But their first attempts at swinging proved a flop after Tom's erectile dysfunction prevented things from going to plan. 12 12 12 It left the couple, both 32, feeling desperate - especially as Lauren was keen to live a non-monogamous lifestyle. Tom and Lauren, who have been together eight years and are engaged, decided heading on National TV for specialist help was the only way forward and signed up to Channel 4's Open House: The Great Sex Experiment. 'We'd tried a couple of times and unfortunately had some bad experiences,' Lauren said. 'Tom just didn't feel comfortable naked. While the couples were amazing and I was a lot more open, Tom just wasn't. 'So we thought with the show having experienced non-monogamous people and a therapist, it would be a good way to try again.' Lauren had brought up the idea of swinging because she is bisexual and felt 'something was missing' in a monogamous relationship. Their plans were put on hold when Tom was diagnosed with the heart condition Bicuspid aortic valve, where the main valve in his heart doesn't function properly. It's the same condition that Arnold Schwarzenegger has. The couple were advised by doctors to avoid anything that could cause a high heart-rate - meaning no swinging - and that Tom had to stop going to the gym, leading him to put on weight and his confidence plummeted. Once things were back on a stable footing, the couple decided to sign up for Open House: The Great Sex Experiment for a fresh start when it comes to swinging. The 48-hour luxury retreat mixes therapy with opportunities for couples to try out a non-monogamous lifestyle and meet like-minded people. Inside world's 'swinging capital' where 40-women orgies take over X-rated nightclubs & daring couples enjoy secret sand dune romps on nude beach Tom credits being able to speak with non-monogamy therapist Effy with helping him to understand that erectile dysfunction isn't uncommon and to realise that he did want to explore swinging with Lauren. 'It was really throwing me off the deep end going on the show but that was what I needed,' he said. 'The therapy forced me to confront things, like looking after myself, and Effy hit nerves which is why I break down on the show. 'But she also helped me to get back into the swing of everything. I know that the swinging is helping our relationship and it's given me confidence that I don't need Lauren right next to me to be confident. "Our communication has improved so much and we're so much stronger.' On the first night, Lauren and Tom took FIVE singles back to their room in a bid to have group sex. The group sex was initiated by Tom, who had been set a challenge by the therapist to invite some residents back in a bid to improve his confidence. Despite being incredibly nervous, Tom was able to perform thanks to lots of attention focused on his erogenous zones. Therapy boost 12 12 At the time, Tom was 19st 6lbs, which had left him feeling incredibly body conscious. Tom said: 'The therapist got me to feel quite strong and be in a place to engage in group sex where I hadn't been before. 'Meeting the residents has really opened up my eyes to what our life could be like. They made me feel so welcome and comfortable. 'Having a chance to open up about my issues has shown me that I'm not the only one at all. 'It reminded me that a lot of people struggle with it at different times. I don't need to see a naked person and think that I don't know what I'm doing. 'Once I was in my head about not being able to perform, that's where it would all go wrong, and then it would become difficult to do what I wanted to do.' As a former gym addict, Tom admits that he used to have his top off all the time to show off his ripped physique, but now worries people will stare at him for the wrong reasons. Since filming the series, he has dropped to 16 and a half stone, which has helped him feel more comfortable exploring swinging. 'The show has opened my eyes and it's helped me massively to have the motivation to make changes,' Tom explained. Bonus bonk 12 12 The couple have continued to explore the world of swinging and attended several parties. Lauren said: 'It was absolutely a bonus to end up having sex. I think it all came down to the help the therapist gave us when it came to our communication. 'The residents were so supportive of us. Even at a normal swinging event, having sex with other people is a bonus rather than a given. 'Our biggest worry was that we'd go on the show and none of the residents were going to be interested in us.' Finally, having successful group sex has strengthened the couple's relationship, even though they thought the show might have the opposite effect. 'Lauren told me afterwards that she thought that the show was going to break our relationship,' Tom said. 'Instead, it's made me realise that I do really want this type of lifestyle. I like the after effects like cuddle and the stories. Plus, it's a way for me to learn new things to bring back to our bed. 'Our sex life now is so good. I didn't imagine this would happen. 'It's brought us closer together. It's really given us our spark back.' Parental woes 12 12 One downside about going on Open House, for a lot of people, is that it shows explicit sex scenes - and there's the possibility of parents watching. But for Lauren and Tom, they were shocked to discover their parents were very supportive and were even considering watching their episodes. She said: 'I was actually pleasantly surprised by the reaction of both our mums. They were so supportive. 'It's not a show they would normally watch and we've explained to them how explicit it is. We suggested they watch the previous serious to make a decision on if they'd actually want to watch us on the show. 'Obviously we can't stop them from watching if they want to. 'Our dads weren't really bothered, but have said 'good for you'.' The couple hope that the show will help people understand that being in an open relationship doesn't mean you'll have sex with everyone. 'People seem to think that we're at orgies with thousands of people every weekend and that's just not the case,' Lauren said. 'We like to get to know someone before we jump into bed with them. It's no different from being single and having a one-night stand. 12
