The secrets behind raising the happiest kids in the world: Lessons from Dutch parents
Researchers found that Dutch parents focused on fostering independence through trust and freedom.
They also value open communication on all topics, encouraging emotional well-being and mutual respect.
Every parent dreams of raising happy and healthy children - but, as we all know, the pressures of modern life and global challenges can make that goal difficult to achieve.
In the Netherlands, however, parents have done a pretty decent job, a 2025 United Nations Children's Fund (Unicef) report on childhood well-being found.
The study assessed the well-being of children across 43 countries within the European Union (EU) and the Organisation for Economic Cooperation and Development (OECD).
Interestingly, it didn't just focus on material wealth, but instead explored how children feel about their lives.
Dutch children scored impressively high, showing low levels of stress, high levels of independence, and exceptional levels of satisfaction in the quality of their social relationships.
Many of the children who participated in the study described their friends as 'kind and helpful'.
By contrast, children from wealthier nations, such as the US and Turkey, didn't fare as well. They reported higher stress, less support, and a stronger sense of inequality.
It highlights that wealth alone doesn't equate to happiness, which begs the question: what are Dutch parents doing differently?
Greater emphasis on independence
According to this CNN article, Dutch parents strongly emphasise teaching their children independence early on.
It's common for children of all ages to explore freely, visiting friends, parks, or other spaces independently. This trust fosters confidence and allows them to gradually navigate the world with greater autonomy.
Eating together
Family mealtimes are a significant part of Dutch culture, and many households ensure that at least one meal is shared together each day.
These moments offer an opportunity to connect, discuss the day, share feelings, or simply catch up. Research has shown that this practice promotes emotional well-being and strengthens family bonds.
Keeping family structure
Providing children with a daily routine is highly beneficial in helping them cope. According to experts, routine gives children a sense of predictability, offering them a sense of calm.
Dutch families value maintaining a clear daily routine. These routines aren't overly complicated, but often involve consistent bedtimes, mealtimes, and activities suited to the child's age and needs.
Don't shy away from uncomfortable conversations
When it comes to tough topics, Dutch parents don't shy away. Conversations around subjects, like sex, drugs and gender, are approached openly and with mutual respect.
According to Dutch-based child psychologist Veronique van der Kleij, in this CNBC article, these discussions are not one-sided; children are encouraged to express their thoughts and opinions, making the dialogue more inclusive and meaningful.
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