Woman Wants to Divorce Husband Over 'Cruel' Punishment of His Daughter
A woman took to the internet, conflicted about how her husband wanted to punish his daughter for her actions at school
Her husband wanted to send his daughter to school without letting her shower, brush her teeth, or change clothes after a comment she made about a girl's 'poor' mom
The woman has since moved to divorce the manA woman was left conflicted about how her husband wanted to punish his daughter for her actions at school.
The Reddit user shares that she has a 10-year-old daughter from a previous relationship and a 13-year-old step-daughter from her current marriage with her husband. The woman notes that her step-daughter has "been the near-perfect child" and has never "needed to be punished" for bad behavior, "until recently."
"She had a problem with another girl (13f) at school. The other girl made fun of my stepdaughter's 'lesbian' mom and my stepdaughter made fun of the other girl's 'poor' mom," the user explains
The poster says the other parents grounded their daughter for three weeks, and her husband has been trying to figure out how to discipline their teenager.
'My husband wanted his daughter's punishment to match the crime. Since his daughter makes fun of the other girl's financial situation, my husband wants his daughter to feel like how it is to be extremely poor,' the woman wrote in a post on June 2, noting that the "other family isn't extremely poor, by the way."
"His plan for his daughter is to go to school with poor hygiene, for three days," she adds. "No shower, no deodorant, no brushing of teeth, and reused clothes. I told him if he goes through with this plan, I will divorce him.'
Many people in the comments were quick to question his thought process, noting that 'humiliation is not punishment, it's cruelty."
'Why not make her volunteer at a shelter/food bank?' another user questioned, which the poster said she would "suggest" to her husband.
"Either that and/or grounding his stepdaughter for 3 weeks," the poster replied. "I still remember one day in high school when I forgot to wear deodorant and I had gym. I'm 41, and I still remember. I can't imagine also having no shower, bad breath, and reusing clothes.'
Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories.
Other people shared their own experiences growing up financially unstable, and implored the poster to question her husband's "prejudices."
"Uhhh...your husband is way off base. Offensively so," one user wrote. "Poor ≠ poor hygiene. He should really explore his own internal biases."
'Being poor doesn't automatically equal lack of hygiene, and using that as a punishment is diabolical for a myriad of reasons, instead of humiliating his kid, why not have her volunteer some of her time helping the people she's mocked? That would be a much more useful and valuable form of 'punishment,'' another person added.
'If I was her school nurse and she came to me with that scenario, it would've been my obligation to call CPS. That is child abuse, not educational. This is very disturbing….. Beware,' someone else wrote.
In an update to the post, the woman reassured commenters that both her daughter and stepdaughter were "safe."
"I'm safe, and I will divorce my husband," she concluded.
Read the original article on People
Try Our AI Features
Explore what Daily8 AI can do for you:
Comments
No comments yet...
Related Articles
Yahoo
29 minutes ago
- Yahoo
Gunman posing as police officer shoots Minnesota politicians, their spouses in ‘politically motivated assassination'
A pair of Minnesota politicians and their spouses were shot by a gunman who was allegedly disguised as a police officer in an incident that left one lawmaker and her husband dead. A manhunt is now underway for the suspect in the shootings, which were initially described as 'targeted' by Minnesota Gov. Tim Walz. The shootings occurred in the Minneapolis suburbs of Champlin and Brooklyn Park, according to the governor. He later announced that he operated the State Emergency Operations Center. Local news outlet KSTP was among the first to report that the victim of the Champlin shooting is Minnesota state Sen. John Hoffman (MN-34) and the victim of the Brooklyn Park shooting is state Rep. Melissa Hortman. KSTP's report stated that preliminary information indicated multiple people were shot at both locations. Another local outlet, Fox 9, reported shortly after that the other victims are the lawmakers' spouses. Ryan Sabas, the Mayor of Champlin, later confirmed the victims were the two state lawmakers. At a press conference Saturday morning, Gov. Walz confirmed that Rep. Hortman — the Democratic House Speaker Emerita — and her husband died in what he called a 'politically motivated assassination.' Sen. Hoffman and his wife, Yvette, were shot multiple times but were both out of surgery, Walz added, elaborating that he was 'optimistic' about their recovery. Residents within a three-mile radius of a local golf course are being asked to shelter in place as police search for the alleged killer, who is said to have been posing as law enforcement, according to multiple local media reports. He is considered by authorities to be armed and dangerous. Authorities say that all Minnesota state lawmakers and their spouses are under protective custody in coordination with the Minnesota Department of Public Safety and local law enforcement jurisdictions. Multiple media reports have identified the suspect in the shootings as 57-year-old Vance Boelter; writings found inside a fake police car recovered at one of the shooting scenes mentioned the names of multiple lawmakers and other officials, AP said, citing Brooklyn Park Police Department Chief Mark Bruley. While the two officials spoke to the AP on condition of anonymity and thus could not publicly confirm the information, NBC News has also identified the suspect as Boelter. This is a developing story. Stay with KTLA for details. Copyright 2025 Nexstar Media, Inc. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten, or redistributed.
Washington Post
33 minutes ago
- Washington Post
What to know about the Democratic lawmakers shot in Minnesota
Minnesota state Rep. Melissa Hortman and her husband, Mark, were fatally shot at their home in Brooklyn Park, near Minneapolis, in the predawn hours Saturday. Hortman was a Democratic leader and served as the speaker of the state House of Representatives until early this year. The attacker also targeted Minnesota state Sen. John Hoffman (D) and his wife, Yvette, early Saturday. The two sustained multiple bullet wounds and are in stable condition, according to authorities. Minnesota Gov. Tim Walz (D) condemned the bloodshed as an 'act of targeted political violence.' President Donald Trump and leaders from both parties denounced the violence as Minnesota's entire congressional delegation issued a joint statement calling the shootings an attack on public servants. Hortman, 55, was a lawyer and Democrat who spent 20 years in the Minnesota House of Representatives, which she led as speaker for six years, a tenure that ended in January. Hortman got her start in politics working for Al Gore and John F. Kerry. She was first elected to the chamber in 2004, when she defeated incumbent Stephanie Olsen (R). Hortman rose up quickly through the ranks of the Democratic-Farmer-Labor Party, known as the DFL Party, serving as assistant majority leader, minority whip, speaker pro tempore, deputy minority leader and minority leader. She became speaker of the house in 2019, after Democrats took control of the chamber. During her tenure, Hortman advanced several liberal priorities, including legislation that provided universal free school lunches and codified abortion into the state's constitution. In 2020, she backed efforts to pass police reform legislation after the killing of George Floyd and the ensuing unrest. In tributes, colleagues remembered her as deeply committed to education, environment and reproductive rights. 'She was a formidable public servant, a fixture and a giant in Minnesota,' Walz said. Minnesota Secretary of State Steve Simon, who attended law school with Hortman, described her as 'a bright shining light of a person.' Gore said in a tweet that Hortman left 'a lasting impact' on his team during her time working with him in the U.S. Senate. She held a bachelor's degree from Boston University, a law degree from the University of Minnesota and a master's in public administration from the Harvard Kennedy School. Her husband, Mark Hortman, worked as a program manager for nvent Electric, an electric manufacturing company, according to his LinkedIn and social media profiles. They leave behind two children. Hoffman, whose district includes Brooklyn Park and Champlin, was first elected to the state Senate in 2012. He served as minority whip from 2017 until 2021. He is chair of the Senate Human Services Committee, which oversees one of the largest parts of the state budget. Hoffman has backed legislation that extended the state's health-care program to undocumented immigrants, according to the Associated Press. Before being elected to the state legislature, Hoffman served on the Anoka-Hennepin School Board. He ran for state office after he struggled to obtain insurance for a daughter with spina bifida, and he figured others had the same difficulty, the Minneapolis Star Tribune reported. He is a former chair of the Governor's Developmental Disabilities Council. Mat Ollig, a nephew of the couple, said in a Facebook post that Hoffman went into politics 'to help people with disabilities get the care they need,' adding that he worked across the aisle 'to push bills that would help Minnesotans.' Ollig wrote that the Hoffmans were both out of surgery and recovering after John Hoffman was shot six times and his wife, Yvette, was shot five times. He also said their daughter, Hope, was present during the attack. 'My aunt threw herself on her daughter, using her body as a shield to save her life,' he wrote.
Wall Street Journal
an hour ago
- Wall Street Journal
One Community Took a Radical Approach to Fighting Addiction. It's Working.
CHESTERFIELD COUNTY, Va.—When Officer Chelsea Johnston came across a wanted felon one evening in May, Johnston jerked her cruiser in front of him, sprinted after him and tackled him to the ground. Still catching her breath, Johnston motioned for someone to step out of the cruiser: Joy Bogese. 'Thank God,' the man said. 'It's you.'
