Mom Demands Friend Misses Own Kid's Party, Shock Over Her Reason

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18-06-2025

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A mom's demand that her longtime friends cancel their own sons' birthday parties to attend her toddler's instead has left Reddit users in shock.
According to original poster (OP) u/UnitedUnicorns007, she and her two childhood friends—Tonya and Lauren, all 33—have maintained a tight-knit bond since middle school.
Coincidentally, all three of their eldest children share the same birthday, though born in different years.
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This year, the OP and Tonya teamed up to throw a joint laser tag and bowling party for their 8- and 10-year-old sons, scheduled for a weekend shortly after the children's actual birthdays. They invited Lauren, who initially said she would "try to make it."
Then, just days before the event, Lauren FaceTimed the pair to invite them to her daughter's birthday party—scheduled on the same day.
The overlap wasn't a surprise, given the kids share birthdays, and the friends politely declined, explaining they'd be at their sons' already planned celebration.
The friendship drama unfolded when the OP and Tonya spoke to Lauren to ask how her daughter's party went.
"We were all ears just waiting on the details of baby girl's 2nd birthday," the OP wrote in her post. "Instead, we were met with anger. Lauren starts asking why we didn't show up."
When reminded about the scheduling conflict, Lauren responded that the two should have cancelled their boys' party and attended her daughter's instead, claiming that a 2-year-old's birthday is "more important" than birthdays for an 8- and 10-year-old.
"I'm not one to argue," the OP continued. "So I tell Lauren she's tripping and hang up the video call."
The next day, Lauren reportedly changed the password to a streaming account the two friends shared, effectively locking the OP out. "Is it that serious? I guess to her it was. I haven't talked to Lauren since," the post reads.
Becky Whetstone, family therapist and author of I (Think) I Want Out: What To Do When One of You Wants To End Your Marriage, told Newsweek that Lauren set herself up for disappointment and her friends up for failure.
"Her stance reveals she feels entitled, better than and more knowledgeable than her friends, none of which is true," she said.
Whetstone believes that Lauren may have shown her true colors in the past.
"Surely Lauren's arrogance and sense of entitlement and poor sense of reality has shown itself previously," she said. "In the end, the OP and Tonya should just shrug their shoulders and move to friendlier friends."
At the time of writing, the post has received over 4,100 upvotes and over 260 comments. Many users were shocked by Lauren's actions, accusing her for being entitled.
"OP made the right call hanging up. No point in arguing with someone who thinks their toddler's party trumps everything else in the universe," one user wrote.
"Your party was put together way before hers from the sound of it. Besides, what 2-year-old remembers their party at that age? 10 is definitely a significant one," another user agreed.