Woman Refuses to Move into Boyfriend's Apartment Because He Still Has Handwritten Notes From His Ex on the Fridge
Though the user suggested they look for a new place together, he claims he can't afford to move and insists she's "reading too much into it"
Other Reddit users agree that the personal items from his last relationship are a red flag and she shouldn't move in with himA woman on Reddit is rethinking her decision to move in with her boyfriend after taking a good look at his apartment.
In a post on Reddit's r/AmIOverreacting, the user explains that she and her boyfriend, "Leo," have been together for just over a year and are considering taking the next step in their relationship together.
"He recently asked me to move in. We've talked about it before, but now that it's real, I'm hesitating and it's mostly because of his place," she explains.
According to the user, his apartment is still decorated with remnants of his last relationship, which makes her a bit uncomfortable.
"He still lives in the apartment he used to share with his ex. They lived there for over three years, and it shows," she writes. "The furniture, the art on the walls, the tiny post-it notes still on the fridge with her handwriting… it's like she never really left."
She's tried to approach the subject with her partner, who brushes off her concerns as her "reading too much into it." He claims he "just hasn't bothered to redecorate and that none of it 'means anything.' "
"It feels like I'd be walking into a space that was never made for me, just trying to squeeze myself in," she explains. "I offered to look for a new place together. He says we can't afford it right now, and that I should be more flexible."
Though the poster wonders if she's being "sensitive," other users are firmly in agreement with her, noting that it's odd he still has personal items, such as handwritten notes, around the apartment.
"Furniture is one thing that s--- is expensive to replace but the art and hand written notes??? it definitely means something to him," one user chimed in.
Another user noted that the boyfriend "needs to de-ex" the apartment "so there's nothing personal left from when he was with her."
"I get that furniture may not change - a new bed would be nice - but artwork and knick-knacks can definitely be personal to you rather than to her," they wrote. "And there should be absolutely nothing with her handwriting on."
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