Help! I Can Afford My Best Friend's Destination Wedding. But There's Another Reason I Really Don't Want to Be There.
Our advice columnists have heard it all over the years—so we're diving into the Dear Prudence archives to share classic letters with our readers. Submit your own questions to Prudie here.
Dear Prudence,
One of my best friends is getting married next year at an all-inclusive resort, because she doesn't want to spend the money on a wedding. I don't blame her, but I don't want to spend the money to go to the resort. It's not that I can't afford it; I just don't believe in spending $1,000-plus for a few days (yes, that's the cost for three nights; two isn't much cheaper) by a swimming pool eating mediocre food. That's just really not my idea of a good time at all, and while I would love to see her get married, I know I'll just be resentful the whole time that I spent all this money. Am I selfish for not going?
—Am I Being Selfish?
Dear Selfish,
One of the upsides of a destination wedding is giving everyone in your life a guilt-free reason for not attending. Just because it might not ruin you to spend more than $1,000 (and that's not including travel and formal wear) on a single weekend doesn't mean you're obligated to spend the money. If she's one of your best friends and there's any sort of compromise that feels workable and like it wouldn't be too much of a strain on your budget, I think you should at least consider it, but it's not like you're saying 'No' to a wedding on the other side of town. Offer to take her out when she gets back so you can celebrate her nuptials locally, and sleep soundly.
—Danny M. Lavery
From: Help! The Son of an Acquaintance Died. Is It Rude to Ask How? (Aug. 21, 2018).
Dear Prudence,
I met my current boyfriend, 'Drew,' a few years ago, though we didn't start dating until recently, partly because when we met, he had a girlfriend. Wading into this new relationship is a bit easier than usual because I've known Drew for a while, but something happened not long ago that made me uncomfortable: He mentioned that it was nice to be sleeping with a thin woman again after three-and-a-half years with his ex. I found this attempted compliment uncommonly mean and weird. It was obvious I was upset, and Drew made an excuse to leave soon after.
I'm not friends with Drew's ex, but I've met her and she's nice and even if she wasn't, what he said was a low blow. How should I talk to him about this?
—Compared to an Ex
Dear Compared,
'It really bothered me that you spoke so negatively about your ex's body the last time I saw you. I don't normally see you comparing women's bodies, so I'm having trouble understanding this side of you. Telling me something snide and unkind about the body of a woman you used to have sex with doesn't impress me, and it doesn't make me feel like I've been complimented. It makes me feel uncomfortable and unsure of your character, and it makes me wonder what you might say to other women about my body. What's going on here?'
If he can acknowledge that what he did was unkind and unnecessary and offer a sincere apology, then that's one thing; if he gets evasive or says you must have misunderstood him or that he was 'just trying to be nice,' I think you've seen a side of him that might change how you see him as a boyfriend.
—D. M. L.
From: Help! I Forced My Husband to Have Kids. It Was a Terrible Mistake. (Oct. 10, 2018).
Dear Prudence,
I'm a fan of a sport that doesn't have many female fans, let alone gay ones like myself. My childhood BFF and I took a trip out of state together last year to see the big game, and that's where we met 'Becky' and 'Donna,' a couple who had also traveled for the event. We got along wonderfully, and the four of us have since gone to games together as often as distance will allow.
Here's my dilemma. I'm thinking of taking a road trip next summer, just for fun, and I want to invite Becky and Donna with me. I love my BFF, I really do, but I think we're better as long-distance friends. I sleep in, she's an early riser; I plan, she's spontaneous. We're at each other's throats by Day 3 of cohabitation. Also, she can say thoughtless things sometimes, insulting how I look, etc. I know she doesn't mean it badly, but without the buffer of distance, our interactions get increasingly tense. With Becky and Donna, it's easy to be myself and we mesh perfectly; I would love to be stuck in a smelly van with them for weeks. I worry BFF would be incredibly hurt by this, since she sees us as a dynamic foursome. They live as far from me as my BFF does, so I couldn't pass it off as convenience. How do I ask them to join me but leave out my BFF? And how do I tell my BFF, who I rarely get to see in person, that I love her, but don't want to spend that time with her?
—Cherry-Picking Vacation Buddies
Dear Cherry-Picking,
I know you're worried that your BFF will be hurt by your decision, but it sounds like right now your friendship is based on the premise that it's sort of OK for her to hurt you, because saying thoughtless things is apparently an unchangeable part of her personality. I think you should invite Becky and Donna on your road trip without a moment's hesitation. Just because you met them while on a trip with your BFF does not mean you signed a contract promising only to hang out together as a foursome in perpetuity. Have you ever talked to your BFF about the disparities in your travel preferences or the fact that she regularly says things that hurt you, including unkind remarks about your physical appearance? If not, I think you should consider it, even if it's uncoupled from telling her about taking a vacation with Becky and Donna. You are not doing something wrong by wanting to travel with other friends and so do not need to apologize for it. If your BFF is unable to listen to you talk about how her remarks hurt you, then it may be time to reconsider the friendship.
—D. M. L.
From: Help! My Niece and Nephew Took My Teenage Daughter Out of State to Get an Abortion. (Sept. 18, 2018).
Yesterday was my son's birthday. On Saturday, I took him and two friends to a preseason pro football game, including a tailgate before the game and pizza afterward, as his birthday gift. When my ex-husband heard about the football game, he declared that I hadn't given our son 'a real gift,' as in something tangible to open…
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We Made It Rain On These Waterproof Duffels—These 8 Didn't Let Any Water In
I have a dedicated travel purse I use to commute to work, and whenever I get caught in the rain, I regularly stress about whether my laptop will get ruined from water seeping into the bag. So I can imagine how frustrating it must be to accidentally wet or ruin your belongings on a trip you've been looking forward to. This is where owning a waterproof duffel makes all the difference. Waterproof duffel bags offer a great line of defense against rainy and muddy conditions, and can keep your things protected should they accidentally get splashed during a ferry ride or get caught in a sudden downpour. The difference between a solid waterproof duffel and a regular duffel bag all comes down to the material, since the outer fabric of the bag determines whether it will let any water through or not. That doesn't only include its fabric, but what its zipper is made of, too. One of the bags I tested during T+L's waterproof duffel lab test was waterproof everywhere except near the zippers, allowing water to seep in—no good! To help you avoid the unnecessary frustration of buying a waterproof duffel only to find out it isn't so waterproof, we tested a few bags in our New York City lab and evaluated them based on their capacity, design, portability, waterproofing, durability, and value. Here are our favorites. If you regularly participate in outdoor activities, there's a reason you can spot Osprey bags literally everywhere. Known for their durability, the bags are built tough but comfortable to carry, and we found that the Transporter Waterproof Duffel is no different. After testing, it nabbed our top spot for its excellent waterproofing and sturdy build. Despite its sturdiness, the bag is really lightweight, even though it's large enough to hold 70 liters (meaning you'll have to check it for flights). You can pack it a ton, so it does get heavier the more you stuff it, but we were able to fit three pairs of shoes (including a chunky pair of hiking boots) in addition to clothes and toiletries without a problem. The inside of the bag is one large main compartment with two compression straps that have a medium-sized mesh pocket attached to it. This pocket can be handy for smaller accessories, like your sunglasses or cellphone, or to separate dirty socks and underwear from the rest of your things. The bag closes using a large zipper that may feel stiff at first, but just requires a little extra effort to operate. That's because its construction is tough to keep water from seeping through it, which did happen with one of the other duffels we tested, so it's a trade-off we don't mind. The zipper opening is also pretty wide, so you can fit things into the bag without struggling to get them in there. That being said, the duffel's opening isn't wide enough to get a bird's eye view of what's in the bag, so on some occasions you may need to shuffle things around to find what you're looking for. What we did find super impressive, though, is that not even a drop of water made it into the bag after we placed it under a rain shower. In fact, it boasts an IPX7 rating, which means it can be submerged in up to a meter of water for up to 30 minutes. Made from nylon, the bag's fabric is really durable, too. After dropping and dragging it, it didn't show any scuffs or other signs of damage. If you opt to travel with this duffel, you can hold it two ways: as a backpack (the straps are padded to make them more comfy), or like a traditional duffel bag. The Details: 11.81 x 15.35 x 27.56 inches | 2.478 pounds | 70 liter capacity | Double TPU-coated recycled nylon Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Amazon $230 at Amazon View on REI View on Made with several adjustable straps and an expandable build, the Peak Design Travel Duffelpack is easy to pack and carry. At minimum, it features 45 liters of carrying capacity, but if you need to pack a few more things, the bag can expand to hold 65 liters max. In fact, during testing we were able to stuff the bag with five tops, two bottoms, three pairs each of socks and underwear, a sweater, jacket, and sneakers, plus a dopp kit and water bottle. The bag's opening, which closes with a zipper that runs the length of the bag, also opens up very wide to give you great visibility into what's inside. While the duffel itself is lightweight, it can become pretty heavy when packed. However, the bag is designed with padded shoulder, chest, and waist straps to help distribute its weight evenly when carrying it. This makes the bag a lot more comfortable to lug around on your back. The straps can be easily tucked away when not in use, too, so you don't need to worry about them getting in the way. 'The shoulder straps and grab handles absorb water—and they stayed wet long after the testing period,' said associate testing editor Danielle Calma. Still, we like that the bag is durable and pretty sturdy. It didn't show any signs of wear after we dropped it on the ground several times. The Details: 26 x 15 x 12 inches (standard), 26 x 17 x 13 inches (expanded) | 3.9 pounds | 65 liter capacity | Recycled nylon, anodized aluminum, glass-reinforced nylon (hardware) Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure While a structured design can provide direction for how to organize your bag, an unstructured bag like the Matador Freefly Duffle gives you more control over how and where you pack things. Its flexible build can allow you to quite literally pack it to the brim by taking advantage of every nook and cranny. The Freefly has a 30-liter capacity, so it's best used as a personal item bag, or for day or weekend trips. Best of all, the bag can be folded down to fit into a pouch. 'This bag is shockingly lightweight,' says associate editor Anna Popp. 'Because it's foldable and packable, it has a very lightweight and unstructured design, which is amazing for portability.' The duffel itself is just one large main compartment, but its zippers open up wide, which make it easy to pack and to see what's inside. When we tested the bag under wet conditions, the materials inside stayed dry for the most part, but we did find that some moisture did creep in where the zippers met. There wasn't enough water for it to be a concern, but if you prefer a bag that can handle being submerged, this isn't it. When it comes to moving with it, the Matador Freefly can be worn as a backpack or tossed over the shoulder like a traditional duffel. Its carrying handles are rubberized, which allows for a comfortable, soft grip. The backpack straps, on the other hand, aren't padded, so we found that the bag was more pleasant to hold than to wear as a backpack. The Details: 3.75 x 3.7 x 5.5 inches | 8.5 ounces | 30 liter capacity | 70D Robic nylon, 50D nylon mini ripstop, 210D bonded nylon thread Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Amazon $330 at Amazon View on REI $330 $264 at Backcountry Durable, but light as a 'heavy-duty rain jacket,' the NRS Expedition DriDuffel 70L Dry Bag is incredibly spacious and fully waterproof. In fact, like the Osprey, it's earned an IPX7 rating. Designed with one easy-to-pack main compartment, the bag has a carrying capacity of 70 liters. It also features carabiners on the outside, so you can attach small items, like a flashlight, keys, or even a water bottle. It closes using a slick zipper that's easy to zip and unzip, but the zipper is watertight and toothless, so it doesn't let any water in, even if the bag ends up submerged in water. After thoroughly wetting the bag, we didn't observe any moisture inside the bag. However, we did notice that the duffel's carrying handles remained wet for quite a while after getting rained on. The bag itself is made of TPU-coated nylon that's very tough. 'It shows no signs of wear and tear—I even stepped on it at one point and it shows no marks,' said T+L editor Taylor Fox. The duffel is designed with a shoulder strap and a carrying handle, so that you can switch up the way you hold it. The shoulder strap even has padding that can be moved around and set wherever you prefer. You'll also find loop handles on each side of the bag you can grab whenever you need to lift the duffel up onto a surface. If you don't love the gray (smoke) option, you can also shop it in a red (salsa) or blue (Mykonos). The Details: 28 x 15.25 x 11.75 inches | 2.13 pounds | 70 liter capacity | TPU-coated 840-denier heavy-duty nylon Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure While this massive 140-liter bag is technically a duffel, it also functions as checked luggage. That's because it's one of the largest suitcases we've seen out of the 700+ travel bags we've tested. To make it easier to move around, the bag is designed with two wheels that allow you to roll it, or stand it on its own. During testing, we were able to pack the duffel with clothing for ten days (including a rain jacket and a puffer jacket), four pairs of boots, a tent, and two hiking chairs. In fact, it's so wide and spacious, senior testing editor Jackie Cucco says could climb right in and lay in it. " It is definitely one of the largest checked suitcases I have ever seen out of the 700+ travel bags we've tested, even when compared to traditional checked suitcases," she adds. If not used for a long trip, the duffel may also be ideal if you're packing for an entire family, group outings, or trips where you need to pack a ton of gear, like a boating trip where you'll be snorkeling. What's even more impressive about this bag is that it's very water-resistant despite its larger size. After getting wet, the water that got on the bag beaded up and rolled right off of the plastic-y fabric. We didn't find that any water snuck in through the zippers, either, something we experienced with some of the other duffels on this list. This bag is one of the heaviest duffels we've tested, but if you compare its weight against other checked luggage, it's actually pretty lightweight. Though it can be worn as a backpack or carried like a traditional duffel, it's probably best to only do so occasionally and not for extended periods of time. The easiest way to transport the bag is probably to wheel it like a traditional suitcase, and luckily, we found that the wheels are very sturdy. We rolled the duffel over carpet, up onto pavers, and through stanchions meant to look like an airport waiting line, and the wheels never lagged or felt uneven. The Details: 14.2 x 38.6 x 17.7 inches | 112.5 ounces | 85, 110, and 140 liter capacity | Polyester, aluminium (floor plate) Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Travel + Leisure Credit: Rains $110 $100 at Amazon $110 at Nordstrom View on While many of the waterproof duffels we've tested sport more rugged looks, the Rains Hilo Weekend Bag features a modern minimalist design that makes it the most stylish bag on this list. While it is a bit smaller than most of our other waterproof duffel options, it can comfortably carry up to 36 liters. During testing, we were even able to pack it with bulkier items, including a pair of hiking boots and a foldable hiking chair. While the bag isn't designed with any pockets (just one large main compartment), it is made with compression straps that can be used to secure the items you pack. They also help to minimize the size of the bag, allowing you to easily fit it under an airplane seat if you want to use it as a personal bag. The bag is designed to handle light rain, and we found that this is pretty accurate. When we showered the duffel in water for 30 seconds, we didn't find that anything in the bag got wet or moist immediately after. In fact, the water turned into beads once it hit the bag's surface, and streamed off, as if it were running down a window pane of glass. The bag's zipper is also pretty smooth, even though it's coated with waterproof material. Like a number of our other bags, the duffel's handles did stay wet for a while. While the bag's fabric is thin, we found that it felt very durable, and would likely be very difficult to tear or rip. We didn't notice any scuffs or scratches on the bag after we repeatedly pushed it off a table during our drop test. Carrying the bag is pretty easy, as its lower carrying capacity makes it lightweight, but it's also designed with an adjustable shoulder strap that can be shortened or made longer to accommodate people of different heights. 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While we didn't submerge the bag during testing, we showered it with water for 30 seconds, and none of the materials in the bag got wet, not even through the zipper. In fact, the duffel's zipper is pretty heavy-duty, so you may have to yank it to get it going. We like that the bag's main (and only) compartment is very spacious. It had enough room for us to pack a water bottle, five tops, three bottoms, two jackets, seven pairs each of socks and underwear, two toiletry kits, and two shoes, including a pair of boots. It does lack smaller compartments, so figuring out a way to organize your things falls on you, and you may have to actively dig through the bag when you're trying to locate a specific item. The bag's opening is wide enough to allow you to see what's inside, but a little too narrow to stuff in multiple items at the same time. We found we had to separate a stack of clothes into several parts in order to get every piece into the bag. 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Instead of using a zipper to close it, you can close the bag by simply pressing its top together to suction it close, similar to the way you'd close a freezer bag. "When it's completely flat, it looks like a massive flat Longchamp purse," says Cucco. "You can fit so many different things in it, whether it's two weeks worth of clothing, some type of bulky river gear or fishing supplies, or muddy gear." We did find that you had to pull it rather hard to get it back open after it's closed, but that's a fair trade-off for achieving a waterproof seal. After getting wet, the water on the bag beaded up into circles and rolled right off. None of the water got inside of the bag, as we observed that everything inside was as dry as when it was first packed. The handles and their padding did remain wet for about an hour, though, but that was pretty standard for most of the waterproof duffels we tested. This duffel can hold 75.5 liters, but you can compress it to take on different shapes. If you roll the top and compress it with the bag's straps and buckles, you'll get a cylinder-shaped duffel bag, but if you don't roll the top down, the bag resembles a large tote. While it doesn't come with a shoulder strap, it does come with lash points where you can attach your own. However, the duffel's carrying hands are wide enough that you can force it over your shoulder if you prefer not carrying it in your hands, too. One thing to note is that while the duffel's thick, rubbery material feels durable and rip-proof, we did find that it was prone to creasing and observed a few white scuff marks on it after it was thrown onto the ground a few times during our drop test. 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There are few travel moments more deflating than racing through security, grabbing overpriced snacks, and hustling to your gate—only to find your flight has been canceled and the line to speak with an agent is already snaking around the concourse. (Although let's be frank: Getting that dreaded cancellation alert while you're en route to the airport isn't much better.) Whether it's due to weather, crew shortages, or an unexpected mechanical issue, flight cancellations can throw even the most carefully planned trip into chaos. The silver lining? With a few savvy strategies—and the right information—you can skip (some of) the stress by staying one step ahead. According to Dollar Flight Club founder Jesse Neugarten, the easiest and fastest way to find out if your flight has been canceled is by checking your airline's app or website. For the most up-to-date information, he recommends setting up email or text alerts as soon as you book; airlines usually send updates there instantly if your itinerary is impacted. Additionally, says Neugarten, tools like FlightAware "give you an extra layer of visibility." Simply enter your flight number, and you'll see real-time updates from the FAA and airline data systems. The platform also lets you track the aircraft's inbound journey, offering real-time insights on whether your plane is arriving on time—or if it's already delayed. As Neugarten explains, "If the plane that's supposed to become your flight is delayed in another city, you'll often see the writing on the wall before the airline officially tells you." He suggests checking FlightAware both the night before and the morning of your flight for early warning of delays or cancellations "well before they hit the airport monitors." 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(More information can be found and verified on the U.S. Department of Transportation website.) Before requesting your refund through the airline's website, app, or customer service team, you'll need to decline any alternative transportation or travel credits offered. If the airline still refuses to issue the refund, it's recommended to file a complaint with the U.S. Department of Transportation. Keep in mind that the above information applies only to domestic flights. Rules and regulations regarding international flight cancellations are a little murky. However, passengers flying to or from Europe may be entitled to up to roughly $700 under EU air passenger protections if their flight is delayed by more than three hours. In these cases, Neugarten suggests utilizing tools like AirHelp and Compensair, which 'make it easy to file claims and only take a cut if you get paid.' While no one can predict with certainty whether a flight will be canceled, there are smart strategies you can use to mitigate your risk. Here's how to set yourself up for better outcomes should your travel plans get disrupted. You know what they say: The early bird gets the worm—or, in this case, the on-time takeoff. Both Nastro and Neugarten tell T+L that early departures are more likely to leave on schedule. As Neugarten explains, that's because "they haven't been affected by delays building throughout the day." While flying nonstop may not always be feasible—especially if you're headed somewhere remote—it's almost always the safer bet when it comes to avoiding cancellations. The reasoning is simple: "Fewer legs mean fewer chances for something to go wrong," says Neugarten. While they may come with more crowds, larger airports often have more resources—extra gates, spare aircraft, larger crews, and more frequent flights on similar routes. That means if something goes wrong, you're more likely to be rebooked quickly or accommodated with alternate options. On the other hand, smaller regional airports may have fewer flights per day, limited ground staff, and longer wait times for assistance. Before booking your flight, Neugarten recommends using tools like Google Flights or FlightAware to see if your flight is frequently delayed and/or canceled. This provides a clearer picture of which routes or airlines are more prone to disruptions, helping you make a more informed decision prior to purchasing a ticket. Similarly, airlines are required to report their percentage of canceled flights to the U.S. Bureau of Transportation Statistics. This data offers valuable insight into an airline's overall reliability—and can help you choose a carrier with minimal canceled flights.
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A Local's Guide To Saint-Germain-Des-Prés, Paris
A busy day near Church of Saint-Germain-des-Prés, Paris. getty After multiple visits to Paris, I've learned the hard way that there is one Paris for tourists and another version for locals. I've made my share of mistakes, like settling for overpriced, forgettable steak frites while a better spot sat just a block away. While researching boutique alternatives to Airbnb and Highstay for an upcoming trip to the City of Light, I connected with Cécile Caillié. A longtime resident of Saint-Germain-des-Prés, Cécile founded the apartment rental company Saint-Germain by Cécile. A bedroom in the Jade apartment, part of the Saint-Germain by Cecile portfolio of rentals in the neighborhood. Saint-Germain by Cecile Cécile curates short-term stays in four elegant Left Bank apartments. She has spent years uncovering the neighborhood's hidden corners and liveliest spots so she can share personalized suggestions with her guests. So, I asked her advice on how to 'live like a local in Paris,' and she opened up her little black book of places to eat, shop, and explore—plus a snapshot of what a perfect day in the neighborhood for her looks like. Why Saint-Germain? It blends historic charm with daily life, she explains. "What first drew me in was its rare balance between the intellectual and the bucolic: you can feel the literary legacy of Sartre and Beauvoir even as you wander past art galleries and shaded café terraces,' she says. While other Parisian neighborhoods have grown overtly commercial—think Manhattan's Meatpacking District 20 years ago versus today—Saint-Germain has retained its independent spirit. You'll find family-run bookstores, design boutiques, a historic market, and classic bistros with loyal regulars. The The neighborhood is compact enough to navigate on foot, yet central enough to easily reach the rest of Paris.. If If you are considering a stay in Paris, be sure to bookmark this insider's guide to Saint-Germain-des-Prés. Boutary Restaurant. Saint-Germain by Cecile Where to Eat in Saint-Germain-des-Prés From landmark bistros to modern dining rooms, Saint-Germain is full of places where regulars and first-timers feel equally welcome. Here are Cécile's go-to spots for meals that reflect the neighborhood's flavor and history. Boutary Inside this elegant, modern space on rue Mazarine—a street some say is for those who truly know Paris—caviar takes the spotlight. Cécile recommends the smoked potato with bergamot and Bordier seaweed butter. "It's inventive without sacrificing finesse, and the setting is ideal for a romantic dinner or to surprise a guest." Guy Savoy Now based inside the Monnaie de Paris, Guy Savoy's restaurant offers a formal, artful experience that Cécile first discovered over two decades ago. Her must-orders include the crispy veal sweetbreads and the famous artichoke soup with black truffle and mushroom brioche. "It remains one of my greatest culinary memories." Huguette On the corner of rue de Seine and rue de Buci, this lively seafood spot evokes summer by the sea. Cécile loves the garlic butter frog legs, well-seasoned mussels, and large shellfish platters. The atmosphere is easygoing and joyful, whether you come for a long lunch or late dinner. Bonemarrow at Chez Fernand Christine. Saint-Germain by Cecile Chez Fernand Located on rue Christine, this classic bistro delivers traditional French comfort food in a cozy, relaxed setting. Cécile returns for the meltingly tender beef bourguignon and roasted bone marrow. In the evening, the energy rises, tables grow closer, and conversation fills the room. "It's the kind of place where you come as much to connect as to dine." Les Deux Magots Les Deux Magots is an iconic café on Place Saint-Germain-des-Prés, steeped in a literary legacy. It was once the haunt of Sartre, de Beauvoir, and Hemingway, and today remains a prime spot for a croque-monsieur and classic Parisian people-watching. Avant comptoir du Marché. Saint-Germain by Cecile Where to Drink Coffee and Wine in Saint-Germain-des-Prés Whether you're after a mid-morning espresso, an early evening apéro, or a quiet corner to read, Saint-Germain has no shortage of places to pause. These are Cécile's favorite spots for coffee, wine, and atmosphere. L'Avant-Comptoir du Marché Steps from Odéon, this no-frills standing bar is a local favorite for wine and small plates. Cécile comes for the ham croquettes, country pâté, and seasonal mushrooms. 'The energy reminds me of a coastal bistro—everyone's standing elbow to elbow with a glass of wine and something delicious in hand.' Rouge ou Blanc Tucked off rue Saint-Sulpice, two passionate owners run this cozy wine bar, creating a space where regulars feel like family. "It's warm, sincere, and full of life,' says Cécile. The wine list focuses on thoughtful producers, and the easygoing spirit makes it an ideal spot to linger. La Grande Crèmerie A small but lively wine bar on rue Grégoire de Tours, La Grande Crèmerie is known for its generous cheese and charcuterie boards and well-chosen bottles. Cécile favors the truffled Brillat-Savarin and poultry terrine with foie gras. 'It's a spontaneous kind of place—people stop by for a glass and end up staying for hours.' Terres de Café in Saint-Germain. Saint-Germain by Cecile Terres de Café This stylish coffee shop focuses on high-quality single origin beans. Cécile comes for the espresso and cappuccino, appreciating the precise, unfussy vibe. 'It's small, calm, and serious about coffee—perfect for a quick reset in the middle of the day.' Café d'Auteur Softly lit and tucked away, this café attracts readers, writers, and quiet regulars. Cécile likes to come in the morning. 'It's peaceful and inspiring—the kind of place where you can sit with a book and feel the walls breathe creativity.' Amorino This gelato shop is Cécile's go-to for a sweet treat. 'Their flower-shaped cones are a delight—almost too pretty to eat,' she says. Flavors are delicate and natural, making it a perfect stop while strolling the neighborhood. Les Drogueries d'Aujourd'hui Saint-Germain by Cecile Where to Shop in Saint-Germain-des-Prés Saint-Germain's retail scene blends practical staples with refined pleasures. Whether you're looking for gourmet treats, books, or beautiful essentials, these shops reflect the area's independent spirit. Les Drogueries d'Aujourd'hui A hardware-meets-curiosity shop on rue de Seine where locals go for hard-to-find essentials and charming surprises. 'It's run with care,' says Cécile. 'I go as much for the practicality as for the old-world spirit.' Tomat's Tucked on rue Jacob, this gourmet grocer is Cécile's pick for fine condiments, olive oils, and specialty sauces. 'It's where I go for gifts or to elevate a dinner at home,' she notes. 'A quiet essential.' Emilia Cosi On rue Saint-Sulpice, this lingerie boutique offers a refined, personal experience for intimate apparel. 'The selection is elegant and feminine, and the service is thoughtful—it feels like shopping with a friend,' Cécile says. Librairie des Femmes More than a bookstore, this cultural hub uplifts female voices and perspectives. 'The selection is bold and inspiring,' Cécile explains. 'You leave with a book and something to think about.' Jack Henry A newer addition to rue de Tournon, this artisanal bakery has quickly become a favorite. 'Their einkorn sesame bread is outstanding,' says Cécile, 'and the pastries are beautiful and balanced and made with intention.' Marché Saint-Germain. Saint-Germain by Cecile Green Space and Outdoor Rituals in Saint-Germain-des-Prés Daily life in Saint-Germain includes spending time outdoors, whether in green spaces, at open-air markets, or simply wandering past galleries and textile shops. Here are suggestions for experiencing the neighborhood on foot. Marché Saint-Germain At this covered food market, Cécile shops for seasonal produce and exchanges greetings with familiar vendors. It's a place where the flavors and faces of the neighborhood come together. Rue Férou This narrow, cobblestone street links Place Saint-Sulpice to the Luxembourg Gardens. Along one wall, you'll find a full inscription of Rimbaud's poem Le Bateau Ivre , offering a literary moment hidden within the city. Romantic baroque style fountain Medici in luxembourg garden. Paris, France getty Le Jardin du Luxembourg This is Cécile's sanctuary in every season. She often reads near the Medici Fountain or beneath the espaliered fruit trees. Rue Jacob and Rue de Furstenberg Cécile compares wandering these streets to a 'sensory ritual.' Windows of textile shops showcase sumptuous fabrics and prints. 'Even without buying anything, it's an inspiring walk—a blend of artisanal tradition and French elegance,' she says. The fabrics on display often spark ideas for a cushion, a tablecloth, or even a dress. Rue de Seine Exploring this stretch of art galleries is a weekend habit for Cécile. She enjoys wandering into exhibitions, whether by established names or new discoveries, and chatting with gallerists along the way. For her, it's a way to experience art as part of daily life. Cécile's Perfect Day in Saint-Germain-des-Pré Cécile C, the founder of Saint-Germain by Cécile, a luxury apartment rental company in the neighborhood. Cécile C 9:00 AM Start with a walk through the Jardin du Luxembourg, then pause near the Medici Fountain with a book or coffee. Start with a walk through the Jardin du Luxembourg, then pause near the Medici Fountain with a book or coffee. 10:30 AM Continue on to Rue Férou and read Rimbaud's Le Bateau Ivre , inscribed on the wall. Continue on to Rue Férou and read Rimbaud's , inscribed on the wall. 11:30 AM Stop at the Marché Saint-Germain for fresh produce, cheese, or something sweet. Stop at the Marché Saint-Germain for fresh produce, cheese, or something sweet. 12:30 PM Settle into lunch at Chez Fernand, a classic local bistro where the staff might just remember your usual. Settle into lunch at Chez Fernand, a classic local bistro where the staff might just remember your usual. 3:00 PM Visit the Librairie des Femmes on Rue Jacob and leave with a new book. Visit the Librairie des Femmes on Rue Jacob and leave with a new book. 5:00 PM Browse the textile shops on Rue de Furstenberg or catch a quiet film at a neighborhood cinema. People often refer to Saint-Germain-des-Prés as the "soul" of the Left Bank. Spend a weekend here, and you'll understand why. Or, better yet, follow in Cécile's footsteps. Jade apartment in the Saint-Germain by Cecile collection. Saint-Germain by Cecile Where to Stay Like a Local in Saint-Germain-Des-Prés If you're looking to live like a local, apartment rentals are a desirable alternative to hotels. Saint-Germain by Cécile offers four sophisticated, air-conditioned apartments in the heart of Paris' Left Bank—Ambre, Jade, Perle, and Bianca. Situated near the Luxembourg Garden and the art-filled streets of Mazarine and Seine, each residence combines high-end design with modern amenities. Guests enjoy discreet, personalized concierge service, courtesy of Cécile, from hard-to-get restaurant reservations to insider perks typically reserved for top hotel clientele.
