Woman Says Her Friend is Throwing Herself a Bridal Shower but She Isn't Engaged
A woman has shared on Reddit that her friend is on a "rushed timeline" to get married and is hosting her bridal shower before she gets engaged
The bride-to-be plans to get engaged two weeks before the wedding itself, the woman claims
'Almost all of us have decided against going to the shower, basically due to the principle of it being inappropriate throwing yourself a bridal shower months before you will even be engaged,' the woman saysA woman says she's decided not to attend the bridal shower of her friend who is yet to be engaged. And she isn't the only one.
The woman took to Reddit to share that her friend is eager to host a bridal shower while asking for 'high priced and luxurious things.' And after speaking with a group of their mutual friends — who have known each other for 24 years and counting — many of them are in agreement and have also decided not to attend.
'I know that they have a rushed timeline since she wants to get married 2 weeks after they are engaged, but it is shocking being invited to a bridal shower for someone who isn't even engaged and doesn't have a venue booked yet for a wedding less than 2 months away,' the woman writes.
The couple began dating in January and within their first week of dating they had already discussed marriage and signed up for marriage classes offered through their church, the woman says of her friend and her partner, explaining that they initially set a goal of becoming married by the beginning of September.
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The woman claims the boyfriend of her friend has demonstrated 'a lot of very concerning behaviors' since the inception of their relationship. She describes him as 'very religious' and says he wants to remain celibate until marriage. The 24-year-old guy has also expressed his concerns to his 29-year-old girlfriend about her ability to conceive due to her age.
'He made my friend get re-baptized since she was not a virgin,' the woman claims.
The man has also asked her friend to swear off TV shows, like Friends and Bridgerton, because they are 'satanic and pornographic and compromise their Christian values,' the woman writes of her friend's relationship.
The woman claims that not only are the friends concerned at the rate her friend is pursuing this relationship, but also her parents. The couple have never lived alone outside of their parent's homes, the woman writes.
'So neither of them have experience taking care of themselves without their parents' assistance,' she shares.
Whenever the OP (original poster) tries to gently bring the conversation up to her friend, the friend responds defensively and 'always insists that they don't have a traditional relationship, but that they both know what they want and they are best friends,' the woman writes.
Within three weeks of their romance, the woman says her friend found a 'fake topaz ring on the ground at a grocery store.' She then found a ring box to put it in and gave to her boyfriend so that he could pop the question after their sixth month anniversary.
The friend shared photos of the ring along with the plan of the sixth month anniversary proposal that would be followed by a wedding one-to-two weeks later.
A month ago, the bride-to-be went wedding dress shopping and 'said yes to the dress,' the woman writes. When she congratulated her friend, she took the opportunity to tell her that the date of the wedding was moved up to the beginning of August. However with that, the bride-to-be has yet to send out her wedding invitations and book a venue for the date.
On May 28, the woman says she was surprised after receiving her bridal shower invitation to find that the date for the occasion is less than two weeks after the invite was sent. 'I looked at the registry, and she is asking for a lot of very high priced and luxurious things on a very short notice,' the woman writes after receiving the bridal shower invite.
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The woman also writes that the pre-engagement bridal shower is just something that she can't get past, despite knowing that they are on a 'rushed timeline.' The woman brought it to their mutual friend group's attention and many are in agreement over the issue.
'Almost all of us have decided against going to the shower, basically due to the principle of it being inappropriate throwing yourself a bridal shower months before you will even be engaged,' the woman says of their conversations.
'There is nothing set in stone to demonstrate they will go through with this wedding other than saying they plan to get married in August,' the woman continues.
The woman claims it's unfair to their friend group to ask them to spend money on expensive gifts when the women in the group are already busy planning their own weddings with their long term boyfriends, or are in the process of purchasing a home or are pregnant.
'It's too soon to know what the ramifications will be of having her entire friend group not show up for her bridal shower, but it will be interesting to see how the next 2 months of wedding planning go,' the woman admits.
In the comments section, fellow Reddit users offered their take on the pre-engagement bridal shower.
'I bet she has a timeline of 'being married before I'm 30' and she's sticking to it,' one user responded, while another wrote, 'Your friend group should all pitch in and send her the series DVD box-set of Friends.'
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