Tulisa Contostavlos' new life in country with secret 'soul family' after boyfriend disaster

Daily Mirror

18 hours ago

There was a time when N'Dubz star Tulisa Contostavlos was rarely out of the headlines. Now, reflecting on her turbulent years in her new book Judgement: Love, Trials, and Tribulations, she reveals that life today looks very different
Much of Tulisa Contostavlos 's life has been spent in the spotlight. From her early days with N-Dubz, to her stint as an X Factor judge, her solo career, her tumultuous love life, I'm A Celebrity appearance, and the famous collapse of her drug trial, the 37-year-old has consistently made headlines.
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But more recently, she has opted for a different approach. Now Tulisa prioritises her happiness and wellbeing - and that has meant some dramatic changes.
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The star has shared a detailed update on her new life in her new book, Judgement: Love, Trials, and Tribulations. She reveals that she has relocated to Cheshire in order to be close to her best friend Michelle McKenna, her husband Daniel and their daughter Nevaeh - Tulisa's goddaughter.
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She also prioritises time with another best friend Percy, who travels with her son to see Tulisa on the weekends - and it is this tightknit clan that means the most.
She writes: "Through our bond, Percy has in turn become very close with Michelle and Dan, and together we have become the fantastic four. Or as I like to call us, the soul family. True love is a beautiful thing; I feel extremely blessed to have it and I cherish it dearly. I have become the kind of person that would do anything for their soul family, as they would for me."
According to Tulisa, she is much more of an introvert these days, who embraces her quiet life in the country - bar the occasional blowout or fun holiday. Instead she says she is focused on her fitness, health, and mental wellbeing, which includes meditation, structure and routine.
For the past year, she has been living in her dream home, which she spent six months doing up, in a quiet countrified area in the middle of nowhere.
"Honestly, I'm a bit of nerd in my spare time," she writes. "I've gone back to being an avid reader like I was in my teens. I'm obsessed with Ancient History and Ancient Alien theories. I'm currently on my fifth read of The Emerald Tablets of Thoth the Atlantean. I watch all things fantasy, play PlayStation and of course I still love to cook, especially in my new kitchen."
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And what about her love life? According to the star it's been "chaotic enough to write another ten books". She had an on-off relationship with a boyfriend named Jacob which lasted three years, and another with an older man she calls *Miles. After their breakup, she embarked on a three-year celibacy stint before reconciling with another ex named *Liam - and they even spent Christmas 2024 together. But it wasn't to be and she once again briefly reconnected with Miles.
Cut to present day, and Tulisa says she is forcing herself to date again in the hopes of a fresh start. But it's not a process she enjoys.
"I've played the bachelorette for most of my life and at times it's been a lot of fun, but I'm now 36 with 37 fast approaching and all the games haven't brought me any real happiness, only temporary fleeting kicks of excitement and thrills," she writes.
"I know I'm tired of it all, but I am also still scared shitless of settling down. I decided to freeze my eggs to take the pressure off and bide my time if needs be. All I know for sure is that everything I've been through has left deep scars, but I've also become a different person and it's time for a change. I'd say I'm finally open to finding someone to heal and grow with, and dare I say 'settle down'."