Pretty Boys singer Caity Baser reveals secret family feud after 'blocking' her mum

Daily Mirror

05-08-2025

The viral TikTok star, 23, also opens up about two harrowing sexual assault experiences as she talks to Paul C. Brunson on his hit podcast We Need To Talk
TikTok star Caity Baser has revealed she has a secret family feud that saw her 'block' her mum, who she has not spoken to for TWO YEARS.
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In a heartbreaking new interview, Caity also details two harrowing experiences of sexual assault - and says she wants to use her platform as a 'voice for Gen Z' to be more outspoken about such difficult subjects.
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It comes a year after she bounced back from her troll hell as she took a stand against body-shamers. Speaking candidly to Paul C. Brunson on his hit podcast, We Need To Talk, the Pretty Boys singer, 23, explains the deep-rooted reasons that she decided to 'block' her mum: 'On paper, she was great - emotionally, not so much.'
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The relationship with her mum became strained when Caity turned 17 and asked if she could get a contraception implant, and says the conversation that followed left her feeling 'shamed'.
Brit Award nominee Caity recalls: 'She was like: 'Why? Are you a s**g? Are you sleeping around? 'What are the boys going to say about you?'
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'I literally remember being in the car being like: 'Oh my God!'
'Sex is a thing you should talk about with your kids. I had to have it with my dad - the birds and the bees conversation.
'My dad was like: 'So this is what happens….' I was laughing the whole way through it, and he was like: 'Right, so who was it then?'
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'Because he knew I'd already done it.
'My mum would… just boys, relationships, anything - it was forbidden, taboo.'
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Caity was brought up on a council estate in Southampton with two big brothers, and says she had a 'great upbringing' and a 'lovely life'.
Her brothers and dad bet her £50 that if she posted her first musical video, she would go viral - 'it went viral, but they never got their £50,' she laughs.
However, she says she would love to go back in time and tell her mum she needs 'a floor of acceptance' from her mother and 'open communication' with her, 'without being shamed or s*** on'.
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However, the pair now 'don't talk' - and Caity feels the past two years have been 'peaceful' as a result.
'She's been blocked for like two years,' she explains to the Married at First Sight relationship expert.
'I wouldn't just not talk to her for no reason. It gets to a point where you're like: 'You literally make me so unhappy.'
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'And if it was anybody else, I would have gotten rid of you years ago. But you're my mum, it's different.'
However, she continues: 'It's her first time living too. And she's allowed to make mistakes. I'm cool with that - it's how you deal with it.'
She adds: 'I saw her for the first time at my brother's wedding… a couple of months ago, was the first time I saw her.
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'This is so sad, but it's been the most peaceful two years of my life without her… interfering with my brain.'
Caity continues: 'I feel like it's just so far gone now - two years. When I saw her at the wedding it was just so weird. She was like: 'Oh look I love you.' And I was like: 'I love you.'
'And she was like: 'Do you though? Really?
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'I was like: 'Oh God. I feel like I'm this big again and I'm going: 'Please mummy, love me.'
Paul advises Caity to set out her feelings in a letter to attempt to reconcile with her mum.
Elsewhere in the conversation, Caity details how her grandad's neighbour sexually assaulted her when she was eight years old, which she has written her track Weight of You about, which she says affected her relationship with her grandad.
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'I feel like that's where all of my issues with myself and with relationships stem from,' she says. 'Because like when you're little, you trust an adult to do the right thing and make you feel safe.
'That's such a massive part of who I am, and the way I deal with things.'
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Caity says her dad 'cries every single time' he hears the song.
Caity also reveals that her song Drank Me Dry was written about being raped by a friend she had been seeing romantically when she was 19.
'There were two separate occasions where it happened and I didn't want it to,' she explains.
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'The whole song Drank Me Dry is like: 'It's so annoying because I really liked you and I really loved you and you were so much fun. And all it took was one night for you to be so weird and make me feel so uncomfortable and ruin everything. What was the point in that?'
Caity recalls how she was 'pretty drunk' at the time, and stipulated that she did not want to have sex without a condom, but sobered up when the man started to have sex with her anyway.
She continues: 'I never thought there was anything wrong with what happened to me."
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It took her a year to discuss the incident with her friend, who told her that what happened was not OK.
'I text him like a week later saying: 'By the way, I just thought you should know that that night… I remember everything that happened.
'I literally wrote it down, sent it to him and he went: 'We're gonna have to agree to disagree on this one, I don't think that's how it happened.'
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'I've not spoken to him since. Awful.'
As Caity describes how the man had seemed to assume they could have sex as they had done so before, Paul explains: 'This is also part of this ongoing myth that if you have had sex once, that it's consent forever. Absolutely not.'
Caity now has aspirations to become an 'advocate' for victims of similar abuse.
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'This is a specific topic that I am going to figure out how I can become an advocate around,' she says, adding that she 'loves' being considered to be 'the voice of Gen Z' and wants to use her platform for good.
'I'm personally going to continue to try to do more,' she says. 'Having these conversations are such a strong starts.
'I feel like if I am the voice of a lot of young people, then I will continue to talk about things that aren't often talked about. Those difficult topics. Because it's really important to have someone to look up to and go: 'That happened to me.''
To speak to someone about the issues discussed, contact www.womensaid.org.uk/.