Mother-in-Law Posts Baby's Name Online After Being Told Not to, Then Sends Parents on a Guilt Trip
A woman says her in-laws are continually disrespecting her wishes not to share anything about her child on social media
In a post shared to Reddit, she writes that she and her significant other have told their families that they do not want "any information" about their baby posted online
But her father-in-law went against them, posting a photo of the child on Facebook — and her mother-in-law soon followed suitDespite "explicitly" telling her family not to share her baby's name, one woman says her mother-in-law did it anyway — posting it on Facebook.
In a post published on Reddit, the woman writes that she and her significant other have told their families that they do not want "any information" about their baby posted online.
"No photos, no name, no 'my sweet grand baby turns 1 today,' nothing. We have many personal reasons for this, but ultimately, we just don't want our child's identity plastered all over social media for everyone to see," she writes.
But a few months ago, her father-in-law "accidentally' posted a photo of the child on his public Facebook story.
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"I happened to open the app late at night and saw it," she writes, adding that she "panicked" and immediately had her significant other call him and walk him through taking it down.
The man "claimed he was trying to send the photo to someone and it got posted to his story by mistake," she writes, adding: "Whether that's true or not, that was the final straw."
From then on, they stopped sending photos of the child to anyone in the family.
"Fast forward to yesterday: I open Facebook and see that my mother-in-law shared one of those 'grandkids are my life' type of posts with one of those super boomer-style graphics and at the top of the post, she listed all of their names," including that of the poster's child.
While the mother-in-law ultimately took the names off the post, she also "went into guilt trip mode," saying the child "is almost a year old and still hasn't been to his grandparents' or great-grandparents' house."
"The part that frustrates me the most is that even though I've been no contact for 6+ months, and she hasn't been around our son in that time, she's still managing to disrespect our boundaries," she writes.
While the woman acknowledges her response "might sound like an overreaction," she adds: "We've communicated this boundary over and over again, and she still managed to find a way to violate it. And somehow still turns herself into the victim when confronted."
Reddit users don't seem to think the woman overreacted, with one writing, "I don't think this is an over reaction. a boundary is a boundary, no matter how 'big' or 'small.' She's happy breaking 'small' boundaries, I'd wager she's happy breaking any. Your rules don't matter to her."
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