Woman Is ‘Pissed Off' After Spotting the Hand-Me-Downs She Gave a Friend on a Secondhand Marketplace
A woman says that she gave her son's hand-me-downs to a friend — and then saw the clothes on an online secondhand store
The woman said she's now "pissed off" because she would have expected her friend to donate the clothes to charity if she didn't want them
She shared her story on a community forum, and opinions were mixed over whether or not the friend did something wrongA woman says she's mad after spotting clothes that she gave a friend on an online secondhand store — and she's wondering if other people would also be annoyed.
The woman detailed her story on the 'Am I Being Unreasonable?' forum on the U.K.-based community site Mumsnet.com, where women can go to seek advice about interpersonal dilemmas.
In her post, as well as in a later follow-up, the original poster (OP) explained that she gave her son's hand-me-downs to a friend after the friend told her that her own son was 'growing so fast.'
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The OP also said that she usually donates clothes to 'charity shops' and 'women's refuge centers' in her neighborhood, and that she would have hoped the friend — who shows 'no signs of financial troubles' — would have donated the items if she decided that she didn't want them.
'It's weirdly making me feel sentimental/pissed off,' the woman added, and also asked others if they would be bothered by the situation.
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Commenters were divided over whether or not the woman was overreacting.
'I would think it's a bit weird that they were cashing in on my kindness,' one person said, adding, 'Like you say, I'd rather they gave them to charity or someone else in need. If the items are good enough to sell, I'd at the very least ask the person that gave them to me if they want them back!'
'I feel it's bad karma to profit off someone's kindness,' agreed someone else.
Others, however, said that the OP should have been clearer with her friend about her expectations when she chose to give the items away.
"You should have said that you expected these to be passed on. Lesson learned,' said one person.
'You should lend and not give if you don't want the recipient to sell them. Or sell them yourself,' added someone else.
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Another person said, 'When you give stuff away, you cut ties with it. Let it go. You should not attach conditions to it.'
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