Women Share What Gives Them "The Ick"
But one person's "ick" could be another person's "nbd." So when Reddit user Intrepid_Cake_6093 asked women, "What was an 'ick' moment that changed how you saw someone forever?" I HAD to share some of the responses with you and see if you consider their comments an "ick" or an "nbd."
"When I told a friend that a guy that we both knew had been harassing me, his reply was, 'He's a pretty okay guy with me.' -50 points."
"He told me I had tits like Dolly Parton. I was 13."
"My boyfriend went to a baseball game with a friend and came home very drunk after I had fallen asleep. The next morning, I found that he had gone to the bathroom on a dining chair. He didn't seem to have any on his pants, so he must have dropped trou and taken a dump, right there. No toilet paper or anything. I couldn't look at him the same after that."
"When I came home to tell my partner I had made an extra $5k due to a referral programme at my company, the first thing he said was, 'Great! Does that mean you will get your tits done?'"
"I was about to watch a movie with a guy I had been hanging out with for a couple of weeks. His computer was locked and needed a password. He said, 'I'll spell out the password.' He then spelled out my name and age…as his laptop password…"
"My male ex-friend has genital herpes. He also conveniently doesn't like wearing condoms. He told me that he only tells girls that he has herpes if he is having a visible breakout. I told him that's pretty fucked because a breakout isn't the only way to contract it. He just shrugged it off."
"He told me that he would listen to his sister have sex with her bf and masturbate to it."
"My ex told me he kept a calendar of every time we had sex to use it against me."
"He joined Scientology. I left him and went no contact. No way I'm fucking around with that, not even by proximity."
"He told me he wanted to be an activist. When I asked what he wanted to advocate, I shit you not, he said, 'White power.'"
"My fiancés best friend's brother sent him porn GIFs while we were watching a video on his phone. When I asked the brother to stop, my fiancé's best friend called me controlling and suggested my fiancé leave me, or they wouldn't be friends anymore."
"I had a really great guy friend throughout an experience living abroad, and we have made an effort to stay in touch over the last few years. I got engaged a little over a year ago, and he called to say, 'Congrats on your engagement. I just want to let you know I won't be talking to you after you get married.' The ick in that moment was unreal. I definitely thought my friend respected me as a person, but he basically said, 'You have no value to me if you aren't a potential partner.'"
"He was sick with a runny nose. Instead of grabbing a tissue or his shirt or something, he licked his snot away."
"I was visiting a male friend with my fiancé, and the friend asked if I walked around topless in our house. I was so taken aback that I didn't know what to say."
"My ex-husband got a text from an old friend from high school asking if he wanted to see a girl's nudes they went to school with. I told my ex that he needed to contact that woman and tell her what happened. He argued and argued, saying that it was her problem, not his. Finally, I told him that if he didn't do it, I would. He begrudgingly found her on FB and let her know. Apparently, that guy was stalking her. I never looked at my ex the same way after that."
"He said that if his friend, who got arrested for DV, actually abused his wife, that she probably deserved it cuz he was a good guy at work."
"I severed ties with a former best friend because she told me my boyfriend at the time came on to her. I believed my ex when he said he didn't. There were already trust issues within that friendship, and he exploited that. Finally, unprompted, he told me he had sent her a dick pic back then and asked me to apologize to her."
"I was at a bar after a sorority event, talking to this senior guy. I thought he was just the coolest. We drank and kissed, but later on, an older girl in my sorority told me he had a girlfriend. That's when I got the ick and sort of saw him for who he really was — a guy who cheats on his girlfriend. He's an accountant with my sister now, and I still feel that ick whenever I see pictures of him at their events."
"I was seeing a guy and went out with him and his friends. His friend roofied me. When I told him what happened, he said, 'Yeah...he can be like that.'"
"An older guy, who claimed to be happily married, was talking about a wedding he attended. He made leering remarks about all the bridesmaids and their breasts. Ewwwww. Wouldn't fault him for noticing — he was older and married, not dead or blind — but saying it to a group of people, including women? Just came off as pervy."
"My male 'bestfriend' blocked me after I got into a relationship."
"He told me that the vaccines were a scam, and I was putting poison in my body. I tried to brush it off and say we could agree to disagree. But then he started going off about Trump and election fraud. I could never see him the same way again."
"My really close coworker didn't know anyone was already in the bathroom, and they didn't wash their hands after they peed."
"Found out he's homophobic."
"When I told him that men are human beings and should be allowed to express their emotions, he said, 'I mean yea, I could do that, but then I'd be a f-word.'"
"I had a guy tell me to split a personal pizza so I wouldn't get fat. 🙃"
"My ex would say, 'I'm just waiting for that mailbox money.' His goal was to live off welfare. A healthy, strong man."
"He said his mom dreamt of a fish, and that meant I was going to have a child for him. I was 21, and it's the only time I ghosted someone."
"A former teacher messaged me on LinkedIn to hit on me. :/ He was once one of my favourite teachers."
"He said that he 'let' his ex go to college. That is all it took for me. All I could think is that you don't 'let' a grown-ass woman do anything."
"I was browsing Reddit with a good friend that I was interested in dating, at the time. We came across a picture of a naked woman, and he started to make sounds like he was about to throw up. He commented that he would never touch something so disgusting because her inner labia was showing a little. It looked very similar to my vulva."
"I went to visit my family for a month, and my brother and I made a silly dance video. I sent it to my boyfriend (now ex haha). His immediate response? 'Wow, your thighs… what happened? Haha.'
"Desperation in wanting sex/relationship."
"On a first date, he got a drink. I had driven us there, so I made a joke about how he could drink since I couldn't. He said that he would have driven anyway. Nope. No second date for you, dude."
"Talking while eating, and eating with their mouth open."
And last, but not least..."Over complimenting to the point that it sounds fake."
In the comments, let me know what gives you "the ick." Also, let me know if any of these comments DON'T give you "the ick." NGL...these ALL give me "the ick."
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