Will our passion fade if he leaves his wife?

Times

15-05-2025

Q. After my divorce I rekindled a relationship with a former lover, who is still married with (older) children. The sex is incredible but I'm horrified that he's started talking about leaving his wife for me. I worry that the passion would fade if we became a real couple. How can I encourage him to just enjoy what we have?
A. I don't know how or why your marriage ended but I do know that most divorces are hugely painful and I can understand why, after that kind of trauma, you might want to have a no-strings sexual relationship. The issue here is that you have chosen a partner who is very much attached. At first glance it looks as if you may have purposely