Sex and pregnancy
Sharon Gordon is the brains behind the Lola Montez Brand leads the adult entertainment Industry and has revolutionized the way business is done. From conceptualization, to brand exposure and product development. Lola Montez is currently a upmarket boutique in Sandton, Johannesburg with services including events, parties, education and e-commerce.
The amniotic sac and uterus provide strong protection, and the mucus plug safeguards the cervix. Neither penis, sex toy nor orgasm can harm your baby under normal conditions.
Experts from Mayo Clinic, March of Dimes, NHS, and others agree that sex during pregnancy doesn't increase the risk of miscarriage or preterm labour, provided there are no complications Still, conditions like placenta previa, cervical insufficiency, ruptured membranes, high-risk pregnancy or infection mean your OBGYN may recommend abstaining.
When to Avoid Sex
Sex may be constrained if you have:
Bleeding or cramping after sex
Broken water (risk of infection)
Placenta covering the cervix
History of early labour or cervical incompetence
High-risk complications (e.g. multiples, hematoma, STI concerns)
If in doubt, consult your health care provider.
Benefits
Physical & Physiological
Cardio and fitness
Arousal and intercourse increase heart rate, burn calories, and improve circulation,
helpful in controlling weight gain and hypertension so it's good for you even if you're
not pregnant.
Blood pressure & stress relief
Activities release oxytocin, endorphins, and improve sleep quality, aiding in stress
relief and better mood.
Pelvic muscle strength
Orgasms engage the pelvic floor, possibly aiding in childbirth and recovery
postpartum. Don't forget the Benwa Balls to help with muscle recovery after the baby
is born. It is important.
Immunological Health
Semen can contain paternal proteins and microbes that may help maternal immune
Adaptation. Several studies suggest prolonged exposure to a partner's semen before and during pregnancy may reduce preeclampsia (high blood pressure during pregnancy) risk by around 70%.
Emotional & Relationship Intimacy
Sex maintains emotional closeness and reassures both partners. Dr. Ruth emphasizes that intimacy, even if libido fluctuates, is essential for a strong bond and post-birth relationship
Changes Over Trimesters
1st Trimester
Common challenges include nausea, fatigue, breast soreness, and libido loss. Some women report increased sensitivity and pleasure due to blood flow.
2nd Trimester
Often cited as the 'sweet spot': morning sickness fades, energy returns, belly is small enough for comfort, and libido often increases
3rd Trimester
Comfort becomes the main concern, larger belly, positioning, exhaustion. Some regain desire; others don't. Focus shifts to what feels good. Sidelying or woman on top positions are popular and gentle.
Myths and Fallacies
Miscarriage risk: No credible link most miscarriages are chromosomal
Umbilical entanglement from arms overhead: False
Inducing labour: There is mixed evidence:
o Semen contains prostaglandins, and orgasms release oxytocin hormones
used in induction. However, no consistent research proves sex reliably induces labour. It may help only if your body is already ripe for labour.
Practical Tips and Safe Practices
Communication
Check in frequently with your partner about comfort, desire, and concerns. Modify plans as needed.
Positioning
Avoid lying flat on your back in later pregnancy to prevent pressure on blood vessels, opt for sidelying, woman on top, spooning, or hands and knees
Lubrication
Hormonal changes can cause dryness, use water-based lube for comfort. Avoid toys that blow air, to prevent air embolism.
Condoms and STIs
These protect both mother and foetus. Use condoms if new or non-monogamous partners are involved.
Watch for warning signs
Light spotting or mild cramps can be normal, but stop if bleeding, severe discomfort, leaked fluid, or contractions occur and contact your care provider.
Labor Induction: Can Sex Help?
The Theory
Semen prostaglandins may ripen the cervix; orgasms and nipple stimulation produce
oxytocin and mild contractions.
The Reality
Evidence is inconsistent. Most studies find no strong link between sex and earlier labour onset, except potentially in overdue pregnancies where the body is already preparing
Expert view
OBGYN Jimmy Belotte: 'Your body must already be prepared … sex alone will not trigger labour.'
Communication and Consent
Pregnancy shouldn't pressure you into sex if you don't want it. Libido fluctuations are normal.
Maintain emotional intimacy with cuddles, massage, or kiss if sex doesn't feel right.
When to Contact Your Doctor
Reach out if you experience:
Heavy or persistent bleeding
Fluid leak (waters)
Regular contractions
Severe pain after sex
High-risk pregnancy conditions Always clarify what's safe for your pregnancy with
your OBGYN or midwife.
Final Takeaways
Safety: Sex is safe in most healthy pregnancies and no risk to baby when no
complications are present.
Benefits abound: Physical, emotional, immunological, and relationship advantages.
Listen to your body: Preferences and comfort will evolve trimester to trimester.
Stay safe: Use condoms, when necessary, choose comfy positions, and watch for
warning signs.
No pressure: Sex won't necessarily induce labour and shouldn't be used as a
Guarantee.
Keep communication central: With your partner and your provider, for intimacy and
health.
Summary
Having sex during pregnancy can be a positive experience for many couples, offering physical wellness, emotional bonding, immune support, and even a deeper connection with your changing body. It's generally safe throughout all trimesters if no complications exist, but must be guided by open communication, comfort, and your care provider's advice.
Remember, every pregnancy journey is unique, find what works best for you.
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Blood pressure & stress relief Activities release oxytocin, endorphins, and improve sleep quality, aiding in stress relief and better mood. Pelvic muscle strength Orgasms engage the pelvic floor, possibly aiding in childbirth and recovery postpartum. Don't forget the Benwa Balls to help with muscle recovery after the baby is born. It is important. Immunological Health Semen can contain paternal proteins and microbes that may help maternal immune Adaptation. Several studies suggest prolonged exposure to a partner's semen before and during pregnancy may reduce preeclampsia (high blood pressure during pregnancy) risk by around 70%. Emotional & Relationship Intimacy Sex maintains emotional closeness and reassures both partners. Dr. Ruth emphasizes that intimacy, even if libido fluctuates, is essential for a strong bond and post-birth relationship Changes Over Trimesters 1st Trimester Common challenges include nausea, fatigue, breast soreness, and libido loss. 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