She was a 'serial monogamist,' then she gave up sex: What she learned surprised her
Melissa Febos didn't go into her year of celibacy planning to write about it. The memoirist, known for 'Girlhood,' is a self-described 'person of extremes.' She's written candidly about her recovery from drug addiction, but in 'The Dry Season' (out now from Penguin Random House), she embarks on intentional abstinence to solve a different kind of addiction – one to romance and partnership.
Febos was a 'serial monogamist,' having been in relationships on and off for 20 years since. After one particularly fraught breakup, she knew she needed to change. The result was wholly transformative and, despite the sexual 'dry season,' the most sensual year of her life.
'The tools that I learned during that year are the ones that I will keep with me for the rest of my life in terms of how to be awake to all of my passions, not just my romantic ones (and) what true intimacy and partnership with other people consists of,' Febos says.
Febos determined early on in her journey that her problem couldn't be boiled down to a sex addiction. But she did compulsively jump into romantic relationships, which needed to change.
In her addiction recovery, Febos learned how to create a personal inventory to analyze past behavior. She applied the same to her love life – a log of past lovers, crushes and partners.
'I had a story about myself in love that maybe wasn't exactly true because it wasn't quite adding up, … I was having a repetitive experience and that I had hit a kind of bottom,' Febos says. 'If I was just a passionate person who fell in love a lot and was basically a great partner to everyone, why was my life ruined?'
When she was ready – and only when she was ready – to hear it, she had a close friend look at the list and deliver her the hard truths.
'You're a user,' they told her. 'You use people.'
Hearing that was devastating, but then came the relief, Febos says.
'I had written a story about myself in love that was more complacent than I actually was,' Febos says. 'This reflects a kind of national story that we have in mainstream culture where the task in love is to find the right person and when we find the right person, love will work out. … Something I realized during that year was that I needed to also become the right person.'
Febos met her wife shortly after ending her abstinence. They've been together for eight years now.
'The Dry Season' isn't a book about finding a spouse at the other end of celibacy – Febos instead clarifies that this period made her the independent, autonomous person who was capable of having a long-term relationship.
When you think about celibacy, which words come to mind? Lack? Absence? Dry?
Febos feared that, too, but says she found nothing but abundance. Her instinct was no longer to 'run straight into the beautiful anesthesia of another' but to enjoy the satisfaction of her own company. When she says 'erotic,' she doesn't mean in a traditionally sexual sense, but in a fullness-of-life manner of speaking. Her platonic relationships thrived. She had more time for herself. She talks of the 'vivid sense of engagement' she felt – dancing with friends, sleeping in, reading a whole book in the afternoon, eating a perfectly ripe raspberry.
'Overwhelmingly, I did not feel that I was missing anything,' Febos says. 'I had a sense of what I had been missing for years by being obsessed with love and sex."
At first, Febos felt embarrassed to tell people she was voluntarily celibate. But as her year continued, she found more and more people who related.
'Almost everything I have ever written about started by feeling unspeakable to me,' Febos says. 'I was afraid that I was alone in those experiences, but I have had those expectations upended time and time again. Every single time I've written about an experience that I felt really alone in and estranged from other people, I have found myself part of a vast community of people who suffer from the exact same burden.'
It's a growing cultural conversation. In recent years, celebrities like Julia Fox, Mýa and Lenny Kravitz have opened up about their celibacy. Some young women are going "boysober." Americans aged 22-34 are having less sex, according to a recent study by the Institute of Family Studies. That data showed sexlessness doubled for young men and increased by 50% for young women between the late 2010s and early 2020s.
Febos finds common ground with both voluntarily and involuntarily celibate individuals.
'We live in extremes and we ... have a fraught relationship to aloneness,' she says. 'We have not made friends with solitude, and I think that looking for partnership with oneself is actually the first step to having a more comfortable relationship with aloneness.'
Febos sought comfort in a long history of intentionally celibate women, like Virginia Woolf and the ancient Greek poet Sappho. She 'nerded out' over nuns (surprising for Febos, given she's not religious) like German Benedictine abbess Hildegard of Bingen. Especially for the spiritual, celibacy was not about sacrifice but power.
'It requires incredible consciousness and mindfulness and consistent work to live against the grain of the ways that we're socialized to accommodate other people, both in our intimate relationships, but also in the world at large,' Febos says. 'Women are really taught that they're selfish if they put themselves at the center of their story and their decision making.'
Clare Mulroy is USA TODAY's Books Reporter, where she covers buzzy releases, chats with authors and dives into the culture of reading. Find her on Instagram, subscribe to our weekly Books newsletter or tell her what you're reading at cmulroy@usatoday.com.
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The three-bedroom, two-bathroom space comes with a soaking tub, a gas fireplace, and full kitchen, and access to a private lake and waterfall. 'For something completely different, visit St. Mary's Sewanee, a convent also known as the Ayres Center for Spiritual Development,' says Ross. 'The retreat center welcomes individuals and groups for overnight stays, and the Anna House enjoys especially cozy rooms. It's a great spot to stay in the wintertime.' The "Willie Six" Sims Field on the Sewanee Black History Heritage Trail. Lydia Mansel/Travel + Leisure 'The South Cumberland area of Tennessee has a rich Black history, and a good way to see its impact on the region is the Grundy County History Museum in nearby Tracy City,' says Register. He also notes that Grundy County was the epicenter of the development of convict leasing in the 1880s and 1890s and, in the 1950s, the area was central to the Civil Rights Movement as the home of the Highlander Folk School. Sewanee's Jessie Ball duPont Library currently has a small exhibit on Highlander Folk School, which was founded in 1932 with the goal to 'educate leadership for democracy and promote the general welfare of all people in the South.' Rosa Parks and Martin Luther King, Jr. were among those who, says Register, 'studied the tactics of nonviolent resistance' at the interracial institution. Visitors can also learn about the Roberson Project's important work by walking the St. Mark's Heritage Trail through Sewanee's historic Black neighborhood. 'From one end and back, it is about 1.75 miles long and shady all the way,' says Register, noting there's also a 'driving tour of the major historic sites in the St. Mark's neighborhood.' Places like the 'Negro Swimming Pool' and the site of Kennerly School, the only school for Black children on the mountain before desegregation, are noted with historical markers. 'The legendary Perimeter Trail is an approximately 26-mile loop at varying degrees of difficulty through some of the most gorgeous rock formations you'll ever see,' says Ross. 'There are also remarkable views of the surrounding valley at Green's View, the Cross, and Morgan's Steep.' As far as other hikes, Sullivan recommends the 3-mile Lost Cove Trail, as well as Foster Falls and Fiery Gizzard. For a relatively short hike, Ross adds that the 1.2-mile winding paths' of Abbo's Alley shouldn't be missed. 'It was named after legendary professor Abbott Cotten Martin, who first cultivated the ravine. The rustic walk passes over bridges and streams. You might even catch a salamander or two in the summertime.' The All Saints' Chapel at the University of the South. Lydia Mansel/Travel + Leisure 'Any visit to Sewanee demands a stop at All Saints' Chapel, one of the most beautiful and grand places of worship in the Southeast,' says Ross. Its splendor is apparent all year round, but Sullivan is especially fond of the chapel during the Festival Service of Lessons and Carols, which she calls 'one of the most special experiences' she's had in Sewanee. With a copy of Under the Sun , a guidebook to Sewanee, in hand, continue past the chapel, admiring the 19th and 20th-century sandstone and limestone structures around campus; Breslin Tower, Convocation Hall, and St. Luke's Chapel are particularly notable. 'Visit the Ralston Listening Room—more formally known as the William Ralston Music Listening Library—on the second floor of the University's duPont library,' adds Ross. 'Here, with state-of-the-art equipment and unparalleled acoustics, you can enjoy any of its 20,000 LPS and 20,000 CDs.' Even if your undergraduate days are well behind you, there's no reason not to work on your manuscript or dive into the latest Pulitzer Prize-winning novel—all you have to do is find an unoccupied Adirondack chair or bench on campus. Or, simply admire the talent that manifests throughout Sewanee. 'There are presentations by artists, scholars, and writers throughout the academic year, and all University-sponsored events, such as public speakers and student theatrical performances, welcome visitors and usually without charge,' says Register. Shop local artisan's at The Lemon Fair. Lydia Mansel/Travel + Leisure For gifts and local artisan items, like clothing and jewelry, Sullivan recommends The Lemon Fair. Stock up on tea towels, All Saints' Chapel Mugs, stickers, ornaments, and all sorts of unique Sewanee souvenirs, many of which are emblazoned with the Sewanee Angel. 'Be sure to also stop at the campus's local bookstore, whose shelves feature local authors,' says Ross. Swing by to pick up the latest edition of The Sewanee Review , or novels written by faculty; you may recognize the works of New York Times best-selling author Kevin Wilson, who currently serves as an associate professor in the English & Creative Writing Department. A short drive from Sewanee, Mooney's Market & Emporium comes recommended by both Sullivan and Ross. 'It has everything from organic foods and farm fresh eggs to antiques and knitting supplies,' says Ross. Spread across several small rooms, the shoppable collection is more than worth a quick browse before you leave town; you'll likely leave with an art print, small piece of pottery, or T-shirt to commemorate your time on the Cumberland Plateau. Exterior view of Lunch in Sewanee's 'Village.'. Lydia Mansel/Travel + Leisure 'LUNCH, on University Avenue in Sewanee's 'Village,' is a must for breakfast and, of course, lunch,' says Register. Although the food menu rotates, you can expect fresh, filling items, such as a daily quiche, a country ham sandwich, and marinated shrimp skewers paired with orzo and summer squash. The dining room at Judith Tavern. Emily Dorio/Judith Tavern Judith, the recently opened restaurant by the great Nashville chef Julia Sullivan, can't be missed. 'Grab a tahini Caesar salad, a smashburger, and a glass of wine at the bar, and you'll see why Sewanee is fast becoming a foodie destination,' says Ross. The restaurant's name is a nod to Judith Ward Lineback, who in 1969, became the first woman to matriculate at the University of the South. The exterior of the Sewanee staple Stirling's Coffee House. Buck Butler/University of the South Warm, welcoming, and brimming with plenty of tables and chairs for writing, reading, or catching up with a friend, Stirling's Coffee House is a Sewanee staple. 'It's a really sweet place to walk to in the morning and get coffee and pastries,' says Sullivan. Their speciality iced Sewanee Morning—coffee with mint and Swiss chocolate flavoring, topped with half and half—is much appreciated on a hot summer day. Pizza's and popcorn from Shenanigans bar-restaurant. Matt Morrison/Tennessee's South Cumberland Tourism Partnership ( 'For the classic college bar-restaurant experience, grab a pitcher of draft beer and some fried fare at Shenanigans,' says Ross. The institution dates back to 1974, and the sizable subs, hearty burgers, and homemade pizzas are the perfect way to celebrate the end of a long hike along the Perimeter Trail. Autumn leaves on the grounds of the All Saints' Chapel. Matt Morrison/Tennessee's South Cumberland Tourism Partnership ( 'Fall is unquestionably the best because of the foliage and the remarkable views,' says Ross. The colorful show is put on by the broadleaf deciduous trees, mainly oaks and hickories, that dot the Domain. Sullivan agrees that autumn is one of the finer times in Sewanee, but she also has a penchant for the warmer months. 'I think spring and early summer are really special. Every week, a different flower is blooming. It's been really beautiful to see this gradual change, and everything is just incredibly lush,' she says. Sewanee's summer wildflowers include harbinger-of-spring, bloodroot, great white trillium, pink lady's slippers, and mountain laurel. 'February is to be avoided—you'll deal with either soupy fog or ice and snow,' warns Ross, who also says it's critical to 'check the University calendar so as not to conflict with student arrivals or graduation' in May and August. Bike's lined up outside of Woody's Bicycles. Matt Morrison/Tennessee's South Cumberland Tourism Partnership ( Sewanee covers 13,000 acres across the Cumberland Plateau—hence the phrase, 'on the mountain,' which students, alumni, and locals alike affectionately use to refer to life here. Travelers flying into the area can choose between Chattanooga Metropolitan Airport (CHA) or Nashville International Airport (BNA) before driving the final hour or 1.5 hours to Sewanee. While much of Sewanee is walkable, having a car is helpful to reach trailheads and nearby towns, and it allows you the freedom to embark on scenic drives throughout the area. If you'd prefer to get around on two wheels, Woody's Bicycles has regular bikes and e-bikes available to rent.
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