From classmate to mother-in-law: 40-year-old man to marry 19-year-old GF whose mum he once rejected back in school
SINGAPORE: Back in January, netizens were shocked when a 40-year-old man shared on NUSWhispers that he had unknowingly started dating the daughter of the girl he once rejected in secondary school.
He explained in the original post that he hadn't known the girl was only 19 and still in college, and likewise, she hadn't realised he was significantly older. When things got more serious, he met her parents over dinner, and that was when he discovered that his girlfriend's mum was someone he had rejected in school.
Now, in an update, the man has announced in another NUSWhispers post that he and his much younger girlfriend are getting married.
'We're getting married. No, seriously. Despite the drama, ups and downs, intense family discussions or rather arguments, we made it through,' he wrote on Wednesday (June 25).
'For those wondering. No, there was zero relationship with her mum back then. I rejected her directly. So let's clear that up once and for all: 100% NOT MY DAUGHTER. She's my wife-to-be. It wasn't easy, especially with the age gap and, well, the whole your ex-crush is now your son-in-law situation. But love wins.'
He was also relieved that her dad stayed calm throughout, and that eventually, even her mum came around and gave them her blessing.
'It still feels surreal,' he said. 'Wedding dinner is gonna be a bit of a sitcom. Imagine my old school friends showing up and realising our former classmate is now my mother-in-law. Life writes the wildest scripts, huh.'
He continued, 'Also, I had no idea my little rant here would end up on so many media platforms. It started right here, and I figured it's only right to close the loop here, too.
'So here we are. We'd appreciate your warmest BLESSINGS.' 'What exactly is a 19-year-old supposed to do as a married woman?'
Responses to his latest update have been mixed, of course. Some people are still iffy about the age difference, while others feel it's none of their business and believe that love, no matter how unusual it seems to others, is still love.
One wrote, 'Which parent will actually allow their daughter to marry off at 19, to a middle-aged dude, without being sus.. unless it's shotgun lah.'
Another commented, 'So you've put the mother aside, and now you're dating a 19-year-old — and even planning to marry her. Tell me, what exactly is a 19-year-old supposed to do as a married woman? Start popping out kids? Become a housewife before she's even lived her own life?'
A third added, 'You got lots of money, so it's still ok. She also is not underage, I think. Blessings to you. You don't have to post every news item of yours online, though. Just low low-key event and get on with your life. But I hope both of your mentality and thinking can fit. All the best.'
Some netizens, however, weren't convinced the story was even real. A few suggested it sounded too much like a TV drama plot. One netizen joked, 'Very good script, please send to Mediacorp so they can improve on their storyline.'
In other news, after going on 37 first dates — and getting ghosted more times than he can remember after saying he was looking for 'something serious'— a Singaporean man took to Reddit to share how 'burnt out' he feels from dating these days.
Posting on the r/sgdatingscene subreddit on Thursday (June 19), he said that when he first started dating, he was genuinely hoping to find a relationship. But after going through what felt like an endless string of dates, he's no longer sure what he really wants.
Read more: 37 first dates, countless ghostings — Singaporean shares how dating wore him down
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