"I Can't Believe It Got Made Then, Much Less Now": 33 Movies That Aged Worse Than Milk On A Hot Summer Day
A while back, Reddit user mnightshamalama2 asked r/moviecritic about movies that have aged poorly, and there were a LOT — ranging from the '80s right up until just a few years ago. Here are some people can't even stomach watching in 2025.
1. 1988's Big, starring Tom Hanks, which has a romantic plot revolving around a child (in a grown man's body) with an adult woman:
"It's super creepy with the romantic interest and implied sex. And then when Tom Hanks turns back into a kid, the adult girlfriend drops him off near his house and watches him walk home."
— u/downhillderbyracer
"Aww, she just fucked a 13-year-old in a man's body, then watched him turn back into a 13-year-old…"
— u/fasting4me
2. 1994's Blank Check, which includes an FBI agent in her twenties kissing a child:
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3. 2017's The Greatest Showman, which paints P.T. Barnum, played by Hugh Jackman, in a way better light than he deserves:
" The Greatest Showman is a wonderful musical movie that immediately falls apart if you know anything about how much of a piece of shit PT Barnum was. Like most of the movie is totally decoupled from reality, so why is Hugh Jackman playing P.T. Barnum specifically? Why not make a name with a similar cadence so that the whole movie is clearly fictional? E.G. Tartan would be a totally fine name for this fictional inspirational circus ringleader."
4. 1994's Milk Money, which includes a sex worker (played by Melanie Griffith) showing preteen boys her bare chest:
" Milk Money (1994), where preteen boys pay a sex worker (Melanie Griffith) to see her topless. She goes along with it, and then one of the kids tries hooking his Dad (Ed Harris) up with her. If genders were reversed, it would never be shown again."
— u/No-Building-3798
"It was creepy when it came out; now it's another level of messed up."
— u/Coffeecupsreddit
5. 1995's Dangerous Minds, which is just a massive white savior movie starring Michelle Pfeiffer as a teacher in a disadvantaged community:
"I was at a cabin with a bunch of VHS movies, and we picked Dangerous Minds. It was some more white savior bullshit. The part that got me was when Michele Pfifer's character was confronted by the mother of some of the kids, saying something along the lines of, 'My kids don't need no school! They gots bills ta pay!'"
— u/superanx
6. And 2011's The Help, starring Emma Stone and Viola Davis, which centers on a white woman in a story about Black maids in the South:
7. 2001's A Beautiful Mind, starring Russell Crowe, which is just extremely inaccurate:
"A Beautiful Mind is basically a hit piece on John Nash and did him dirty. Basically, most of the stuff they used to portray him as out of his mind was not factual in any way. No, he didn't see invisible people... for fuck's sake, man. If you rewatch it now, it is wild it won Best Picture."
— u/drawkbox
8. 2015's Stonewall, which completely erased the role of trans people and BIPOC in the Stonewall riots, replacing them with a cisgender white man played by Jeremy Irvine:
9. 2016's Me Before You, which stars Sam Claflin instead of a disabled actor in the leading role, and also has a super problematic message:
" Me Before You has the underlying message that you are better off killing yourself if you are disabled with a non-disabled partner because ending your own life is the romantic thing to do. ... Disabled actors still suffer a lot of prejudice and rarely get cast in roles where disability is not the storyline, and yet non-disabled actors took most of the disabled roles."
— u/Imaginary-Mammoth-61
10. 2011's Crazy Stupid Love, starring Steve Carell, which ends with a 17-year-old giving a 13-year-old her nudes:
"For the most part, the movie's alright — not great but alright — but holy shit, the ending. How was that allowed? In the movie, there are a bunch of different love triangles. ... Steve Carell's children's babysitter, who is 17, is in love with him, and his son, who is 13, is in love with her. Steve Carell doesn't know she's in love with him, so to get his attention, she takes nudes. This is already fucking weird for a movie, but here's where it goes from fucking weird to illegal. At the end of the movie, when Steve gets back together with his wife in this standard rom-com format, the kid goes and talks to the babysitter. They have a parting moment, and she gives the kid her nude photos to look at. Keep in mind she's 17 in the movie, and he's 13. And Steve Carell and his wife are fine with it. I'm like wtf, how did Chris Hanson not appear and make them take a seat?"
— [deleted]
11. 1999's American Beauty, which stars Kevin Spacey as he develops a sexual obsession with his daughter's teenage friend:
"Kevin Spacey seduces a teenager who was more talk than she was action and ultimately was unprepared for an adult relationship. Yeah…"
— None
"The plot point about Kevin Spacey being mistaken as a closeted gay man that preys on teenage boys is too on the nose."
— nbwoodelf
"I tried watching that twice in the last year, but I couldn't get past the first quarter of the movie. I keep hearing what a great movie it is, but I'm not feeling it."
— u/Comfortable-Owl-5929
12. 1999's American Pie, which features sex crimes played for laughs:
"When they filmed the exchange student undressing, they were creating child sex abuse images."
— u/reckless-ryean
"A friend and I watched this movie recently, excited to relive it after watching it as teenagers. When they set up that webcam to spy on Nadia, we were fucking mortified. I genuinely forgot about that movie and looking back now, good lord is that scene fucked-up. Not just the child sex abuse images, like you said, but the utter violation of her privacy. Gross."
— u/Positive_Laugh6946
13. 2016's Passengers, which features a man (played by Christ Pratt) accidentally waking up on a 120-year-long trip to another planet, then condemning a female passenger (played by Jennifer Lawrence) to the same fate by waking her up as well because he's lonely:
"Chris Pratt forces Jennifer Lawrence to wake up from induced sleep meant to get her to a new planet and condemns her to spend the rest of her life with him as there's no way to put her back to sleep. Then she falls in love with him anyway, even after she finds out what he did."
— u/Unusual_Resident_784
"It's a great premise…for a horror movie."
— u/zorionek0
14. 1984's Revenge of the Nerds, which uses a rape scene as a triumphant moment for a main character:
15. Similarly, 2005's Wedding Crashers, which includes a scene where Gloria (played by Isla Fisher) rapes Jeremy (played by Vince Vaughn):
16. 2011's Horrible Bosses, which also plays male rape for laughs when it comes to Jennifer Aniston and Charlie Day's characters:
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"The female boss sexually harasses Charlie Day's character, and we're supposed to think it's funny because she's Jennifer Aniston, and she's hot."
— u/Xalbana
17. 2000's Dude, Where's My Car, starring Seann William Scott and Ashton Kutcher, which has a bunch of racist moments:
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"I still love this movie despite it all, but I showed it to my best friend, who's Asian, with her younger brother. I felt so embarrassed to have hyped up the movie so much; I definitely didn't catch all the racist remarks because I just looked at it like a goofy movie. It opened my eyes in a bad way."
— u/pombasion
18. 1994's Ace Ventura: Pet Detective, starring Jim Carrey, where the villain (played by Sean Young) turns out to be a man living as a woman to escape capture by the police...leading to this moment when Ace realizes he kissed a man:
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— u/Cthulus-lefttentacle
19. 2003's Anger Management, starring Jack Nicholson and Adam Sandler, which is just offensive all around:
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"I'm frankly a little horrified that I ever found Anger Management even slightly amusing. It's sexist, anti-gay, and treats sexual assault like a joke. That film is fucking disgusting."
— u/LordCamelslayer
20. 2009's 17 Again, starring Zac Efron, which includes multiple scenes of a teenager unknowingly trying to seduce her own father (who is in a 17-year-old's body):
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"A 40-year-old goes back to high school, and his own daughter tries to hook up with him…no thanks."
— u/BoldNorthMN
21. 2010's The Switch, starring Jason Bateman and Jennifer Aniston, where a man switches in his sperm for his friend's chosen donor's sperm, leading her to get pregnant with his child instead:
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"Bateman's character fathers Aniston's character's baby without her knowledge/consent by replacing the donation sperm she uses to self-impregnate with his own. The movie plays as a romcom, and I can't believe it got made then, much less now."
— u/pheboglobi
22. 1995's Heavyweights, which is about a children's weight loss camp:
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"Not in the same vein as a lot of the others mentioned, but Heavyweights was a 90s DISNEY movie about a kids 'fat camp' starring Ben Stiller, and in today's body-positive times, I feel it wouldn't have been received the same way."
— u/mountlax12
23. 1995's While You Were Sleeping, which is about a woman (played by Sandra Bullock) pretending to be a comatose man's fiancé:
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"Getting fake-engaged to a vegetable is creepy. Keeping up the charade and nearly tricking him into marrying you for real after he wakes up is downright rapey. Then you get engaged to his brother whom you've known for all of 1-2 weeks? That's only marginally better. Also, it's set in Chicago, but you only see 2-3 Black people in the entire movie."
— u/Ms_Rarity
24. 2000's Road Trip, which features a man trying to intercept his sex tape with another woman before his girlfriend sees it...and has lines like this:
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"The plot is very dated. It is still a favorite of mine."
— u/K-Toon
25. 2006's Lucky Number Slevin, starring Bruce Willis, Lucy Liu, and Josh Hartnett, which is just constantly casually anti-gay:
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"I just rewatched Lucky Number Slevin, and it's pretty jarring how casually anti-gay the main characters are. I can still enjoy the movie to a certain degree. But woof. Very bad in retrospect."
— u/themilkywayfarer
26. 1987's Overboard, starring Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell, which has a wildly problematic premise:
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"A rich married woman falls off a boat and gets amnesia. Her husband takes the opportunity to pretend he doesn't know her. Kurt Rusell shows up at the hospital, claims her as his wife, and then takes her home to help raise his four kids."
— u/Modredastal
27. 2005's Hitch, which stars Will Smith as a major creep:
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"It's still held up as a cute romantic comedy, but Hitch is just fricken creepy. The first scene involves kidnapping a dog and pretending it gets hit by a car to trick a lady into liking the guy who 'saved' it. The whole movie's creepy."
— u/TvAzteca
28. 2009's (500) Days of Summer, which unfairly paints Summer (played by Zooey Deschanel) as the villain even though Tom (played by Joseph Gordon-Levitt) is clearly in the wrong:
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"Horrible movie. Joseph Gordon-Levitt's character is a proto-incel."
— u/yourfriendkyle
"I loved that movie when I was younger. The older I get, the more I realize how Summer was upfront about what she did and did not want, but Tom kept trying to force her into what he wanted. He even has the nerve to try and make it seem like she mistreated him and his feelings."
— u/Remy149
29. 1999's Never Been Kissed, where a teacher falls for a student (played by Drew Barrymore) not knowing she's 25:
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"Never Been Kissed is about a teacher essentially grooming a student and then is angry with her when she isn't a teenager but is actually a grown woman."
— u/highly88
30. 2010's Knight and Day, which features Cameron Diaz's character getting repeatedly drugged by Tom Cruise's character:
Frank Masi / 20th Century Fox / Courtesy Everett Collection
" Knight and Day?! Anyone?! I feel like no one sees this movie as problematic when it's literally based on Tom Cruise repeatedly drugging and kidnapping Cameron Diaz 😭😭 it always seriously disturbs me when I see it on TV."
— u/sunny_d55
31. 2004's The Notebook, starring Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams, which focuses on a wildly toxic love story:
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"The dynamic between the main couple was LOADED TO THE BRIM with red flags. And people thought THAT was romantic!?"
— u/Far-Revolution3225
32. 1984's Sixteen Candles, which includes a guy "giving" his drunk girlfriend to a classmate:
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"One boy gives another boy his unconscious girlfriend to rape, and everyone is just okay with it in the morning, including the girlfriend. So wrong."
— u/StarMom94
33. And finally...2020's Hillbilly Elegy, starring Gabriel Basso, Glenn Close, and Amy Adams, which is a portrait of the people of Appalachia based on a memoir by one of the most hateful people on Earth:
Lacey Terrell / Netflix / Courtesy Everett Collection
"I'm going out on a limb and say Hillbilly Elegy."
— u/kyflyboy
"Looking like Hillbilly Elegy is on its way to turning into a hunk of gorgonzola."
— u/MisterMasque2021
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I stopped hanging out with the girl and eventually stopped talking to her altogether. About a year later (we would text from time to time or talk when we ran into one another), I had to tell her how I felt. I had to get it off my chest. I went to her place late at night, and I told her everything. How I missed her, how I cared about her, how she made me feel, and so on. She told me that the feeling was mutual and that she had often thought about what a relationship between us would be like... I told her goodnight and left. I haven't talked to her since. My girlfriend has forgiven me for what I did, but to be honest, I still think about her sometimes, and I miss her." –u/Mouse_Bites 14."Basically, I was in love with a girl who loved me, but was more in love with her best friend. Her best friend was extremely possessive and kind of a terrible person, and didn't want to share her. It bordered on abuse and manipulation, but I couldn't convince her otherwise. So our relationship was a complete secret. Long story short, I ended up getting my heart broken, while she ended up with the person she really wanted to be with. We didn't talk for several months, and I just pretty much numbed myself to the pain. We just started talking again recently, actually, but I'm very guarded around her. For as much as I cared about her, I'll never do something so stupid again. It makes it hard to trust people." –u/knightwave 15."I was a dirty little secret for the better part of 10 years (on and off). It sucked. He was insistent on not openly dating me, but everyone in his circle knew about me. His refusal to be open about it just hurt me (though he always had a good excuse.)" "Last we talked, he told me he was openly dating, and giving everything I asked for to a trailer girl with four kids who never graduated from high school. (I hold two degrees from a top-ranked university) So I declared him 'dead to me' 6 months ago and have never felt better." –u/Kopannie 16."Badly. We worked together and ended up dating for about a year and a half. During that time, he met my family, we went away for the weekend, did all that couple stuff, etc. But the ENTIRE time, he was completely paranoid about people at work finding out. There could be no pictures on social media, we couldn't go to work together, we couldn't leave together, we couldn't have list goes on. For a year and a half, it was horrible. And by the way... people at work knew anyway." –u/littlebev 17."My ex-girlfriend and I kept our relationship a secret for the first few months just because some people in our friendship group would have been unhappy about it. Eventually, we let everyone know about it, and it went well. We lasted four years and split up last year because the relationship had run its course, and we wanted different things." –u/FastMoreThanTrain finally, "Badly, yet somehow we are still friends. Took about a 5-6 month cooling-off period, though. Basically, I had to hide the relationship from my mother because she hated my gf for the actions she had done to me in the past and for how she dresses. My dad knew about it but chose not to tell my mother, as my mother has a bit of a hot streak when it comes to her temper. It mostly worked out; not being able to have her at my house all that often was a bit of a pain, but I found ways around it. What killed it, though, was not only my mother finding out eventually but an argument about sex, as I overreacted to the prospect of having a child. The breakup was somewhat amicable, but I also found out that not long after the breakup, she had sex with her ex. That shattered me for a while, but now it's nothing but a distant memory." –u/Cruxisshadow H/T: r/AskReddit
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Confessions From Secret Relationships: What Happened
Not all love stories are designed to be flaunted on Instagram. Some of the most thrilling romances actually are better served outside of the public eye. Some of the most exciting and memorable romances are often messy, complicated, and hidden behind locked screens and whispered phone calls. And despite how convoluted it could get, they leave a lasting impression, for better or for worse. Whether it was a forbidden office romance, a love affair that crossed cultural lines, or a situationship that never made it to 'Instagram official,' people have found themselves in secret relationships for way longer than they ever planned. I recently asked members of the BuzzFeed Community to spill the tea on the relationships they kept under wraps — and their stories range from heartbreaking to jaw-dropping. From being someone's 'dirty little secret' to uncovering the truth about why the secrecy started in the first place, these confessions will have you side-eyeing your situationship real quick. Note: Some submissions have been taken from this Reddit thread. "I'm still not ready to tell my kids about my girlfriend. However, I'm sure they suspect, as my ex has made several off-hand comments about me dating again." "I am in one right now. It's not a total secret, my friends know her and like her, but I've been keeping it from my mom, the most important person in the world to me, and it's really hard." "My mom lives in the Bay Area, and I split my time between there and LA depending on my work schedule. A couple of months ago, I met a girl, J, at a bar in Hollywood, and we had an instant connection. She makes me so happy, and I feel like I am falling in love. But I can't share that happiness with my mom. We talk on the phone every day, sometimes multiple times a day, and when I first met J, I told my mom I had made a new friend. She told me not to get involved romantically because I would be coming back to the Bay Area soon and should focus my attention on a guy in the Bay that I had expressed interest in a while ago. I told her I couldn't make any promises about that, and she said, 'Do what you want, but I don't want to hear about it.' I agreed. Fast forward a couple of weeks: I stayed the night at J's house, and my mom called me at 7 a.m. because she had checked my location and saw that I wasn't at my apartment. I told her I was at a friend's house, and when she asked who, I told the truth. She started freaking out, so I insisted it was platonic. She made me promise, and I lied to her. Since then, my feelings for J have only gotten deeper, and I have been lying to my mom on a daily basis about what I am doing and who I am with. It makes me feel like a terrible person, but I'm scared that if I come clean, she will never forgive me."—Anonymous, 25, Los Angeles "When I was 32, I had a brief affair with a friend. His wife was bi and had recently moved in with her girlfriend. It appeared to all of us that the friend and his wife were going to make the separation permanent (the friend certainly thought so)." "After we'd been together about a month, the friend's wife took notice. After three months had passed, she decided she wanted to keep her husband after all and came back. I was offered the chance to stay, too, if I agreed to be shared by both of them. I declined, and eventually moved far away. I found them a couple of years ago on Facebook. They're still together. I didn't contact them."—Anonymous, 63, Arizona "She tried flirting with him, and he was friendly but didn't seem interested. She kinda gave up after that, but whenever we were there, she would bring up how hot he is. About a month later, I was there without her, and I noticed he kept looking my way, so I made eye contact and smiled. By the end of the night, we were flirting and exchanged numbers. It was really exciting having to keep him a secret, I got a thrill from going to the bar and pretending I didn't know him and having other guys try to hit on me in front of him." "One night, she was pretty drunk at the bar and went up to him and asked him if he wanted to go home with her. He ended up telling her that he has been eyeing me. He wanted an actual relationship, and I used my friend as an excuse to avoid that, but she told him that he needs to make the first move.. I got bored because it wasn't a secret anymore, so I ended it. Don't worry, this was in my early 20s, and I've since gone to therapy."—Anonymous, 31 "When I was in my early 20s, I worked at a country club. I was always at the front desk as the membership rep. One day, an older man came in with his wife; he brought the VIP package, so I was doing my best to make him happy. He took a liking to me, and soon enough, we were sneaking away every chance we got." "I only broke things off when at a party for the club, I heard him telling some of his male friends that they could have a turn with me. My best friend was livid when she found out, but since she worked at the club too, she did little things to ruin his time there. Being young and dumb doesn't excuse what I did, but it is a great way of explaining how stupid I was."—Anonymous, 30, South Carolina "I once started dating a guy from work. We kept it on the DL because we didn't want anyone there to know. He was also recently divorced. I basically moved in with him, and we spent 24/7 together for several months. However, he was always paranoid about me being seen on the ring camera or leaving things around the house when visitors came." "He said his ex was crazy and still had access to the cameras through an app. I started getting suspicious, but I'd met some of his friends and was young and naive, so I believed that to be true. Fast forward a few months, and he gets relocated for work…to where his ex lives. I found out on Facebook a year later that they're still married. We had called it off once he moved, but I was the side chick while they were long-distance and truly had no idea. Moral of the story - listen to your gut!!"—Anonymous, 29, Nevada "I was 17 and he was 20." "When I was 21, I started seeing a 30-year-old. My mom was super religious, and I still lived at home, so I would sneak out when she went to bed to go to his place. We had a rule of no sleepovers; we both didn't want a relationship, and I think he was afraid I would get confused if I spent the night. He was the first one to show me what it's like to have a man cater to me and put my pleasure before their own. He helped me find my voice and be confident when it came to asking for what I want and letting a guy know what didn't feel good. Looking back, the age gap is a bit too much at that age, but I am thankful for him. He was really respectful and attentive." —Anonymous "My secret relationship is the necessary kind as opposed to the fun and exciting kind. I'm a trans man, and my partner is still in the closet. We're both bisexual, but he's never gone public about his relationships and sexual encounters with men, while I've been openly bisexual since I was 13." "It was a hot, messy, scandalous affair." "He was a successful and celebrated musician. We both were in relationships with other people. We genuinely loved each other and probably wished that it could be something more 'normal', but life didn't work like that. It was the kind of relationship that caused a buzz of electricity when we were in a room together, and everyone could feel it. He died unexpectedly, going on six years now. The day after he died, I was at a cemetery caring for a loved one's grave. I could sense the weight of it all, and at that moment, a car with a personalized plate drove by. The plate said 'LOVU4EVR' and I believe it."—Anonymous, 52, Canada "20 years after high school, a girl I knew then reached out and asked me to lunch. She told me how successful she and her husband were, and how wonderful their family was. Within 2 weeks, she caught him cheating and was over at my place doing things best not mentioned at meals. This went on for over 10 years. Once she and her husband finally split up, there was no more fun in our secret. She hooked up with the first guy that talked to her, and I retired. Everyone is happy. Even the cuckold." —Anonymous, 53, Denver "At first, it's fun and incredibly exciting! Sneaking around, stealing kisses, and spontaneous rendezvous for some action. Then basically, all your friends catch on since it's impossible not to be somewhat obvious. On top of that, people in a secret relationship normally can't keep their mouths shut and tell one person, making them swear not to tell anyone, but they will. "Overall, it's an awesome charade that can become pretty fulfilling, and mostly no one in your inner circle will care unless you are cheating. That's just quick gratification with long-lasting ramifications.I was in a 3 year relationship that began as a secret. Great experience and would never trade it for anything."–u/Hooligan_Hardguy "This is a throwaway for good reason. In my freshman year of college, I had been dating a girl for 3 years. She went to a different school at the time, so I didn't see her much, and the long-distance thing took a toll. About a month into my first semester, I met this girl in one of my classes. She was incredibly good-looking and very sweet. I had developed a bit of a crush on her, but it was nothing serious, just a bit of daydreaming. Then one day, I got a message on Facebook from her asking if she wanted to help me review her essay. She claimed to have read something of mine and really liked my writing style. I thought it was odd because she would always sit next to and talk to this other guy in class, and had never actually spoken to me. So, I met with her in the library and we started talking." "Basically, I was in love with a girl who loved me, but was more in love with her best friend. Her best friend was extremely possessive and kind of a terrible person, and didn't want to share her. It bordered on abuse and manipulation, but I couldn't convince her otherwise. So our relationship was a complete secret. Long story short, I ended up getting my heart broken, while she ended up with the person she really wanted to be with. We didn't talk for several months, and I just pretty much numbed myself to the pain. We just started talking again recently, actually, but I'm very guarded around her. For as much as I cared about her, I'll never do something so stupid again. It makes it hard to trust people." "I was a dirty little secret for the better part of 10 years (on and off). It sucked. He was insistent on not openly dating me, but everyone in his circle knew about me. His refusal to be open about it just hurt me (though he always had a good excuse.)" "Last we talked, he told me he was openly dating, and giving everything I asked for to a trailer girl with four kids who never graduated from high school. (I hold two degrees from a top-ranked university) So I declared him 'dead to me' 6 months ago and have never felt better."–u/Kopannie "Badly. We worked together and ended up dating for about a year and a half. During that time, he met my family, we went away for the weekend, did all that couple stuff, etc. But the ENTIRE time, he was completely paranoid about people at work finding out. There could be no pictures on social media, we couldn't go to work together, we couldn't leave together, we couldn't have list goes on. For a year and a half, it was horrible. And by the way... people at work knew anyway." –u/littlebev "My ex-girlfriend and I kept our relationship a secret for the first few months just because some people in our friendship group would have been unhappy about it. Eventually, we let everyone know about it, and it went well. We lasted four years and split up last year because the relationship had run its course, and we wanted different things." And finally, "Badly, yet somehow we are still friends. Took about a 5-6 month cooling-off period, though. Basically, I had to hide the relationship from my mother because she hated my gf for the actions she had done to me in the past and for how she dresses. My dad knew about it but chose not to tell my mother, as my mother has a bit of a hot streak when it comes to her temper. It mostly worked out; not being able to have her at my house all that often was a bit of a pain, but I found ways around it. What killed it, though, was not only my mother finding out eventually but an argument about sex, as I overreacted to the prospect of having a child. The breakup was somewhat amicable, but I also found out that not long after the breakup, she had sex with her ex. That shattered me for a while, but now it's nothing but a distant memory." –u/Cruxisshadow H/T: r/AskReddit
