Where ‘The Ultimatum: Queer Love' Season 1 Cast Are Now

Cosmopolitan

26-06-2025

The Ultimatum: Queer Love season 2 is currently airing on Netflix, with a new batch of couples putting their relationship to the test to figure out whether they're ready to settle down, call it quits for good, or move on with someone new.
It's been two years since season one first aired on the streaming site and had us all well and truly hooked, and almost four years since the show was filmed.
With the new season underway, we couldn't help but wonder where the likes of Lexi and Rae or Tiff and Mildred are now.
From career changes to new relationships and an engagement, here's where the cast of The Ultimatum: Queer Love season 1 are now.
Despite Rae exploring a connection with Vanessa (ahem, Finger Gate) during their trial married, she ultimately chose to return to Lexi. Still, throughout the season, Lexi often dominated the dynamic, frequently overshadowing Rae. They were still together by the time the reunion came around and were even planning their wedding. However, they called things off shortly after the reunion aired.
Lexi is now in a relationship with Lil Z, who she refers to as her "wife" and the couple often share very loved up pictures on their social media — many of which have us wondering if we're interrupting something. The pair hard launched their relationship in 2023 and later got engaged.
In terms of work, Lexi seems to have stepped away from consulting for an international taxi firm and has moved into lifestyle content creation.
As for Rae, she's currently working as a software engineer and also appears to be in a new relationship with a talent manager named Caitlin.
On 22nd May, Rae shared a montage of videos and images of the couple, with the caption: "The butterfly effect is real because what if I was never issued an Ultimatum."
Tiff and Mildred had a pretty tumultuous relationship while on the show, marked by conflict and weekly breakups. While Tiff proposed to Mildred during the finale, things didn't last.
At the reunion, it was revealed that Tiff and Mildred had broken off their engagement after a domestic dispute that led to Mildred's arrest.
Following the show, Tiff went on to host the Fweebs Podcast alongside Karina Gonzalez. Tiff's Instagram bio states that they are a "Narcissistic Abuse Coach" and followers can access coaching sessions via a link. Tiff hosts and attends lost of Pride events in the US and has recently been making videos commenting on the new season of The Ultimatum.
After the show, Mildred continued her work as a Zumba instructor, but has since stepped away from social media.
Although turbulent, Sam and Aussie's story ended with a proposal in the finale.
Fans will be happy to hear that the duo are still together.
It's not yet known whether they've tied the knot yet, but Sam posted a picture of their proposal on 18th June with a very lengthy caption, where she stated: "And no I won't be commenting on our marriage status because it really doesn't matter whether or not you know. The exception is if we know you personally lol I don't really follow traditions anyways, but I will say it's funny that the Ultimatum actually helped me care less about marriage than I did before we started the journey."
The pair advocate for LGBTQ+ rights and mental health on their respective Instagram accounts, sharing lots of advice videos with the hope of providing more representation as queer Asians.
They are also the only surviving couple of season one, so they should be quite proud.
Xander and Vanessa were the only couple to part ways on Ultimatum Day, a decision that aligned with Vanessa's father's insight that she wasn't ready for marriage - she just didn't want to lose Xander.
Following the show, Vanessa debuted her new girlfriend. She also moved to Los Angeles. She has kept the identity of her partner private, although she does appear in some of her Instagram posts and the pair seem very smitten.
As for Xander, they still live in Hawaii but mentioned they were considering a move to Los Angeles or San Diego, where The Ultimatum: Queer Love was filmed.
Xander appears to be on good terms with Mal, who they posted a pic with last year June, writing: "Thanks for an amazing excuse to go see people I love @netflix" with some heart-eye emojis.
At the moment, Xander doesn't appear to be in a relationship, or at least a public one, and is focusing on their career as a Physical Therapist and Mind and Body Coach.
Despite Yoly tearfully accepting Mal's proposal in the finale, the pair broke up soon after filming as old issues resurfaced and Yoly's lingering feelings for Xander became clear. Xander and Yoly's relationship fizzled, however.
The pair remained single for some time after the show, but Yoly is now in a relationship with a content creator named Domenick.Domenick appears in many of Mal's Instagram posts and things seem to be going well for them.
When it comes to work, Yoly founded Lovers and Friends Chicago, which is a community for 30+ lesbians and queer allies. She also spends a lot of her time travelling and creating content.
Mal is in a new relationship with dancer Sammy Picone, and the fans approve, calling them an "awesome match".
In February, Mal shared a carousel of pics and videos with Sammy alongside the caption: "It's quite simple. I love you."
Sammy commented: "*zoomies activate* Baby I adore you. Thank goodness the universe persistently nudged us into each others' orbit."
Asides from their relationship, Mal is a mental health advocate, producer and makes fashion and lifestyle content.
The Ultimatum: Queer Love season two is currently streaming on Netflix.