My hubby of 12 years got a second wife – he tries to make time for us both but it's hard
Tami Winder met her husband Colton 13 years ago, and the pair have been married for 12 years.
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Colton is married to both Tami and Sophie
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The pair admitted that plural marriage can be hard
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The couple are both Mormon and revealed that despite the Mormon church outlawing plural marriage, they still have always believed in "plural marriage".
They remained a duo for a number of years before meeting Sophie, who became Colton's second wife.
Both '
sister wives
' have a physical relationship with Colton, but are not intimate with each other.
For the first two years of their plural marriage, Sophie and Tami lived separately, so that they could ease into polygamy.
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When they finally all moved in together, Sophie and Tami realised that they didn't know each other at all, and struggled to adapt to their clashing personalities.
This led to a number of misunderstandings, with Colton revealing that he sometimes felt like he was "standing in the middle of a
tornado
."
Cowboy Colton now spends alternate nights with his two wives, which they both agree is one of the "hardest" parts of the marriage.
Tami revealed that at times she feels like she is "falling short" as a wife, which is why Colton has a second wife.
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However, he insisted that his first wife is "perfect" the way she is.
Tami said that she often feels jealous in the relationship, especially when Colton goes on a date with Sophie.
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However, she added that if she communicates these feelings to Colton and Sophie, they do their best to "alleviate" her issues.
Date night happens once a month, with Colton either going on a separate date with each of his wives, or the three of them going out together.
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Only Tami is Colton's legal wife, as plural marriage is illegal in the state of Utah, where the trio lives.
"Sophie is more of a spiritual marriage", Colton explained.
What is polyamory?
Polyamory is the practice of having romantic relationships with more than one person at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of all parties.
It can refer to relationships where one person has multiple partners or spouses, or where all parties are in a relationship with each other, for example in a throuple.
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He added that their way of life is frowned upon and that they live "outside the
law
."
The trio have three children between them, which they all co-parent, and are aiming to continue to grow their family.
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Tami birthed one of the children, whilst Sophie birthed the other two.
Determined to make her brood bigger, Tami is now using IVF, and revealed that she struggles with the fact that Sophie popped out two children in quick
succession
, whereas she has found it more difficult.
"If you're sleeping with the same man, you think it's got to be something to do with you", she said.
The trio agree that it can be really hard to live together, but added that it's all worth it because their children make their plural family feel "complete."
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