Man Cancels Father-Son Trip at the Last Minute Because His New Wife ‘Felt Left Out'
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A father-son duo had a trip planned "just the two of them" for months
However, the dad canceled at the last minute after his wife said she felt "left out"
The son "stopped reaching out or responding" to his dad as a result
A son is no longer on speaking terms with his dad after he canceled their trip at the last minute due to his wife's wishes.
The Redditor revealed in a recent post that he and his father had been planning a weekend trip together all summer.
"Just the two of us, like we used to do before he got remarried," he explains.
However, a few days before they were supposed to leave, his dad "canceled."
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"He said his wife didn't feel comfortable with him going without her and felt left out," he adds. "So instead of talking to me or trying to figure something out, he just canceled the whole thing."
The poster notes that he "was really looking forward" to the trip, so when his dad explained the reasoning, "it hit hard."
"He didn't even try to talk it through or find a compromise just called and said we weren't going anymore like it was no big deal," he writes, adding that he feels like he isn't "even allowed to spend time alone with my own dad anymore."
The Redditor says he hasn't talked to his dad since the incident, but isn't sure he has even noticed.
"I haven't told him directly i've just stopped reaching out or responding," he replied to a comment. "I guess part of me was hoping he'd notice or reach out first, but maybe I need to actually say something."
In response to other comments, the poster noted that he feels "second place" to his stepmom and that he isn't at the top of his dad's "priority list."
"Im not asking him to choose sides, but he needs to realize that trying to keep her happy at my expense is just pushing me away," he noted elsewhere in the comments. "If we don't talk about it soon, I'm scared it'll damage things for good."
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